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"I live angry. It’s my nature. I need to chill TF out more. " Have you ever tried boxing training? | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " I'm usually pretty cool, there's this woman at work who I've tried various ways to approach her,in a group and one to one. It's nothing sinister just constructive criticism. However yesterday she flew off the handle on the phone went into a rage and slammed phone down...rude! | |||
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" I'm usually pretty cool, there's this woman at work who I've tried various ways to approach her,in a group and one to one. It's nothing sinister just constructive criticism. However yesterday she flew off the handle on the phone went into a rage and slammed phone down...rude! " | |||
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"It’s actually something I really struggle with. I have a really short fuse and can go from 0-100 really quickly. It’s got me into trouble in the past. I wish I was one of those people that can be as cool as cucumber and let things just wash over their heads or think rationally first. A lot of the time my mouth speaks before I’ve even had a chance to think about it. " It’s a nightmare, isn’t it? When I’m in that zone I’ve got a habit of losing the right words too, which frustrates me even more. | |||
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"Takes a lot to get me to breaking point, normally fairly chilled... but occasionally, when REALLY pushed , my inner Basil Fawlty emerges. Not so much jekyll & Hyde, more like Daz n Baz " Inner Basil Fawlty I love this, Airwolf I get Kermit arms. Waving about to make my point. Cringe | |||
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"I lost my cool with my boss this week, was trying to get ready for an audit yesterday, but in the last couple of months he suddenly developed this penchant for pointless teams meetings where he’d deliberately undermine me. So I told him in front of the CEO (it’s a very small company) that I’m sick to the back teeth with the way he’s been acting towards me and perhaps he’s not suitable for the role of CTO if he can’t handle someone with a bit more knowledge coming in. Still quietly simmering now. " Did anything happen afterwards? Well done for saying how you felt. | |||
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"It’s good to unload that feeling to dickheads at times. " Don't you then become the dickhead ? | |||
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"I lost my cool with my boss this week, was trying to get ready for an audit yesterday, but in the last couple of months he suddenly developed this penchant for pointless teams meetings where he’d deliberately undermine me. So I told him in front of the CEO (it’s a very small company) that I’m sick to the back teeth with the way he’s been acting towards me and perhaps he’s not suitable for the role of CTO if he can’t handle someone with a bit more knowledge coming in. Still quietly simmering now. Did anything happen afterwards? Well done for saying how you felt." Might be an idea just to register your grievances through appropriate channels ... protect yourself Can imagine you still feel quite raw and emotional - big hug | |||
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"Oh, that sounds like a difficult situation, Red I'm not a fan of confrontation. I get all flustered and only think of the things I should have said afterwards. I lose my shit with my kids on a daily basis, but I think that's more frustration and lack of patience than anger. I do get righteously angry about injustices, though, and then you'd better watch out! I will calmly yet furiously wade in. Mrs TMN x" I know when I am calm.... others will lose. It's a bit terminatory and focussed. If I'm flapping and moaning everyone knows im just steaming and nothing is really up ..... | |||
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"You say he's been 'picking' at you for a while.... it should have been faced at the time. Those people calling you after the meetings are 'stirrers' not carers. In future don't feed them. Vultures. They love the drama. ( only you will know if it was a real friend with a shoulder ) Seriously i don't believe that other people make a person angry .... that person is just angry and not in an emotional state to deal with challenge. I'm not saying he is right and if what he says is out of order it should be dealt with as colleagues and adults. Maybe he is not aware of how disgruntled others are. " Thanks Granny, take your points. | |||
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"No i never lose my cool although made dad used to do removals and he asked me to help him this was at a weekend and i was driving his van he couldn't drive his foot was in plaster and on previous occasions when i had driven his van he always told me to take the turning wide so rear wheels didn't catch the kerb so on this occasion i took the turn wide and he turned on me as usual "why did you go so wide you'll have an accident" so i turned on him and said " why do you criticise me every time i help you I'm sick of it and you told me to take the turns wide, I'm getting out of this van now and you can do job on your own". I tell you what i think that may have been the turning point in our relationship he never criticised me again after that, he had gained respect for me " my not made | |||
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"I lost my cool with my boss this week, was trying to get ready for an audit yesterday, but in the last couple of months he suddenly developed this penchant for pointless teams meetings where he’d deliberately undermine me. So I told him in front of the CEO (it’s a very small company) that I’m sick to the back teeth with the way he’s been acting towards me and perhaps he’s not suitable for the role of CTO if he can’t handle someone with a bit more knowledge coming in. Still quietly simmering now. " Wow.. what gave you the right to do that to a person ? | |||
