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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Morning.

What gets on your nerves about Fab ? We all know it’s the copy and paste messages girls get and the unwanted cock pics being sent but what else apart from those gets on your tits (or moobs) ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answering questions in messages, when the answer is visible in our profile.

What about you?

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By *tar80sWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

The redundant questions.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Delusions

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Neither of those issues apply to me as I am a single fella.

Don’t really have any pet-hates about fab, other than it’s really hard to find a woman to sit on my face and read me extracts from Mills and Boon novels

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

The sheer volume of messages. Honestly, it’s a full time job to manage my inbox.

What gets to me most is having to reject so many worthy applicants, I feel so guilty - especially when the begging starts. But there’s only so much Felix to go around and I don’t want to make the winners feel less special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The person I want being too far away

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

People always being up north not down where I am

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

The fantasists and timewasters.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

Friend Requests without sending a message

People I get on with being too far away

Breadcrumbing after they message me first

When a couple who both use the profile flirt with each other on the forums. We get it, you fuck!

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

The text speak in messages, I can never understand what they’re saying to me

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

The friend requests...the ignoring of blurb on profile...the stupid questions...erm quite a lot really

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Morning.

What gets on your nerves about Fab ? We all know it’s the copy and paste messages girls get and the unwanted cock pics being sent but what else apart from those gets on your tits (or moobs) ? "

The repetition sometimes.

Not much else.

But having been dicking around in the forums for around 15 years now, its natural I guess for the same questions to be asked, the same subjects to be discussed and the same patterns of rants, angst and whining to occur.

What annoys me the most is when people are given perfectly good advice and then change nothing, only to come back weeks or months later and ask the exact same question. As if Fab as a site and its population should change for them rather than they adjust themselves.

A

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Finding too many brilliant people I want to get to know better, platonically or otherwise. You could easily dedicate a full working week to that sort of thing.

I like being paid too much though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum trolls and the ones who feed the forum trolls.

It’s what they want. Ignore them.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"The forum trolls and the ones who feed the forum trolls.

It’s what they want. Ignore them. "

Also this.

But just like an innuendo ......sometimes it's hard. So, so hard........

A

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby


"Finding too many brilliant people I want to get to know better, platonically or otherwise. You could easily dedicate a full working week to that sort of thing.

I like being paid too much though."

Awww that's actually really adorable. Can I take mine back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking and talking to people so bloody amazing you would drag your balls over broken glass for then realising they are at least 80 miles away and that’s a lot of broken glass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people I like are too far away to create a more proper friendship.

I wish you all lived in Manchester, we’d be going out more, I’m sure if it.

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By *he Dark GentlemanMan
over a year ago

London


"The forum trolls and the ones who feed the forum trolls.

It’s what they want. Ignore them. "

This!!!!

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

The Fab curse of everyone being at least 300 miles away from us

LvM

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"Answering questions in messages, when the answer is visible in our profile.

What about you?"

Folks who view profile time and time again and then when you message them they ignore it but keep looking at profile. People who are on friends list but now as single guy and not a couple.. they stay on the list but don’t speak anymore. Yes I can unfriend them but liked them enough to have them on the couple profile as “friends”.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

[Removed by poster at 24/03/23 09:25:26]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People reporting you as fake because you don’t open their 63 messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ratios of the site.

People who lack common sense, sugarcoat things or say things just to please the women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ratios of the site.

People who lack common sense, sugarcoat things or say things just to please the women.

"

Trolls. Misogynistic attitudes. Rudeness

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Guys putting this in f or couples veris

“Treat them with respect folks”. . Yeah cause most people don’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aside from the usual annoyances that we all have with fab. Probably the fact that anyone I actually like lives hundreds of miles away

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I agree wholeheartedly with what has been already said above, but I somehow like Fab with its unique imperfections. My biggest pet hate is however, my inner saboteur.

But then, I guess, it’s got very little to do with Fab itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ratios of the site.

