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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can’t remember the last time I opened fab and had a message in my inbox from a women! Just curious if this was the norm and men always have to make the first move?

Just trying to work it out lol, a while ago someone mentioned using face pics but as time goes on more and more women/Couples don’t have face pics either so I guess I am just protecting my identity like the majority of people on here! I have face pics and happy to send them via DM

Hope to hear from you all soon

Happy fabbing!

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"Can’t remember the last time I opened fab and had a message in my inbox from a women! Just curious if this was the norm and men always have to make the first move?

Just trying to work it out lol, a while ago someone mentioned using face pics but as time goes on more and more women/Couples don’t have face pics either so I guess I am just protecting my identity like the majority of people on here! I have face pics and happy to send them via DM

Hope to hear from you all soon

Happy fabbing! "

You have mail, you're welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can’t remember the last time I opened fab and had a message in my inbox from a women! Just curious if this was the norm and men always have to make the first move?

Just trying to work it out lol, a while ago someone mentioned using face pics but as time goes on more and more women/Couples don’t have face pics either so I guess I am just protecting my identity like the majority of people on here! I have face pics and happy to send them via DM

Hope to hear from you all soon

Happy fabbing!

You have mail, you're welcome "

Haha Thankyou it scared me a little

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

We didn't want you to feel left out. It was our good deed of the day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We didn't want you to feel left out. It was our good deed of the day"

I was just curious wether it was the same for all men, and we are obligated to make the first move or wether I was doing something wrong but I appreciate the good deed Thankyou

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Around half the people I've met I've messaged them first. I have specific kinks and their profile or comment on a forum post or status stood out

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"We didn't want you to feel left out. It was our good deed of the day

I was just curious wether it was the same for all men, and we are obligated to make the first move or wether I was doing something wrong but I appreciate the good deed Thankyou "

The truth, if you are waiting for women or couples to contact you then you are likely going to be in for quite a long wait.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We didn't want you to feel left out. It was our good deed of the day

I was just curious wether it was the same for all men, and we are obligated to make the first move or wether I was doing something wrong but I appreciate the good deed Thankyou

The truth, if you are waiting for women or couples to contact you then you are likely going to be in for quite a long wait....."

Oh I do message women but 99% either ignore or delete or block lol.. so again not sure if I’m doing something wrong but my guess is a huge portion of that 99% I’m just not their type! Would be nice for a reply tho haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Around half the people I've met I've messaged them first. I have specific kinks and their profile or comment on a forum post or status stood out"

Interesting, I have tried putting kinks on my profile and still nothing, so just gone with the shorter version on my profile.. one of my kinks that may just interest a women enough to drop me a message! Who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We didn't want you to feel left out. It was our good deed of the day

I was just curious wether it was the same for all men, and we are obligated to make the first move or wether I was doing something wrong but I appreciate the good deed Thankyou

The truth, if you are waiting for women or couples to contact you then you are likely going to be in for quite a long wait.....

Oh I do message women but 99% either ignore or delete or block lol.. so again not sure if I’m doing something wrong but my guess is a huge portion of that 99% I’m just not their type! Would be nice for a reply tho haha"

A lot of men are in the same boat OP….but someone will see what you have to offer I’m sure….a lot of us are playing the waiting game unfortunately….stay strong

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"We didn't want you to feel left out. It was our good deed of the day

I was just curious wether it was the same for all men, and we are obligated to make the first move or wether I was doing something wrong but I appreciate the good deed Thankyou

The truth, if you are waiting for women or couples to contact you then you are likely going to be in for quite a long wait.....

Oh I do message women but 99% either ignore or delete or block lol.. so again not sure if I’m doing something wrong but my guess is a huge portion of that 99% I’m just not their type! Would be nice for a reply tho haha"

It's just the way it is.... unless you stand out from the crowed in someway then honestly you are just caught in a whole load of noise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of tge women on fab are inundated with messages. Some get several hundred messages per day!

Men massively outnumber women and couples here.

Think of it this way, if you were getting a couple of hundred messages per day, do you think you'd have any time left to go looking for someone and then send them a message to ask for face pics, when you have an inbox overflowing from people who have sent theirs?

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Around half the people I've met I've messaged them first. I have specific kinks and their profile or comment on a forum post or status stood out

Interesting, I have tried putting kinks on my profile and still nothing, so just gone with the shorter version on my profile.. one of my kinks that may just interest a women enough to drop me a message! Who knows "

I would definitely put your kink intrests on your profile. Otherwise you're just another profile with nothing to offer

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I haven't sent a first message in almost two years**. Most of my meets or socials have been instigated by women messaging me.

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**Messages exchanged with friends/women on the back of Forum games or photo challenges is extraneous to this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of tge women on fab are inundated with messages. Some get several hundred messages per day!

Men massively outnumber women and couples here.

Think of it this way, if you were getting a couple of hundred messages per day, do you think you'd have any time left to go looking for someone and then send them a message to ask for face pics, when you have an inbox overflowing from people who have sent theirs?"

I understand all that and a lot of women have filters on their profiles to try and bring down the number of messages but I don’t for a second think that women don’t browse the profiles regardless of the number of messages they get

I could be wrong but if was getting hundreds of messages then my approach would be to browse for what I like and message the ones I prefer! Instead of trying to go through random messages?..

I don’t know haha I’m lucky to get one message a year so I would have no idea what the approach would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah don't think I've ever had a message from a woman or a couple, even though it says straight on my profile still get guys messaging me, I also willing to send face photos via message

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"Most of tge women on fab are inundated with messages. Some get several hundred messages per day!

Men massively outnumber women and couples here.

Think of it this way, if you were getting a couple of hundred messages per day, do you think you'd have any time left to go looking for someone and then send them a message to ask for face pics, when you have an inbox overflowing from people who have sent theirs?

I understand all that and a lot of women have filters on their profiles to try and bring down the number of messages but I don’t for a second think that women don’t browse the profiles regardless of the number of messages they get

I could be wrong but if was getting hundreds of messages then my approach would be to browse for what I like and message the ones I prefer! Instead of trying to go through random messages?..

I don’t know haha I’m lucky to get one message a year so I would have no idea what the approach would be "

I think you are mistaken in how this works. Get out and meet people in real life, be yourself and let people see who you are. Profiles ob sites like this are nothing but words. We've met loads of people who we bumped into on a night out who we wouldn't have looked twice at on here and yes that does include single guys

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I don’t get any messages from women, rarely from couples. Fortunately when I did get a genuine one I was able to spot and act upon it. No complaints.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

Not that it happens all to often but I do get messages from women on here, it's nice that some lady's put the effort in aswell rather than sit back go seek what they're looking for and all that jazz

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If I see a profile that captures my interest, and they sound like we would get along, then I will happily send them a message. I find that far more successful than sitting waiting in the hope that someone of interest will appear in my inbox.

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Usually one waiting for me when I log in but I’ve told my mum she should stop that and just text me like the rest of my family.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

In own experience I don’t message anyone I’m not that forward, Over the years have had maybe 10 message me, none went any where, met one for food and she was lovely lass but wasn’t ready for what she was looking for we still friends and chat every now and then. A few chances regretfully didn’t take

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Usually one waiting for me when I log in but I’ve told my mum she should stop that and just text me like the rest of my family. "

Bahahahahaha this made me chuckle haha

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