FabSwingers.com forum: Signs someone is cheating on you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs?

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

They're on here looking for a shag

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

You found a text on their phone saying -

"Can't wait to shag the arse off you again"

But I don't know

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Smiling…. Happy…..well dressed…. Well groomed.. after shave…. All the things he was when he met you - he will be again - but not with you. Xx

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "

Ps he’d be a complete knob if he’s cheating on you xx - just saying x

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Even if you get Mayfair and Park Lane with hotels on them, you always lose at Monopoly.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Smiling…. Happy…..well dressed…. Well groomed.. after shave…. All the things he was when he met you - he will be again - but not with you. Xx"

Ah yes, maybe neighbour knew her husband was cheating on her when he tried to put his "good underwear" through the wash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't message as often? YES

Always on their phone? DEFINITELY

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier? OF COURSE

Their sex drive goes down? TOTALLY

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

He comes home with red lipstick on his cock and you’re a nude lipstick girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "

I was just working a lot lately, doing some overtime

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

If you are shagging loads and it's got less he's been a dirty dog! Lol Everyone is on their phones it's the sign of the times, So not really sure about that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They "forget" their phone at work.

They put it on do not disturb.

They say, "oh yeah do xxxxx I love that" during sex when it's something you've never done.

They join fab.

They accuse you of cheating.

What my ex did anyway.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

They are quite short and impatient- physically present, but their mind is somewhere else.

Very protective of their phones, they take it everywhere.

For me it was the first one that made me realise.

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By *parkle LoungeWoman
over a year ago

Cornwall

They always put their phone face down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They get late night texts from Domino’s thanking them for the other night

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

They start talking about someone a lot who they've never mentioned before.

They stop talking about someone they used to mention a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They join POF and tell you it’s an app to connect with other avid fishers

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Even if you get Mayfair and Park Lane with hotels on them, you always lose at Monopoly.

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What's all this about Mayfair??

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Their phone is always face down, on silent or do not disturb and they never let it out of their site (taking it in bathroom etc)

They’re making more effort with their physical appearance - gym, aftershave, clothes etc

They’re sex drive decreases, they no longer initiate sex or give you attention

They’re irritable or seem to resent you

Lack of commitment or reluctance to make future plans

They seem jumpy, shifty or on edge. Don’t make as much eye contact

Biggest sign is the gut feeling you have… it’s really wrong

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

The signs when it happen to me were

They on phone loads more

Started carrying phone everywhere in house when used to just leave it lying

Wasn’t coming home between calls anymore (she was mobile carer)

Even showed up with flowers claimed was a friend ffs

Attitude changed to low key resentment

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

*rarely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she comes home with a pussy full of cum, that's a hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start going on a few golf trips and spa days with the lads.

Boudoir suite is lovely

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I read a thing once where a woman realised her husband was cheating when a woman handed him a drink while he was talking to someone else and he took it without looking at her. It signified a level of intimacy that went beyond acquaintance

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They're not fully engaged with you, a part of them is absent. (May be due to other things but if they are partly inaccessible as a person, it's a sign of them detaching, which may be because others have captivated them).

New interests.

They may be brighter but simultaneously on edge.

They may be over generous, due to guilt.

Unwillingness to make some plans, as it could prevent their getting together with the other.

Look for patterns that are changed. We're creature's of habit. They may be forming new ones

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Is it the breathing!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A colleague received flowers at work once. She cried and said "what's he done this time".

Tip if you're playing away don't be nicer than normal

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

Where are all the “do they know you’re on here or show them your profile “ comments that a male would get for asking a similar question??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they suddenly start mentioning a colleague of the opposite sex A LOT in conversations with you, or takes it to the next level by curtailing time spent with you to spend it with that person more?

Yeah, cheating alarms.

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

If they ask fancy a threesome I know someone

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By *s-two-75Couple
over a year ago

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "

Plenty of “single” male profiles on here that can answer that I’m sure

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By *resesse_MelioremCouple
over a year ago

Border of London

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "

They start using null cyphers for communication.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

They talked you into the monotony and codependence of monogamy in the first place

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By *ngelwithkissesMan
over a year ago

preston

She discovers she is pregnant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The taking the phone with you all the time one or on it all the time is not really a give away.