People who lack common sense, sugarcoat things or say things just to please the women.

"

I do things to please the women

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By *teamhammer1Man
over a year ago

bridlington

Won’t read your message unless you attach a face pic. No you can’t see mine till I know you better! WTF?

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Those who arrange meets and don't show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ratios of the site.

People who lack common sense, sugarcoat things or say things just to please the women.

Trolls. Misogynistic attitudes. Rudeness "
Yeah hate those guys too

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Original posters on threads that only rely to a select few that they always interact with especially when the thread asks a question

Marc

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby


"Original posters on threads that only rely to a select few that they always interact with especially when the thread asks a question

Marc"

Ahhh yes, this for me as well. Like if the OP is a man and they only reply to the women. It's so blatant as well!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Single men who claim that they sole reason they can't get meets is the ratio of men to women and couples.

Here's a viable (although unrealistic) solution.

If all the single guys who really, honestly believe that to be the sole and only reason for their lack of success and enjoyment left the site then the ratios would almost immediately level up and the remaining single guys who didn't blame that, who used the tools available and other external options to meet and who didn't think that just by joining they'd be knee deep in tits, would live happily ever after.

A

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By *he Dark GentlemanMan
over a year ago

London


"Guys putting this in f or couples veris

“Treat them with respect folks”. . Yeah cause most people don’t "

I thought it was just me that found that cliche and lol

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Mine is, I just can't keep up with the thousands of messages I get daily wanting to see my tallywhacker.... Sometimes I just want a normal conversation, not treat like a piece of meat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men who claim that they sole reason they can't get meets is the ratio of men to women and couples.

Here's a viable (although unrealistic) solution.

If all the single guys who really, honestly believe that to be the sole and only reason for their lack of success and enjoyment left the site then the ratios would almost immediately level up and the remaining single guys who didn't blame that, who used the tools available and other external options to meet and who didn't think that just by joining they'd be knee deep in tits, would live happily ever after.

A"
Thinly veiled.

You're so wrong you know. You'd get such a shock. You're not worth telling though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men who claim that they sole reason they can't get meets is the ratio of men to women and couples.

Here's a viable (although unrealistic) solution.

If all the single guys who really, honestly believe that to be the sole and only reason for their lack of success and enjoyment left the site then the ratios would almost immediately level up and the remaining single guys who didn't blame that, who used the tools available and other external options to meet and who didn't think that just by joining they'd be knee deep in tits, would live happily ever after.

A"

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Original posters on threads that only rely to a select few that they always interact with especially when the thread asks a question

Marc"

100%.

Yeh FAB is not clique is it ?

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By *b72Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

The ghosts are the men on fake couples/wimrns profile who just want a dirty wank.

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here


"The forum trolls and the ones who feed the forum trolls.

It’s what they want. Ignore them. "

Yes definitely....there's one in particular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forum trolls and the ones who feed the forum trolls.

It’s what they want. Ignore them. "

And it's begun on this thread, again.

An action ignored soon passes, an action jumped on blows up. In such a case.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Seeing the inside of people's vagina and arseholes, some need a Dr!

The random friends requests too.

Mrs

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"The forum trolls and the ones who feed the forum trolls.

It’s what they want. Ignore them.

And it's begun on this thread, again.

An action ignored soon passes, an action jumped on blows up. In such a case.

"

Agreed, so frustrating. I was tempted but resisted. Be strong people!

Don’t throw bread off the bridge!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who send images of themselves in action with others. Makes me question the whole consent thing

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

That it would be that everyone are too far away.

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"Won’t read your message unless you attach a face pic. No you can’t see mine till I know you better! WTF?"

Or they don’t even have any photos themselves.

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Profiles who add anyone and everyone as “friends” just so they get the fabs to be on page one of fabbed photos/vids.

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By *luffy FairyWoman
over a year ago

west LDN

People who do not read your profile.

I also wish Fab had a like button because some comments are great and deserve a

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By *luffy FairyWoman
over a year ago

west LDN


"Won’t read your message unless you attach a face pic. No you can’t see mine till I know you better! WTF?"

