FabSwingers.com forum: Do you ever feel you could have achieved

By *TG3 OP Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you want to be a high achiever the energy isn't wasted.

I could have achieved way more educationally and career wise but I chose to invest my energies elsewhere.

I would like to think I could achieve like Dr Alice Roberts has but I just don't have the motivation

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Achievements are never wasted energy if it means that your life is better as a result.

I still have so much more to do in this life i don’t think i will ever be finished

Marc

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. Not more.

Different for sure, but that's the fun part of life, choosing your path

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Surely that can differ from person to person. It depends what their gocus is. It can vary from financial to education, family, sporting achievements, charitable work etc... . It really depends on what you compare it with and what matters to you most in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just at the point of starting all over again and it's exciting

Actually just given myself a peptalk on motivation as that's easily lost and only yourself can do it ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still achieving, but it's hard work growing the business and keeping it viable. I'm really hoping my husband and I will reap the rewards when we retire.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Achievement is subjective.

What are you trying to achieve ?

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

I think regret is wasted energy.

I could have done a lot better at school, got the degree & job I wanted…. BUT…. Now I’m more self aware I know it would have been bad for me. The industry I wanted is notorious for drugs & I’m a very addictive type. I’d most likely be dead if I’d have chosen the “better” path.

I’m happy with my path in life.

It’s funny though how we always assume the better education, job etc would have been better. We rarely think of it as potentially being worse.

Embrace what you have & just strive to achieve what you need rather than want I think.

Man I have my positive pants on this morning

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I wish I'd learnt more about I.T. hardware 10 years ago.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

It’s weird to say but I wish I achieved less, I’m overqualified in my job yet I earn more than what I went to university twice for. In some respects I’ve wasted time and money

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Achieved what exactly though? Final gain, status, career or just being happy in your own skin? Not enough emphasis is put upon happiness as an achievement in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I think I've achieved exactly what I could with the amount of effort I've put in, probably even more than I deserve to be honest compared to my parents' upbringing.

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By *rLothbrokMan
over a year ago

Lancs

If aviation vacancies and pay had remained attractive when I was moving house and employer, I would have moved to passenger aircraft and gained further academic qualifications to promote into a licensed engineer position. But I made the change to another industry and have been approached by global brands to lead some of their engineer teams instead. While I do sometimes think about missed opportunities, I don’t regret the path taken, as I’m now looking to a potential international move, which is something I’ve always wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Achieved what exactly though? Final gain, status, career or just being happy in your own skin? Not enough emphasis is put upon happiness as an achievement in my opinion "

Absolutely agree with you! Managing to be happy with yourself and life is an amazing achievement. Bringing up kids into adults who are happy too is the ultimate achievement

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

It's pointless regretting the past. Learn from it and change what is within your span of control. If you really can't change things that you would like to be different in the future, then just be happy with the good things in your life and work on the other areas

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By *TG3 OP Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I'm just at the point of starting all over again and it's exciting

Actually just given myself a peptalk on motivation as that's easily lost and only yourself can do it ... "
do you not feel that the kids today have no ambition no desire to achieve?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I could've earned more. I could've worked harder. I could've had a family. I could've done more for my fellow man.

I've chosen a relatively well balanced life that I love to live, so I don't feel like I could've lived any differently and kept true to who I want to be and how I want to live.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Agree with what people say on regret. You cannot change the past so don’t regret choices you made at the time - you could only act on the information and knowledge you had at the time.

Many’s the time I wished I had worked harder at school and chased dreams. The fact is, that’s not me. My current life is far from perfect, but I have everything I need and now it’s just finding the ‘wants’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just at the point of starting all over again and it's exciting

Actually just given myself a peptalk on motivation as that's easily lost and only yourself can do it ... do you not feel that the kids today have no ambition no desire to achieve?

I only know mine do but they're both adults now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could have achieved other goals, but the sacrifice wasn't worth it. Life is about choices..

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By *elinda BeaverCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I think growing up there was far too much pressure to achieve. Must do better, must work harder, must do this that and the other!!

If there was half as much focus on encouraging happiness within one self and supporting each other the world would be a better place. We would be more accepting of others abilities and open to the fact that we are all different with unique qualities to offer the world.