My phone goes everywhere as it counts my steps, whilst I am on it all the time playing backgammon, sudoko, wordle...

The forgotten condom wrapper by the side of the bed might be a give away though (that and the naked woman in the shower)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Where are all the “do they know you’re on here or show them your profile “ comments that a male would get for asking a similar question??"

I think a fair few on here know that I'm definitely single and not in a relationship anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phone on silent

Never leaving their phone around

Conversation throughout the day gets less and less

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

When they accuse you if cheating/flirting etc with other people.

Any change in their routine.

Not naming people in conversations.

Calling you the wrong name

Cc'ing other women in emails (that's how I caught one ex out - in the days before smart phones)

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Go off sex, are suddenly too tired for sex or suddenly start showing off new sex moves or sex drive increases.

Start working late more

Suddenly start playing golf or other new hobby that seems to take up a lot of time.

Get a new mate that they start going out with.

They have 43 different takeaway numbers in their phone.

They get panicky if you so much as look in the direction of their phone.

They shower as soon as they get in from the “gym”

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By *mashingPumpkinMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen

Comes home with cum in her hair.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "
so you have a meet here that you see regularly and you are in a relationship?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

When you see things suddenly changing little by little which gives you reason for suspicion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're getting them vibes my advice is get out before it drives you mad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must try harder

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

Checking home cctv seeing a strange car on the drive then see the driver walk to the said car followed by your partner and watching them have a good old snog before the driver gets in thier car and drives away

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"They are quite short and impatient- physically present, but their mind is somewhere else.

Very protective of their phones, they take it everywhere.

For me it was the first one that made me realise. "

As above also.. lying about where they have been..messaging other people behind your back and if you ask them about it another lie drips out of their mouth.

Buying you presants as if to compensate for being a wanker. I could go on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gas lamping, that's always a give away.

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"They always put their phone face down "

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Are they on Instagram?

Do they put down the phone then quickly pick it up when you leave the room?

Please don't all get angry with this but if you are a woman on Instagram you will attract many men. For them attention is the coin of the realm.

If you are in a loving (not swinging) tender relationship with someone and they are posting pics of themselves on sites like Instagram then they are putting themselves out there.you are not the only man she is speaking too, she has many options.

Why else would you need to be on there unless they are running a business or selling something?

Pics of your dinner don't count.

You need to be attentive of these red flags if you're in a ltr.

If I'm in a serious relationship I'm off here and have no trouble deleting my account in front of her because trust is precious and slightest doubt in the mind ends dreams doesn't it.

Look after yourselves x

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Their phone is always face down, on silent or do not disturb and they never let it out of their site (taking it in bathroom etc)

They’re making more effort with their physical appearance - gym, aftershave, clothes etc

They’re sex drive decreases, they no longer initiate sex or give you attention

They’re irritable or seem to resent you

Lack of commitment or reluctance to make future plans

They seem jumpy, shifty or on edge. Don’t make as much eye contact

Biggest sign is the gut feeling you have… it’s really wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he might be doing something that you do without realising it. You have to ask yourself why he thinks this, the things you might say etc.

As for emails S... I had a past a good one at that, it doesn't mean anything maybe he stopped going on that account.

3 sides to every story yours theirs and the truth. I have memory loss so I can't lie but I always pick up on the finer details

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

"Where are all the “do they know you’re on here or show them your profile “ comments that a male would get for asking a similar question??

I think a fair few on here know that I'm definitely single and not in a relationship anymore.

I understand that, it's just that if a male asked the same question, that is what the response would be.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Distracted.

On phone more often, doesn't leave it around.

Mood swings.

Lack of interest or more interest in sex.

More interest in appearance.

Less general affection.

Generally you can just tell when attention is spent elsewhere.

Mrs

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Keeping their phone with them at all times and its on silent.

Talking about a new person at work or down the pub, then going out to meet friends or having to stay late at work.

Being held up in traffic and a variety of other excuses when they take longer than expected to go on an errand or drive home from meeting their mum.

