FabSwingers.com forum: Sperm Donor

By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Ok if you were single and at an age where your clock was seriously ticking... would you consider it... Or if you were married or in a relationship and for whatever reason your partner could not have any more kids and you wanted one.... Would you consider it..... ??

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

YES ...If i were a lady

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

just meet a breeder off here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now that I've got a kid, no cos being a father is the best thing in the world so if I'm the dad, that's exactly want I to be

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By *acdoodleMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Ok if you were single and at an age where your clock was seriously ticking... would you consider it... Or if you were married or in a relationship and for whatever reason your partner could not have any more kids and you wanted one.... Would you consider it..... ?? "

Never. You find yourself a lovely man who treats you like a princess. Then you steal his swimmers whilst he sleeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 32 and starting to worry about my biological clock but I haven't had children so far cos I want to be on a happy secure relationship so not sure if I'd want to go to sperm doner but then again who knows in a few years time if I'm still single then maybe il change my mind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would. It's something I've given a lot of thought to but most definitely I would. Or failing that I would adopt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope,

I do have children, however, would never consider a sperm donor.

I am a single parent, and whilst I adore and treasure my babies; I would not go into having one intentionally on my own.

I know some mums who got pregnant, the old fashioned one night stand way, some wanted some not. They are emotionally strong and financially sound, and it seems to work for them.

There is the one case though, where the baby was adopted out

I was so ill before and over christmas; I was very very lucky someone came to my house, and basically took on my home and children (who were also ill)

Without that person my children would have ended up in care; that really makes me feel very greatful and turns my stomach at the same time

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Yes I would. It's something I've given a lot of thought to but most definitely I would. Or failing that I would adopt. "

So have I... I was watching on the verge of a midlife crisis and there was a woman who was 48 and so wanted to get pregnant... It just kind of hit me I suppose...

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Nope,

I do have children, however, would never consider a sperm donor.

I am a single parent, and whilst I adore and treasure my babies; I would not go into having one intentionally on my own.

I know some mums who got pregnant, the old fashioned one night stand way, some wanted some not. They are emotionally strong and financially sound, and it seems to work for them.

There is the one case though, where the baby was adopted out

I was so ill before and over christmas; I was very very lucky someone came to my house, and basically took on my home and children (who were also ill)

Without that person my children would have ended up in care; that really makes me feel very greatful and turns my stomach at the same time

I get your point and I hope you are feeling better xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now that I've got a kid, no cos being a father is the best thing in the world so if I'm the dad, that's exactly want I to be"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If any of you need a sperm donor im game haha

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

"Yes I would. It's something I've given a lot of thought to but most definitely I would. Or failing that I would adopt.

So have I... I was watching on the verge of a midlife crisis and there was a woman who was 48 and so wanted to get pregnant... It just kind of hit me I suppose... "

Helllllooooooo...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm not in your situation I can't answer this question. What I would say is follow your heart and if its right for you go for it .. Its your life

And before we get into the you shouldn't advocate someone to become a single parent debate... They're are millions of single parents who had the perfect marridge etc and unfortunatly it broke down.. Good luck in what ever you decide to do xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was 39 when I had my daughter so you have plenty of time, would I have gone down the sperm donor route if I didn`t have her? No, as much as I love her, I wouldn't, it was never my plan to have kids, but she is my life now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I'm not in your situation I can't answer this question. What I would say is follow your heart and if its right for you go for it .. Its your life

Oooops on the typo lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off I go to pound land to get the turkey baster. I'll pop it round full of my love juice next week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I'm not in your situation I can't answer this question. What I would say is follow your heart and if its right for you go for it .. Its your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the family historian and nothing fucks up a family tree more than illegitimate children, or children where one father has been passed off as another. Everything is hunky dory until the secret gets out - and it always does eventually.

A woman knows exactly who she's given birth to and a man should have a right to know who his children are, and who isn't is child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am the family historian and nothing fucks up a family tree more than illegitimate children, or children where one father has been passed off as another. Everything is hunky dory until the secret gets out - and it always does eventually.

A woman knows exactly who she's given birth to and a man should have a right to know who his children are, and who isn't is child. "

A sperm donor is giving his sperm for a reason... And that's for childless women,men and couples can have children. There was a law brought out a couple of years ago that the sperm donor can now find out who is children are when they are 18 too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheeky I got two teenagers they a pain in the arse at times but I wouldn't change them for all the tea in China!

