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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm only looking to get my penis stroked, it's nice to get Fabbed though

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Just block them... You don't have to see it or engage with them then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions "

I agree, the Insta culture is deffo overlapping and I guess people are using Fab as another means to get attention

I have never asked for Fabs, never feel the need.

I love knowing that each Fab I have is because someone has appreciated it....Never look at hit pics so wouldn't know who's trending either

And likewise, if I appreciate a picture I will fab it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A bit part of fab is about validation and perception.

Some use it to find admirers of their photography skills while others use the number of fabs as a measure of their popularity.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions

I agree, the Insta culture is deffo overlapping and I guess people are using Fab as another means to get attention

I have never asked for Fabs, never feel the need.

I love knowing that each Fab I have is because someone has appreciated it....Never look at hit pics so wouldn't know who's trending either

And likewise, if I appreciate a picture I will fab it. "

Yep. This 1000%

People can do whatever they want of course. Some are here for ego stroking via pics. Some are here just to webcam rather than meet in person. Some are here just to talk bollocks in the forums.

Others have zero interest in ever actually doing any of the above OR actually meeting.

Those are the ones that probably cause the site the most issues I suspect. The profiles set up just to perve others, the catfish and the ones here to source content for elsewhere.

The vanity crowd are generally harmless and easy to ignore. Much more than some of the others.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FS is definately the ‘go to’ site to look at, very normal but attractive people - will always FAB if I’m liking what I see !!

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions

I agree, the Insta culture is deffo overlapping and I guess people are using Fab as another means to get attention

I have never asked for Fabs, never feel the need.

I love knowing that each Fab I have is because someone has appreciated it....Never look at hit pics so wouldn't know who's trending either

And likewise, if I appreciate a picture I will fab it.

Yep. This 1000%

People can do whatever they want of course. Some are here for ego stroking via pics. Some are here just to webcam rather than meet in person. Some are here just to talk bollocks in the forums.

Others have zero interest in ever actually doing any of the above OR actually meeting.

Those are the ones that probably cause the site the most issues I suspect. The profiles set up just to perve others, the catfish and the ones here to source content for elsewhere.

The vanity crowd are generally harmless and easy to ignore. Much more than some of the others.

A "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions

I agree, the Insta culture is deffo overlapping and I guess people are using Fab as another means to get attention

I have never asked for Fabs, never feel the need.

I love knowing that each Fab I have is because someone has appreciated it....Never look at hit pics so wouldn't know who's trending either

And likewise, if I appreciate a picture I will fab it.

Yep. This 1000%

People can do whatever they want of course. Some are here for ego stroking via pics. Some are here just to webcam rather than meet in person. Some are here just to talk bollocks in the forums.

Others have zero interest in ever actually doing any of the above OR actually meeting.

Those are the ones that probably cause the site the most issues I suspect. The profiles set up just to perve others, the catfish and the ones here to source content for elsewhere.

The vanity crowd are generally harmless and easy to ignore. Much more than some of the others.

A "

Oh absolutely agree there. Definitely each to their own and if it works for them then good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest part of the reason I signed back up was for an ego stroke. While I'm not fussed about how many people fab my photos ,I'd be lying if I said I didn't like some of the attention. Feeling starved of attention brought me back on here .

Most of the time I know its all false flattery they send everyone but sometimes nicer things happen too .

I've never really been the type to meet lots of people,mostly because I'd talk myself out of it before I got there.

I think the site caters for everyone . I find the people who have the best experiences here focus on their own wants and don't really give what others do much thought. This also allows you to ignore any negativity too

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"To be honest part of the reason I signed back up was for an ego stroke. While I'm not fussed about how many people fab my photos ,I'd be lying if I said I didn't like some of the attention. Feeling starved of attention brought me back on here .

Most of the time I know its all false flattery they send everyone but sometimes nicer things happen too .

I've never really been the type to meet lots of people,mostly because I'd talk myself out of it before I got there.

I think the site caters for everyone . I find the people who have the best experiences here focus on their own wants and don't really give what others do much thought. This also allows you to ignore any negativity too "

I agree. The “fab me” is not much different to all the “rate my/me” threads. Easy to just scroll on by. I’ve never been concerned what others do unless it affects me. Same with all the cheating etc threads. Why are people so bothered what others do. I quite like seeing all the different personalities and the way people do things, whether it makes me laugh, cringe, eyeroll or smile.

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

A few people have said just ignore them which is what we do anyway.

The bigger debate is what is the purpose of Fabswingers ? We know this raises howls from people saying ‘it’s whatever people want it to be’ but if you care about genuine people who want to meet for consensual non monogamy then surely there has to be a space for them.

Want to be an exhibitionist? There are sites for that. Want an affair ? There’s a site. Single person wanting hookup sex with other single people. There are sites. Want to share/see naughty pics and videos ? There are sites.

Want to be a swinger who meet other swingers for play? Well we only have swinging sites.

Our argument would be that every interest outside of actually meet people for swinging dilutes the population of people who meet. You get to a tipping point where the number of ‘genuine’ people who actually meet becomes so low that swingers leave the site or retreat to clubs. We definitely do speak to a few people who say the site isn’t what it was years ago and we agree.

Not trying to upset people or rain on their parade but if the actual ‘swinging’ gets lost in Fab then the site loses its way. Peace

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"A few people have said just ignore them which is what we do anyway.

The bigger debate is what is the purpose of Fabswingers ? We know this raises howls from people saying ‘it’s whatever people want it to be’ but if you care about genuine people who want to meet for consensual non monogamy then surely there has to be a space for them.