This is me, as I state in my profile I’m a bit strange and I have to like your face. It’s really just so neither of us waste anytime as if it’s a no quicker to get that part over with. Just for some perspective as to why people ask for a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The entitlement attitude of 'must be up for anything with anyone'

Then come back with 'it's a sex site'

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By *mashingPumpkinMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen

Guys messaging me asking to suck my cock. I’m sure my profile doesn’t even hint that I would say yes.

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

That a lot of guys id love to fuck are too far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People been

Upppp Northhhh

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"The text speak in messages, I can never understand what they’re saying to me"

Thank feck!!! I thought it was just me couldnt understand it!!!

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By *utie bootyMan
over a year ago

the manor that never was

The shear volume of bullshit that gets posted on the forums, pretentious self indulgent tripe.

The novels for bios. The won't reply without a face pic, when all your showing is your tits and dirtbox but I've gotta show my face to the world.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"People been

Upppp Northhhh

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We like it here!!!!!

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Hate, there's no need for hate we are all part of the same site, living the same lifestyle, spread some love people.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Finding someone who seems great, reading their profile I match their wants, I construct a great opening message with all the code words and references to their profile.

Then it never gets read!

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By *ust-in-londonMan
over a year ago

london

Bored curious people time wasters ghosting spontaneously being blocked for no good reason and breadcrumbing practices.

Honestly it’s must less hurtful to politely decline than fuck others about. Rant over lol

Happy Friday all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Original posters on threads that only rely to a select few that they always interact with especially when the thread asks a question

Marc"

Even worse when you answer the question, gets ignored and then someone posts the same answer further down and gets responded too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonko

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Quite often my pet hate ("hate" is too intense a word in this case) is receiving delightful messages from women who are too geographically constrained.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Single men who claim that they sole reason they can't get meets is the ratio of men to women and couples.

Here's a viable (although unrealistic) solution.

If all the single guys who really, honestly believe that to be the sole and only reason for their lack of success and enjoyment left the site then the ratios would almost immediately level up and the remaining single guys who didn't blame that, who used the tools available and other external options to meet and who didn't think that just by joining they'd be knee deep in tits, would live happily ever after.

A

Spot on "

I say that as a former single guy.

I say it as part of a couple who solely look to meet single guys.

I say that as someone who meets single guys in clubs regularly.

I say that as someone who gets great messages from single guys all the time.

I say that as someone who sees positives in all groups andngenders on Fab.

A

*just before anyone dives in with 'oh look another single guy bashing post from a couple' comment as is often the case.

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"Hate, there's no need for hate we are all part of the same site, living the same lifestyle, spread some love people. "

Eh. It’s just a word.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Hate, there's no need for hate we are all part of the same site, living the same lifestyle, spread some love people.

Eh. It’s just a word. "

What is my pet hate is the question and mine is hate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men who claim that they sole reason they can't get meets is the ratio of men to women and couples.

Here's a viable (although unrealistic) solution.

If all the single guys who really, honestly believe that to be the sole and only reason for their lack of success and enjoyment left the site then the ratios would almost immediately level up and the remaining single guys who didn't blame that, who used the tools available and other external options to meet and who didn't think that just by joining they'd be knee deep in tits, would live happily ever after.

A

Spot on

Yeah it definitely wasn't a coincidence that I posted that as soon as somebody mentioned about the ratios.

A

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yeah sure

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

Facebook statuses.

Who cares if you have been off line for 24 hours and now catching up with messages

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Not sure I really have any, it’s a fun site and a good way of meeting people

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Repugnant social attitudes. It's an interesting insight into humanity, perhaps, but not what I want for this site.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"Original posters on threads that only rely to a select few that they always interact with especially when the thread asks a question

Marc

Even worse when you answer the question, gets ignored and then someone posts the same answer further down and gets responded too

"

God yes

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the best profile's are on my doorstep and I cant play so close to work

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By *iscoman7771000Man
over a year ago

birmingham

DRUGS!!!!!