If you suspect someone is cheating, 9 /10 times you are right.

When they start accusing you of cheating is another sign that they are up to something too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be very subtle changes that you can only detect if you know your partner well. Things like changes in routine, unexpected work trips, taking a little more care about their clothes and body. They may be evasive, tense, they may try to laugh off or close down any questions you ask. It's difficult to maintain a secret life and make sure your story is consistent.

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By *ooljoeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

Yh the start making less sacrifice,delayed texts, easily flips when you ask questions.Communication changes pattern as early nights happen when there's sleep overs.Wanting you to take more financial responsibilies and changing plans at last minute.

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By *LIVEANDKICKING100Man
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Better grooming. New clothing. New scent. You don't see them as regularly if you are not married/living together or they go out more often with their friends, every week. Acting strange, have new interests,

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

When she starts wearing new cufflinks that have a masculine pattern/design. Clearly a gift from 'him'.

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

With my ex hubby, I just knew. Then when he done it the 2nd time I knew it was coming because she was always beside him in photos (both members of the same social group). You can’t beat female intuition!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional detachment and a change in energy and effort towards you. Until it becomes downright hostility.

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London

Sex drive goes down in many relationship and that doesn't necessarily mean the person is cheating.

However, if the person shows signs of all or most of the following:

Emotionally unavailable

Doesn't touch you the way he used to: example, he stopped grabbing your cheeks, hugging, kissing...the things lovers do;

Doesn't have sex the same way. He's going through the motions and doing strange new things you never discussed but he's suddenly starts slapping/choking you in bed.

Disappears for long hours and can't/struggles to explain;

He's unusually jovial after these absences and his football team is not even playing!!!

On the phone late nights texting which he never used to do!

Physical intamcy was a huge clue for me. She became distant, touchy and jumpy everytime I tried to get close to her. Suddenly didn't have energy for sex when she used to initiate most of it. The body language never lies imho. It was during sex that I was convinced she was cheating. Confronted her and she burst into tears and came clean. She had a short affair with a work colleague and ended it pretty quickly but it was mostly the guilt/fear of getting found out that consumed her. Living a lie is bloody hardwork. Not worth it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

All of the above plus weird numbers on their phone, moody, snide remarks about your appearance and prowess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He goes to play golf awfully lot or does some other hobby out of home. So many men on fab who text me use that as an excuse

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

The big red neon sign with a finger pointing to them that says "cheater"

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

I just want to add that relationship break downs are (in my experience) harder for women to get over than men.

If the man has cheated she will look at the next boyfriend/partner differently because her trust has been damaged.this can impact the next relationship.

When a women loves you and puts her heart and soul into it you don't need anything else.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

What happened to Shakira- she had a jar of her favourite jam in the fridge… kids didnt like it and her ex Piqué wouldn’t touch it because he is an athlete, his body is a temple, etc

yet the jam levels were going down and down and down…

A woman who is seeing a man and wants his partner to know- WILL make herself known. Specially if they meet in his car, home, etc.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I just want to add that relationship break downs are (in my experience) harder for women to get over than men.

If the man has cheated she will look at the next boyfriend/partner differently because her trust has been damaged.this can impact the next relationship.

When a women loves you and puts her heart and soul into it you don't need anything else."

But people do. Love is wonderful, exhausting, challenging, joyful. People may still need more.

I think relationship breakdowns are hard for anyone. Negative experiences can colour how you view future relationships, regardless of your gender/how you identify. I've seen and heard the sadness of some brilliant men when things come to an end, it's more the mindset that helps a person heal and move on.

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By *nchantedRoseWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

Sometimes there can be no signs at all...you just have a feeling that you cannot get rid of.. I ignored it for months and months eventually that feeling started to make me ill and I was right all along.. never ignore that gut feeling!

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

A best friend of the same sex suddenly comes along who they spend alot of time with.

Overnight courses for work suddenly crop up.

