FabSwingers.com forum: Old fashioned

By *acdoodle OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I told someone that I took a lady some flowers on our first meet. She thought that was hilarious.

So is that considered old fashioned? Or not the done thing on here? X

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would if she was accommodating. It is a nice thing to do.

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By *acdoodle OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I would if she was accommodating. It is a nice thing to do."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a nice thing to do, but she might prefer vodka and

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I told someone that I took a lady some flowers on our first meet. She thought that was hilarious.

So is that considered old fashioned? Or not the done thing on here? X"

Thats a lovely thing to do

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I would if she was accommodating. It is a nice thing to do."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flowers are a lovely idea as the lady may not drink, I dont.

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By *acdoodle OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's not old fashioned and outdated then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You romantic you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It's a lovely touch and would always be appreciated by me

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By *acdoodle OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates."

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x

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By *acdoodle OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"You romantic you

You know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a very kind and thoughtful gesture. We all like a gentleman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think i was a bit odd to be honest, it seems a romantic thing to do and this is a swinging site not a dating site so it would scare me, i would get rid of them asap tbh !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not buy a meet flowers. Id be worried I came across as smitten and wanting more than NSA fun. Think this would scare some women and appear slightly stalkerish

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think it was wrong of your friend to laugh. Although i dont expect it its nice to get a little gift like wine or flowers

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think its sad that people think its negative to give flowers, to me its simply a nice thought and i wouldnt read anything into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think it's a nice gesture. However they do die pretty quickly in my house and I can never find a vase! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its negative, i just think its inappropriate on a swinging meet

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think the negative reactions say more about the receiver than the giver. Like they are worried that their feeling will get out of hand if they accept an innocent bunch of flowers.

I had a man bring along a bottle if wine to a (rather pathetic excuse of a) gang bang once. I wasn't worried that he was going to fall in love with me

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x"

I agree completely. I often take chocolates or wine, even if its just a social meet. On one occasion nuts, on another a bendy ruler and a pencil sharpener!

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By *acdoodle OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I would think i was a bit odd to be honest, it seems a romantic thing to do and this is a swinging site not a dating site so it would scare me, i would get rid of them asap tbh !"

Romance or just a nice thing to do? Does that mean then that just because its swinging be a little bit old fashioned and try to please the lady a little bit more than with the end of your cock ( or all if it ) lol. I personally think there's more to this than just cold meaningless sex. It's about enjoying someone company, having a laugh and making the other person feel good. But that's just my opinion

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By *acdoodle OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x

I agree completely. I often take chocolates or wine, even if its just a social meet. On one occasion nuts, on another a bendy ruler and a pencil sharpener!

Hahahaha are those items another thread waiting to happen

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Bang outta order for your friend to laugh in my opinion and downright disrespectful, it was a nice gesture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, swinging meets are just about "cold meaningless sex" lol not flowers

I don't wanna chat or get to know them or make friends, hence i wouldn't be happy to have a meet bring me flowers, i'd just be scared ...

each to their own though but my thought are based on having had huge problems in the not so distance past where men i have met then think i am just going to be shagging them and many have asked me to move in with them/marry them !!!! So i would just go for cold meaningless sex meets now to avoind all that hassle

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x"

I would hate to get "straight down to it" lol but I suppose it depends on yoru experience, some men and I am by no means including you in this, think that taking a gift of any sort gives them some entitlement and it would make me slighty wary that's all.

I think it says something about your respect for women though that you want to make a nice gesture and I hope the lady accepted them in the spirit they were given

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Nice gesture but I prefer to give them a gift they can keep and look back on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's ok I've done it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cookies get ate Ryan or go off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like cookies xxxx

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Really nice thing to do especially if the lady is accommodating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, swinging meets are just about "cold meaningless sex" lol not flowers

I don't wanna chat or get to know them or make friends, hence i wouldn't be happy to have a meet bring me flowers, i'd just be scared ...

Im with you on this one but not for the same reasons, I have the love and attention at home, when swinging its all about the meaningless sex for me.... thats something I like.....that I dont get at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice gesture!

Assuming it wasn't a dogging meet or gangbang!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"cookies get ate Ryan or go off

Can't part with my cookies

I was thinking more along the lines of clothes pegs

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x"

We are not here for romance so someone bringing flowers would make me feel uncomfortable....but...I am part of a couple , it could obviously be different for women.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Girls! I'm even MOAR old fashioned than the OP!

I incapacitate women with a club and drag them back to my cave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always take a bottle of wine and chocolates to show my appriciation of being invited to meet someone.

Nothing old fashioned about good manners.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Girls! I'm even MOAR old fashioned than the OP!

I incapacitate women with a club and drag them back to my cave.

That sounds horny

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

I dont see the problem if you went to her house for the meet.... As its the done thing to take the lady of the house a small gift when visiting or am I old fashioned too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bit rude to laugh i think - maybe she was embarassed and reacted that way to cover up - id think it was lovely but not necessary

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Girls! I'm even MOAR old fashioned than the OP!

I incapacitate women with a club and drag them back to my cave.

That sounds horny

Ruggas I love you.

Slightly off on a tangent but since my original post I have decided to open a swinger club called Club Incapacitate.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x

We are not here for romance so someone bringing flowers would make me feel uncomfortable....but...I am part of a couple , it could obviously be different for women."

