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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To those that populate the forums daily, do ever go through it all and start typing then think no, I’m not saying that, or I’m definitely not speaking my mind in that one cos I will be here all fecking day, and then stare at the forum from the outside, looking through the bar window at all those lovely people thinking, you know what today I got nothing, is forum block a thing

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yep I quite often write something and then don't bother posting in the end Recently I've found myself posting less than I use to. I read the threads and usually go yep others have more or less said what I would have so I can't be bothered .

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I was gonna type something but I got bored.

Hope this helps

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Yes. Or, that'll get me a ban, or I can't be bothered to argue.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I often type something out and then delete it.

I'm not posting much in threads lately, I'm preferring just reading what others are posting and having dm's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have just done exactly that..typed a response and then just thought no...it'll be taken the wrong way, then I'll have to explain or put up with someone's ire, and can't be bothered. Maybe it's an age thing

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Yes but not because of fear of backlash etc and more I just can't be arsed that day to bother with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ummm

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Yep I quite often write something and then don't bother posting in the end Recently I've found myself posting less than I use to. I read the threads and usually go yep others have more or less said what I would have so I can't be bothered ."

This.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

All the time

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

I post plenty.

It gets ignored anyway but that’s a mark off days bucket list to have achieved creative writing.

It’s probably more interesting than “would you do the person above you?” Or “How many people are on your block list” or “do you prefer hairer women.

I’m just not appreciated in my own time like so many truly great people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes because some users have been known to get a lifetime ban from using the forums, over minor comments.

Other wise there wouldn't be so much kiss arse and flying low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely write what I'm actually thinking. It's more a watershed version I end up posting.

Also sometimes I'd rather watch TV and listen to David Attenborough than comment on anything.

A bit like that ^

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Many’s the time I write a post, then preview it just to check I actually typed what I was thinking, and then thought, naaaa that’ll get me banned and deleted it.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I quite often change my mind about a post, but only because I know I have not succeeded in articulating my thoughts properly. Sometimes it ends up being a brain dump or catharsis enough just to write the words and not publish them.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I start typing something but, on realisation that it will waste another 20 seconds of my life....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely get days like this. I want to be involved and in with the flirting and the banter but my brain just deserts me and I end up posting shite I would probably cringe at by trying to force it too hard. After a few days of that, thankfully for the rest of the forum users, I tend to go back to my charming, witty and humble self

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I often type something out and then delete it.

I'm not posting much in threads lately, I'm preferring just reading what others are posting and having dm's."

Pretty much this minus the dm's

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

I had the nerve and audacity to call a guy a “tool” who stated that mental health these days is a road only taken by miscreants to the benefits heaven for the lazy.

I was banned for 48 hours.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Some threads I am tempted to respond to a particular comment but often just stop as I know it's pointless, and I don't want to get into replying to someone intentionally being ignorant or obnoxious.

Which is a shame when some people spoil things for others, especially when often it's the same people again and again

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

I did it just then, this is take three. Sometimes I feel like I don’t want to burden people with my opinions.

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

DM’s???

Women actually reply to well thought you and complimentary messages tinged with humour a feel good vibe???

Nahh.

You’re lying!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Nah, I say what I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah, I say what I want "

You can't tell me that what you want to say is always within the forum rules

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nah, I say what I want

You can't tell me that what you want to say is always within the forum rules

I can usually find a way

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I had the nerve and audacity to call a guy a “tool” who stated that mental health these days is a road only taken by miscreants to the benefits heaven for the lazy.

I was banned for 48 hours. "

It would probably have been wiser to challenge his view without resorting to name calling

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

"To those that populate the forums daily, do ever go through it all and start typing then think no, I’m not saying that, or I’m definitely not speaking my mind in that one cos I will be here all fecking day, and then stare at the forum from the outside, looking through the bar window at all those lovely people thinking, you know what today I got nothing, is forum block a thing "

Kinda, but mine is borne more out of self-doubt that keeps telling me I'm not one of the ‘cool kids’ on here and therefore irrelevant. Obviously, I try to overcome it with humour, but it's definitely a challenge. I'm not giving up though, so that's a plus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was me at 5am this morning, sitting on my fingers resisting the urge to type out a response to a thread. Didn't have too, the hole was dug already

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Not as often any more.

I don't have the energy or desire to keep filtering/editing myself so I'm more... acceptable. If anything, right now, I'm more likely to post my response/thoughts without overthinking.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"This was me at 5am this morning, sitting on my fingers resisting the urge to type out a response to a thread. Didn't have too, the hole was dug already

Sitting on your fingers sounds like you were too busy to post on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

p.s. just to add on to my comment above, this is why I no longer post in the Politics subforum anymore either. Clearly individuals and views like mine are not welcome for the select clique that use that place as an echo chamber. So I'll just self-censor and self-bar myself from there to save myself any grief.

And if things keep up the same way in the main forum here, I'll gladly disappear from the forums as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many words unwritten, so many posts unposted. It's for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This was me at 5am this morning, sitting on my fingers resisting the urge to type out a response to a thread. Didn't have too, the hole was dug already

Sitting on your fingers sounds like you were too busy to post on fab

I prefer to sit on someone else's fingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noi post it anyway

I don’t care.

