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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby

I don’t seem to be having any luck on here at all. I always try to send a nice message, I’m already respectful. I don’t actually think I’m bad looking either. Wouldn’t say I’m fit as fuck, but I’m not ugly. I tend to love to tease and please, I always make sure the woman I’m with, gets hers alot more before I get mine, meaning I’m all up for making sure you have a good time, I love giving oral too, it’s such a turn on for my just going down on a woman

Maybe I’m stupid for writing this post? Maybe I’ll get backlash for it. But I don’t know what else to do or who else to ask. Not looking for any criticism. I just have a high sex drive and I’m eager to please. Also can be dominant too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello

What has liking asian men got to do with you not finding meets?

You're not stupid for writing the post. It's good to ask questions. If people don't like it that's their problem.

Good luck

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn garden city

It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Maybe people are put off by how many times you've copied + pasted this in to new threads in one go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t seem to be having any luck on here at all. I always try to send a nice message, I’m already respectful. I don’t actually think I’m bad looking either. Wouldn’t say I’m fit as fuck, but I’m not ugly. I tend to love to tease and please, I always make sure the woman I’m with, gets hers alot more before I get mine, meaning I’m all up for making sure you have a good time, I love giving oral too, it’s such a turn on for my just going down on a woman

Maybe I’m stupid for writing this post? Maybe I’ll get backlash for it. But I don’t know what else to do or who else to ask. Not looking for any criticism. I just have a high sex drive and I’m eager to please. Also can be dominant too."

A forum search is your friend here.

10s of threads on this subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shadow avatars get all the attention that they deserve but blame it on being Asian if you like.

Yes I know….your job etc.

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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"Shadow avatars get all the attention that they deserve but blame it on being Asian if you like.

Yes I know….your job etc. "

Like I’ve said to you on your other replies, I have pictures. I always send pictures in my first message. Clearly you didn’t read my post. And yes, due to working in the NHS I priories my privacy. Hence why I’m super discreet. But I’m verified, picture verified. So what’s the issue? And the fact you’ve blocked me proves the ignorance

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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race. "

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shadow avatars get all the attention that they deserve but blame it on being Asian if you like.

Yes I know….your job etc.

Like I’ve said to you on your other replies, I have pictures. I always send pictures in my first message. Clearly you didn’t read my post. And yes, due to working in the NHS I priories my privacy. Hence why I’m super discreet. But I’m verified, picture verified. So what’s the issue? And the fact you’ve blocked me proves the ignorance "

Yes I think I might reply on all the copy and paste threads that you’ve started seeking to blame your lack of success on your race.

We always block shadow avatars (of whatever race, colour or creed) because 99% of the time they are trying to be deceptive for one reason or another but usually the wife.

But yep again… have it your way and play the race card.

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By *uddleWithCraigMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton or Travels


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked "

No change to been any race/colour as I’ve sent a face photo and either no reply or get blocked it’s just people!!!

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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"Shadow avatars get all the attention that they deserve but blame it on being Asian if you like.

Yes I know….your job etc.

Like I’ve said to you on your other replies, I have pictures. I always send pictures in my first message. Clearly you didn’t read my post. And yes, due to working in the NHS I priories my privacy. Hence why I’m super discreet. But I’m verified, picture verified. So what’s the issue? And the fact you’ve blocked me proves the ignorance

Yes I think I might reply on all the copy and paste threads that you’ve started seeking to blame your lack of success on your race.

We always block shadow avatars (of whatever race, colour or creed) because 99% of the time they are trying to be deceptive for one reason or another but usually the wife.

