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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

I'm sure many of us have Inner Demons that affect our mental health and know how awful it can be.

I know for sure what it's like. Whenever I get stressed or upset about something, that little monster hiding in the dark pops up and starts filling my head with every negative thought it can come up with to make me feel down and resentful of myself. The amount of times it ruined my visits to a club but luckily whenever I felt down, my friends are always there to pull me out of the darkness and their kind words help expel those horrid thoughts from my head.

They gave me some good advice on how to fight my Inner Demons like I should turn them thoughts into positive ones which does work. I still struggle with my Inner Demons but luckily, it's not as bad. As long as I remember to follow the advice my friends gave me, I'll get there.

How do you cope with your Inner Demons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small steps....as long as you keep moving forward

I just tell myself that it doesn't last forever....and remind myself that there is so much to be positive for no matter how small

Today is one of those 'it won't last forever' days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done"

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done"

Yes, very true. I'm sure it will take some time to block those horrid thoughts.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I go for a long walk, with music on and it helps drown them out and distracts.

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Glad to hear you have got good friends.

I try remind myself:

"This too shall pass"

Sadly it took me until my 40s to realise that I can't change my circumstances but I can change my mindset.

Music and Fresh air are what helps me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mind’s telling me to clubbing but my body is telling me to chill

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Glad to hear you have got good friends.

I try remind myself:

"This too shall pass"

Sadly it took me until my 40s to realise that I can't change my circumstances but I can change my mindset.

Music and Fresh air are what helps me."

I'd agree with this... You just have to hold on until it passes. Can be a while sometimes!!

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By *ullyMan
over a year ago

Near Clacton

We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can and do have lifetime effects. Broken people seldom heal completely. Be kind, and forgiving one never knows how deeply some people hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listening to music, writing poetry/songs, or talking with somebody who can make me laugh and feel a little more lighthearted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure many of us have Inner Demons that affect our mental health and know how awful it can be.

I know for sure what it's like. Whenever I get stressed or upset about something, that little monster hiding in the dark pops up and starts filling my head with every negative thought it can come up with to make me feel down and resentful of myself. The amount of times it ruined my visits to a club but luckily whenever I felt down, my friends are always there to pull me out of the darkness and their kind words help expel those horrid thoughts from my head.

They gave me some good advice on how to fight my Inner Demons like I should turn them thoughts into positive ones which does work. I still struggle with my Inner Demons but luckily, it's not as bad. As long as I remember to follow the advice my friends gave me, I'll get there.

How do you cope with your Inner Demons?"

Learn to recognise that these negative unhelpful thoughts are that....Google some c b t interventions, there very useful for tracking the negative automated thoughts..expose the thoughts and feelings to people so that you can then start to challenge them

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental

scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can

and do have lifetime effects. Broken

people seldom heal completely. Be

kind, and forgiving one never

knows how deeply some people

hurt."

I understand all that. We all have trails and tribulations. And hurt losses I our lives and in agree our mental health affects us .

My point was my mind doesn't work the way so many others do and I don't have those inner demonds .and was hopeing others would come forward that are like

me that arnt aren't affect .as there seams to be more people suffering with them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental

scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can

and do have lifetime effects. Broken

people seldom heal completely. Be

kind, and forgiving one never

knows how deeply some people

hurt.

I understand all that. We all have trails and tribulations. And hurt losses I our lives and in agree our mental health affects us .

My point was my mind doesn't work the way so many others do and I don't have those inner demonds .and was hopeing others would come forward that are like

me that arnt aren't affect .as there seams to be more people suffering with them ."

It's just that in general society is better at allowing those suffering to speak out. There aren't more people suffering, just more people able to say that they are. Which is a good thing

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental

scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can

and do have lifetime effects. Broken

people seldom heal completely. Be

kind, and forgiving one never

knows how deeply some people

hurt.

I understand all that. We all have trails and tribulations. And hurt losses I our lives and in agree our mental health affects us .

My point was my mind doesn't work the way so many others do and I don't have those inner demonds .and was hopeing others would come forward that are like

me that arnt aren't affect .as there seams to be more people suffering with them .

It's just that in general society is better at allowing those suffering to speak out. There aren't more people suffering, just more people able to say that they are. Which is a good thing "

I understand all that my point is not everyone's minds work that way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you have inner demons it can be hard to understand why others might.

Trying to recognise that they are inner demons and trying to not listen to them can be an ongoing battle for some

Talking about them is good but it will put some people off wanting to have anything to do with you, which can make the demons easier to listen to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to rock music until it passes .

Which is strange because rock is not my usual music genre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just deal with my inner demons (and I have many of them) the same way Tyrion Lannister deals with life in Game of Thrones.

Just drink and know things. *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get panic attacks thinking my ex has found me. I’m very unhealthily throwing myself into work. I’m so exhausted I actually sleep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can and do have lifetime effects. Broken people seldom heal completely. Be kind, and forgiving one never knows how deeply some people hurt."

The narrative "broken people" doesn't help, as its suggests we're to far gone for help, broken people is not true. More that lifes experiences bend us slightly out of shape. With rhe right help change is not only possible but achievable

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole


"I'm sure many of us have Inner Demons that affect our mental health and know how awful it can be.