A good one and the cheater will rarely pick up on is when them and their "friend" start leaving out please and thank you that they previously used to use between themselves. That's a subconcious thing people do when they're totally comfortable in each others company and usually beyond friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You found a text on their phone saying -

"Can't wait to shag the arse off you again"

But I don't know

Nice IT Crowd reference.

well played, ma'am xx

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

Spunky pants... woman I dated recently said she knew he was cheating cause she did all the washing and he started getting spunky pants. She was right too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just want to add that relationship break downs are (in my experience) harder for women to get over than men.

If the man has cheated she will look at the next boyfriend/partner differently because her trust has been damaged.this can impact the next relationship.

When a women loves you and puts her heart and soul into it you don't need anything else."

I disagree with your last statement. I think there are men that need that ego boost, or new energy to make them feel alive, or some that just like the thrill of the chase, or the thrill of knowing they've got more than people think. Think this also applies the other way round though.

I think many that get cheated on are left feeling why wasn't I enough afterwards. And they could have given everything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Emotional detachment and a change in energy and effort towards you. Until it becomes downright hostility.

I think this!

But could they same still happen if they just lose interest in you and you simply don't do it for them anymore?

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

I do half of these, especially the phone stuff and I have neither the time nor the energy for an affair.

Been there, done that in earlier years and the stress just isn't worth the sex. Far better to swing. The juice without the squeeze.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't all get angry with this but if you are a woman on Instagram you will attract many men. For them attention is the coin of the realm.

Why else would you need to be on there unless they are running a business or selling something?

Pics of your dinner don't count.

Yes, because every selfie that us women post is to garner attention from males.

I hope you that you managed to set your clocks forward on Sunday. Pity it wasn't by about 70 years

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've never knowingly been cheated on. But I think I would go with gut instinct

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

Or there's no obvious signs. The person I was seeing wore the same clothes, left mine at random times so no patterns were established, had "days out walking", made packed lunch , wore walking gear but really, came to mine. Always carried cash so nothing could be traced. Was very attentive at home (from what id gather phone calls etc).... I can see how someone would not get caught. His behaviour didn't change whatsoever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they on Instagram?

Do they put down the phone then quickly pick it up when you leave the room?

Please don't all get angry with this but if you are a woman on Instagram you will attract many men. For them attention is the coin of the realm.

Why else would you need to be on there unless they are running a business or selling something?

Pics of your dinner don't count.

You need to be attentive of these red flags if you're in a ltr.

If I'm in a serious relationship I'm off here and have no trouble deleting my account in front of her because trust is precious and slightest doubt in the mind ends dreams doesn't it.

Look after yourselves x

This just screams insecurity pmsl.

Black stop posting selfies on Instagram for the sake of our relationship, don't wear make up outside of the house, do not wear nice clothes when you go and meet friends, stop taking your phone to the bathroom with you.

In fact start living in the wardrobe and I will pass you food daily via a slight opening in the door, you can have a smart speaker with the talking clock for company pmsl!

Stop having a life FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs?

Plenty of “single” male profiles on here that can answer that I’m sure

Plenty of so called couples and single ladies too

Always one isn't there

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I’ve never been cheated on so can’t really advise but I was in a relationship with a woman who’s partner in the previous relationship had cheated on her and she said she didn’t have a clue about it until he admitted it but then she realised he had been on his phone more and had claimed to be working longer hours (he said he was working late when he met the other woman) but she just thought he was busy at work. So when I was with her she was less trusting so she would check my phone a few times a day and if we weren’t together she’d message me at random times to tell me to send screenshots of my calls and texts straight away. I also had to video call her when I was about to leave work so she could watch me leave the office and drive home and be sure I didn’t meet anyone after work.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Easiest way to find out is ask them and watch their pupils always a giver way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When he walks past you without slapping that peach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never been cheated on so can’t really advise but I was in a relationship with a woman who’s partner in the previous relationship had cheated on her and she said she didn’t have a clue about it until he admitted it but then she realised he had been on his phone more and had claimed to be working longer hours (he said he was working late when he met the other woman) but she just thought he was busy at work. So when I was with her she was less trusting so she would check my phone a few times a day and if we weren’t together she’d message me at random times to tell me to send screenshots of my calls and texts straight away. I also had to video call her when I was about to leave work so she could watch me leave the office and drive home and be sure I didn’t meet anyone after work. "

That’s not healthy for either of you

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

If someone is cheating on you op there a fool, but I think a guy or girl will know quickly if there partner is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy

Not being attentive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sends you a message meant for his wife...