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By *hubbycheckerMan
over a year ago

Porstmouth

People sending freind invites without any intention of interacting with you

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Single men who post on the forum looking for a playmate or couple with their "female friend" or "partner", when this imaginary friend doesn't even have a profile (or part of a profile) on Fab.

I mean, who the fuck are you trying to kid....eh?

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

The mind blowingly inane forum threads and the clearly thirsty ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The inbox abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The utter disrespect of some people

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"The utter disrespect of some people "

I don't want to sniff your arm put...but love the green number...where from please

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"The utter disrespect of some people

I don't want to sniff your arm pit...but love the green number...where from please "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The utter disrespect of some people

I don't want to sniff your arm put...but love the green number...where from please "

Haha!!! I’ll message you x

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"The mind blowingly inane forum threads and the clearly thirsty ones "

You can always not bother reading them I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When guys just message the word 'hi' to you.

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"DRUGS!!!!! "

Eh. What’s that gotta do with Fab?

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts


"The mind blowingly inane forum threads and the clearly thirsty ones

You can always not bother reading them I suppose "

I don't but I have to scroll through so many to find the good ones

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"DRUGS!!!!!

Eh. What’s that gotta do with Fab? "

Look at your update section sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"DRUGS!!!!!

Eh. What’s that gotta do with Fab? "

A lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications.

While I think fab intended them to be a good thing and also a way of networking, and giving more sight of more profiles, I think they cause problems.

I've had men slag off other men that have verified me time and time again. It's horrible and not the true swinging attitude that should be present.

Besides that there's also the fact that if someone has verified one of your playmates you can look like some kind of psycho weirdo bunny boiler if show interest in them yourself.

They are a minefield!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles with no bio!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications.

While I think fab intended them to be a good thing and also a way of networking, and giving more sight of more profiles, I think they cause problems.

I've had men slag off other men that have verified me time and time again. It's horrible and not the true swinging attitude that should be present.

Besides that there's also the fact that if someone has verified one of your playmates you can look like some kind of psycho weirdo bunny boiler if show interest in them yourself.

They are a minefield! "

Agree! Also women end up going psycho over them!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Profiles with no bio!"

I'll fill u in later bb

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Verifications.

While I think fab intended them to be a good thing and also a way of networking, and giving more sight of more profiles, I think they cause problems.

I've had men slag off other men that have verified me time and time again. It's horrible and not the true swinging attitude that should be present.

Besides that there's also the fact that if someone has verified one of your playmates you can look like some kind of psycho weirdo bunny boiler if show interest in them yourself.

They are a minefield! "

I see it as a filter. If someone stirs shit about verifications, it's a good reason to avoid them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications.

While I think fab intended them to be a good thing and also a way of networking, and giving more sight of more profiles, I think they cause problems.

I've had men slag off other men that have verified me time and time again. It's horrible and not the true swinging attitude that should be present.

Besides that there's also the fact that if someone has verified one of your playmates you can look like some kind of psycho weirdo bunny boiler if show interest in them yourself.

They are a minefield!

I see it as a filter. If someone stirs shit about verifications, it's a good reason to avoid them "

Isn't it just!

I've learned that now.

I think I'd only display couples and single females but even then I'm not so sure.

I just don't like hearing one guy do down another guy that I enjoy. There's absolutely no need. Pure insecurity on their part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple more -

1.Threads being taken over my flirting forummers.

It’s normally the usual suspects.

Take it private !

2.People who cut and paste the whole message when their reply is only pertinent to a particular part/point. It leads to ridiculously long posts.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Verifications.

While I think fab intended them to be a good thing and also a way of networking, and giving more sight of more profiles, I think they cause problems.

I've had men slag off other men that have verified me time and time again. It's horrible and not the true swinging attitude that should be present.

