FabSwingers.com forum: As you have got older has your sex drive gone

By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

Up or down?

I expected a decrease with us getting older though this definitely isn't the issue with us at the moment, though I think being in the lifestyle helps greatly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines going up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know. But I do wonder wether because there’s so long between each time I’ve had sex lately it’s changed me. Do I appreciate it much more and that’s the difference with growing older.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Mine’s taken a nosedive. But I think it is because of all the stress and nonstop crap I’ve been getting in real life since November last year. It’s relentless.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

Gone down. But that’s because nobody is tickling my fancy. If I had a fella to lust over I’d probably be on him like a seagull on chips.

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"Mine’s taken a nosedive. But I think it is because of all the stress and nonstop crap I’ve been getting in real life since November last year. It’s relentless.

Sorry to hear, hope things get better.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Gone up but it’s hard to get a meet these days so only get to a club every other month

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’m only 36 but I’m finding mine is going down, probably because I’m more and more fed up of some men’s attitudes and expectations

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

It has definitely increased ten fold as I've got older x

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By *ryagain2Man
over a year ago

Morecambe

It’s gone down since joining here lol

I think it’s more frustration though

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My sex drive increases with age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fifty eight soon

My sex drive is definitely upped

Since operation two months ago

And since then sex drive has gone up worse than when I was younger

Don’t suppose perving at lady’s on hear helps lol x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

About the same

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It went way up after my marriage ended.

It's plateaued: Now I have a problem that my mind is willing but my body isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely gone up.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

Up…. Massively up!

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Up, mainly because I'm bored and my mind wanders. Life at home would be a lot simpler if I had a low sex drive and a hobby like stamp collecting.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never had a high sex drive at any point in my life so it's difficult to compare and contrast.

I went for 10 years with no sexual contact at all so that probably had a negative effect on it as well.

I was 52 when I joined here and can't say that it has diminished much in the 6 years since but it definitely hasn't increased.

Another issue that affects it is that I suffer from Anhedonia which I won't attempt to explain here but even though I'm not on the extreme end of the scale it does mean I am unable to experience nervous anticipation or excitement and can only live in the moment.

I don't get horny unless I'm actually having sex.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

It has definitely gone. Through the roof!

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Probably about the same, though I'm finding reaching climax takes longer (quite a lot) - benefit for some, less if you just want a quickie - consequently I like time to tease be teased, played with etc so a turn up and fuck scenario will never work for me

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By *m_hardMan
over a year ago

Swaffham

It has gone up, mainly because I am no longer bothered about what people think. Plus, as we mature, vanity goes, as well as inhibitions.

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

Was actually worried at one point that it getting stronger

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Currently 37 but my sex drive is the highest its ever been, since joining Fab its even higher. Cant seem to get enough atm

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Definitely up in the last year or so, but had slumped for years before.

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By *umseekerMan
over a year ago

montrose

It’s gotten darker lol

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By *wickenham GentMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

I turn 62 next still have a very high sex drive especially in the morning and early evening.

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I ve always been fairly highly sexed (Nilly)....red blooded female for sure...fortunately Willy is too... orgasms get better the older I get too

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

It goes through the roof

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By *tms1xCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Not sure if sex drive has increased, definitely not decreased but the enjoyment has gone up!

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Up too 2-2.5 rs ago my sex drive was high, then overnight it went completely.

It's now coming back... yippee!

I think mine was due to the menopause and having an awful time mentally. I cut the people/things out of my life that made my mental health alot worst.

I do take hrt and supplements which has helped increase my sex drive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both turned 50 last year and it’s all over the shop! We both have regular phases of being very horny but it’s tough for us to synchronise with all the IRL demands. Kids are getting older and we’re now starting to have meaningful conversations about how we are going to make the most of our time together with fewer distractions - our interactions on here are part of that process…

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"Gone down. But that’s because nobody is tickling my fancy. If I had a fella to lust over I’d probably be on him like a seagull on chips."

This...

I'm the same way!

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I can't keep up with hubby he's good to go 24/7 hard work xx

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By *tms1xCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Both turned 50 last year and it’s all over the shop! We both have regular phases of being very horny but it’s tough for us to synchronise with all the IRL demands. Kids are getting older and we’re now starting to have meaningful conversations about how we are going to make the most of our time together with fewer distractions - our interactions on here are part of that process…"

This thread s pretty much us!

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

Its going to be going up massively this week.

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By *imexxxMan
over a year ago

NWales

"Fifty eight soon

My sex drive is definitely upped

Since operation two months ago

And since then sex drive has gone up worse than when I was younger

Don’t suppose perving at lady’s on hear helps lol x

How do you get an Op like that please, id be happy to have one hehehe. Only joking if it was a serious Op, i was only being silly funny.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

We were discussing this yesterday. Our sex drive has gone through the roof since we started swinging. We’ve always had an amazing sex life, but we’re now constantly horny like a pair of teenagers. Long may it continue!