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"Very few people can wind me up, they have to mean something to me in the first place for me to get angry with them. " | |||
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"You say he's been 'picking' at you for a while.... it should have been faced at the time. Those people calling you after the meetings are 'stirrers' not carers. In future don't feed them. Vultures. They love the drama. ( only you will know if it was a real friend with a shoulder ) Seriously i don't believe that other people make a person angry .... that person is just angry and not in an emotional state to deal with challenge. I'm not saying he is right and if what he says is out of order it should be dealt with as colleagues and adults. Maybe he is not aware of how disgruntled others are. Thanks Granny, take your points." Thanks. I do blow. However, I don't feel to clever afterwards. It happens less these days. I firmly believe my emotions are MY responsibility as is how I handle any situation. I'll forgive any angry person once but not twice or thrice. I'm no ones punch bag. | |||
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"I'm a redhead so I have a temper but it rarely surfaces. The last time was 5 years ago just after I had taken a member of staff through a disciplinary for inappropriate actions towards a female colleague. The next day he did everything possible to wind me up and ignored numerous direct orders. Eventually after 6 hours of him ranting and shitstirring I told him to do his fucking job. His response was to headbutt me. We grappled for a few mins during which he ended up with a bloody nose. I told him to leave the building which he did but went on immediate sick leave claiming mental health issues. I was going to be disciplined for gross misconduct until the MD stepped in and put an end to that. He returned 3 months later and I moved him to a different dept where he was caught stealing both goods and time and dismissed within a month. " Fuck! That’s horrible. | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? I'm usually pretty cool, there's this woman at work who I've tried various ways to approach her,in a group and one to one. It's nothing sinister just constructive criticism. However yesterday she flew off the handle on the phone went into a rage and slammed phone down...rude! " What a horror! She should control herself | |||
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"Very few people can wind me up, they have to mean something to me in the first place for me to get angry with them. " Shall we just chill together? | |||
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"I don't get bothered my othe people but If someone is trying to belittle me, I will listen to every thing they say so I can, at some point, use there own words against them. It is something I'm never proud of but rather this then let another person get the better of me by outwardly displaying any emotion control they mine momentarly have on me." Ooer ..... I have someone very close to me who does this. I'll spare you what I say to them. | |||
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"I lost my cool with my boss this week, was trying to get ready for an audit yesterday, but in the last couple of months he suddenly developed this penchant for pointless teams meetings where he’d deliberately undermine me. So I told him in front of the CEO (it’s a very small company) that I’m sick to the back teeth with the way he’s been acting towards me and perhaps he’s not suitable for the role of CTO if he can’t handle someone with a bit more knowledge coming in. Still quietly simmering now. Did anything happen afterwards? Well done for saying how you felt. Might be an idea just to register your grievances through appropriate channels ... protect yourself Can imagine you still feel quite raw and emotional - big hug" It's not the boss that causes the simmering it's just the chemicals released by those that are not handling themselves or situations. | |||
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"I’m very fiery but it takes awhile to get there. If they keep poking the bear expect to get bitten." my fuse is long. | |||
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"I’m very fiery but it takes awhile to get there. If they keep poking the bear expect to get bitten. my fuse is long. " Smooth talker | |||
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"I’m very fiery but it takes awhile to get there. If they keep poking the bear expect to get bitten." Why not act the first time you are poked. If you don't it appears it's okay to poke you. | |||
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"I’m very fiery but it takes awhile to get there. If they keep poking the bear expect to get bitten. my fuse is long. Smooth talker " Let's hope it's a FatFuse | |||
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"I’m very fiery but it takes awhile to get there. If they keep poking the bear expect to get bitten. my fuse is long. Smooth talker Let's hope it's a FatFuse" Like a ships rope | |||