Besides that there's also the fact that if someone has verified one of your playmates you can look like some kind of psycho weirdo bunny boiler if show interest in them yourself.

They are a minefield! "
exactly and hence my disdain with verifications

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Verifications.

While I think fab intended them to be a good thing and also a way of networking, and giving more sight of more profiles, I think they cause problems.

I've had men slag off other men that have verified me time and time again. It's horrible and not the true swinging attitude that should be present.

Besides that there's also the fact that if someone has verified one of your playmates you can look like some kind of psycho weirdo bunny boiler if show interest in them yourself.

They are a minefield!

I see it as a filter. If someone stirs shit about verifications, it's a good reason to avoid them

Isn't it just!

I've learned that now.

I think I'd only display couples and single females but even then I'm not so sure.

I just don't like hearing one guy do down another guy that I enjoy. There's absolutely no need. Pure insecurity on their part. "

Yeah. But conversely, that's why I tend to display. I give people opportunities to stir shit early and often, so the fallout is less painful. It's easier to fuck people off before you develop a friendship

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"DRUGS!!!!!

Eh. What’s that gotta do with Fab?

A lot!"

But Fab doesn’t promote them. Surely that the individual.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Bullshitters. And most of them are quite easy to see through.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"DRUGS!!!!!

Eh. What’s that gotta do with Fab?

A lot!

But Fab doesn’t promote them. Surely that the individual. "

The problems with Fab are, so often, tied up with the behaviour of the users

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

Guys that seem incapable of reading a profile but get all stroppy when you don't want to meet.

The guys that have no veris, but call you a timewaster because you don't want a 5 min quickie while their wife are at the shops, are a particular favourite x

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Hate is a strong word! But dislike fake profiles not verified from a meet after joining the site over a year ago. Also bad manners of some people! It costs nothing to have manners and be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications.

While I think fab intended them to be a good thing and also a way of networking, and giving more sight of more profiles, I think they cause problems.

I've had men slag off other men that have verified me time and time again. It's horrible and not the true swinging attitude that should be present.

Besides that there's also the fact that if someone has verified one of your playmates you can look like some kind of psycho weirdo bunny boiler if show interest in them yourself.

They are a minefield!

I see it as a filter. If someone stirs shit about verifications, it's a good reason to avoid them

Isn't it just!

I've learned that now.

I think I'd only display couples and single females but even then I'm not so sure.

I just don't like hearing one guy do down another guy that I enjoy. There's absolutely no need. Pure insecurity on their part.

Yeah. But conversely, that's why I tend to display. I give people opportunities to stir shit early and often, so the fallout is less painful. It's easier to fuck people off before you develop a friendship "

True. Not all do it early enough though, annoyingly.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"The forum trolls and the ones who feed the forum trolls.

It’s what they want. Ignore them. "
This, you get them mostly on all threads.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Single men who claim that they sole reason they can't get meets is the ratio of men to women and couples.

Here's a viable (although unrealistic) solution.

If all the single guys who really, honestly believe that to be the sole and only reason for their lack of success and enjoyment left the site then the ratios would almost immediately level up and the remaining single guys who didn't blame that, who used the tools available and other external options to meet and who didn't think that just by joining they'd be knee deep in tits, would live happily ever after.

A

Spot on

Yeah it definitely wasn't a coincidence that I posted that as soon as somebody mentioned about the ratios.

A

yeah sure "

People who edit the comments of others, not to add a harmless element of humour, but to fit their own narrative and agenda.

Basically rewriting what someone has posted to misrepresent what they said because they lack the ability to argue their view in a civil, rational and cognitive manner.

A

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By *es_salopesCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

I don't like that it's a really short month and then every 4 years has an extra day!

Also it's usually really cold

Oh this is about pet peeves with this site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pointless and totally unenforceable disclaimers. Sydney university etc. Total waste of space.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

The ever increasing rejection...............

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Pointless and totally unenforceable disclaimers. Sydney university etc. Total waste of space."