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By *imexxxMan
over a year ago

NWales

Have to say my thoughts are up on a daily basis, im thinking sexily. Im looking at more things ive only thought about before and more willing to try things as my profile states. Roll on getting older as it gives you the excuse too of saying ohh i didnt realise or remenber what i was doing hehehe Xxx

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By *uminmyhole69Man
over a year ago

Ealing

My sex drive has got even higher as I have got older, I think mine is partly due to the fact I am older, wiser and completely confortable with my body and what I like to do and enjoying the sex afterall it is about having fun w8th no hangups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Up or down?

I expected a decrease with us getting older though this definitely isn't the issue with us at the moment, though I think being in the lifestyle helps greatly.

Have a great day all.

when heading offshore for two weeks my sex drive definitely decreases and my focus is fully on work as we work a minimum of 12 hours a day but often 15 hour days for 14 full days.

Then home for 3 weeks leave and sex drive rises accordingly.

Its good being able to switch on and off as and when required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m only 36 but I’m finding mine is going down, probably because I’m more and more fed up of some men’s attitudes and expectations "

Same. Fab kills my sex drive.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Mines rampant!

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Mine just keeps going up it is crazy

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Port talbot

Mine has always been high

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

It’s going up by the month.

Mrs

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

My urges tend to be driven by those with whom I’m talking, whether in person or by phone/DM. If I fancy that woman then my brain will tell my winkie and my little body workers begin to stoke the fire.

It’s rare for me to get spontaneously horny and have a wank ‘just coz’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not entirely sure I have a sex drive at the moment at all. Which feels weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite the opposite, as the years go by the urges grow and my mind becomes even more devilish in that regard, things that younger me would have

at are now at forefront of my thoughts as well as physically being open to the prospect of it all. Making those thoughts a reality have been the harder part recently.

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"My urges tend to be driven by those with whom I’m talking, whether in person or by phone/DM. If I fancy that woman then my brain will tell my winkie and my little body workers begin to stoke the fire.

It’s rare for me to get spontaneously horny and have a wank ‘just coz’."

Bloody hell...that's a long tongue

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Since we met we have both had high sex drives. Life often gets in the way and work takes its tole.

Cammy has ‘come to bed’ eyes. Austin still has the stamina. We still fancy each other 20 years on.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I have always had a high libido so no.

I have a high sex drive, the only problem I have is lack of regular sex

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

uxbridge

GONE ...! Mine has got worst the older I get is like , I'm permanently on heat.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I’m almost 34 and feel as though it’s gone down, way way down.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

It’s rare for me to get spontaneously horny and have a wank ‘just coz’.

Bloody hell...that's a long tongue

Erm, thanks I think!! You’re not the first person to notice haha. Growed it myself.

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Mine is up but find that some with depression are very low ?

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By *limBobStretchedPantsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I find the drive is going up.

However the ability and Opportunity is decreasing lol.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Sex drive is still there, but now in hibernation mode in the faint hope that my health improves in the near future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up, but I've always had a very healthy drive.

Only time mine ever dipped was when I was a first time mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never abated, which is why I'm here. I often wonder whether I'd be happier without it?

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By *ark963Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Mines up but wife's gone lots of wanking

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not yet but I do worry about it a lot, it’s bound to with age. I date younger women and will one day settle down with one. Does it worry you OP? Or drives you to stay in good shape etc ?

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"Not yet but I do worry about it a lot, it’s bound to with age. I date younger women and will one day settle down with one. Does it worry you OP? Or drives you to stay in good shape etc ? "

Well I always thought it would decrease with age and I think society leans towards this opinion, but it turns out after reading the thread it's seems to be quite the opposite, of course I would hate it if it did and obviously the Mr would too. The people who have mentioned a decrease in theirs seemed to link it to stress and workload and I wish them all the best that they can sort out the stress and hopefully get back to a higher sexual appetite if that's what they desire. My thoughts are that the lifestyle has certainly helped us with ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up and up, I am insatiable now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Up and up, I am insatiable now

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I love older women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up .I don't think I've even reached my peak yet

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over a year ago

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By *ortyairCouple
over a year ago

Wallasey

Mines been sky high for a bit now x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Up.

I'm still quite young. Ish. Big ish.

Come my forties and I'll be insatiable.

Or dead from a venereal disease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely increasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr as if he’s 21 at 44

Mrs increased and wanting more then cocks

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi you too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Our sex life is a lot more better now that it ever has been .We’ve been together 30 years and when we were younger we had young children and the lack of sleep and worrying about stuff definitely didn’t help.

