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By *ergeantreckless OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Apart from the obvious not having public photos, im struggling to just have a bloody conversation with people lol I must of lost the gift of the gab

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

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By *ergeantreckless OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case."

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case."

Me and my shaaaaadow walking down the fab avenue avenue avenue…….

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A lot of people will not reply to profiles without pictures and don't care why you don't have a picture.

Add a picture. It doesn't have to be your face, your penis, your identifying birthmarks or your tattoos

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"A lot of people will not reply to profiles without pictures and don't care why you don't have a picture.

Add a picture. It doesn't have to be your face, your penis, your identifying birthmarks or your tattoos"

This!

OP, people engage with people. In lieu of being able to meet in person, all we have to go on is your profile. If that is open, welcoming, interesting, fun or whatever, you’re more likely to get someone to open up to you. Just like in real life. You don’t have to reveal everything, just enough to hook someone’s interest.

All the best

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons."

But without any sort of pic theres nothing to make anyone want to engage and find out more.

We all value our private lives and as swing said ,you can add some sort of pic that wouldn't identify you .

If you had two profiles one with no pics and asking for discretion and one with nice pics and sone inviting text ,its not hard to work our which will be more successful.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

you defo need some pictures,,

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By *ergeantreckless OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

I get that, I was going to put a dick pic as my profile but then a lot of these forum chats say they don't like it. Work colleagues have never seen my dick so I'm ok with posting that

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons.

But without any sort of pic theres nothing to make anyone want to engage and find out more.

We all value our private lives and as swing said ,you can add some sort of pic that wouldn't identify you .

If you had two profiles one with no pics and asking for discretion and one with nice pics and sone inviting text ,its not hard to work our which will be more successful."

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons."

This is true, of course. But also means people will be free to decide not to engage with a picture-less profile, even if there's a great person hidden behind the shadow. It's just an easy filter.

The forum is a good way to show a bit of your personality though, OP, so sure you'll be mingling in no time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons."

You don’t need to show your face. Add sone body pics. People just generally tend to pass over silhouette profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no desire to communicate just to find out if I find someone attractive. I'd rather do things the other way round. I hide my pics when I'm not open to interaction.

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By *ergeantreckless OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I've no desire to communicate just to find out if I find someone attractive. I'd rather do things the other way round. I hide my pics when I'm not open to interaction. "

I send pictures with my first message so that's not really a valid argument. I'm not expecting people to play pen pals before photos are exchanged.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I've no desire to communicate just to find out if I find someone attractive. I'd rather do things the other way round. I hide my pics when I'm not open to interaction.

I send pictures with my first message so that's not really a valid argument. I'm not expecting people to play pen pals before photos are exchanged. "

Some people won't reply if you don't have public pictures.

There's no such thing as a valid argument as to why someone replies or not. If they don't want to, they won't. It doesn't matter if you think their reasons are valid.

I get you don't want to add public pictures. If you want a greater chance of success, add public pictures.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's definitely the lack of a photo or 2... Like everyone else says, doesn't need to be your face or dick.

Fully dressed, just blur or crop your face out.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"I've no desire to communicate just to find out if I find someone attractive. I'd rather do things the other way round. I hide my pics when I'm not open to interaction.

I send pictures with my first message so that's not really a valid argument. I'm not expecting people to play pen pals before photos are exchanged. "

If your profile is skeletal people on fab will feel as though you’re hiding in the shadows. That’s not a comfortable feeling when you’re trying to forge a connection. You may not agree with that, but it will be how some feel.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

As everyone knows, there are no end of single male profiles on Fab, which for us, given that's who we meet, is great.

So when we have an abundance of choice when browsing it makes our life easier to tick some extra boxes in the advanced search section to reduce the number of results.

Those boxes include verified and having publicly visible photos, so those with none will never appear in our searches.

When we receive a message we view the profile before even considering opening it. Nothing to see? It'll be deleted.

Why would we make our lives harder when we don't have to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no desire to communicate just to find out if I find someone attractive. I'd rather do things the other way round. I hide my pics when I'm not open to interaction.

I send pictures with my first message so that's not really a valid argument. I'm not expecting people to play pen pals before photos are exchanged. "

So you send pictures in the first message to strangers, so it's not about discretion then. You will get next to 0 replies without pics and tons of people filter no pic profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no desire to communicate just to find out if I find someone attractive. I'd rather do things the other way round. I hide my pics when I'm not open to interaction.

I send pictures with my first message so that's not really a valid argument. I'm not expecting people to play pen pals before photos are exchanged. "

When my filters are open to receiving messages from men the first thing I do when looking at the inbox is delete any messages from silhouette profiles. I wouldn't even look at their profile or open their message. Especially wouldn't open if it's got a photo attached as who knows if it's a face or a dick.

It's a way to filter the incoming messages quickly.

You're totally entitled to run your profile how you wish, but just giving you a perspective from the other side.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

My process when receiving a message is to look at the profile, check any photos they have and read the blurb. If there's nothing there to interest me I'll make a note on their profile and delete the message.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons."

There are plenty of photos we can post without being identified

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons.

There are plenty of photos we can post without being identified "

Just not cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are profiles with pics. A profile write up etc.

So whats the crack there!!

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"I've no desire to communicate just to find out if I find someone attractive. I'd rather do things the other way round. I hide my pics when I'm not open to interaction.

I send pictures with my first message so that's not really a valid argument. I'm not expecting people to play pen pals before photos are exchanged. "

If I get a message from someone I don't know, I check the profile before even opening the message. Many women will have a hundred or more messages waiting in their inbox every day. If there is no pic showing on your profile, most won't even bother scrolling down to read your text, and your message will be ignored. If you send them a second message they won't even bother checking your profile, it'll just be instant delete or just leave it unread to scroll off the bottom of their inbox.

If you want anybody to engage with you, you have to do everything possible to grab their attention, and you have less than five seconds to do this. Think of it as if you are applying for a job, there will be 500 applicants, and the slightest thing off-putting about your resume means it goes straight in the bin...

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I think Pølly ^ has pretty much summed it up perfectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've hit the nail on head op.

Having no pics will limit your success on here .Many of us just delete messages from shadows

It sounds like you could be on here behind someones back too ,sorry if thats not the case.

I completely get that, for some people that's the case but without even a slight engagement people will never know. Not all of us keep our profiles private for sinister reasons."

But ask yourself this, why should people have to make the effort to extract information from you when others who contact them are making sych information - and pictures - available to them?

The ratio of men to women on here is sky high. A lot of women get hundreds of messages per day.

Almost everyone you message will check out your profile before even thinking about reading what you've sent them, and as most browse in mode, you won't know anything about it.

Your lack of photos will be ehy your message is deleted or left unread

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