FabSwingers.com forum: Warts and all...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

We're all a bit flawed aren't we? Display less than ideal traits from time to time, don't always act in the best way.

How accepting are you of a) your own flaws and b) the flaws of others? Are you aware of them in friendships/relationships etc or do you turn a blind eye?

I'm going to end the op with this because it's one of the best things I've read recently (might be weird to frame a message but the urge is there).

"...I forgot how fucking good it is to see someone for who they are, flaws and imperfections just as vibrant as the things that everyone celebrates."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept the whole of me....I'm made up of many edges, facets and sides that can all present at times

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’m very flawed, and I’ve hurt people in the past, I try to be a good person and often over compensate, so I’d say that I’m not really dealing with them.

Physically I am what I am and I’m happy with that.

I would like a bigger todget though.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I have to work hard to accept my own flaws. The need to pick myself apart and try to be 'better' is always there. But on the clearer days I know that's nonsense, and being better is to just disregard the part of me that feels that way.

I love the people I love for everything they are, warts and all. Are there some ugly parts? Of course. But so long as their imperfections are stitched together with good intentions then that's all that really matters. The whole is so much more than just the sum of all the parts.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"I’m very flawed, and I’ve hurt people in the past, I try to be a good person and often over compensate, so I’d say that I’m not really dealing with them.

Physically I am what I am and I’m happy with that.

I would like a bigger todget though.

Todger, not todget whatever one of them is.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m not sure I like the word flaw applied to a person , it makes me think of a product design issue or software defect. I don't believe any of us have those.

We have unique personalities that don’t need changing or fixing and we have bits of wear and tear that can possibly be repaired. Some have much bigger damage that results In things like dishonesty, bullying , disloyalty etc. I don’t think any this is flaws.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I do love the Jon Legend song.

All of me.

Love your curves and all your edges

All your Perfect imperfections

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Depends how good a friend they are I think.

As for myself I’m terrible physically, I have little to no body confidence. Everything else though I’m cool with.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I have no flaws .. I am just perfectly imperfect is my view on it .

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm accepting of flaws that I have deemed in others, until they hurt people.

I don't put any flaws upon myself, but then I spend time with people who love me for me and would call me out on any societal negative behaviour, so it doesn't become a problem.

Any other deemed flaw I apparently have, is someone else's problem not mine

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Everyone has imperfections! That's what's makes us all individual and beautiful in our own way.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

When is a flaw a flaw though Melster? What some people see as a negative trait, others will see as a positive one. Nobody is perfect.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I’m very flawed, and I’ve hurt people in the past, I try to be a good person and often over compensate, so I’d say that I’m not really dealing with them.

Physically I am what I am and I’m happy with that.

I would like a bigger todget though.

Todger, not todget whatever one of them is. "

That’s a mini todger. Anything less than a sky remote.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m multifaceted, a work in progress and still learning about myself.

I put my trust in people till I’m proven wrong, I take chances on people and look for silver linings wherever I can

Perfectly imperfect

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"We're all a bit flawed aren't we? Display less than ideal traits from time to time, don't always act in the best way.

How accepting are you of a) your own flaws and b) the flaws of others? Are you aware of them in friendships/relationships etc or do you turn a blind eye?

I'm going to end the op with this because it's one of the best things I've read recently (might be weird to frame a message but the urge is there).

"...I forgot how fucking good it is to see someone for who they are, flaws and imperfections just as vibrant as the things that everyone celebrates."

I’ve said this before and it isn’t for attention or sympathy, but i dislike every single thing about myself. Physically, mentally, emotionally - the lot.

Whether or not people view things about me as a flaw, I can’t say, but I do. That said, I am absolutely fine with it. I have made my peace with having what I have in life and anyone who doesn’t like me has other options.

Given the choice, would I change things about myself? Yes. Should I? No.

As a result of all that garbled nonsense, I believe I am conditioned to accept others for exactly how they appear and conduct themselves. Some are for me, some aren’t. Those that aren’t, I avoid. And some of those who are for me, aren’t actually for me because they’re not interested.

The remaining person is either brave or stupid, but is welcome regardless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think flaws or the parts that may make people feel they are less than ideal are often the most special.

I don't think anyone lives a full life without a few cracks along the way .

