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By *ilB OP   Woman
over a year ago

West Midlands

So my thought of the day is whether or not it's a good idea to let my parents know I like a good old swing lifestyle.

My excuses for being away from home are getting limited, there's only so many 30th birthday parties that I can pass off as a normal amount.

So, the question is, has anyone outed themselves to their parents and how did it go? Would you suggest it?

I'll add they pretty much already know I'm filth but they believe it's just with a select one or two.

Yes, I'm currenrly living with them so my boner is constantly raging to leave the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my thought of the day is whether or not it's a good idea to let my parents know I like a good old swing lifestyle.

My excuses for being away from home are getting limited, there's only so many 30th birthday parties that I can pass off as a normal amount.

So, the question is, has anyone outed themselves to their parents and how did it go? Would you suggest it?

I'll add they pretty much already know I'm filth but they believe it's just with a select one or two.

Yes, I'm currenrly living with them so my boner is constantly raging to leave the house. "

Jesus this is a heavy one.

Now I've put down this shopping bag, sure, tell them. If you think they won't care. Otherwise just use the classic need fresh air one!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Do you need to make excuses?

If either of our kids were living with us we'd give them a key and just ask that they let us know if they weren't coming back so we could lock up.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

My family knows I think the poly thing took more time to get their heads around than the swinging thing. They don't judge and as long as I'm safe, aren't particularly bothered. I do have some funny conversations with my mum. She doesn't hold back when she wants to know something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My family knows I think the poly thing took more time to get their heads around than the swinging thing. They don't judge and as long as I'm safe, aren't particularly bothered. I do have some funny conversations with my mum. She doesn't hold back when she wants to know something "

I want to watch these conversations

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head


"My family knows I think the poly thing took more time to get their heads around than the swinging thing. They don't judge and as long as I'm safe, aren't particularly bothered. I do have some funny conversations with my mum. She doesn't hold back when she wants to know something

I want to watch these conversations "

Why? I'm confused about the eyeroll? I have no reason to hide anything from my family but I'm lucky enough that they are pretty open minded.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Nah.

No good will come of this.

We’re disgusting and should never step out from the shadows, filthy swingers

Fancy a shag?

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I told my parents many years ago as I didn’t want to be outed by someone else (there was a high chance). They don’t know we’re still here though… we go to a lot of charity events or catch ups with people from school & Uni….

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my thought of the day is whether or not it's a good idea to let my parents know I like a good old swing lifestyle.

My excuses for being away from home are getting limited, there's only so many 30th birthday parties that I can pass off as a normal amount.

So, the question is, has anyone outed themselves to their parents and how did it go? Would you suggest it?

I'll add they pretty much already know I'm filth but they believe it's just with a select one or two.

Yes, I'm currenrly living with them so my boner is constantly raging to leave the house. "

You'll be fine... All them 30th parties you've been to, they'll all surely be turning 31 now so a whole other year before you have to think of having the conversation again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah.

No good will come of this.

We’re disgusting and should never step out from the shadows, filthy swingers

Fancy a shag?"

Can we go maccies afterwards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure they know, as my sister knows because she's my safety net and she tells my mum everything who in turn tells my dad everything. Neither have mentioned it and I doubt they ever will, but of they ever did I'd be happy to be open about whatever they wanted to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah.

No good will come of this.

We’re disgusting and should never step out from the shadows, filthy swingers

Fancy a shag?"

Yes, it looks good in those shadows

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

You're a grown up, why would you tell your parents you are a swinger and put that picture in their heads.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Why do they need to know your every move? You're an adult.

"Out with friends, I'll let you know when I'm on my way home" should suffice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my thought of the day is whether or not it's a good idea to let my parents know I like a good old swing lifestyle.

My excuses for being away from home are getting limited, there's only so many 30th birthday parties that I can pass off as a normal amount.

So, the question is, has anyone outed themselves to their parents and how did it go? Would you suggest it?

I'll add they pretty much already know I'm filth but they believe it's just with a select one or two.

Yes, I'm currenrly living with them so my boner is constantly raging to leave the house. "

Be honest with them and tell them truth and then at least all is out in open as they say I’m sure both of you’re parents will understand and at least when you go unlos they know where you are I know if it was my daughters I’d want to know have wonderful day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah.

No good will come of this.

"
As a woman that's true.

Dad might not like at you the same again.

It's a need to know basis.

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By *p4u69Man
over a year ago

Guernsey

I have been swinging since I was 18 years old...I was actually having 3somes etc from an even younger age. I was in a poly relationship for quite sometime which my mum found out about

Tbh I ljust came out with it and told my family the truth as I figured it's my life and I can do as I please wish it...I'm a firm believer in that if you enjoy what you're doing and hurting anybody else, then what's the problem!

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I agree, you're an adult. They shouldn't have to know your every move, just maybe if you will be home or not of an evening. The rest isn't really their business.

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By *ilB OP   Woman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Nah.

No good will come of this.

We’re disgusting and should never step out from the shadows, filthy swingers

Fancy a shag?

Can we go maccies afterwards?"

More of a taco bell girl

But yes, shags

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By *ilB OP   Woman
over a year ago

West Midlands

It's more out of respect for them worrying, I realise I'm an adult for anyone saying that, we're close, it's actually nice.

