FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Throuples and polyamory

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone experienced anything close to polyamory or a throuple? We almost did but was a bit of a disaster. When it was good it was great.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

What made it a disaster?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *andaloriansCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

Its a thing weve talked about a lot, definately intreguing

S

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He was a lying toe rag lol. Honesty is the only way

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its a thing weve talked about a lot, definately intreguing

S"

Yeah it just sort of happened but was very liberating

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

How far in before you caught him out

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How far in before you caught him out"

Too far. We thought we were in love. I’m way too naive and trusting lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something we are very much interested in but very difficult to find the right person, and the trust needed is a difficult proposition that most will only fail.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allen Angels CplCouple
over a year ago

North East leicestershire

Thought about the thruple but it's hard enough to find a regular and commited fwb let alone a thruple.

We can always live in hope on either case lol x x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I definitely have enough love to share. Not in a thruple but I think it would be rare to find a lover that your lover loves!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I definitely have enough love to share. Not in a thruple but I think it would be rare to find a lover that your lover loves! "

Isn't the biggest issue whether you have enough time to share?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I definitely have enough love to share. Not in a thruple but I think it would be rare to find a lover that your lover loves! "

Yeah we thought we had that honestly x not sexual/romantic love between the guys but they were very close as friends x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely have enough love to share. Not in a thruple but I think it would be rare to find a lover that your lover loves!

Yeah we thought we had that honestly x not sexual/romantic love between the guys but they were very close as friends x "

Be a good way to make the mortgage affordable..

...3 incomes rather than 1 or 2

I wonder what the bank would say when it came to loan assesment...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Yes, lived in a poly triad (hate the word throuple) for 5 years, and when one partner died, the remaining 2 of us stayed together for 4 years. We lived together, went on holiday together, spent Christmas together. With our families. Did the big life events together.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a throuple but we are in a poly relationship.

Pxx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"I definitely have enough love to share. Not in a thruple but I think it would be rare to find a lover that your lover loves!

Isn't the biggest issue whether you have enough time to share?"

Of course, time is the most scarce commodity we have. That's a challenge in any relationship due to conflicts of work, family, exercise, friends, romantic partner/s, hobbies etc

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

It's fascinating

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Yes, lived in a poly triad (hate the word throuple) for 5 years, and when one partner died, the remaining 2 of us stayed together for 4 years. We lived together, went on holiday together, spent Christmas together. With our families. Did the big life events together. "

Aw that is such a shame but glad you had each other xxx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"Has anyone experienced anything close to polyamory or a throuple? We almost did but was a bit of a disaster. When it was good it was great."

Yes but it got a little out of hand.

Husband became mostly impotent and wife started to demean him a lot and I feel get a bit to attached to me .

Then she found God

So although fun and great for a while, it didn't turn out for the best.

Still friendly though

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urious-couple-11Couple
over a year ago

basildon

We just started what i suppose would be considered poly. Been in the lifestyle for 2 years and one my wifes friends cane over and me and her hit it off. We both have strong feelings for eachother and everyone is open and honest with eachother. So far going really great

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

So I've been poly for years. I've been in triads (I also am not keen on throuple as a term).

Currently I have my husband and my boyfriend.

As metamours my boyfriend and husband get on like a house on fire, just as friends nothing more (one is asexual the other cishet)

I have known one of my metamours for 5 or so years. We have always got on well... Then myself, my boyfriend and his girlfriend all went on a night out together...

I think I might now have found myself in a non nesting triad with my boyfriend and his girlfriend... We had a lot of fun... More fun is being planned.

We need to sit down and do the conversation thing but with distance and having to integrate into an existing polycule it's going to take some work.

And apparently more shared locations and Google calendars and lists of preferences and allergies.

Honestly the admin and paperwork involved with poly is the hardest bit. (related when we find some time we are totally developing an app aimed for the lifemin tasks surrounding poly!)

* to save you googling...

Noun - Metamour (plural metamours)

In a polyamorous relationship, one's partner's partner, with whom one is not directly involved. (So I'm married to Ted and dating John... John and Ted are metamours)

Noun polycule (plural polycules)

All of the people linked through their relationships, usually romantic and/or sexual, to one or more members of a polyamorous group.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

Fuck that, emotionally sharing someone. Na you're OK

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran


"I definitely have enough love to share. Not in a thruple but I think it would be rare to find a lover that your lover loves!

Yeah we thought we had that honestly x not sexual/romantic love between the guys but they were very close as friends x

Be a good way to make the mortgage affordable..

...3 incomes rather than 1 or 2

I wonder what the bank would say when it came to loan assesment..."

Although now I'm open to the idea

3 incomes? Hmmm

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I have had several poly relationships but the triplet thing would never be for me. Triangles , squares, even hexagons can work if everyone is secure , but a permanent 3 is even worse than a regular mono relationship in my view

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have had several poly relationships but the triplet thing would never be for me. Triangles , squares, even hexagons can work if everyone is secure , but a permanent 3 is even worse than a regular mono relationship in my view "

Interesting x I’m tempted to agree. Too many variables and opportunities for blow ups x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I couldn't do it, emotionally I need that stability and I can't share, sexually yes I'm all good but emotional not at all.

Mrs

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Been in a few triples , however there was once (at band camp)in the dungeon at a Club in Leeds, my self L and two girls…well that would be telling..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *estriancdtopTV/TS
over a year ago

chester

I’d love to be in a polycule

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No definitely not.. great if it works for you but couldn’t think of anything worse I’m too greedy to share

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Throuples sounds like hell to me.

Solo poly is the way

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poly people come and find me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *ulldipadovaMan
over a year ago

Amsterdam

I want to try a poly relationship experience In Dorset area

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top