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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "Hello Was it good for you?  | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "I've learnt it so not sure what you're going on about  | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "It makes it hard going. I get the feeling some think its good enough, judging by how many use this approach. | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "I find some either have it or they don't. I doubt many are going to learn the art conversation seduction once their over 30. I maybe wrong. I guess many think the women on here are all nymphomaniacs and can't say no to anyone | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "Hello | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "Hello sorry,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, couldn't resist that one | |||
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"If I get a hello/hi from a decent profile ,I may reply. I agree though if it's no pics/just cock pic profile & the disclaimer is on & longer than what they've written,it's a delete." Likewise, but if the replies after that are all short expecting you to keep driving the conversation, I just stop. | |||
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"If I get a hello/hi from a decent profile ,I may reply. I agree though if it's no pics/just cock pic profile & the disclaimer is on & longer than what they've written,it's a delete. Likewise, but if the replies after that are all short expecting you to keep driving the conversation, I just stop." Completely agree ,same if it's like pulling teeth. | |||
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"Hi everyone, Some people are better at face to face situations and find it quite hard to express what they want to say through words. I saw a few weeks ago that there was a positive forum post where fabbers were giving a guy tips on how to make the introduction message a bit more engaging. I feel if more of this was done it would make fab more fabulous. I do agree that a short message won’t do much good if it’s not able to grab your attention due to some people receiving over 100 messages daily. " Completely agree, I’ve commented before when men have been asking why they don’t get replies. Constructive criticism on how to improve their profile etc. | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like?
I find some either have it or they don't. I doubt many are going to learn the art conversation seduction once their over 30. I maybe wrong.
I guess many think the women on here are all nymphomaniacs and can't say no to anyone
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"I give as much effort as I get, I can play the one word game back and forth until they get bored. " I love this game, it's lots of fun | |||
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"It’s not just single men. Women and couples also do this sometimes. Plus, I’m sure some people would still respond to a ‘hello’ if they liked what they saw " 10000% this. Some of the worst messages we've ever had (and that have gone straight in the bin) have been from other couples. And Henry Cavill could sent us one saying 'FAF?' and it would get a positive reply in seconds. A | |||
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"It’s not just single men. Women and couples also do this sometimes. Plus, I’m sure some people would still respond to a ‘hello’ if they liked what they saw 10000% this. Some of the worst messages we've ever had (and that have gone straight in the bin) have been from other couples. And Henry Cavill could sent us one saying 'FAF?' and it would get a positive reply in seconds. A" Yeah. It's not just men by a long shot | |||
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"Perhaps they simply find people on her who come across as being very sexualy liberated and confident puts them or makes them apprehensive in the topic they should appoach with so, hello, is a way of telling you they would like to start off woth oral, full sex and then perhaps a parting gift of american cheesecake and perhaps a signed photo of your pussy, pre and post sex. "Bollocks. I’ve been missing out on cheesecake! | |||
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"Do you message guys first?" Very rarely. Because I don’t think they’d be interested. But if I do, it’s always more than one word. | |||
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"I give as much effort as I get, I can play the one word game back and forth until they get bored. I love this game, it's lots of fun "It is, glad it's not just me that finds it amusing
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"Maybe op you could use the message filters kindly provided by the site and block single guys from contacting you. Then you are in control and you can message the ones you think are compatible. This would be a better use of the site and possibly a better experience for you. But I doubt you will do that. " I have actually done that before | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "Not quite sure why you are even bothered about that sub group unless you fear missing a possible good one. However as your logic already implies that the sex effort will equal the messaging effort, there seems little point! Why not treat it as a handy filter and concentrate on more promising candidates? | |||
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"Perhaps they simply find people on her who come across as being very sexualy liberated and confident puts them or makes them apprehensive in the topic they should appoach with so, hello, is a way of telling you they would like to start off woth oral, full sex and then perhaps a parting gift of american cheesecake and perhaps a signed photo of your pussy, pre and post sex.
Bollocks. I’ve been missing out on cheesecake!"Ditto. 
What flavour cheesecake are we talking here.......  
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"Maybe op you could use the message filters kindly provided by the site and block single guys from contacting you. Then you are in control and you can message the ones you think are compatible. This would be a better use of the site and possibly a better experience for you. But I doubt you will do that. I have actually done that before "maybe doing it again could help. i do understand that women get mail by the bucket loads,just hope you can find a way so things improve for you. | |||
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"I don't think its the hello thsts the problem if you like what you see you will respond regardless of what they say , if you don't like what you see and they write something that catches your attention tou probably nause them ?? "This. Some womens expectations are a bit high. It's often asked of men 'would you speak to me like that in a bar' well same apples here. A hi or hello how are you is a conversation starter, after that it's down to both parties. The expectation that men are going to be wordsmiths and blow women away with the content of a first message is a bit much. | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like?
Not quite sure why you are even bothered about that sub group unless you fear missing a possible good one. However as your logic already implies that the sex effort will equal the messaging effort, there seems little point!