Follow your heart on this one , your still young plenty of time to meet Mr right !

You know I think you'd make one hell of a mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my very good friends is in a secure and loving marriage, unfortunately she couldn't get pregnant, turned out her husband having had mumps as a child rendered him sterile.

They took the decision together to have donated sperm and IVF using her eggs. They are the parents of lovely twins and he adores them, after all he has raised them from infants, they are his.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was a law brought out a couple of years ago that the sperm donor can now find out who is children are when they are 18 too "

I wasn't aware of that. Thanks for highlighting it. Personally, I could never father a child without being in it's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I thought cheeky had done this as a topic of debate, not for her personally

It wouldn't have changed my response, as it was honest.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Yes I would, I don't think I could do it with a stranger (for reasons like trying to track down the father's medical history if the child has any complications or health issues, ect), but I have friends I'm sure I could persuade.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me n my ex tried for 6 years with no joy what so ever eventually we grew apart from the strain it put on our relationship so I wish in a way it's an option we'd looked into at the time, having said that we are both settled with new partners in I'm expecting any time now n he has just found out he's gonna be a dad too so luckily it's had an happy ending

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Me n my ex tried for 6 years with no joy what so ever eventually we grew apart from the strain it put on our relationship so I wish in a way it's an option we'd looked into at the time, having said that we are both settled with new partners in I'm expecting any time now n he has just found out he's gonna be a dad too so luckily it's had an happy ending"

Aww, congratulations!

xXx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I donate sperm loads. The shower wall gets most of it.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Oh I thought cheeky had done this as a topic of debate, not for her personally

It wouldn't have changed my response, as it was honest.

it was for a topic of debate....i have thought about this personally and have thought yes i would do it.. I have a friend that wants to be a daddy.. so if i ever needed to go down this route id choose him....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I thought cheeky had done this as a topic of debate, not for her personally

It wouldn't have changed my response, as it was honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a grown up son, i would never choose to be a single parent.

when he was little it was easy but when he became a teenager it just got much harder and my hubby could teach him things that i couldnt.

i think if your married its ok to get pregnant by another man if your partner think its a good idea, its a bit like buying a puppy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'd do it for people... If it would help people why not...

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

We have tried desperately for children for 3 and a half years. We will have one more go at IVF (ICSI) this year and then that's it.

We won't have a donor and we won't adopt, it's not for us.

People have told us we can't want it that badly if we're not prepared to do either of those things which is utter bullshit. When they've walked a mile in our shoes....

You do what's right for you - this is a question that no one else but you can answer. Id'd say if you have to ask other peoples advice on it, you're not ready to make that kind of decision.

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By *isssexysensualityCouple
over a year ago

Harrow

I've done it (donated sperm), many times in fact.

Not within the swinging scene as I don't think it's the right place for it. Although a lot of couples (or guys) have breeding fantasies about having another guy knock up their wife, or guys have fantasies knocking up someone else's wife. In reality such a situation just would not pan out well. UNLESS the husband has male factor infertility and there is no way he can sire a child. In that case their only option is Expensive IVF via a clinic, or using a private sperm donor naturally (NI), or artificially with a syringe.

The women, couples and lesbians I helped were found on sperm donation/co-parenting websites. While a lot of people say no way never. There are a large number of good, genuine people that just want a family and have no other choice (they can't afford countless rounds of clinic treatment). Its not exactly what you imagine. Much of it is meeting up with attractive lesbian couples that you have coffee with, exchange STD results, discuss intentions, then on the following meeting masturbate into a cup, transfer contents to a syringe, and then give to them to inseminate. Then on the other end of the spectrum you can find yourself meeting up with some guy's broody wife, going to a hotel, and having a lot of regular, scheduled baby making sex.

Seriously, it's a wonderful thing, helping people in this way. All of the people I've helped have been eternally grateful, and remain good friends with me (and my partner and family), get to see photos and meet some of my kids. It's a great thing. The donations can be a lot of fun too, but it must be respected, as you don't want to lead single women on, or treat it like your own personal kinky fetish (well it can be your fetish, but keep that to yourself. first and foremost your helping people).

If anyone (guys, women, couples) has questions and thoughts on the subject and my experiences. I'm happy to chat about it. Its something that I wanted to do for a long time, and then a few years ago, chatted with my girlfriend about it, and she said if its something I really want to do, then I should go for it. Now I'm very glad I did.

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