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What a difference a year makes

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Yes I’ve kind of bastardised the quote, I make no apologies for the sake of snappy tagline!

I’ve realised this morning that I’ve recently gone past the anniversary of a particularly difficult part of my life and I’m coming up on the anniversary of a very happy one.

It’s set me to thinking (those of you that know me, know that it doesn’t take much to achieve that. It’s the opposite that’s the trick!); do anniversaries matter? Do they help or hinder? Is the passage of time comforting or is it an unhelpful reminder of what scars or joy we’ve had?

Thoughts folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, anniversarys matter to me, sometimes they remind me how far I've come, other times they remind me of loss (and what I've done to overcome it) and people that have passed away

It's important to remember (I think).

For example 19th July for about 4 years running my life imploded on the first one, second one wasn't much better and then it got better the next one and by the forth I could see that my life had changed for the better, so it's important x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've just gone through a series of annerversies. First Christmas without my beloved. His birthday. Valentines day and my birthday. Easter we would of been together 17 years. Fucked me up to be honest but I am getting bereavement councilling. After Easter haven't got any more anniversaries of him for awhile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what the anniversary is of.

I have plenty I wouldn't want to be reminded of.

Others are pure joy.

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington

Well... having had one myself recently. All I can say is do they get easier with time yeah...does that make them easy no. Do I actually want to forget No...so anniversaries do serve a useful purpose.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Tomorrow is the first anniversary of reaching breaking point on a particularly shitty situation I'd tolerated for too long.

I don't generally observe anniversaries though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People tell me times heals… well, I wish it would f’kin hurry up.

This thread is quite uncanny T. Because 2 very personal anniversaries have just passed and they are both upsetting ones. And the first year myself.

I handle things badly right now, I hope I find myself in a continuous happy place soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately I think for me they do matter. The good and the bad. They show how far you've come in that time.

I've got one coming up shortly which I don't necessarily think about often anymore as my way of dealing with it but it still stings when I do.

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