But yep again… have it your way and play the race card. "

99% of the time? Clearly. I’m not completely blaming it on race. But I’ve had times were I’m having a good chat with someone, and when they’ve asked for a picture, I either get no reply after sending it or I get blocked. So after numerous times that’s happened, tell me what else am I supposed to think? And tbh, you could have been abit more nicer and respectful about this. I’m generally asking for advice. I’m not trying to be some ignorant prick having a piss around. I’ve been on this site for a while and I’m just fed up of this constantly happening. And when I go and write something about it based on a theory I have, I’m getting shit for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked "

Happens to all of us, men, women and couples

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge


"Shadow avatars get all the attention that they deserve but blame it on being Asian if you like.

Yes I know….your job etc.

Like I’ve said to you on your other replies, I have pictures. I always send pictures in my first message. Clearly you didn’t read my post. And yes, due to working in the NHS I priories my privacy. Hence why I’m super discreet. But I’m verified, picture verified. So what’s the issue? And the fact you’ve blocked me proves the ignorance

Yes I think I might reply on all the copy and paste threads that you’ve started seeking to blame your lack of success on your race.

We always block shadow avatars (of whatever race, colour or creed) because 99% of the time they are trying to be deceptive for one reason or another but usually the wife.

But yep again… have it your way and play the race card.

99% of the time? Clearly. I’m not completely blaming it on race. But I’ve had times were I’m having a good chat with someone, and when they’ve asked for a picture, I either get no reply after sending it or I get blocked. So after numerous times that’s happened, tell me what else am I supposed to think? And tbh, you could have been abit more nicer and respectful about this. I’m generally asking for advice. I’m not trying to be some ignorant prick having a piss around. I’ve been on this site for a while and I’m just fed up of this constantly happening. And when I go and write something about it based on a theory I have, I’m getting shit for it? "

I would have thought you’d do really well on here. Be original, be patient, take some pics that show you off without compromising your identity. Above all keep being positive, no one likes a whinger! Remember too it’s a free site, men outnumber women by millions to one it seems and any hint of success should be taken as highly positive! Now chin up and start again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shadow avatars get all the attention that they deserve but blame it on being Asian if you like.

Yes I know….your job etc.

Like I’ve said to you on your other replies, I have pictures. I always send pictures in my first message. Clearly you didn’t read my post. And yes, due to working in the NHS I priories my privacy. Hence why I’m super discreet. But I’m verified, picture verified. So what’s the issue? And the fact you’ve blocked me proves the ignorance

Yes I think I might reply on all the copy and paste threads that you’ve started seeking to blame your lack of success on your race.

We always block shadow avatars (of whatever race, colour or creed) because 99% of the time they are trying to be deceptive for one reason or another but usually the wife.

But yep again… have it your way and play the race card.

99% of the time? Clearly. I’m not completely blaming it on race. But I’ve had times were I’m having a good chat with someone, and when they’ve asked for a picture, I either get no reply after sending it or I get blocked. So after numerous times that’s happened, tell me what else am I supposed to think? And tbh, you could have been abit more nicer and respectful about this. I’m generally asking for advice. I’m not trying to be some ignorant prick having a piss around. I’ve been on this site for a while and I’m just fed up of this constantly happening. And when I go and write something about it based on a theory I have, I’m getting shit for it? "

Throwing your toys out of the pram will make your situation worse, people, me included will block others based on what they say in the forum's, how you're acting is a major turn off for most people.

Just advice you be you

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn garden city


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked "

Having received your message, we know why you often get blocked. Very few people want unsolicited cock pics. Would you walk up to someone in a bar, introduce yourself then pop your cock out?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t seem to be having any luck on here at all. I always try to send a nice message, I’m already respectful. I don’t actually think I’m bad looking either. Wouldn’t say I’m fit as fuck, but I’m not ugly. I tend to love to tease and please, I always make sure the woman I’m with, gets hers alot more before I get mine, meaning I’m all up for making sure you have a good time, I love giving oral too, it’s such a turn on for my just going down on a woman

Maybe I’m stupid for writing this post? Maybe I’ll get backlash for it. But I don’t know what else to do or who else to ask. Not looking for any criticism. I just have a high sex drive and I’m eager to please. Also can be dominant too."