My disclaimers are amazing

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"DRUGS!!!!!

Eh. What’s that gotta do with Fab?

A lot!

But Fab doesn’t promote them. Surely that the individual.

The problems with Fab are, so often, tied up with the behaviour of the users"

I get ya now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who message me asking if I want to meet them. They can see when they try to message me that it says I'm not looking to meet men. I know I could block them all but I keep it open for forum related things.

And what use to annoy me was when I was looking for meets and I had no verifications meets on my profile, I would see profiles saying things like..

"If you are not meet verified don't message me"

Or

"You are not serious about meeting If you haven't met anyone by now"

I would think to myself.. okay okay hold on a minute I can't even get a single message never mind meet someone! It's not that easy for single guys.

I'd like the women who say this to sign in with a single male account and see where I'm coming from.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

women being referred to as girls

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"women being referred to as girls "

Oh really I still consider myself a girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"women being referred to as girls "

Grannies that don’t bring crumpets

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

The unrealistic demands if people om here.

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By *illie fitMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Dick pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"women being referred to as girls "

This gets me a little too, though I've been guilty of doing so.

I have a theory, it's not that I consider a Woman to be a Girl, or even consider the term as a young person/child.

It's that by accepting Females my age are Women, I have to accept that I'm a Man, therefore adult.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Those who can't help seeing their own reflection in every criticism or compliment and believe they are aimed directly at them.

Those who live their fab lives publicly through profile rants, updates and forum posts and then accuse others of talking about them.

Those who don't practice what they preach and dig and pick and mock at other peoples preferences and choices but criticise others who do likewise.

Those who choose to ignore all of the above because they might still be in with a chance...

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By *addyAWoman
over a year ago

Beside the Seaside


"Looking and talking to people so bloody amazing you would drag your balls over broken glass for then realising they are at least 80 miles away and that’s a lot of broken glass "

Laughing in to my coffee in a room full of strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nothing tbh , l don't or won't take anything seriously here because if you do you'll get crushed so my advice to anyone here is do not let anyone take the fun out of it for you, enjoy everything you can... your way

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

People trying to message me on other apps because they're outside of my preferences and were blocked on here - Basically they think they're special and will be the exception.

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Long profiles that never end

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By *alker69Man
over a year ago

Accrington

People who put Cannot accommodate AND Cannot travel....but want to meet!

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York


"Guys messaging me asking to suck my cock. I’m sure my profile doesn’t even hint that I would say yes. "

Use your filters to block single guys and stop them messaging.

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York

Reading someone’s profile and matching their likes and wants to the letter, sending a good message and face pics, only for said great message to be deleted, often unread.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"Morning.

What gets on your nerves about Fab ? We all know it’s the copy and paste messages girls get and the unwanted cock pics being sent but what else apart from those gets on your tits (or moobs) ? "

Read messages without a reply. Endless lines on profiles description. Asking the person to be creative when sending a message, like that ever happens in real life. Women that sends message but aren't creative themselves. Fill this bit out later either there's too much or non at all. People look at tour vids/pics and not even a fab. The older I get the grumpier I become

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Fab straight

But looking for saying something else

Viewing a guy's profile when supposedly looking for women defeats the purpose

Ignoring the information contained within the bio

Users at times not able to keep the conversation on the forums even after them not leaving a comment on the forum

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York

Another one is getting a message saying “Hi” and upon reading their profile, they warn against sending the very same message they just sent

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Reading someone’s profile and matching their likes and wants to the letter, sending a good message and face pics, only for said great message to be deleted, often unread.

"

In your eyes but aren't theirs important it needs to be mutually and even then not a guarantee

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

Getting multiple messages in a very short space of time from the same person when its clear they didn't read my profile.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"women being referred to as girls

Grannies that don’t bring crumpets "

I shared them with the 'girls' ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"women being referred to as girls

Grannies that don’t bring crumpets

I shared them with the 'girls' ....