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"I feel anger but mainly at myself through frustration at my fear to just speak and join in. In general ppl rarely make me angry enough to react but I do think it builds inside me until eventually one little thing might trigger it all coming out" James. that's fantastic that you recognise that stresses and fears are what prevent us from speaking out. We should all speak out calmly cos if you don't you lose yourself to others who can't even see you. I liked what you said. | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " Without wishing to look like I’m creeping, I think what you did was a good thing. It comes across that you have, until this week, allowed his jibes to wash over you. One might argue that you shouldn’t acquiesce to such things but, when you consider early or minor irritations in isolation, they often don’t seem worthy of response - especially to a senior colleague. Despite his status, you have shown him that what he is doing is not acceptable and that you are prepared to call him out. I hope that will turn out to be a watershed moment. Personally, I tend not to lose my temper. I get frustrated very easily but will walk away instead of confronting someone. Probably not the best strategy, but that’s me. I’ve never liked arguments, they never leave me feeling better (not least because I can never think of what I want to say and always lose! ) If I fall out with colleagues I tend to just ignore them. | |||
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"Very few people can wind me up, they have to mean something to me in the first place for me to get angry with them. Shall we just chill together?" Pm me. I think my food is too spicy for you | |||
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"people you work with are not your friends. its important to remember this. you are there to earn money, nothing else. i hope you are all well and have a good weekend " This is a very good point to remember and can be a supervisors nightmare when they are | |||
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"I’m very fiery but it takes awhile to get there. If they keep poking the bear expect to get bitten. Why not act the first time you are poked. If you don't it appears it's okay to poke you." Maybe she likes a good poking ( ooooooooh matron) | |||
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"I work as a caretaker and people are so ignorant and stupid I get angry all the time. Sometimes I let it be known other times since I hit the gym nearly every day and it has punchbag that's a help too. Losing your cool under intense bullying like you have experienced isn't anything to be ashamed of. If anything it's healthy and maybe now he will back off a bit. If he dosnt report him to tour HR. Bullying in the the workplace is illegal." Intense bullying ? shit. The accusations start flying based on hardly anything don't they? | |||
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"I would also say based on the original post this sounds like bullying and your HR or bosses should be made aware. " I would encourage you to “get in there first”. It may feel like a dick move, but it’s about protecting yourself. | |||
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"people you work with are not your friends. its important to remember this. you are there to earn money, nothing else. i hope you are all well and have a good weekend " I know it's not the point of this thread, so apologies to the OP for the derailing, but I don't wholly agree with this. The majority of people are just colleagues for sure (but you should still want to get along with colleagues, by and large - you're spending enough time with them!), but I've also met some of my best friends through work - admittedly I work in a large organisation, so it's not claustrophobic and may be different to smaller places. I also don't just go to work to earn money; if that were the only factor, I'd have done something more lucrative! But I agree on the good weekend part! Now, as you were... | |||
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"I agree with both of you but 'beware' is what i'd say. They are NOT your friends they are colleagues you get on with. One or two maybe you could trust but most would drop you sooner than support you. They'll uhm and ahh and make the right noises but any action that calls for courage and honesty and off they will fuck and leave you to it." Not in my case. I've known some of them for 15+ years now, and they're definitely friends, and we see each other more outside work than in. I've never actually worked in the same team as some of them, so we're not competing etc, but I see what you're saying if you were. | |||
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"I agree with both of you but 'beware' is what i'd say. They are NOT your friends they are colleagues you get on with. One or two maybe you could trust but most would drop you sooner than support you. They'll uhm and ahh and make the right noises but any action that calls for courage and honesty and off they will fuck and leave you to it." Agreed, I don't have to be friends with someone to 'get along with them' I don't even have to like someone I work with yet I can still respond appropriately and respect them.....it's a pain in the arse dealing with in work friendships, especially when they try and book annual leave the same time and getting distracted with work when organising their private life. As for spending time with colleagues out of work, fuck that! I spend too much time with them in work, and the only reason I am going tonight is because I actually do like the girl who's Birthday it is. | |||
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"I was out of that car quicker than you can say green cross code and giving helmet cam man a piece of my mind. I remember hearing Mr N say "You've done it now, you've made her angry" . " I love this!!! Best line ever | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " I dont lose my temper easily, have a long fuse for people...but take that as I'm a mug... I'm taught I'm powerless over 3 things, people places and things...so I only have power over I react or respond to any given en situation.. | |||