Want to be an exhibitionist? There are sites for that. Want an affair ? There’s a site. Single person wanting hookup sex with other single people. There are sites. Want to share/see naughty pics and videos ? There are sites.

Want to be a swinger who meet other swingers for play? Well we only have swinging sites.

Our argument would be that every interest outside of actually meet people for swinging dilutes the population of people who meet. You get to a tipping point where the number of ‘genuine’ people who actually meet becomes so low that swingers leave the site or retreat to clubs. We definitely do speak to a few people who say the site isn’t what it was years ago and we agree.

Not trying to upset people or rain on their parade but if the actual ‘swinging’ gets lost in Fab then the site loses its way. Peace "

But surely you can easily recognise those that actually want to meet and separate them from those that don't?

What about swingers who are also exhibitionists? Why are single people not allowed to meet other single people instead of or as well as couples - swinging isn't just about couples - that's old fashioned wife swapping.

Maybe all the other activities don't 'dilute' the swinging population but actually increase it? What if the people that came to post photos or cam evolve their desires and start to meet?

There has never been a point where 'genuine' (god I hate that word!) swingers leave because of anyone else on site. That tends to be a threat/argument used by those that are finding it hard to meet people for whatever reason - often nothing at all to do with the site and as much to do with their methodologies and expectancies.

As for 'retreat to clubs' ? Clubs have been part of swinging since long before the dawn of internet contact sites. They'll be around long after many a online site has gone. Think how many clubs there are vs how many sites?

The site hasn't changed much at all in the 15 years I've been using it. Many of the people have though and maybe that's the problem. People want to be spoon fed, have their swinging lives made easy for them and if they can't find the company they seek they blame the site rather than look inwards.

The site is just a contact tool. Always has been. Nothing more.

A

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"But surely you can easily recognise those that actually want to meet and separate them from those that don't?

What about swingers who are also exhibitionists? Why are single people not allowed to meet other single people instead of or as well as couples - swinging isn't just about couples - that's old fashioned wife swapping.

Maybe all the other activities don't 'dilute' the swinging population but actually increase it? What if the people that came to post photos or cam evolve their desires and start to meet?

There has never been a point where 'genuine' (god I hate that word!) swingers leave because of anyone else on site. That tends to be a threat/argument used by those that are finding it hard to meet people for whatever reason - often nothing at all to do with the site and as much to do with their methodologies and expectancies.

As for 'retreat to clubs' ? Clubs have been part of swinging since long before the dawn of internet contact sites. They'll be around long after many a online site has gone. Think how many clubs there are vs how many sites?

The site hasn't changed much at all in the 15 years I've been using it. Many of the people have though and maybe that's the problem. People want to be spoon fed, have their swinging lives made easy for them and if they can't find the company they seek they blame the site rather than look inwards.

The site is just a contact tool. Always has been. Nothing more.

A"

A - just a side note to say I really enjoy your posts. Always thoughtful, considered, the voice of reason and often very funny too.

J

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

Those who ask for them don’t get them off me. I’ll fab pics I like but some just found desperate for attention

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions "
I don't really care how others use it, i dont care that they ask for pics to be fabbed, i use this site how i want to, its not a sex site its a place for people to come and do whatever they please

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"But surely you can easily recognise those that actually want to meet and separate them from those that don't?

What about swingers who are also exhibitionists? Why are single people not allowed to meet other single people instead of or as well as couples - swinging isn't just about couples - that's old fashioned wife swapping.

Maybe all the other activities don't 'dilute' the swinging population but actually increase it? What if the people that came to post photos or cam evolve their desires and start to meet?

There has never been a point where 'genuine' (god I hate that word!) swingers leave because of anyone else on site. That tends to be a threat/argument used by those that are finding it hard to meet people for whatever reason - often nothing at all to do with the site and as much to do with their methodologies and expectancies.

As for 'retreat to clubs' ? Clubs have been part of swinging since long before the dawn of internet contact sites. They'll be around long after many a online site has gone. Think how many clubs there are vs how many sites?

The site hasn't changed much at all in the 15 years I've been using it. Many of the people have though and maybe that's the problem. People want to be spoon fed, have their swinging lives made easy for them and if they can't find the company they seek they blame the site rather than look inwards.

The site is just a contact tool. Always has been. Nothing more.

A

A - just a side note to say I really enjoy your posts. Always thoughtful, considered, the voice of reason and often very funny too.

J"

Thanks. Very kind of you to say.

I do talk a lot of random crap too though, just in the interest of balance.

A

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Love the ego stroke /attention myself! I do meet with who I fancy as well along the way so win win! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really care that much. It doesn’t directly affect me in any way so I just scroll past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care about getting them, hence why I turn them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't care about getting them, hence why I turn them off.

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Hence why I licked

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not bothered. It seems hot pics would very much serve the kink of exhibitionism, instead of or alongside meeting

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions "

Just fabbed your photos

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We’ve seen some couples locally who post, albeit great, pics asking people to Fab them and then post ‘wow, you got us to position X on fab pics’.

Yet they never seem to meet according to veris.

Yes we know each to their own, people get out of the site what they want, etc..

Why do we care ? We don’t that much but if everyone just used the site as a sexy instagram then it would be even more difficult to meet genuine people. Plus it’s seems like a lot of effort just to have your ego stroked.

Just interested in people’s opinions

Just fabbed your photos "

Thanks. You’ll notice we meet

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