Oh no OP, you're copied and pasted this all over the forums, if it's this bad then clearly you need to step back and think about how this site is making you feel. You say that you've been here before so you know how it is and how it works and you're still getting fired up

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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It is a fact some people on here do not like Asians, but plenty do, so concentrate on them.

What you can change is your profile and attitude. You have a blank avatar, a lot of people will not even open up messages from blank avatars, so even if you send pics with your first message they won't see them.

You have plenty of body there that you could use in pics without showing your face, so making excuses for not having pics up are kind of pointless, unless you walk around naked at work.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

You could always stick with going to the club if that works for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t seem to be having any luck on here at all. I always try to send a nice message, I’m already respectful. I don’t actually think I’m bad looking either. Wouldn’t say I’m fit as fuck, but I’m not ugly. I tend to love to tease and please, I always make sure the woman I’m with, gets hers alot more before I get mine, meaning I’m all up for making sure you have a good time, I love giving oral too, it’s such a turn on for my just going down on a woman

Maybe I’m stupid for writing this post? Maybe I’ll get backlash for it. But I don’t know what else to do or who else to ask. Not looking for any criticism. I just have a high sex drive and I’m eager to please. Also can be dominant too."

Another thread from a male who doesnt get replies, they wonder why, then suggest a theory only to be staged off by the usual suspects.

O.P I wouldn't know if its your skin colour, but I know many, many guys posts these threads of all colours and get the same response as you.

Its how FAB works, it may seem rude, ignorant but there are reasons.

Like with any place that depends on custom, f you don't like it vote with your feet, or don't support it by paying.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Op as others have said ,your profile is doing you no favours

We all have jobs and private lives that we want to protect,but you can add pics that won't identify you.

I delete messages from shadows.

Why not attach your face pic (not cock pics )early on in a message ,so you're not chatting for ages and then getting nowhere.

If the couple that said you've messaged them are right,the cock pics won't do you any favours.only send if someone asks for one.I block those who sent cock pics in messages to me .

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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked

Having received your message, we know why you often get blocked. Very few people want unsolicited cock pics. Would you walk up to someone in a bar, introduce yourself then pop your cock out?!!"

I was not meant to select those, I was meant to send a couple more face pictures. I was rushing and closed my phone after I pressed send, you probably won’t believe me but I’m telling the truth. I’m sorry.

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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"Op as others have said ,your profile is doing you no favours

We all have jobs and private lives that we want to protect,but you can add pics that won't identify you.

I delete messages from shadows.

Why not attach your face pic (not cock pics )early on in a message ,so you're not chatting for ages and then getting nowhere.

If the couple that said you've messaged them are right,the cock pics won't do you any favours.only send if someone asks for one.I block those who sent cock pics in messages to me ."

Always send face pics in my first messsge, was just explaining about times where I’ve had some decent convos and when asked for a picture I usually don’t get a reply, but I’ve had a lot of positive feed back and advice from people in private messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two big reasons why I’d guess you struggle on here are one your profile and number two is now this thread.

Best of luck

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been here for just four months and with very little in your profile to grab attention.

Many here will check the profile attached to the message received, before they look at the message.

At that point, more often than not, their decision is already made.

For us personally, there are several aspects on your minimal profile that would likely put us off.

Being a smoker because Mrs is an ex smoker.

The shy comment because we're looking for someone that's confident, leading.

The oral suggestion because although we enjoy, it's not something we predominantly seek and it's suggested/offered regularly.

The silhouette profile picture and the fact there are no pictures, yes you say you send pictures, but it's not just about seeing them, it's about effort put into your profile and the wonder of secrecy.

You're best having none identifiable pictures than telling everyone where you work.

You have the tools here to help you, use them and have patience.

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By *9funboyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think you'll find that a large majority of people aren't bothered about people's race - they really don't care. England has been a highly diverse country for many years now and it really isn't seen as a big deal by most.