That said I'm far more accepting of others than I am myself.

I am very flawed in lots of ways. I don't always hide them as well as I wish I could and I can actually be pretty unkind to myself too.

Partly down to my nature , my deep need to help others or fix things sometimes means I ignore my own needs, then when they inevitably show up,it can be troublesome.

Just because something isn't perfect doesn't make it any less worthy .

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Maybe I'm not accepting of my flaws. But I acknowledge then when they rear their ugly head and take ownership of them. Sometimes it's too easy to say it's not my fault xyz in my past made me do it. But I think that's something you've got to come to terms with and move on somehow. It's not fair to hurt others just because someone hurt you.

I'm generally cautious of certain kind of flaws in others. But I'm trying to be more open minded these days if I can.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I'm hugely flawed. I thought I'd accepted it years ago, but recent events have made me realise that my flaws have caused me to have huge regrets, and I find them almost unbearable sometimes.

I think that knowing I'm so flawed generally makes me quite tolerant of the flaws of others, but obviously that depends on the person, and the flaw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m aware of my flaws, or think I am. Some I try and address when I remember, others I just relax and enjoy my problem.

I’m accepting of flaws I perceive in others, unless they really piss me off….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have lots of flaws. I’m really impulsive, short tempered, i get bored very easily and I generally accept them as that’s just who I am. Im probably a lot less forgiving of the flaws my body has but I’m slowly learning to accept them as well and learn that I can’t change who I am.

As for others, I like getting to see who they really are. All their imperfections and flaws. I like knowing someone is comfortable around me not to have a wall up and mask themselves.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"I have no flaws .. I am just perfectly imperfect is my view on it .

lol fascinating

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I have lots of flaws. I’m really impulsive, short tempered, i get bored very easily and I generally accept them as that’s just who I am. Im probably a lot less forgiving of the flaws my body has but I’m slowly learning to accept them as well and learn that I can’t change who I am.

As for others, I like getting to see who they really are. All their imperfections and flaws. I like knowing someone is comfortable around me not to have a wall up and mask themselves. "

Does this mean I won't have to leave the room if I have wind or should I supply you with a mask?

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I accept the whole of me....I'm made up of many edges, facets and sides that can all present at times "

That's a good way of looking at it. We are multifaceted at any given time, complex and nuanced. It's a good way of being, part of the joy of learning someone is discovering all those little parts.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’m very flawed, and I’ve hurt people in the past, I try to be a good person and often over compensate, so I’d say that I’m not really dealing with them.

Physically I am what I am and I’m happy with that.

I would like a bigger todget though.

Ha! Bigger todger. I'd like smaller boobs but we can still be imperfectly perfect.

I've hurt people in the past. You don't need to overcompensate for that though, apologise if meant, learn from it and move on. You're not a bad person if you don't constantly try and make up for the past. x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Even perfection is flawed

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By *oanne ETV/TS
over a year ago

Near Warrington

Physically I'm not the most magnificent specimen and mentally I've had my ups and downs. However I'm happy with myself now, flaws and all.

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

As Steve Coggan said "everybody's a bit of a cunt sometimes"

https://youtu.be/9cH0elKDOzs

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I’m very flawed, and I’ve hurt people in the past, I try to be a good person and often over compensate, so I’d say that I’m not really dealing with them.

Physically I am what I am and I’m happy with that.

I would like a bigger todget though.

Todger, not todget whatever one of them is. "

I can relate to this. I think when you get older, reflect and look back and realise the bad that you've done, the impact it had on both others and yourself, then it's easier to both not do it again, but also attempt to 'balance the scales' a little in some way, shape or form.

Call it karma, call it what you will.

The older I've become the more I realise what a cunt I've been at times when younger and the more determined I've been to not be that person again.

*I don't want a bigger knob though. This one does me fine.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I hope that I'm very accepting of others as the whole package of being a person. I'm not sure that I even think about flaws.

For myself though, I often feel that I'm just a bundle of faults wrapped up in a wrong shaped body. Outwardly I can show confidence, inwardly I can be a tangle of insecurity. I don't know what the answer is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its our flaws and imperfections that make us who we are. Reckon life would be rather dull if we were all the same. That being said it doesn't mean that we can't try be nicer to everybody (and I include myself in that!!)

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