Our kids are young adults now and we have reverted back to being teenagers

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

think will reach my peak at 99

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Up up and away…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Up up and away…

Propelled by Haribo rocket fuel.. to infinity and beyond

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By *remiumbondMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

Mines gone up but only because I’m not getting any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as you get older sex is about pleasuring who your with when young I was all about me but I'm lucky iv had sex pretty much when I want since I was 13

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up. I can’t get enough of T, although sometimes I’m a lot more tired than I was a few years ago haha

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Mine has diminished to almost zero. An occasional wank when I can’t sleep and the occasional shag if the wife is craving intimacy. I could regret it but to be honest I just think of all the time I wasted chasing fanny when I was younger, and regret that more.

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By *ustus93Couple
over a year ago

watton

Recovery time at 49 doesn't seem to be the same as it was when I was 19, other than that everything else is still fully operational.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Mine is decreasing with age, I'm 66 this year. My erections are starting to suffer, so frustrating because my drive and kink is still there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine has definitely gone up, especially since Mr and I got together. I'm sure he would say the same

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine has gone up. My body doesn't absorb Vitamin B12 ,so I have to have injections every 2 months. With a sex drive already through the roof, this increases it more . Ha ha

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope mines always up but I'd say I have better control of it until the time comes then make up for lost time it's just a gentleman way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general I’m at a very happy point in my life.

Kids are adults now and doing well so there’s more time to relax.

Sexually I’m at the age where I know what I want, I’m accepting of my body flaws and that it’s not always going to do what I want it to but that’s ok.

HRT was a game changer and I may well be the oldest swinger in town but it doesn’t matter. With age comes confidence

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

We both have always had high sex drives and it’s not lessening with age. Wolf is older than me, his is still very high and I hope it continues like that.

Red

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By *earNoMan
over a year ago

Saltburn by the Sea

Have always had a good sex drive and can say honestly that gaining with age, at present count sex every two days and still going strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mines going up

Need me?

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

I'm not OLD yet.

I'll only be 70 in August. But I think my brain stopped maturing when I was about 16.

My sex drive hasn't reduced. I'm still learning and enjoying the experiences. ??????

Age/experience has taught me to be more adventurous and not prejudge. It has opened up so many more opportunities.

"It may take me all day to do what I used to do everyday" But I don't have to go to work anymore so I can spare the time.

WOLF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure I ever had one

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By *arko BMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"Up or down?

I expected a decrease with us getting older though this definitely isn't the issue with us at the moment, though I think being in the lifestyle helps greatly.

Have a great day all.

I’d say it’s rising but I think it’s because i’m not used to being a sexually active person tbh

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By *heFabtasticsCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

It’s got higher and lasts longer and can be ready to go again within 20 minutes

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Down, but only slightly. Various reasons. Ticked various things off the fucket list, just have way more stuff (I have) to do. Also learned to commit to other hobbies more which has been rewarding.

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Mine’s gone up exponentially.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Up or down?

I expected a decrease with us getting older though this definitely isn't the issue with us at the moment, though I think being in the lifestyle helps greatly.

Have a great day all.

I would say it's the same. Buy I find I am less tolerant of jumping through hoops to meet womens often impossible demands so I can take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go through stages where i just cant be arsed then other times am a horny bitch right now am horny as hell and not had it in months lol

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Paphos

Definitely up. It fluctuates, of course, but definitely an upward trend. Is that because I am getting more bedroom fun? Probably, but I plan to make hay whilst the sun shines!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Down,my labido has fucked off, I've not had sex for nearly 5 years and tbh I don't even miss it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It went way up after my marriage ended.

It's plateaued: Now I have a problem that my mind is willing but my body isn't.

Maybe just you need something different that will ignite the body

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By *lub UtopiaCouple
over a year ago

Chudleigh, devon

No way.. we can’t get enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is same..but have phases when very horny for days and then otherweek i dont care at all. But if there is anal sex involved i m always up for it

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

Definitely not reduced at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine hasn't decreased at all

. LEE

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Mines the same still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gone down. But that’s because nobody is tickling my fancy. If I had a fella to lust over I’d probably be on him like a seagull on chips."

Can l be the chips ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each day is different..

at the moment it’s all steam ahead..

but do have off days..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing as beautiful as people who want to be fucked by people they want to be fucked by and nothing as beautiful as people who want to fuck people that they want to fuck and the people they want to fuck want to be fucked by them ...does that make any sense ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off the scale. Nowhere to spend it, either. So want intimacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I’m slightly getting older, my urge for sex and fun has grown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mines the same still

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same here sexy x

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