Not been banned yet

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"This was me at 5am this morning, sitting on my fingers resisting the urge to type out a response to a thread. Didn't have too, the hole was dug already

Sitting on your fingers sounds like you were too busy to post on fab

I prefer to sit on someone else's fingers

*checks times for the sleeper train to Edinburgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This was me at 5am this morning, sitting on my fingers resisting the urge to type out a response to a thread. Didn't have too, the hole was dug already

Sitting on your fingers sounds like you were too busy to post on fab

I prefer to sit on someone else's fingers

*checks times for the sleeper train to Edinburgh "

I wouldn't want to give you cramp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bookmarking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bookmarking "

Probably won’t be back to post

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some discretion can be a good thing, as cam energy conservation.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Some days I am here all day. The joy of what I do gives me the scope to use my time as I will frequently. Other times I'll be tied up away from the forums for a day or two completely.

I use the forums as an outlet on breaks from work. Sometimes pointless, humorous, entertaining threads. Sometimes more serious ones. Sometimes one's where I'll happily argue my view for as long as I have time.

Everyone can post as often or as little as they wish. Nobody has to agree with someone else. If someone wants to argue a position I disagree with, and I feel I can honestly counter an argument with valid, peer reviewed research and supporting evidence then bring it on.

Some people will argue black is white, up is down and that they couldn't possibly be wrong. Their prerogative. Others throw 'facts' around as if cast in stone when there's nothing to back up their claims. Again - their prerogative.

One thing that's always been true on the Fab forums.

There are some incredibly knowledgeable, highly articulate and well educated people on here more than capable of supporting their viewpoint and countering those of others in a logical, sound manner.

There are also those that would put complete faith in a youtube video, meme or social media soundbite.

The two do battle on a regular basis in here and always will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some days I am here all day. The joy of what I do gives me the scope to use my time as I will frequently. Other times I'll be tied up away from the forums for a day or two completely.

One thing that's always been true on the Fab forums.

There are some incredibly knowledgeable, highly articulate and well educated people on here more than capable of supporting their viewpoint and countering those of others in a logical, sound manner.

There are also those that would put complete faith in a youtube video, meme or social media soundbite.

The two do battle on a regular basis in here and always will.

So according to our previous interaction, questioning the provenance and basis of the facts and statistics used by anybody in support of their argument must mean that they're illogical and unsound in opposing said argument being propagated?

Rhetorical question. No need to answer that. We both know what you'll say.

FYI, yelling loudest that "you've got all the facts and statistics" doesn't let you automatically win an argument or convince anybody you're right. Facts can be falsified. Statistics can be gamed by the methods of collection and loaded questions/criteria asked/used to collect them.

If your idea of debating/arguing with anybody is simply to trot out statistics and act like that makes you the smartest in the argument, then all I can say is you MAY win heads who can't be bothered to dig through all the numbers you throw at them and just accept things at face value, but you'll NEVER win hearts.

Good evening. Just as well our paths never cross.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes. Sometimes I type a reply and then think , Do I really want to get involved in this assinine trivia?' .......

Or sometimes I think ..... Jesus , if i am honest even polite and honest the person i'm speaking to will start the drama and tears...... if they are so fucking fragile why do they ask?

Or sometimes I think ...... this person is obvs unhinged, don't reply.

And sometimes I think ...... anything to pass the time is better than this

There are many times I type and don't post.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes because some users have been known to get a lifetime ban from using the forums, over minor comments.

Other wise there wouldn't be so much kiss arse and flying low."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. Sometimes I type a reply and then think , Do I really want to get involved in this assinine trivia?' .......

Or sometimes I think ..... Jesus , if i am honest even polite and honest the person i'm speaking to will start the drama and tears...... if they are so fucking fragile why do they ask?

Or sometimes I think ...... this person is obvs unhinged, don't reply.

And sometimes I think ...... anything to pass the time is better than this

There are many times I type and don't post.

Christ, yes

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I had the nerve and audacity to call a guy a “tool” who stated that mental health these days is a road only taken by miscreants to the benefits heaven for the lazy.

I was banned for 48 hours. "

So you should be. Express yourself without insult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"p.s. just to add on to my comment above, this is why I no longer post in the Politics subforum anymore either. Clearly individuals and views like mine are not welcome for the select clique that use that place as an echo chamber. So I'll just self-censor and self-bar myself from there to save myself any grief.

And if things keep up the same way in the main forum here, I'll gladly disappear from the forums as well. "

Your insightful and supportive contributions will be missed.

By someone

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Noi post it anyway

I don’t care.

Not been banned yet "

You don't though Wonko.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've had a forum ban previously, I do type stuff than read and think actually better not post that.

Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I sometimes type and delete because I feel I'm repeating myself and sometimes I just don't want to lower myself to their level.

I sometimes type and post because I feel I'm repeating myself and I very much want to lower myself to their level.

I'm as guilty as anyone else for posting inane stuff on here but some posters obviously feel if they say something on here it will balance the diametrically opposing views they offer in private.

I sometimes type and delete because I feel I'm repeating myself.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Some days I am here all day. The joy of what I do gives me the scope to use my time as I will frequently. Other times I'll be tied up away from the forums for a day or two completely.

One thing that's always been true on the Fab forums.

There are some incredibly knowledgeable, highly articulate and well educated people on here more than capable of supporting their viewpoint and countering those of others in a logical, sound manner.

There are also those that would put complete faith in a youtube video, meme or social media soundbite.

The two do battle on a regular basis in here and always will.

Rhetorical question. No need to answer that. We both know what you'll say.

Good evening. Just as well our paths never cross. "

Oh the injustice of it all ..... well i'm laughing.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Talk about running into a path just because you weren't the target ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talk about running into a path just because you weren't the target ... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol i do the exact same thing!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

What about the forna?

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