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By *TG3 OP Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Achievement is subjective.

What are you trying to achieve ?"
Happiness

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

No, we've led charmed and very fulfilled lives, we've also given a lot back to communities we've lived in and are the better for doing so.

Neither of us would change a thing, even the few bad times.

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By *TG3 OP Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I'm just at the point of starting all over again and it's exciting

Actually just given myself a peptalk on motivation as that's easily lost and only yourself can do it ... do you not feel that the kids today have no ambition no desire to achieve?

I only know mine do but they're both adults now! "
Mine as well but i wouldn’t say they are happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

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Completed fab mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Waste of precious time thinking about things like that ...it's like the guy who has a £1million...he wants £2 Million.. don't ever compare yourself to others ...be happy in your own skin .

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By *TG3 OP Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Completed fab mate"
you've completed fab........ Really, so are you leaving now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Completed fab mateyou've completed fab........ Really, so are you leaving now?

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Yeah, when you have a good amount of verifications and couples and women are proactive in messaging you first.

You have beaten Fab, 1 of the hardest games any man will ever play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Completed fab mateyou've completed fab........ Really, so are you leaving now?

Yeah, when you have a good amount of verifications and couples and women are proactive in messaging you first.

You have beaten Fab, 1 of the hardest games any man will ever play. "

Easy to do that when you just don't send the first message though

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

I was working my way up the career ladder in a bank and then decided to have kids, took VR and a massive pay cut, got a job in supporting vulnerable people, been happy for 4 years, now re-evaluating starting again as a therapist /counsellor.

It's all relative as above people say, energy is only wasted on regret x

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I think I've done pretty well.

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over a year ago

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Completed fab mateyou've completed fab........ Really, so are you leaving now?

Ha!! Bravo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Completed fab mateyou've completed fab........ Really, so are you leaving now?

Ha!! Bravo

This has replaced one night Stanley as my favourite post ever

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Completed fab mateyou've completed fab........ Really, so are you leaving now?

Ha!! Bravo

This has replaced one night Stanley as my favourite post ever"

The people have spoken!!

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I could have undoubtedly have achiehed more. Mental health, undiagnosed neurodiversity and addiction issues (the three clearly being interlinked) steered my life in a different direction. It's a rabbit hole I try not to think about.

But I'm still alive and sober so you know arguably i achieved a lot more than I could have too as I could easily have been a statistic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite happy with where I am but yes, of course, there will always be the “what if” / sliding doors moments that mean things might have been different.

And hindsight is a wonderful thing. You evolve from making mistakes and I guess you could wonder what you would have done differently if you knew “then” what you know now.

But we are all where we are - we can’t change history. We can only influence the future.

So no point worrying about what could have been, it’s only worth putting energy into what might yet be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am riding a dopamine high today having done two tiny piddling little jobs that have bugged me for ages. Yay Me!

I am a low achiever in life according to traditional standards and dont give a fig.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Professionally, maybe .

Educationally,had I made different choices almost certainly .

However I hit the jackpot in other ways .

I wouldn't actually change my journey .

Bad decisions make great stories and I do think I'm absolutely where I'm supposed to be.

Don't get me wrong , I'm still completely winging it all and my life is far from easy or a dream but it is mine.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Nope happy with my lot x

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

"Professionally, maybe .

Educationally,had I made different choices almost certainly .

However I hit the jackpot in other ways .

I wouldn't actually change my journey .

Bad decisions make great stories and I do think I'm absolutely where I'm supposed to be.

Don't get me wrong , I'm still completely winging it all and my life is far from easy or a dream but it is mine. "

Bad decisions make great stories...this is absolutely the truth

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By *TG3 OP Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Completed fab mateyou've completed fab........ Really, so are you leaving now?

Ha!! Bravo

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well he actually said he was

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I could have achieved so much more but I've always been my own worst enemy!

Mike

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

Achievement for its own sake is wasted energy, but if it aligns with the plan, vision and values you hold for your life it’s not, it’s getting you where you’ve chosen to be. The right Achievements are stepping stones to a better and happier life.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Yeah. I wish I'd done my PhD.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Probably but I'd probably also be miserable from working my ass off

LvM

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Sometimes I feel like I could have achieved orgasm if my legs didn't get tired so quickly

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I've achieved an awful lot. Feel like I could achieve a lot more.

