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By *iftyish OP   Man
over a year ago

South Coast

Good morning could anyone give me good example of what to say in a 1st message please. Think I'm saying the wrong things. Always avoid sex in 1st message

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Hey, how’s u?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Fancy a fuck?

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

FAF?

You’re welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Oh oh. Or just copy paste a 16 page one handed word vomit fantasy about what you want to do to them. That always goes down super well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pic

And

FAF

Always goes down well

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Dick pic

And

FAF

Always goes down well "

And if you're not sure that that dick pic is going to make an impact, add another 8 unflattering ones in barely different angles or lighting.

But not 9 plus. Double digit dick pics is just silly. 9 total is the optimum amount to make sure they're ready to slobber all over that dick

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

I always think including a bit about you, why you have messaged that person (compatibility or attraction), reference something that shows you have bothered to read their profile and a face pic if you are happy to.

No dick pics, no one liners, no marriage proposals, no copy and paste generic waffle.

Everyone will respond differently though as it’s not a one size fits all!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Something different from the usual a joke maybe? Or a poem? Somthing that stands out from the rest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, im going to buck the trend here and say...use your common sense.

If you think a 3 word message saying 'Fancy a fuck' will work? Go for it.

Or a slightly more detailed message with a cock photo attached...fill your boots.

Or instead reading their profile fully, seeing if you have anything in common, if you are a match, then writing an original message to grab their attention? Do it.

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By *iftyish OP   Man
over a year ago

South Coast

Thanks best answer yet

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Op, im going to buck the trend here and say...use your common sense.

If you think a 3 word message saying 'Fancy a fuck' will work? Go for it.

Or a slightly more detailed message with a cock photo attached...fill your boots.

Or instead reading their profile fully, seeing if you have anything in common, if you are a match, then writing an original message to grab their attention? Do it."

You know he could be on to something here. Listen to the wise bearded chap

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By *es_salopesCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Hello *insert name

I was looking at your profile and *insert something that you liked about their profile that you match with

Would be good to get to know you better

P.s. Nice smile/tits/arse/eyes/cock/body part/tattoo/pet/shoes/item of clothing/ (delete where appropriate or insert a suitable compliment)

Kind regards *insert your name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This


"Hello *insert name

I was looking at your profile and *insert something that you liked about their profile that you match with

Would be good to get to know you better

P.s. Nice smile/tits/arse/eyes/cock/body part/tattoo/pet/shoes/item of clothing/ (delete where appropriate or insert a suitable compliment)

Kind regards *insert your name"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passing through in my artic, faf, and letting me fuck your throat like covid

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By *iftyish OP   Man
over a year ago

South Coast

Another good 1 thanks

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Passing through in my artic, faf, and letting me fuck your throat like covid "

Oh.

I like that.

When my status is inevitably eventually something about fucking my throat like Covid, that's on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello *insert name

I was looking at your profile and *insert something that you liked about their profile that you match with

Would be good to get to know you better

P.s. Nice smile/tits/arse/eyes/cock/body part/tattoo/pet/shoes/item of clothing/ (delete where appropriate or insert a suitable compliment)

Kind regards *insert your name"

How am I supposed to cut, paste and send this to you when you’re not looking for single males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Passing through in my artic, faf, and letting me fuck your throat like covid

Oh.

I like that.

When my status is inevitably eventually something about fucking my throat like Covid, that's on you "

A little one liner I pulled out the bag last, in the early hours of this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be or not to be…. Blow her mind with Shakespeare….. wait for the panties drop ….. tick tock

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"Hello *insert name

I was looking at your profile and *insert something that you liked about their profile that you match with

Would be good to get to know you better

P.s. Nice smile/tits/arse/eyes/cock/body part/tattoo/pet/shoes/item of clothing/ (delete where appropriate or insert a suitable compliment)

Kind regards *insert your name"

That's a quite sweet generic one. You might be told off for it being generic OP though, women are a fussy bunch.

Honestly? Message people. Bring your own voice into it. There's not one particular style of messaging people I use.

You don't have to start with hi. You can join in threads where you talk in pms as part of it.

If you can't think of a message to send? Wait until you can. Don't force it out like a turd of dull words plopping in to someone's inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Don't force it out like a turd of dull words plopping in to someone's inbox.