"

Do you mean you dropped crumbs down your cleavage

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Those who can't help seeing their own reflection in every criticism or compliment and believe they are aimed directly at them.

Those who live their fab lives publicly through profile rants, updates and forum posts and then accuse others of talking about them.

Those who don't practice what they preach and dig and pick and mock at other peoples preferences and choices but criticise others who do likewise.

Those who choose to ignore all of the above because they might still be in with a chance..."

Seconded.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"women being referred to as girls

Grannies that don’t bring crumpets

I shared them with the 'girls' ....

Do you mean you dropped crumbs down your cleavage "

Nothing falls that far down

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"pRoFfEsSiOnAlS"

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By *anandEmily2465Couple
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

The shit talkers, timewasters, fakes and fantasists. All lumped under the FS Bullshitter Umbrella. X

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"The shit talkers, timewasters, fakes and fantasists. All lumped under the FS Bullshitter Umbrella. X"

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


""pRoFfEsSiOnAlS""

AND

EdUcAtEd

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"The shit talkers, timewasters, fakes and fantasists. All lumped under the FS Bullshitter Umbrella. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those pointless disclaimers people still put up, people who use Kik (fakes), the constant 'fab me for popularity' posts, and all the dick pics.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Getting multiple messages in a very short space of time from the same person when its clear they didn't read my profile. "

Hi

Hi

Hows u bb

Hi

U hawt

Hi

Y u ignore me u waste my time

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


""pRoFfEsSiOnAlS"

AND

EdUcAtEd "

Haha yeah, quite often the "educated" aren't capable of reading!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, arsy/narky profiles that complain about other people being narky.

And the ones that have lists on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting multiple messages in a very short space of time from the same person when its clear they didn't read my profile.

Hi

Hi

Hows u bb

Hi

U hawt

Hi

Y u ignore me u waste my time "

Alright our kid?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Getting multiple messages in a very short space of time from the same person when its clear they didn't read my profile.

Hi

Hi

Hows u bb

Hi

U hawt

Hi

Y u ignore me u waste my time

Alright our kid?"

I've not had that message on Fab that I'm aware of

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich


"Getting multiple messages in a very short space of time from the same person when its clear they didn't read my profile.

Hi

Hi

Hows u bb

Hi

U hawt

Hi

Y u ignore me u waste my time "

Haha. Its like we have the same inbox . You missed out the: U Ugly anyway.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


""pRoFfEsSiOnAlS"

AND

EdUcAtEd "

YoU cAlLeD ?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Also, arsy/narky profiles that complain about other people being narky.

And the ones that have lists on them."

This is one of those things I understand even if I don't do it. (Ok, my profile has some sarcasm right now, but it's hopefully vaguely amusing)

I remember first joining the site and just being inundated. And thinking "maybe if I tell people that X won't work, they'll stop doing X"

It's counterproductive at best, but I totally get why people do it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

My budgie loves it but the poodle can take it or leave it.

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By *ce cream poke man 2 OP   Man
over a year ago

lincoln


"Looking and talking to people so bloody amazing you would drag your balls over broken glass for then realising they are at least 80 miles away and that’s a lot of broken glass

Laughing in to my coffee in a room full of strangers. "

30 Dec 2020 pic That’s beautiful lingerie ya had on.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"My budgie loves it but the poodle can take it or leave it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also, arsy/narky profiles that complain about other people being narky.

And the ones that have lists on them.

This is one of those things I understand even if I don't do it. (Ok, my profile has some sarcasm right now, but it's hopefully vaguely amusing)

I remember first joining the site and just being inundated. And thinking "maybe if I tell people that X won't work, they'll stop doing X"

It's counterproductive at best, but I totally get why people do it."

Yep, I get why they do it too but as you say, it doesn't do anything. We're all frustrated on here, literally all of us but you just have to keep your head down and shut up moaning!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Getting multiple messages in a very short space of time from the same person when its clear they didn't read my profile.

