FabSwingers.com forum: Washing your dirty laundry in public

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we’ve all had negative experiences from here. Bad meets. Being blocked. Being ghosted. People not turning up. Messages going unread etc etc etc.

But personally I don’t feel the need to start a thread about these things. But many do. It’s like they want to have a public whinge. Personally I don’t like that as it’s a bit classless imo.

What do others think or our peers who start these kind of threads on the forums ?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I think they've had a chappy time and they want to have a public vent about it.

They should do exactly that (within the rules) and I hope it helps them.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So we’ve all had negative experiences from here. Bad meets. Being blocked. Being ghosted. People not turning up. Messages going unread etc etc etc.

But personally I don’t feel the need to start a thread about these things. But many do. It’s like they want to have a public whinge. Personally I don’t like that as it’s a bit classless imo.

What do others think or our peers who start these kind of threads on the forums ?"
Doesn't bother me to be honest they feel agrieved and rightly so but its against the rules and could get a timeout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we’ve all had negative experiences from here. Bad meets. Being blocked. Being ghosted. People not turning up. Messages going unread etc etc etc.

But personally I don’t feel the need to start a thread about these things. But many do. It’s like they want to have a public whinge. Personally I don’t like that as it’s a bit classless imo.

What do others think or our peers who start these kind of threads on the forums ?"

Surely its about as classless as starting a thread complaining about people who vent on here?

and dont call me Shirley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they've had a chappy time and they want to have a public vent about it.

They should do exactly that (within the rules) and I hope it helps them."

A chappy time? I'm using this from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So a whinge about whinges, (which is classless) isn’t a whinge and therefore not classless?

Whoa…. That’s circular.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Surely it’s about as classless as starting a thread complaining about people who vent on here?

I take your point Shirley but this is a one off. The kind I’m referring to are sprouting up multiple times a day and are very repetitive.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Thank you for asking Revolver.

I think they are insecure , vengeful, immature posters WHO can't take rejection and nor can they speak to the person involved if it bothers them that much so instead they take to the forum and use it like a fucking echo chamber....

It's like if a nail is broken we all have to look at it and send some glue.

Mind you ..... some stories are worth a read... but the OMG got stood up..... run of the mill juvenile shite.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I think their free to do what they want any old time.

Don't be afraid of your freedom.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I think they have every right, most of us will have had similar experiences so can empathise/sympathise.

They might not have anyone to talk to about these things.

It's good to know you're not alone in your feelings.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Its better entwrtainment than selling their dirty laundry

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Plus..... It give a really skewed picture of FAB users and a negative vibe to the lounge

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I think this is where they vent because they can't talk to anyone off Fab, perhaps?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S.

Sometimes I believe that they do it in the hope of the person that 'wronged' them will see it. It's a way of getting around a block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think their free to do what they want any old time.

Don't be afraid of your freedom.

Love meeeeee

Hold meeee

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think this is where they vent because they can't talk to anyone off Fab, perhaps?"

Venting is okay. Venting about others that use the site isn't.

But I get what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to agree, and sometimes it's forgotten that there are two sides to the story and having recently been the target of someone's public rant recently was not nice, having to sit on my fingers as they vented because I did not want to add more shit to the shit show it was already

People love the blood and drama, luckily he was rinsed and the thread removed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this is where they vent because they can't talk to anyone off Fab, perhaps?

Venting is okay. Venting about others that use the site isn't.

But I get what you mean"

Nail on the head Granny

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Where else can they go to vent? I tend to not comment on those type posts but they don't bother me at all, everyone needs a rant now and again.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like a whinge .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Many people probably don't have contacts or friends that they can discuss fab/sex things with. The forum is a reasonable place for them to open up.

Clear, descriptive thread titles (we've had ever fewer of them, of late) helps others avoid such topics, should guy they want to.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t usually get involved or read those type of threads. I think it’s allowed of they don’t name people though. Not sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t usually get involved or read those type of threads. I think it’s allowed of they don’t name people though. Not sure. "

Get off the fence nora

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

The occasional rant is ok, it’s good to let it out. Naming people or going on about it shows they’ve got no class.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don’t usually get involved or read those type of threads. I think it’s allowed of they don’t name people though. Not sure.

Get off the fence nora"

Haha to be fair it’s not somewhere I usually sit

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Does it not really depend on who's venting?

Random occasional poster will be picked apart and told they are a very naughty boy just before the thread is removed.

Less random but productive/perceived popular poster gets hugs and awes and their arse wiped for them before the thread is removed.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Does it not really depend on who's venting?

Random occasional poster will be picked apart and told they are a very naughty boy just before the thread is removed.

Less random but productive/perceived popular poster gets hugs and awes and their arse wiped for them before the thread is removed. "

Yep. And can also depend on the gender of said moany person!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Does it not really depend on who's venting?

Random occasional poster will be picked apart and told they are a very naughty boy just before the thread is removed.

Less random but productive/perceived popular poster gets hugs and awes and their arse wiped for them before the thread is removed.

Yep. And can also depend on the gender of said moany person!"

Very much so.

The initial draft of the above did actually contain that line

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