Why not treat it as a handy filter and concentrate on more promising candidates? "Good grief I was just airing a thought. When I receive a message that just says hello I look at their profile and if that is lacking then I delete them. I’m not losing sleep over it, just voicing a thought | |||
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"Perhaps they simply find people on her who come across as being very sexualy liberated and confident puts them or makes them apprehensive in the topic they should appoach with so, hello, is a way of telling you they would like to start off woth oral, full sex and then perhaps a parting gift of american cheesecake and perhaps a signed photo of your pussy, pre and post sex.
Bollocks. I’ve been missing out on cheesecake!
Ditto.
What flavour cheesecake are we talking here.......
A"Hopefully lemon! | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like?
Not quite sure why you are even bothered about that sub group unless you fear missing a possible good one. However as your logic already implies that the sex effort will equal the messaging effort, there seems little point!
Why not treat it as a handy filter and concentrate on more promising candidates?
Good grief I was just airing a thought. When I receive a message that just says hello I look at their profile and if that is lacking then I delete them. I’m not losing sleep over it, just voicing a thought "I understand but you see the problem. This site like many are geared with everything in the favour of women. Without them sites like this do not get the traffic. Dating/swinging is harder for men by the numbers. They more than others have to stand out and even then the odds are against any sort of success. The double standard is couples and women do not have to try so hard yet expect men too. I as a man cannot call out bad behaviour by females and couples without being cancelled yet you as a woman can say whatever you like about men without any consequences. Where did we become this world? What pleases me is there is women and couples here who do call it out and make a real effort. What I would hope you would do op as an adult is ask yourself why you get so upset by a meaningless message then use that to attack every man on the forum. The site protects you, it's geared for you to have much success. Yet here you are. I hope you find peace | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like?
Not quite sure why you are even bothered about that sub group unless you fear missing a possible good one. However as your logic already implies that the sex effort will equal the messaging effort, there seems little point!
Why not treat it as a handy filter and concentrate on more promising candidates?
Good grief I was just airing a thought. When I receive a message that just says hello I look at their profile and if that is lacking then I delete them. I’m not losing sleep over it, just voicing a thought
I understand but you see the problem.
This site like many are geared with everything in the favour of women. Without them sites like this do not get the traffic.
Dating/swinging is harder for men by the numbers. They more than others have to stand out and even then the odds are against any sort of success.
The double standard is couples and women do not have to try so hard yet expect men too.
I as a man cannot call out bad behaviour by females and couples without being cancelled yet you as a woman can say whatever you like about men without any consequences.
Where did we become this world?
What pleases me is there is women and couples here who do call it out and make a real effort.
What I would hope you would do op as an adult is ask yourself why you get so upset by a meaningless message then use that to attack every man on the forum.
The site protects you, it's geared for you to have much success. Yet here you are.
I hope you find peace"Sorry. But bollocks. Men are as important to the site as anyone. We don't meet anyone else. And as I've argued many times before the numbers are irrelevant. If the were equal, yet the men didn't find the women attractive and weren't interested in meeting them then what benefit would there be to the volumes being identical? You can be the only huy on an island of 1000 women and they may still not want to fuck you. Couples and women have to try just as hard to meet as men. Just because there's more of you it doesn't make that an advantage to us - if anything it makes it significantly harder. You can also call out he behaviour of anyone. Man, woman, couple. There's no hierarchy on Fab unless you choose to allow it yourself. A | |||
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"Perhaps they simply find people on her who come across as being very sexualy liberated and confident puts them or makes them apprehensive in the topic they should appoach with so, hello, is a way of telling you they would like to start off woth oral, full sex and then perhaps a parting gift of american cheesecake and perhaps a signed photo of your pussy, pre and post sex.
Bollocks. I’ve been missing out on cheesecake!"I would never allow such a thing to happen, it's not a meet until you are both exhaustet, sweaty and biting into a slice of cheesecake. You should check out fabcheesecakers.com | |||
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"1 Do not Message women first 2 I read profiles 3 Only two dick pics on profile on friends only 4 I’m fifty eight "Do not message women first? Surly most men would be waiting for the rest of their lives for a message | |||
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"1 Do not Message women first 2 I read profiles 3 Only two dick pics on profile on friends only 4 I’m fifty eight
Do not message women first? Surly most men would be waiting for the rest of their lives for a message "Well in the immortal words of Mcartney and Lennon Let it be Figure they know where I am and all the lady’s probably get lots of messages from guys | |||
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"1 Do not Message women first 2 I read profiles 3 Only two dick pics on profile on friends only 4 I’m fifty eight
Do not message women first? Surly most men would be waiting for the rest of their lives for a message "Haven't sent a message in 3 years. Every conversation since has been started with a message from a woman | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "When will single women learn not to tarnish all men with the same brush  | |||
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" When will single women learn not to tarnish all men with the same brush "Tarnish is something which can apply itself without the need for a brush. Unlike, for instance, varnish! | |||
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"When will single men realise that a one word message (usually hello) is very unlikely to get a reply? They’re all quick to complain that they don’t get any messages back, but such a low effort message is a huge turn off, especially coupled with a profile that just states ‘fill in later’ or ‘looking for fun’ If your first interaction is that low effort, what will the sex be like? "I do all the necessary when it comes to opening messages - attach face pic, read a profile, find something to discuss from the profile and yet…..still no reply!! Why?? Because clearly I’m not what they’re looking for and not their type…..I think when someone is your type physically you’re more open to replying regardless whether it’s one word or more | |||
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