Hi

Hi

Hows u bb

Hi

U hawt

Hi

Y u ignore me u waste my time

Haha. Its like we have the same inbox . You missed out the: U Ugly anyway. "

I was once (years ago) told something to the effect of, I was ruining Fab because I never talk to men.

It was this person's first message to me. I know pussies are magic, but they want mind reading as well?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Also, arsy/narky profiles that complain about other people being narky.

And the ones that have lists on them.

This is one of those things I understand even if I don't do it. (Ok, my profile has some sarcasm right now, but it's hopefully vaguely amusing)

I remember first joining the site and just being inundated. And thinking "maybe if I tell people that X won't work, they'll stop doing X"

It's counterproductive at best, but I totally get why people do it.

Yep, I get why they do it too but as you say, it doesn't do anything. We're all frustrated on here, literally all of us but you just have to keep your head down and shut up moaning! "

Agreed

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

When someone I find attractive winks me and I send them a message and don't here anything back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People being here for months without being photo verified. It's just a piece of paper, takes 30 seconds to upload.

The vomit in your mouth status updates.

The judgement on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ghosts are the men on fake couples/wimrns profile who just want a dirty wank. "
. I love a wank nothing fake about that

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

People making judgements on you the basis of the number of verifications you have…

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By *eliciouslyFilthyGentMan
over a year ago

York


"Reading someone’s profile and matching their likes and wants to the letter, sending a good message and face pics, only for said great message to be deleted, often unread.

In your eyes but aren't theirs important it needs to be mutually and even then not a guarantee "

Totally accept that.More frustrating than a pet hate.And the fact I’ve a face only a mother could love

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

The misogyny, misandry and pseuds.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I'd like a notification if someone quotes me in a forum post reply.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Reading someone’s profile and matching their likes and wants to the letter, sending a good message and face pics, only for said great message to be deleted, often unread.

In your eyes but aren't theirs important it needs to be mutually and even then not a guarantee

Totally accept that.More frustrating than a pet hate.And the fact I’ve a face only a mother could love "

What would you do without that as it's priceless

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Whats to hate:

Fab is so non judgemental, inclusive and friendly.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Answering questions in messages, when the answer is visible in our profile.

What about you?"

This.

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By *ohnjoehotTV/TS
over a year ago

reddirch

People saying they have run out of messages

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"Also, arsy/narky profiles that complain about other people being narky.

And the ones that have lists on them.

This is one of those things I understand even if I don't do it. (Ok, my profile has some sarcasm right now, but it's hopefully vaguely amusing)

I remember first joining the site and just being inundated. And thinking "maybe if I tell people that X won't work, they'll stop doing X"

It's counterproductive at best, but I totally get why people do it.

Yep, I get why they do it too but as you say, it doesn't do anything. We're all frustrated on here, literally all of us but you just have to keep your head down and shut up moaning! "
Agreed,Isn't it ironic...how some people just moan.

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By *678Man
over a year ago

Surrey

Not enough personal filters in search.

Other than that, personally think picture verification should be required before a profile can message.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Those who derail threads with promises of lashings of cake

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Threads ending at 175

A

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Those who derail threads with promises of lashings of cake "

Oh, and those that try and stretch out forum threads to reach 175 and have the last word

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Those who derail threads with promises of lashings of cake

Oh, and those that try and stretch out forum threads to reach 175 and have the last word "

Hate that.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Those who derail threads with promises of lashings of cake

Oh, and those that try and stretch out forum threads to reach 175 and have the last word "

... see

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not reading my profile

Calling me baby/Hun etc,yuck

Profiles with no pics being able to wink and message (despite having filters on ).

Pests

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Threads ending at 175

A

"

Threads that witchcraft makes last longer.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. As above.

Those damn messages after 175 posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean…come on?!?! Why is it 175 limit anyway. Bit of an odd number don’cha think?!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Those who derail threads with promises of lashings of cake

Oh, and those that try and stretch out forum threads to reach 175 and have the last word "

... see ... oh my

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