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" I'm usually pretty cool, there's this woman at work who I've tried various ways to approach her,in a group and one to one. It's nothing sinister just constructive criticism. However yesterday she flew off the handle on the phone went into a rage and slammed phone down...rude! " I see what you did there ! LOL | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " People are human. Part of the human condition is emotion. As long as we dont burn any bridges people should be able to express themselves and yes at times make mistakes. | |||
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"I had someone at work recently explode at me over a small issue I raised with him and my boss. He had let it bubble over a few days and then came over and shouted at me over it. He misheard something I said to the boss on a separate day and thought it looked bad against him. After he went back to his desk I collated evidence, went over and calmly explained how he misheard the conversation and that I *emphasis* do not *emphasis* let anybody speak to me like he just did. I made sure the boss was sat where he could listen too. I didn't take it to heart because he was probably just having a bad day, and he was off ill the next day so I suppose him not feeling great played a big part too. F" Does *emphasis* mean fucking ? as in I don't fucking let anyone fucking speak to me like that ? | |||
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"Sit on his face or offer too" Wow. I barely know where to start with this one. I hope it’s a poor joke Unless you think that’s how women should resolve conflict? The only thing they bring in a professional environment? | |||
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"Sit on his face or offer too" Why would you sit on your bosses face ? | |||
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"Sit on his face or offer too Why would you sit on your bosses face ? " I had a boss I once did this with, ah fun times. | |||
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"I had someone at work recently explode at me over a small issue I raised with him and my boss. He had let it bubble over a few days and then came over and shouted at me over it. He misheard something I said to the boss on a separate day and thought it looked bad against him. After he went back to his desk I collated evidence, went over and calmly explained how he misheard the conversation and that I *emphasis* do not *emphasis* let anybody speak to me like he just did. I made sure the boss was sat where he could listen too. I didn't take it to heart because he was probably just having a bad day, and he was off ill the next day so I suppose him not feeling great played a big part too. F" You make a great point how we feel having an impact on behaviour....Again this is another reason I remain level headed yet assertive, you just don't know what is happening, I am a great believer in reactions being in response to something else happening in their life. This is where being a good communicator comes in along with compassion and understanding | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " Have you felt to say sorry for your actions?? To whom was on the recieving end of your tirad and barrage of words. The state of minds & hearts in the world at large is at an all time high full of anger! Non regulated because of all the stress around us, the energy field is nagative atm. And on here too!! | |||
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"I had someone at work recently explode at me over a small issue I raised with him and my boss. He had let it bubble over a few days and then came over and shouted at me over it. He misheard something I said to the boss on a separate day and thought it looked bad against him. After he went back to his desk I collated evidence, went over and calmly explained how he misheard the conversation and that I *emphasis* do not *emphasis* let anybody speak to me like he just did. I made sure the boss was sat where he could listen too. I didn't take it to heart because he was probably just having a bad day, and he was off ill the next day so I suppose him not feeling great played a big part too. F You make a great point how we feel having an impact on behaviour....Again this is another reason I remain level headed yet assertive, you just don't know what is happening, I am a great believer in reactions being in response to something else happening in their life. This is where being a good communicator comes in along with compassion and understanding " Observe not obsorbe. | |||
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"I had someone at work recently explode at me over a small issue I raised with him and my boss. He had let it bubble over a few days and then came over and shouted at me over it. He misheard something I said to the boss on a separate day and thought it looked bad against him. After he went back to his desk I collated evidence, went over and calmly explained how he misheard the conversation and that I *emphasis* do not *emphasis* let anybody speak to me like he just did. I made sure the boss was sat where he could listen too. I didn't take it to heart because he was probably just having a bad day, and he was off ill the next day so I suppose him not feeling great played a big part too. F You make a great point how we feel having an impact on behaviour....Again this is another reason I remain level headed yet assertive, you just don't know what is happening, I am a great believer in reactions being in response to something else happening in their life. This is where being a good communicator comes in along with compassion and understanding Observe not obsorbe. " Absolutely, observe looking beyond the words and actions | |||
