FabSwingers.com forum: Is dating as a woman a lot easier than trans?

By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

I recently had many time wasters and let downs, and i start to think maybe it’s because I’m trans or maybe I’m just not a attractive trans. People cancel last minute, no show, block me, delete their profile, just before date. Or just ignore me and delete the message I sent. I thin’ i had enough of this.

How is your experience as a woman? Guess you don’t have to suffer the fools I had to.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You are beautiful. Seriously.

I think everyone has to deal with timewasters, fantasists and abuse to some extent - I don't know how my experience compares to yours.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

As a whole, people are terrible, anyone trying to date is going to have a shitty time.

Keep your head high and ignore the wankers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know your question is for women but you are really beautiful so that is not the issue. I hope you connect with genuine people who don't let you down in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi darling,

Assuming your photos aren't filtered and that you don't have your phone camera's beauty settings cranked up to 11, I think you're gorgeous. It is nothing - and the Rock means nothing - about the way you look.

There are a lot of timewasters on this site. Everyone knows this. But often, trans girls need to deal with a special sub-set of timewaster: the fantasist.

The fantasist is usually a married guy with no actual intention of meeting. But he likes flirting with the idea of meeting a Tgirl while he pleasures himself.

Men, cis women, and couples get this too. But as tgirls are less abundant (so fantasists have a smaller pool of people to dilute their timewasting) and are still seen as a "fetish", we have to put up with them more , I'd wager, than other people.

My advice would be:

1. Be sceptical of anyone who "cannot accommodate". This COULD be an indicator they are married and cheating.

2. No public pics? Go hit the bricks!

3. Insist on meeting at a club. This usually s out the fantasists and if they don't show, you can still have a great time!

4. Insist on only speaking to guys with verifications from meeting with tgirls.

5. Connect with the girls in your local community. It's a small one, everyone knows everyone. And my girlfriends and I warn each other when we have a bad experience with someone.

Hope this helps!

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By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

Thank you for your great advice. I feel already better seeing it. Yes I will try to follow the points you gave me. Thank you and have a lovely day

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By *ola xWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry Shropshire

"I recently had many time wasters and let downs, and i start to think maybe it’s because I’m trans or maybe I’m just not a attractive trans. People cancel last minute, no show, block me, delete their profile, just before date. Or just ignore me and delete the message I sent. I thin’ i had enough of this.

How is your experience as a woman? Guess you don’t have to suffer the fools I had to."

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By *ola xWoman
over a year ago

Oswestry Shropshire

Sorry not answering the thread. You look stunning, just thought I say it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing helpful to add, just wanted to send a hug! Hang in there

Its hard building slow forming connections in a sea of non commital, short attention span, lots of options available, instant gratification world.

Sin xo

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I haven't dated since the last century.

However there were just as many dreamers, liars, let downs etc as now they just didn't have the internet to give them a huge audience. I suspect that as a trans woman you will have added difficulties but I can't compare our experiences obviously.

Whatever the reason it isn't down to the way you look

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