"

Oh Meli, I think you must have writers block, or else your erotic novels have now moved more to the 'dirty magazine' style.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"Hello *insert name

I was looking at your profile and *insert something that you liked about their profile that you match with

Would be good to get to know you better

P.s. Nice smile/tits/arse/eyes/cock/body part/tattoo/pet/shoes/item of clothing/ (delete where appropriate or insert a suitable compliment)

Kind regards *insert your name"

Is that what people mean by 'cut and paste'?

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By *ames_HertsMan
over a year ago

North Hertfordshire

Wuu2? Xxx

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


" Don't force it out like a turd of dull words plopping in to someone's inbox.

Oh Meli, I think you must have writers block, or else your erotic novels have now moved more to the 'dirty magazine' style. "

Ha! I think that's my slight dislike of identikit, cookie cutter generic stuff. We're all so individual and unique, while I can appreciate people may seek advice, I think they should also be themselves. Not try and transform into the ideal etc. If you want to message someone, do it. Enjoy it. Don't overthink it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Don't force it out like a turd of dull words plopping in to someone's inbox.

Oh Meli, I think you must have writers block, or else your erotic novels have now moved more to the 'dirty magazine' style.

Ha! I think that's my slight dislike of identikit, cookie cutter generic stuff. We're all so individual and unique, while I can appreciate people may seek advice, I think they should also be themselves. Not try and transform into the ideal etc. If you want to message someone, do it. Enjoy it. Don't overthink it."

BTW I really do like reading your contributions - they make me smile (plus you have a lovely face). But now, I shall be good, leave Fab for a period and write that sodding report which needs to be in by 5.00 today.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Hi. I'm avoiding sex and thought your profile was ideal.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Read the profile

Be polite

Pay a compliment

Attach a face pic

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Be friendly and polite but not subservient, use the tone of their profile to guide what kind of message you send.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dick pic

And

FAF

Always goes down well

And if you're not sure that that dick pic is going to make an impact, add another 8 unflattering ones in barely different angles or lighting.

But not 9 plus. Double digit dick pics is just silly. 9 total is the optimum amount to make sure they're ready to slobber all over that dick "

Unless you can make all 8 look like tentacles apparently

And if you succeed in that you should probably go and see a Dr

E x

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Hey, hows it going,

Does the carpet match the curtains?

Works wonders for me OP

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"Read the profile

Be polite

Pay a compliment

Attach a face pic"

In a nutshell, this is a good summary.

I tend to react negatively to cock pics and "fancy a meet", "hey, wuu2" and descriptions of how they're going to "fill my ass with spunk".

A friendly greeting, a nice compliment about my pictures, style, prettiness, or sexiness are always well received. A witty message is even better. As long as it is genuine and friendly. I'm not averse to a face pic either, but not essential, given you're just breaking the ice.

In other words, don't be a freak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick up that you've read through their profile and jumped through any hoops to catch those that don't read, comment positively on either a forum thread entry they've participated in, a photo or their profile and what they are looking for. Then a sentence about what you can offer (other than sex, most ladies can get that fairly trivially if that's all they want).

Try to inject a little humour and add a face pic if you fancy.

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

Ask if they like your penis? Don’t forget to attach 5 pictures of.

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By *rDxxMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Your pissing in the wind mate everyone different on here some woman like just a hi how are you where others find it boring, some like it filthy where others are tired of the sex messages, best way is to just be your self and introduce your self how you feel you wouod normally, and if your naused move on to the next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try this....

If I told you that I've added you to my hotlist just to see what your status updates are would you be disappointed?

Worked a treat for me

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

A joke normally makes me read it OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A joke normally makes me read it OP "

Like….FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try this....

If I told you that I've added you to my hotlist just to see what your status updates are would you be disappointed?

Worked a treat for me "

I’ll message you via Nora’s secret service

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"A joke normally makes me read it OP

Like….FAF? "

Yes. That one is my favourite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't mean on me!!!!

That's to all on this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha as if that works it's a gouge crowd on here haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try this....

If I told you that I've added you to my hotlist just to see what your status updates are would you be disappointed?

Worked a treat for me

I’ll message you via Nora’s secret service "

This is what I do. … I’ve never had a reply though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mum is out at the shops, so.i probably have the house to myself for about an hour, want to come over?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read their profile. And if you like what you see and read. Reflect that in your message. Add a face picture and hope they like and what they read.

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By *innocentMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Ask ChatGPT to advise you on what to say.