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"I had someone at work recently explode at me over a small issue I raised with him and my boss. He had let it bubble over a few days and then came over and shouted at me over it. He misheard something I said to the boss on a separate day and thought it looked bad against him. After he went back to his desk I collated evidence, went over and calmly explained how he misheard the conversation and that I *emphasis* do not *emphasis* let anybody speak to me like he just did. I made sure the boss was sat where he could listen too. I didn't take it to heart because he was probably just having a bad day, and he was off ill the next day so I suppose him not feeling great played a big part too. F Does *emphasis* mean fucking ? as in I don't fucking let anyone fucking speak to me like that ?" Surprisingly, no F | |||
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"I was out of that car quicker than you can say green cross code and giving helmet cam man a piece of my mind. I remember hearing Mr N say "You've done it now, you've made her angry" . I love this!!! Best line ever " He knows that I don't get angry easily let alone lose it | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? Have you felt to say sorry for your actions?? To whom was on the recieving end of your tirad and barrage of words. The state of minds & hearts in the world at large is at an all time high full of anger! Non regulated because of all the stress around us, the energy field is nagative atm. And on here too!! " I’d really rather not continue laying bear all the ins and outs of who I am and what I did. I was more focused on hearing about other peoples characters and anecdotes. But thanks for contributing. | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " In this example I would assume he was doing it on purpose to piss me off and make it look like I was an angry person and he had done nothing wrong. Lots of little 'irrelevant' things that he could claim was nothing, but add up to something. I'd be wary the next time I see him. People like often know exactly what they're doing. Now he's lit the fuse he's more likely to continue. 'Grey rock' technique when around him. I also agree with Granny about the colleagues being vultures. They want a soap opera bust up to watch. They're not supportive, they are stirring. | |||
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"Generally I have the patience of a saint, having kids and being a manager by profession requires it in buckets. I didn't even lose it with my ex wife's cheaty boyfriend that I had to work with for three months after discovering their affair. My turbulent approach to inanimate objects is almost legendary though I take my frustrations out in quite a big and vocal way on random items that piss me off in a true Basil Fawlty way. I've been known to take a hammer to a nut that wouldn't come off and bludgeon it until it doesn't even resemble a nut anymore and stomp off shouting "that fucking showed you ya cunt" Having to then cut said nut off with an angle grinder and replace the bolt or stud usually results in Mr sheepish visiting." This is so me!!! | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? Have you felt to say sorry for your actions?? To whom was on the recieving end of your tirad and barrage of words. The state of minds & hearts in the world at large is at an all time high full of anger! Non regulated because of all the stress around us, the energy field is nagative atm. And on here too!! I’d really rather not continue laying bear all the ins and outs of who I am and what I did. I was more focused on hearing about other peoples characters and anecdotes. But thanks for contributing." What really matters! " peace cannot be bought " All will go back un the Box. | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " I tend to use a methodical approach - whats behind the behaviour? If there’s no ‘excuse’ and they are trying to undermine me then I’ll deal with that but in a professional way because losing my temper will affect my reputation which might be what the goal is… often it’s covering for a deficiency in them - so they throw shit your way - everyone is focused on you while they slip out the side door!! It’s incredibly difficult to keep your temper when sometimes people seem to be deliberately pushing your buttons xx | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? " . My manager between November 2015 to November 2021 I never got on with I felt she belittled a job role that I did on her team 2 hours a day the work I did for her in the 2 hour job role was never really appreciated , respected, or understood. At team meetings it was never mentioned what I did and I felt that I did not belong to the team so when I started refusing to attend Christmas team meals and didn’t participate in team bonding exercises things had started to buildup.In February 2021 I received a phone call from her saying I could be helping out with other things in the 2 hour role I snapped and told her that I don’t feel mentally well and I am going home. I returned 6 days later but things never really improved when she pushed to reduce my 2 hour role to 1 hour and 25 minutes I sent her a email asking to come of the 2 hour role.At the meeting it was a case of I think you are the best person for the job but you don’t needs two hours.November 2021 I was moved to another team with a different manager but I was to continue with the 2 hour role for 2 hours as the office manager said there is no one else with my knowledge and experience in doing the role.By April 2022 I had a health issue and I refused to take back the 2 hour role.In July 2022 I handed over all responsibility to someone the office manager chose.My previous manager has since told me she misses me and she said she was not aware about my health issues which as far as I am concerned is crap.Now a days when I see her I don’t good morning , good afternoon, good night unless she says it first.Apologies if I have taken over your post | |||