More liar to me as effectively cheating on her not me x

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

I'm sorry this happened. But sadly it's true women do trust less and it takes a lot for them to recover after being hurt. It's just how it is not their fault.

Doubt Is very hard to get rid of even when with someone new.

It's like it's too good to be true so you look for something to expose To justify your unsure feelings.

Do you take a risk of being hurt or do you stay lonely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been cheated on twice!! First signs I find are constantly on phones and never leave their phones unattended, also late night messages whilst in bed, both ex’s that cheated on me

Cheated on me with work colleagues, which thinking about it signs where there to

Spot a mile off. Sudden change in appearance for

Work, more

Make up, more

Time doing there hair etc, then working late becomes a regular thing, works night out again started to become

More and more reguLar, work friends you’ve never heard of before, then her choice of knickers suddenly changes. Can’t stand dishonest people who cheat!! Doubts don’t. Come from

No where

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

[Removed by poster at 30/03/23 20:57:43]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have more than two phones..one every day phone ...one work phone..they're ok ..but a 3rd phone ?????..what the fuck do they want that for ??? personally if a person wants to cheat and lm not good enough for them , There's the door ...fuck off outta my life, be with whoever they want but it's nothing to me then, nothing as worse as a person who cheats , total destruction of lives .

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

They accuse you of cheating.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

Don't let this thread cast a cloud.

Some good people here

Take care all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have two phones.

Doesn't mean I'm a cheater.

People also have a work phone and a personal phone. So I don't think it's a good indicator.

I have two, one personal, and one for fab etc. Saves accidental sends of x rated pics to people you wouldn't want seeing them. And if you need to ditch your number because of a nutjob or stalker you can bin it without having to change your number on your personal stuff.

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By *unfunfun xMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Being cheating on is fucking horrible only happened once as far as I know but jeeeez it hurts but one my fav words karma will be coming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite painful reading this thread

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Quite painful reading this thread

Sending hugs

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I'm sorry this happened. But sadly it's true women do trust less and it takes a lot for them to recover after being hurt. It's just how it is not their fault.

Doubt Is very hard to get rid of even when with someone new.

It's like it's too good to be true so you look for something to expose To justify your unsure feelings.

Do you take a risk of being hurt or do you stay lonely?"

Thanks for the sympathy, I was talking about my personal experience with one woman but I didn’t realise it’s true for every woman who’s been hurt. I assumed that every woman is unique and individual so therefore deals with being hurt in different ways, ranging from not being affected by it in the slightest bit and getting over it straight away to it ruining their whole life and any subsequent relationships…and anything in between. Thank you for enlightening me to the fact that all women trust less and need a lot to recover from being hurt, I’ll forget any ideas I had about all women being different and remember that they are all one and the same when it comes to dealing with being hurt. I’m sure it gives them a bit of relief to know that it’s not their fault though.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

I'm sorry this happened. But sadly it's true women do trust less and it takes a lot for them to recover after being hurt. It's just how it is not their fault.

Doubt Is very hard to get rid of even when with someone new.

It's like it's too good to be true so you look for something to expose To justify your unsure feelings.

Do you take a risk of being hurt or do you stay lonely?

I don't think it is every woman, no generalisation ever includes everyone of a particular demographic. I've been cheated on but not hugely paranoid but then I look at everything on a scale of crapness. Was it crap? Yes. Have more crap things happened bigger than that incident. Yes. So I let a lot of stuff go because if I didn't I'd probably be a nervous wreck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to your heart people , trust your instincts x

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London

He says things like "you're starting to sound like my wife"

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

"Spunky pants... woman I dated recently said she knew he was cheating cause she did all the washing and he started getting spunky pants. She was right too

Exactly This, the working late, being secretive and constantly defensive, lack of intimacy this list goes on sadly

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"You found a text on their phone saying -

"Can't wait to shag the arse off you again"