Since I've started doing that ,I've had 24 porn stars ,2 broken beds and Hugh Hefner's ghost all wanting a piece of me

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

HRU hun?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Ask ChatGPT to advise you on what to say.

Since I've started doing that ,I've had 24 porn stars ,2 broken beds and Hugh Hefner's ghost all wanting a piece of me "

I used Character AI to try to write a Fab profile (as proof of concept not really) and I think it has an adult block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send cock pic

Then ask them the question they've all been wating for.

How are you ?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I damaged my hand in a accident and was wondering if I could borrow yours for the evening

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By *akeanyoneMan
over a year ago

LH

"I saw you last night through the window, we're neighbours"

This should get you results

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By *uesswhooMan
over a year ago

Tilbury

Good morning! If you're looking to send a first message to someone, it's great that you're thinking about what to say. Here are some examples of what you could say:

1.Hi! I came across your profile and noticed that we have a few things in common. I'm interested in getting to know you more.

2.Hey there! Your photos look amazing, especially the one of you hiking. Have you been on any cool hikes lately?

2.0 Hello! I saw that you're into [insert shared interest], which is really cool. I'm a big fan of it too and was wondering if you'd like to chat more about it.

3.Hi! Your profile caught my attention and I think we might have some common interests. Would you like to grab a coffee sometime and chat more?

4.Hey! I couldn't help but notice your adorable dog in your photos. I'm a huge dog lover and was wondering if you have any funny dog stories to share.

Remember to be genuine and respectful in your messages, and avoid making any comments or suggestions that could be interpreted as sexual or inappropriate. Keep it light, friendly, and focused on getting to know the person better.

Good luck!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

In terms of a serious answer.

Read their profile. Do you meet their preferences? Do they actually meet yours? If not, don't message.

If you're drawn to something they've said, remark on that. If it's just the visual, they've got 100 messages already telling them their pics are hot, one more isn't going to make an impact.

Ask a question about something they've had to say. One that can't be answered in two words or less. Thought provoking is good and more likely to promote genuine engagement.

Do they ask for specific things in a first message? If so, abide by those requests. If you don't want to jump through hoops, don't, just move on and don't message them. If they say they don't want something in their inbox, don't throw that in there.

Everyone is different. Those are just the steps I personally would take and that I expect people who actually want to connect with me to follow a similar process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be or not to be…. Blow her mind with Shakespeare….. wait for the panties drop ….. tick tock "

good use of Shakespeare works for me!

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"In terms of a serious answer.

Read their profile. Do you meet their preferences? Do they actually meet yours? If not, don't message.

If you're drawn to something they've said, remark on that. If it's just the visual, they've got 100 messages already telling them their pics are hot, one more isn't going to make an impact.

Ask a question about something they've had to say. One that can't be answered in two words or less. Thought provoking is good and more likely to promote genuine engagement.

Do they ask for specific things in a first message? If so, abide by those requests. If you don't want to jump through hoops, don't, just move on and don't message them. If they say they don't want something in their inbox, don't throw that in there.

Everyone is different. Those are just the steps I personally would take and that I expect people who actually want to connect with me to follow a similar process."

This

In the rare occasion im serious on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever you message will most likely check out your profile before even contemplating reading what you've sent them (not that you'll know it most of the time as many women and couples view in mode), so it's more important to make sure your profile is working for you and is as good as it can possibly be.

If they're not taken by your profile, your message will either be ignored or deleted.

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By *iftyish OP   Man
over a year ago

South Coast


"Good morning! If you're looking to send a first message to someone, it's great that you're thinking about what to say. Here are some examples of what you could say: Brilliant thanks

1.Hi! I came across your profile and noticed that we have a few things in common. I'm interested in getting to know you more.

2.Hey there! Your photos look amazing, especially the one of you hiking. Have you been on any cool hikes lately?

2.0 Hello! I saw that you're into [insert shared interest], which is really cool. I'm a big fan of it too and was wondering if you'd like to chat more about it.

3.Hi! Your profile caught my attention and I think we might have some common interests. Would you like to grab a coffee sometime and chat more?

4.Hey! I couldn't help but notice your adorable dog in your photos. I'm a huge dog lover and was wondering if you have any funny dog stories to share.

Remember to be genuine and respectful in your messages, and avoid making any comments or suggestions that could be interpreted as sexual or inappropriate. Keep it light, friendly, and focused on getting to know the person better.

Good luck!"