It does very much depend on the type of meet as well. If it's basically a couple looking for an uncomplicated extra cock, then it would be a bit odd, even creepy, to take flowers or gifts.

If it's a more intimate one-on-one meet then it shows a nice level of respect in my mind and is more appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x

We are not here for romance so someone bringing flowers would make me feel uncomfortable....but...I am part of a couple , it could obviously be different for women.

It does very much depend on the type of meet as well. If it's basically a couple looking for an uncomplicated extra cock, then it would be a bit odd, even creepy, to take flowers or gifts.

If it's a more intimate one-on-one meet then it shows a nice level of respect in my mind and is more appropriate. "

Like nuts?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Would gifts like a fez or one of those pairs of glasses with a moustache attached be considered odd then?

...some people are strange aren't they?!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x

We are not here for romance so someone bringing flowers would make me feel uncomfortable....but...I am part of a couple , it could obviously be different for women.

It does very much depend on the type of meet as well. If it's basically a couple looking for an uncomplicated extra cock, then it would be a bit odd, even creepy, to take flowers or gifts.

If it's a more intimate one-on-one meet then it shows a nice level of respect in my mind and is more appropriate.

Like nuts?

Only for the bloody awkward ones who don't like chocolates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x

We are not here for romance so someone bringing flowers would make me feel uncomfortable....but...I am part of a couple , it could obviously be different for women.

It does very much depend on the type of meet as well. If it's basically a couple looking for an uncomplicated extra cock, then it would be a bit odd, even creepy, to take flowers or gifts.

If it's a more intimate one-on-one meet then it shows a nice level of respect in my mind and is more appropriate.

Like nuts?

Only for the bloody awkward ones who don't like chocolates

Nuts are far nicer

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I just expect guys to bring the cock with them that is in their photo....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just expect guys to bring the cock with them that is in their photo....

Yeah not good to nick and bring someone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice gesture beats slapping a condom on the table and saying "lets get on with it, not here for niceties".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its sad that people think its negative to give flowers, to me its simply a nice thought and i wouldnt read anything into it. "

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Nice gesture but I prefer to give them a gift they can keep and look back on. "

Syphillis - the gift that keeps on giving...

Sorry Ryan, just couldn't stop meself...

OP...I think it was a lovely gesture, feel free to bring flowers, chocs or wine if we ever meet. If I'm going to a party I always take a gift for the host(s) flowers or chocolates depending on what's on offer in Tesco*

*other supermarkets are available, only not in Arse End

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Nice gesture but I prefer to give them a gift they can keep and look back on.

Syphillis - the gift that keeps on giving...

Sorry Ryan, just couldn't stop meself...

*other supermarkets are available, only not in Arse End"

Don't you try and make out I have been with your cat Caz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a lovely touch and would always be appreciated by me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a marine bring flowers to a social meet once. Thought it was really nice

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By *thyorksCouple
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

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By *thyorksCouple
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

Maxine would love that if a guy brought her flowers to a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would appreciate getting flowers , me im old fashioned me self , and i would not laugh .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But... you can't eat flowers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me, swinging meets are just about "cold meaningless sex" lol not flowers

I don't wanna chat or get to know them or make friends, hence i wouldn't be happy to have a meet bring me flowers, i'd just be scared ...

I now have the love and attention at home (unlike before) so even now i would still feel the same, but for both reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it was a lovely gesture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always love getting flowers and don't for one min think romance, just think awwwww lovely!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I told someone that I took a lady some flowers on our first meet. She thought that was hilarious.

So is that considered old fashioned? Or not the done thing on here? X"

It shows you have class.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a wonderful gesture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a big fan of old fashion standars all I can say is well done

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

nice gesture mate

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

why not indeed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I told someone that I took a lady some flowers on our first meet. She thought that was hilarious.

So is that considered old fashioned? Or not the done thing on here? X"

Nice, but risky. I would only do that if I had developed enough of a 'relationship' with her beforehand so I knew with almost 100% certainty that it wouldn't make her run a mile.

The flowers 'could' have given off the wrong signal about where you might be expecting the meet to lead...

If it was the 2nd meet, then yes. Why not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took a lady a bag of foam sweet bananas once, on a social meet

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I took a lady a bag of foam sweet bananas once, on a social meet

ah now you are talking !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates."

That's same for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was a lovely gesture. I love being given flowers, for whatever reason anybody can think of.

I accommodate and if someone brings me flowers, wine or chocolate on a meet i just think he's being appreciative. I don't see underlying romantic intentions, probably because i've already bought some wine or his drink of choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I took a lady a bag of foam sweet bananas once, on a social meet

Make it jelly cherries and you got yourself a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know why she laughed it was a genuine gesture on your behalf. It would make me uncomfortable though as I don't think of meets in the same way as dates.

No neither do I but I don't see what's wrong with a bit of romance too. It's all to the meet I think. Rather than just getting straight own to "it" x"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I took a lady a bag of foam sweet bananas once, on a social meet

one way to win me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I took a lady a bag of foam sweet bananas once, on a social meet

Make it jelly cherries and you got yourself a date

I'm anybody's for a bag of Winter Mixture meself....

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