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"This week, at work, I lost my cool with a colleague. I’m not proud of it. I’ve been badgered and pecked at by him for a while now, he’s done it in a group and one to one context, and I’ve had people call me after meetings to ask how I’d stayed calm. He does this to a handful of people across the company. Well this time, I couldn’t help myself. My voice raised, I told him he was making me angry and I hung up the call before I exploded. I have passion, and opinions, but I am usually able to control my emotions, so this has bothered me greatly. However! My question to you, is - do you lose your temper easily? Or are you completely unruffled? Do you have any examples for me? . My manager between November 2015 to November 2021 I never got on with I felt she belittled a job role that I did on her team 2 hours a day the work I did for her in the 2 hour job role was never really appreciated , respected, or understood. At team meetings it was never mentioned what I did and I felt that I did not belong to the team so when I started refusing to attend Christmas team meals and didn’t participate in team bonding exercises things had started to buildup.In February 2021 I received a phone call from her saying I could be helping out with other things in the 2 hour role I snapped and told her that I don’t feel mentally well and I am going home. I returned 6 days later but things never really improved when she pushed to reduce my 2 hour role to 1 hour and 25 minutes I sent her a email asking to come of the 2 hour role.At the meeting it was a case of I think you are the best person for the job but you don’t needs two hours.November 2021 I was moved to another team with a different manager but I was to continue with the 2 hour role for 2 hours as the office manager said there is no one else with my knowledge and experience in doing the role.By April 2022 I had a health issue and I refused to take back the 2 hour role.In July 2022 I handed over all responsibility to someone the office manager chose.My previous manager has since told me she misses me and she said she was not aware about my health issues which as far as I am concerned is crap.Now a days when I see her I don’t good morning , good afternoon, good night unless she says it first.Apologies if I have taken over your post" She’s a shite manager… end of | |||
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"I do get angry but it can sometimes take a while or a lot to get me to that point. I have a horrible habit of crying when I'm angry which makes it hard to look credible in an argument " Thats not uncommon- lots of people cry with anger…. And orgasms… so it might be a tricky one to call | |||
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"I do get angry but it can sometimes take a while or a lot to get me to that point. I have a horrible habit of crying when I'm angry which makes it hard to look credible in an argument Thats not uncommon- lots of people cry with anger…. And orgasms… so it might be a tricky one to call " Yes I've had some emotional orgasms too ! | |||
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"trouble is people you work with make shit up. they do this to get an edge and test you. which is why you shouldnt add them to facebook or any other media which can give away information about you. you may think thats a bit paranoid but people take offence to the littlest thing , become jealous and you will be judged on that often unfairly by the mob. as for bullying men and women are different. women tend to gossip, backstabbing and destroy character by innuendo to pull others towards them and away from you this includes management. men punch each other. different beasts both capable of great harm. at the first sign of any bullying or inappropriate behaviour you must take them on. they will find another target if they know you bring them pain. " Thing is, this is actually what some people actually do. It's so fucked up. I mean, why give that much of a shit what other people are doing? Just do your job and fuck off at the end of the day...all this twisted nonsense baffles me..but there's no avoiding it! We all get dragged in. | |||
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"Please don't let this thread end on my angry rant...its too ironic. Someone say something nice and fluffy. " It's nearly Easter, so chocolate is on its way... | |||
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"Please don't let this thread end on my angry rant...its too ironic. Someone say something nice and fluffy. " Something nice and fluffy | |||
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"sounds like the a-hole deserves to be taken down a peg or two, good for you. I will always speak my mind, like it or not. Too old for walking on egg shells now. But I wouldn't say I live in a state of anger... just short fuse. I try to be full assertive (I'm OK you are ok) and beg to differ without the other person being an idiot, it's the emotionally mature way to go... but some just press my last nerve. Then watch out. " . One of the accusations that some of my managers have levelled at me is that I am aggressive when I feel that I am been assertive in the end I just find it easier not to talk to them unless I have to | |||
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