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Good morning could anyone give me good example of what to say in a 1st message please. Think I'm saying the wrong things. Always avoid sex in 1st message "
I'd start off by complimenting her large arse if she has one of course then compliment her double chin and say how it disappears when she smiles then ask her if she wants to go for a few games of pool down the pub....... Slam dunk I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's an example i may or may not have had as a first message from a half arsed profile

'ass looks mint'

Others might respond but i got no where to go with it so i delete. I personally like funny comments.

Remember though, you can look at profiles and find something to tailor a message but if you are saying things that don't feel 'you' maybe keep looking for a more natural chat starter

Good luck

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By *es_salopesCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Looking at your profile. I would say work on what you are putting out there before trying to interact with others.

Learn from others. Try searching for the demographic that you fall into. Look at your competitors profiles, see which ones would appeal to the accounts that you want to appeal to.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Read their bio you'll find something to strike up a message be creative

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Good morning! If you're looking to send a first message to someone, it's great that you're thinking about what to say. Here are some examples of what you could say:

1.Hi! I came across your profile and noticed that we have a few things in common. I'm interested in getting to know you more.

2.Hey there! Your photos look amazing, especially the one of you hiking. Have you been on any cool hikes lately?

2.0 Hello! I saw that you're into [insert shared interest], which is really cool. I'm a big fan of it too and was wondering if you'd like to chat more about it.

3.Hi! Your profile caught my attention and I think we might have some common interests. Would you like to grab a coffee sometime and chat more?

4.Hey! I couldn't help but notice your adorable dog in your photos. I'm a huge dog lover and was wondering if you have any funny dog stories to share.

Remember to be genuine and respectful in your messages, and avoid making any comments or suggestions that could be interpreted as sexual or inappropriate. Keep it light, friendly, and focused on getting to know the person better.

Good luck!"

You googled that didn't you? You know this is a swinging site... These are more suited for regular dating sites, there shouldn't actually be any photos of pets for example... 1 and 3 are pretty much the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always good to read their profile.

There's often enough information there to know whether you think you'll connect, and enough for you to mention in your first message to reach out to them.

Maybe say a little about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want sex now yes or no? And if that don't work you can always send it again and throw in a prick pic to show them what they are missing out on.

If that doesn't work she's a lesbian and move on to the next one mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the complimentary ones.

One of the best ones I got was from a guy saying along the lines of " I haven't the energy to read your profile right now so I'm just gonna leave this here (rather nice naked video shot) and I'll be back"

And he was, 2 weeks later mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello *insert name

I was looking at your profile and *insert something that you liked about their profile that you match with

Would be good to get to know you better

P.s. Nice smile/tits/arse/eyes/cock/body part/tattoo/pet/shoes/item of clothing/ (delete where appropriate or insert a suitable compliment)

Kind regards *insert your name"

This would bore me tbh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with.....

I'm going to tongue punch your fart Box, like I'm licking out a bag of chilli heatwave Doritos. Whist your riding my face, like your riding a rocking horse.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Things not to send as a first message

1. Your misses has nice tits. (LOL I'm on here as much as he is and I find that insulting)

2. Hi

3. What size your misses boobs (yes exactly like that)

4. I'm on holiday and the weather is nice. (It was literally just that, like at least try to make it interesting)

Things that work well for us

1. Hey guys, hope you're good. we see you like going to clubs, it's something that we've never tried but are curious about. What's your experience been if you don't mind me asking?

2. Hey guys, hope you're good. Great pics on your profile

3. Hey both, I see you're only 10 miles from me. We've probably bumped into each other in tesco

Basically, acknowledge that there are two of us, and give us something to work with

Happy fobbing

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

If you wonder if anyone ever reads these threads... I've had 5 very respectful, chatty, complimentary first messages since posting to this one! Coincidence? Maybe...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try this....

If I told you that I've added you to my hotlist just to see what your status updates are would you be disappointed?

Worked a treat for me "

Ok, just done that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""My mum is out at the shops, so.i probably have the house to myself for about an hour, want to come over?""

we'll only need two minutes so it should be fine

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"Good morning could anyone give me good example of what to say in a 1st message please. Think I'm saying the wrong things. Always avoid sex in 1st message "

Ok here is a 1st message from a guy we have met a few times:

'Hi both, love the profile here are a couple of cock pics if Mrs would like to slide down that please get back, and if not then have fun' x

There you go a 1st message that went onto several meets

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