Sometimes I worry I'll never feel like I've done enough.

But such is life

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I believe there is no point in living life wishing I had done things differently or done more. I have a decent life and so much to be thankful for, if I had done things differently I may not have the same people in my life that I and beyond grateful for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I push myself to achieve my goals in life but yet feel I'm never satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am right where I planned.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I've achieved an awful lot. Feel like I could achieve a lot more.

Sometimes I worry I'll never feel like I've done enough.

But such is life "

I think this sums up how I feel.

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

"More with your life or is achievement a wasted energy?

But how do you measure achievement.

Happiness, Welth, Property, Education, What you have given to others, Love, Sex, What more would you want.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I think no matter what you achieve in life you always look back and think could have done more/done things differently ect

I regret every day not adopting the achieving financial security mindset earlier, back when I was 18-19 property was pennies flats going for 6 grand ect instead of getting on ladder spend time fucking on with money pit cars and getting pissed every thus/Fri/sat as was the norm back then when pub/club scene was still jumping. Also not spending g 15 years with and loosing half of everything to the ex wish had picked someone could build a future together and not still be picking up a shovel on a cold winters morning.

Hindsight is a wonderfull thing though I think it’s human nature to not be satisfied eith what we done/achieved at least for the most of us

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

The unaimed arrow never misses.

Be happy with your lot, as there are a million dead people in the ground who never achieved 1/1000th of what you did, and there are million more who achieved a 1000 times more than you.

Striving Means You Are Never Satisfied.

While for Nietzsche the concept had a positive sense, for Arthur Schopenhauer the will to live was a negative force. It was behind all the bad things that humans did in the world.

It was also the cause of the fact that a person is never satisfied. They are always striving for something, and when they achieve it, that momentary moment of bliss is replaced by more painful striving.

No amount of striving or even achievement can satisfy a person’s insatiable will. That is why, according to Schopenhauer, happiness can never be permanent. It can only happen in very fleeting moments, interspersing long periods of dissatisfaction.

This fundamental nature of the world was what made Arthur Schopenhauer a pessimist.

Which is why I said earlier, "An unaimed arrow never misses".

Schopenhauer was a believer in minimalism. Wanting what you do not have is at the basis of the mental suffering that you have in life. The way to diminish this anguish is to want less.

If you minimize your desires and concentrate on things that you can control, you also lessen the pain you feel. This allows you to experience more moments of this negative happiness that Schopenhauer believed was all humans could get.

So really, it's completely ok not to compare yourself to others. It's not easy however since a capitalistic and materialistic society would rather you didn't so you consume more and make other's wealthy at your own expensive, both mentally and physically.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"The unaimed arrow never misses.

Be happy with your lot, as there are a million dead people in the ground who never achieved 1/1000th of what you did, and there are million more who achieved a 1000 times more than you.

Striving Means You Are Never Satisfied.

While for Nietzsche the concept had a positive sense, for Arthur Schopenhauer the will to live was a negative force. It was behind all the bad things that humans did in the world.

This fundamental nature of the world was what made Arthur Schopenhauer a pessimist.

Which is why I said earlier, "An unaimed arrow never misses".

Schopenhauer was a believer in minimalism. Wanting what you do not have is at the basis of the mental suffering that you have in life. The way to diminish this anguish is to want less.

You are taking about goals , I agree setting and achieving goals is a real bad idea. The ‘momentary bliss’ falls away because you suddenly realise what next & you didn’t really want the goal but some characteristics/ behaviours/values you associated with it and tried to embody.

Focus on who you want to become , not what you want to achieve.

Ditch the goal setting none sense and you will achieve much more with much more meaning.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

My achievements are right for me. Sure, I could have had different ones but I prefer not to be able to counting or regretting. Every day being alive is one huge achievement. We take life too easily for granted. Our lives are measurably easier than of those in war torn conflict zones, or without clean water, for example. I prefer to gauge things on qualities I prefer and not by external society's standards.

On a day when a government has voted for people like myself to be subject to the death penalty, for being ourselves, I'll value being alive and doing my own thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I had put my money into property when I first had the chance, instead of blowing it on cars.

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