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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

After been on the site for a couple of years, I have recently hit by a chain of time wasters and abusers on the site. I managed to meet one guy out of 7 people. 3 made some excuse last second. 3 no shows and ignore messages on the day, and blocked me afterwords.

I’m not sure I should stay here any more. Today I was feeling very bad about myself. I guess the problem isn’t them, it’s me. Maybe I attract the wrong kind of people? I don’t know. After drinking 4 bottles of cider tonight, I started to have suicidal thoughts. I felt the danger and I stopped myself thinking, but the time was very hard to cope.

I’m thinking of deleting this account for good, but miss the few friends I made in those years.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

Ring the smaratians and talk to them, they will listen. Good luck and best wishes x

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By *ovingSussexLifeMan
over a year ago

West Sussex

Please don't harm yourself.

Try not to take it personally being let down, it's the norm on here and not a reflection of you.

Call the Samaritans or a friend if you're still feeling suicidal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is supposed to be fun and when it stops being fun and starts affecting your mental health then maybe it’s time to leave. Focus on getting yourself better. You can contact the Samaritans For help over the phone if you’re having suicidal thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could hide your profile for a bit, just to give yourself a break?

We have all suffered from timewasters. I had 3 on the same day once! It's not you, it's the thoughtlessness of those who are using this site for wank fodder.

They are not worth your years, and certainly not worth the anguish they have caused you.

Cider won't help your decision making or your emotional resilience. A big glass of water and some sleep will be the best things for you right now xxx

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"You could hide your profile for a bit, just to give yourself a break?

We have all suffered from timewasters. I had 3 on the same day once! It's not you, it's the thoughtlessness of those who are using this site for wank fodder.

They are not worth your years, and certainly not worth the anguish they have caused you.

Cider won't help your decision making or your emotional resilience. A big glass of water and some sleep will be the best things for you right now xxx

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By *ig rig hullMan
over a year ago

Hull

Iv been as low as suicidal! Iv recovered! Things seem bad at the minute but believe me they get better! Inbox me if you need a chat confidentially.

#itsoktotalk

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm sorry to hear things haven't been going your way of late.

You're not alone in getting screwed around by timewasters, many other people will attest to how commonplace timewasters and last minute cancels are.

If you're finding Fab is source of sadness in your life then it's probably best to take a step back for a bit, take some time to feel better and if you feel like it come back when you're feeling ready to try again.

Please don't feel bad about getting screwed around by a bunch of timewasters, they're not worth a moment of your thoughts.

Really hope you feel better soon

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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

Thank you for all the support and kind words. I will try to get some sleep now to end this crazy day.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"Thank you for all the support and kind words. I will try to get some sleep now to end this crazy day."

A very good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dingdang, in the space of 13 minutes, 6 fabbers have felt you mattered enough to reach out. That proves you are worth something. There are people who care out there in this weird corner of the world we inhabit. Don't let the arsewipes drag you down. You are precious.

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By *ig rig hullMan
over a year ago

Hull

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By *ig rig hullMan
over a year ago

Hull


"[Dingdang, in the space of 13 minutes, 6 fabbers have felt you mattered enough to reach out. That proves you are worth something. There are people who care out there in this weird corner of the world we inhabit. Don't let the arsewipes drag you down. You are precious.]

Amen

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By *ig rig hullMan
over a year ago

Hull

I'm trying to say amen to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm trying to say amen to that "

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Dingdang, in the space of 13 minutes, 6 fabbers have felt you mattered enough to reach out. That proves you are worth something. There are people who care out there in this weird corner of the world we inhabit. Don't let the arsewipes drag you down. You are precious.

"

That's lovely. Hear, hear.

I know it's asier said than done at times, OP, but try not to let this site get you down.

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By *sianflower77Woman
over a year ago

Emerald City

Sorry OP you’re feeling this way hopefully you’ll feel better soon.

I too have found being bombarded by messages overwhelming and caused me stress and anxiety.

So if I start feeling the way I take a step back hide my profile in the process.

Fab at times can become stressful and no fun at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you feel better today op. Nobody deserves to feel how you described.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After been on the site for a couple of years, I have recently hit by a chain of time wasters and abusers on the site. I managed to meet one guy out of 7 people. 3 made some excuse last second. 3 no shows and ignore messages on the day, and blocked me afterwords.

I’m not sure I should stay here any more. Today I was feeling very bad about myself. I guess the problem isn’t them, it’s me. Maybe I attract the wrong kind of people? I don’t know. After drinking 4 bottles of cider tonight, I started to have suicidal thoughts. I felt the danger and I stopped myself thinking, but the time was very hard to cope.

I’m thinking of deleting this account for good, but miss the few friends I made in those years."

Morning pet. How are you feeling this morning?

This site is full of time wasters, it’s absolutely not reflection on you at all. Block and move on. I repeat, it’s not you!

Drinking ain’t the way forward, unless it’s chocolate milk or water or something hot like a nice sugary tea.

If you get that low again please contact someone, as others have said above the Samaritans are amazing. They’ll stay on the phone with you all night if you want them to.

And don’t delete your account, hide it for a while and keep talking to us lot

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Dingdang, in the space of 13 minutes, 6 fabbers have felt you mattered enough to reach out. That proves you are worth something. There are people who care out there in this weird corner of the world we inhabit. Don't let the arsewipes drag you down. You are precious.

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By *iss Boot LoverTV/TS
over a year ago

tetbury

I have had bad experiences on here, fabguys is worse, I have however made some genuine friends.

Are you part of any social groups? I go to a couple of local trans meets a month and they are priceless just to be among others, someone there will be in a similar place to you.

Not telling you what to do,I would not do that, but its helped me hugely.

Keep smiling and maybe hide your account, you can still look in, but you shouldn't be hassled. Please feel free to pm me, or anyone in the same spot.

Apart from the idiots, this is good place, you will find people willing and able to help

Geri

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By *ingdang OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

Thank you so much for your help, I feel bit better today. I will only use the forum on the site and won’t read any messages. Have a lovely day to you all.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Hope u are OK op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you're feeling better today.

I've locked down my profile and only go on the forums and chat as for me, everything else is a waste of time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dingdang, in the space of 13 minutes, 6 fabbers have felt you mattered enough to reach out. That proves you are worth something. There are people who care out there in this weird corner of the world we inhabit. Don't let the arsewipes drag you down. You are precious.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"Thank you so much for your help, I feel bit better today. I will only use the forum on the site and won’t read any messages. Have a lovely day to you all."

You are hopefully aware that you can turn messages off. You will only receive messages from those on your friends list or from those you've messaged first or before.

Glad you are feeling a tad better this morning Try not to take these sites too seriously, the real world with real flesh and blood people is far better x

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

Near You

You matter! Always reach out if you're feeling this way, please x

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