But feel like it would be easier to just come out with it...

I'm feeling maybe it's a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London


"So my thought of the day is whether or not it's a good idea to let my parents know I like a good old swing lifestyle.

My excuses for being away from home are getting limited, there's only so many 30th birthday parties that I can pass off as a normal amount.

So, the question is, has anyone outed themselves to their parents and how did it go? Would you suggest it?

I'll add they pretty much already know I'm filth but they believe it's just with a select one or two.

Yes, I'm currenrly living with them so my boner is constantly raging to leave the house. "

Your 32!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah.

No good will come of this.

We’re disgusting and should never step out from the shadows, filthy swingers

Fancy a shag?

Can we go maccies afterwards?

More of a taco bell girl

But yes, shags"

21 jump street over hyped that place. How about I wrap you up like a burrito then I provide the filling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My family knows I think the poly thing took more time to get their heads around than the swinging thing. They don't judge and as long as I'm safe, aren't particularly bothered. I do have some funny conversations with my mum. She doesn't hold back when she wants to know something

I want to watch these conversations

Why? I'm confused about the eyeroll? I have no reason to hide anything from my family but I'm lucky enough that they are pretty open minded. "

It was the wrong emoji haha! I meant

Genuinely I think it would be interesting to watch! God damn eyeroll one being next to the smiley face!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I wouldn't personally. I'm all for openness with the parentals, but that stops short of my sex life. You'll move out one day and they'll still know...so depends if that's what you want FOREVER!

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Dangerous but brave .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Your 32!!!!"

I know 40+ year olds that are still at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have a problem with anyone knowing, friends or family when it comes to sex. If people want to know things, I’m happy to tell them and discuss things. We all have sex and we shouldn’t be ashamed.

I wouldn’t equally be weirded out hearing about anyone I know having sex too. It’s natural and it’s beautiful. If it makes your experiences easier, I’d say see how you think they’d react and if you think it would be positive, go for it

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By *ilB OP   Woman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"

Your 32!!!!

I know 40+ year olds that are still at home "

Also, didn't wanna do it directly but...

*you're

And my situation is what it is, anyones welcome to buy me house if it bothers them that much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been swinging since I was 18 years old...I was actually having 3somes etc from an even younger age. I was in a poly relationship for quite sometime which my mum found out about

Tbh I ljust came out with it and told my family the truth as I figured it's my life and I can do as I please wish it...I'm a firm believer in that if you enjoy what you're doing and hurting anybody else, then what's the problem! "

100% agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's more out of respect for them worrying, I realise I'm an adult for anyone saying that, we're close, it's actually nice.

But feel like it would be easier to just come out with it...

I'm feeling maybe it's a no. "

Would they worry more if you said you were out swinging, if they weren't too sure what swinging is rather than you just have loads of friends you go out with lots. X

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Would you tell them over dinner:

What are we having'

sausages

That reminds me, guess what....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Your 32!!!!

I know 40+ year olds that are still at home

Also, didn't wanna do it directly but...

*you're

And my situation is what it is, anyones welcome to buy me house if it bothers them that much. "

Why did you reply to me? I didn’t say it. Good thing you’re cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's more out of respect for them worrying, I realise I'm an adult for anyone saying that, we're close, it's actually nice.

But feel like it would be easier to just come out with it...

I'm feeling maybe it's a no. "

Go with what your gut says, I reckon in your situation I'd tell them as I wouldn't want to keep lying about where I was going.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Looking at this from a parents point of view I wouldn't want to know. Tell me you're going out, tell me if you're not coming back, tell me your approximate location but don't tell me about your sex life.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"It's more out of respect for them worrying, I realise I'm an adult for anyone saying that, we're close, it's actually nice.

But feel like it would be easier to just come out with it...

I'm feeling maybe it's a no. "

I’d just keep it to yourself, and don’t fall asleep on the sofa with your butt plug left out

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When my son was 22 he briefly moved back home. He used to go out at all times of day and night. I knew what he was up to. All I asked was if he was staying out all night to let me know. I'm not sure at your age you should have to tell your parents what your up to. Just be respectful of them.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think as parents and you tell them you’re a swinger, they’d just worry more. They’d worry if the folk you were meeting were safe, if where you were meeting was safe, if you were having safe sex.

Ignorance is sometimes bliss.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"Looking at this from a parents point of view I wouldn't want to know. Tell me you're going out, tell me if you're not coming back, tell me your approximate location but don't tell me about your sex life. "

This 100%. They absolutely do not need to know.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I guess it depends on what your relationship with your parents is like. Whilst I am close to mine I certainly wouldn't discuss my sex life with them, nor would I want to know any details of theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be your personal taxi to and from club

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By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Do you have to mention the word 'swinger' maybe have a frank conversation and explain that you like to have safe, recreation sex with people so you go to places or arrange to meet people where you can.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London


"It's more out of respect for them worrying, I realise I'm an adult for anyone saying that, we're close, it's actually nice.

But feel like it would be easier to just come out with it...

I'm feeling maybe it's a no.

I’d just keep it to yourself, and don’t fall asleep on the sofa with your butt plug left out "

From experience I can say the last piece of advice is very important!

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By *ldgeezermeMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

What if they sign up to keep an eye on you

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