But I don't know

Nice IT Crowd reference.

well played, ma'am xx"

Ah thank you, I was wondering if anyone would notice

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

"Their phone is always face down, on silent or do not disturb and they never let it out of their site (taking it in bathroom etc)

They’re making more effort with their physical appearance - gym, aftershave, clothes etc

They’re sex drive decreases, they no longer initiate sex or give you attention

They’re irritable or seem to resent you

Lack of commitment or reluctance to make future plans

They seem jumpy, shifty or on edge. Don’t make as much eye contact

Biggest sign is the gut feeling you have… it’s really wrong

All of this especially being irritable and defensive when asked the simplest of questions, and all what the OP says

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By *hat girl next doorWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

They delete everything….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've been cheated on and ive never cheated which means that I probably can't tell the signs

But

I'd say if they acused you.

They are possessive about their phone.

They suddenly seem alot happier than what they were.

If they talk about their future its more "me" and not "we" or "us"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your gut. It’s almost never wrong

The moment I feel someone’s cheating, I just end the relationship, I don’t need proof

This is even truer for guys. Women can cheat and cheat easily and it’s impossible to catch them. So just follow your gut. If you feel they’re cheating, your 99% right, just end it and find a new girl

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I've never experienced it personally so would be unsure of the signs to me. However being approached by many cheating men, who happily explain how they are sneaking out for sex, when she is busy with the kids and families, I'm leaning. Fast.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Lipstick on the collar

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "

All of the above described can have other causes than cheating.

If we take suspicion to the extreme, anything that slightly deviates from "normal" behaviour could be construed as a sign of cheating.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Trust your instincts. You will know.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

The kissing changes ...

'they' say that's the first sign of intimacy to go if a relationship is breaking down...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh I could add to this now.

Never ever ignore your gut instincts.

"I'd need to see you less and work more" was the sentence that finally did me.

But since then I've been shown exactly what they were doing that gave the game away.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"I read a thing once where a woman realised her husband was cheating when a woman handed him a drink while he was talking to someone else and he took it without looking at her. It signified a level of intimacy that went beyond acquaintance"

It’s things like this.

Also if he begins triangulating, eg., “My best friend B—-ie said you should die.”

I’ve never met B—ie and never seen a photo of her - but she knows my legal address, my phone number, more financial details than my tax accountant, and the two of them together are having a msgr conversation where they’re both wishing me dead.

Oh, she’s his “best friend.” Oh yeah. That makes me feel better.

And then when I finally say “I’m no longer comfortable with B—ie being a part of your life cause you’re both wishing me DEAD,” he threatens actual s**cide.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Oh I could add to this now.

Never ever ignore your gut instincts.

"I'd need to see you less and work more" was the sentence that finally did me.

But since then I've been shown exactly what they were doing that gave the game away.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Fabswingers is a golf app, surely.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

The writing on the wall!

Wait that's superstition...

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Fabswingers is a golf app, surely."

Yep yep, we're all here to improve our swing

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "
They turn up in a car with tins tied to the back and a just married sign

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

When you pull out and remove condom..then remember you wasn't wearing one when you started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think your gut is always right.

I remember when my partner was cheating on me. I had such a bad feeling, but just ignored it thinking I was being paranoid. A few weeks later, out of the blue he came into the room and told me everything.

I noticed he was very secretive on his phone. If I got too close, you'd see sudden hand movements and slight panic. No matter where he went, his phone went with him. Something just felt off.

So yes, I'm a big believer in trusting your gut.

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By *illy IdolMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"When you pull out and remove condom..then remember you wasn't wearing one when you started "

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

They are on a swinger site asking questions about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst out he slept in our bed shagging.. She was in the house stil. Then he attacked me. Marriage over.

Another person went out and came home with her to shag her in my bed.

I am well aware of how to spot a cheater and they never change spots

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Their cock smells of another pussy

Yes. I like to sniff a fellas cock and balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are the tell tale signs?

They don't message as often? Always on their phone?

They see you less and cut the time down with you, showing up later and leaving earlier?

Their sex drive goes down?

What are the signs? "

You catch her in bed with another guy

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