I know for sure what it's like. Whenever I get stressed or upset about something, that little monster hiding in the dark pops up and starts filling my head with every negative thought it can come up with to make me feel down and resentful of myself. The amount of times it ruined my visits to a club but luckily whenever I felt down, my friends are always there to pull me out of the darkness and their kind words help expel those horrid thoughts from my head.

They gave me some good advice on how to fight my Inner Demons like I should turn them thoughts into positive ones which does work. I still struggle with my Inner Demons but luckily, it's not as bad. As long as I remember to follow the advice my friends gave me, I'll get there.

How do you cope with your Inner Demons?"

Neither friends or family could help me and despite a lifetime of being anti medication I gave up trying to fight the demons last year.

I can now get started most days, guess the medication the GP selected was one that has had a positive effect. There are physical side effects but overall not fighting the demons for hours every morning makes it more possible to get on with each day.

Next step is to move life forward enough to be able to wean off the medication. That will be another good day.

For everybody fighting demons/themselves or just struggling, I wish you the strength to keep fighting and if you get to that point where you can't I hope you have the strength to seek help and get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can and do have lifetime effects. Broken people seldom heal completely. Be kind, and forgiving one never knows how deeply some people hurt.

The narrative "broken people" doesn't help, as its suggests we're to far gone for help, broken people is not true. More that lifes experiences bend us slightly out of shape. With rhe right help change is not only possible but achievable "

I disagree to a certain extent.

Broken people aren't irrevocably broken and unable to be "fixed" or "healed". But like that Japanese artform of kintsugi (fixing broken pottery with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum), their life experiences will forever mark them for the rest of their time on this mortal coil.

I think too many people in society expect that for broken people to be considered "fixed" or "fully recovered" they need to utterly erase their scars and look like brand new. That's not possible, and that's deeply insensitive and disrespectful to them because it carries the implication that whatever trauma happened to them can be whitewashed away as if it didn't happen and it didn't impact them negatively.

Broken/damaged people can work at minimising the legacy impact of their trauma scars, but they will always be there and part of their story. Scars never heal back perfectly the same way before they were inflicted. Humans aren't human because we're perfect flawless beings, but because we're broken and repaired in some form or other throughout life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental

scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can

and do have lifetime effects. Broken

people seldom heal completely. Be

kind, and forgiving one never

knows how deeply some people

hurt.

I understand all that. We all have trails and tribulations. And hurt losses I our lives and in agree our mental health affects us .

My point was my mind doesn't work the way so many others do and I don't have those inner demonds .and was hopeing others would come forward that are like

me that arnt aren't affect .as there seams to be more people suffering with them .

It's just that in general society is better at allowing those suffering to speak out. There aren't more people suffering, just more people able to say that they are. Which is a good thing

I understand all that my point is not everyone's minds work that way .

"

I am genuinely happy that you don't have the experience of inner demons, shitty committee, unresolved trauma or whatever phrase is chosen. Truly.

Some people have unfortunately had experiences that means they do experience these things. It could be from birth, due to childhood experiences or later in life things.

For me it's a thing called cPTSD. When it hits it sucks my very soul out through my arse. I become paranoid, afraid. I see hear and smell things that cannot possibly be there, but in that moment they ARE there. I want to blame the world and fight everyone in it. I believe, truly believe as fact that I am worthless and should be as dead as the bodies I am seeing who I know can't be there but are there.

So I am glad your mind doesnt work like that. I hope it never does. I love you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all have a shitty committee somewhere in our heads. The trick is learning not to listen to it. Which is WAY easier said than done

I don't have this it baffles me that so many people do.

Fact is a lot of people probably had a rougher or more troubled childhood or upbringing. Mental scars, scares and things that one has no control over as a kid, can and do have lifetime effects. Broken people seldom heal completely. Be kind, and forgiving one never knows how deeply some people hurt.

The narrative "broken people" doesn't help, as its suggests we're to far gone for help, broken people is not true. More that lifes experiences bend us slightly out of shape. With rhe right help change is not only possible but achievable

I disagree to a certain extent.

Broken people aren't irrevocably broken and unable to be "fixed" or "healed". But like that Japanese artform of kintsugi (fixing broken pottery with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum), their life experiences will forever mark them for the rest of their time on this mortal coil.

I think too many people in society expect that for broken people to be considered "fixed" or "fully recovered" they need to utterly erase their scars and look like brand new. That's not possible, and that's deeply insensitive and disrespectful to them because it carries the implication that whatever trauma happened to them can be whitewashed away as if it didn't happen and it didn't impact them negatively.

Broken/damaged people can work at minimising the legacy impact of their trauma scars, but they will always be there and part of their story. Scars never heal back perfectly the same way before they were inflicted. Humans aren't human because we're perfect flawless beings, but because we're broken and repaired in some form or other throughout life. "

I'm not saying that experience leaves us, in my experience the feelings can and often do, nit match the memories. I e seen this happen to countless people, where they become aware of their triggers, and develop new coping strategies to deal with thise triggers, instead of thinking going down established old neural pathways, new ones are formed and used. Old behaviour patterns that are at the end are replaced with new functional, interventions tools, coping strategies. Hence a change in behaviour to cope

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