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"Hi! I’m just mulling something over and would be interested to see if anyone else has been where I’m at. I have had a life changing few months which was sadly triggered by something really traumatic. I have had the breakdown had lots of support from people around me, had a month off sick from work, had therapy , done a load of really hard work on myself and I genuinely feel happier and more confident in myself than I ever have. I’ve been off sick for a month and been back for two weeks, currently half way through a 2 week holiday I had booked prior to sick time and this is partly why I wnt back when I did. I really want to continue to look after myself after what has felt like being in a war. I would realistically be ok with my life style not changing for about three months, maybe four or five with making some changes and maybe selling some stuff I genuinely don’t care about Every cell in my body is telling me I just need a month where I don’t even think about getting another job and I can just sleep and not be around anyone , go to the gym etc. I’ve spent so much time being honest and communicating and feeling like I’ve been under observation by everyone, I’m just so tired and I feel like as a human not having a job for a bit is what I need, and I’ve never felt like this. Genuinely not worrying or thinking about the logistics of getting another job or claiming anything etc because I know I would get so bored I would do whatever I needed to do before I ran out of savings, It just doesn’t feel like a thing people do hmmm " Your last sentence is the nail on the head one. We are all so forced into the mindset of work work work. If you can afford to take time out then bloody well do it! | |||
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"Hi! I’m just mulling something over and would be interested to see if anyone else has been where I’m at. I have had a life changing few months which was sadly triggered by something really traumatic. I have had the breakdown had lots of support from people around me, had a month off sick from work, had therapy , done a load of really hard work on myself and I genuinely feel happier and more confident in myself than I ever have. I’ve been off sick for a month and been back for two weeks, currently half way through a 2 week holiday I had booked prior to sick time and this is partly why I wnt back when I did. I really want to continue to look after myself after what has felt like being in a war. I would realistically be ok with my life style not changing for about three months, maybe four or five with making some changes and maybe selling some stuff I genuinely don’t care about Every cell in my body is telling me I just need a month where I don’t even think about getting another job and I can just sleep and not be around anyone , go to the gym etc. I’ve spent so much time being honest and communicating and feeling like I’ve been under observation by everyone, I’m just so tired and I feel like as a human not having a job for a bit is what I need, and I’ve never felt like this. Genuinely not worrying or thinking about the logistics of getting another job or claiming anything etc because I know I would get so bored I would do whatever I needed to do before I ran out of savings, It just doesn’t feel like a thing people do hmmm " Sorry to hear you are having a tough time, sounds like you have been through the mill here and not surprising you need that time out, you will be drained emotionally and physically and need time to fill your cup as it were... If you can afford to do it why not, take care of yourself so you can give your best to the next employers who I am sure will be lucky to have you. | |||
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"Hi! I’m just mulling something over and would be interested to see if anyone else has been where I’m at. I have had a life changing few months which was sadly triggered by something really traumatic. I have had the breakdown had lots of support from people around me, had a month off sick from work, had therapy , done a load of really hard work on myself and I genuinely feel happier and more confident in myself than I ever have. I’ve been off sick for a month and been back for two weeks, currently half way through a 2 week holiday I had booked prior to sick time and this is partly why I wnt back when I did. I really want to continue to look after myself after what has felt like being in a war. I would realistically be ok with my life style not changing for about three months, maybe four or five with making some changes and maybe selling some stuff I genuinely don’t care about Every cell in my body is telling me I just need a month where I don’t even think about getting another job and I can just sleep and not be around anyone , go to the gym etc. I’ve spent so much time being honest and communicating and feeling like I’ve been under observation by everyone, I’m just so tired and I feel like as a human not having a job for a bit is what I need, and I’ve never felt like this. Genuinely not worrying or thinking about the logistics of getting another job or claiming anything etc because I know I would get so bored I would do whatever I needed to do before I ran out of savings, It just doesn’t feel like a thing people do hmmm " if you can afford to do it do it | |||
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"Do you want to quit your job or just need time away? If it’s the latter, ask them for a sabbatical for a month or two. Firstly, you’ll find out if they value you enough to want you to stay, secondly, you won’t then have the stress and hassle of job hunting and interviews when you are ready to work again. At least if you have a job to return to but don’t want to stay long term, you can look round and change on your own terms and timescale, without the pressure of having to pay bills etc (I’ve have previously left a very well paid career to sign on and retrain…although that was the 90’s and a very different time to now)" I have just had a month off sick paid - been back for two weeks and going back when I have was the right thing for me to do at that time. I’m now half way though a two week holiday and I’m mntally and physically exhausted - and bare in mind taking into account first absence- and last week which was holiday I have only worked 10 days in the last 6 weeks. I’m also on holiday next week, I will as a first point of action put another 2 week sick note in some time next week . Feel like i have had a taste of what recovering from the last 4 months while moving forward and working at the same time will be. It’s done me good but it’s come at a cost and I’m not happy to put myself through that indefinitely. I won’t get any sick pay after that and things like occupational health and absence management procedures will kick in. They have been amazing upto now but there being limitations on what they can accommodate does not change what I need as a human being and that coming above anything I can do a lot In a shot space of time and I know what a month or two will do for me and what I need to get to where I want to be. I’m not prepared for that to take another 6 or 12 months d which it would if I keep working and just getting through it and having a shit quality of life in the meantime. After what I’ve been through and what I’ve done lately that prospect feels so wrong I almost feel guilty at the thought of going back and going down that route . It feels like it would be self harm | |||
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