What many women look for, for casual sex, can be very different to what they look for in a relationship - so have a look in the mirror and ask yourself if you would be most women's fantasy fuck. If not, you're probably going to be like the vast majority of single men on this site, and not get much response - regardless of race.

I would also suggest you carefully read people's profiles before messaging, and write with a friendly, social manner rather than telling people what you want to do to them - it doesn't really work like that, at least not with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am Asian and I do okay OP

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham


"I am Asian and I do okay OP"

Smoking hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am Asian and I do okay OP

Smoking hot "

Thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t seem to be having any luck on here at all."

I’ve cut your post short to this single line.

By saying that it makes people think that you’re having problems getting ANY meets at all year you have 2 verifications from 2 different people from The Attic.

So you have had some luck, but you can’t get anymore. Maybe you’re going about it in the wrong way? Maybe you need to be a bit less of a gentleman and more of something else? Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shadow avatars get all the attention that they deserve but blame it on being Asian if you like.

Yes I know….your job etc.

Like I’ve said to you on your other replies, I have pictures. I always send pictures in my first message. Clearly you didn’t read my post. And yes, due to working in the NHS I priories my privacy. Hence why I’m super discreet. But I’m verified, picture verified. So what’s the issue? And the fact you’ve blocked me proves the ignorance "

We all have jobs! you dont need to have identifying pics on show though, wether you send pics or not your profile will always be looked at 1st its like your shop window you need to make people want to message and reply to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked

Having received your message, we know why you often get blocked. Very few people want unsolicited cock pics. Would you walk up to someone in a bar, introduce yourself then pop your cock out?!!

I was not meant to select those, I was meant to send a couple more face pictures. I was rushing and closed my phone after I pressed send, you probably won’t believe me but I’m telling the truth. I’m sorry. "

I believe you, you were very polite and respectful to me. And no cock pics.

You're a good looking bloke. Maybe try socials or clubs.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked "

Here we go again.

Dare I utter the words "personal preferences"...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People always look for a reason, to explain things - especially if unexpected.

Men herw overlook the obvious too often. Their expectations are unrealistic and that they vastly outnumber the people that they want to meet. It's not inferior cocks, wrong race, looks etc - it will always mean that you must invest loads of effort, without any guarantees of anything

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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"I don’t seem to be having any luck on here at all.

I’ve cut your post short to this single line.

By saying that it makes people think that you’re having problems getting ANY meets at all year you have 2 verifications from 2 different people from The Attic.

So you have had some luck, but you can’t get anymore. Maybe you’re going about it in the wrong way? Maybe you need to be a bit less of a gentleman and more of something else? Just a thought "

Yeah I’ve had fun with a couple when visiting for the first time, which is the only time other times I’ve just been and had chats with a lot of people and getting to know others.

I do appreciate the advice, i didn’t write this post like I’m moaning or complaining, I guess it does come across like that but I was generally seeking friendly advice and I apologise to anyone I’ve offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving the race card, maybe it's your approach that needs changing. But it must be everyone else's fault....easier to look out the window than in the mirror.....you can still be discreet, many are and still have profile pics etc, despite their work

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's likely not your ethnicity but other factors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op as others have said ,your profile is doing you no favours

We all have jobs and private lives that we want to protect,but you can add pics that won't identify you.

I delete messages from shadows.

Why not attach your face pic (not cock pics )early on in a message ,so you're not chatting for ages and then getting nowhere.

If the couple that said you've messaged them are right,the cock pics won't do you any favours.only send if someone asks for one.I block those who sent cock pics in messages to me .

Always send face pics in my first messsge, was just explaining about times where I’ve had some decent convos and when asked for a picture I usually don’t get a reply, but I’ve had a lot of positive feed back and advice from people in private messages. "

Maybe once you'd sent your face picture, you weren't for them,

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Dear OP, dispense with the scatter-gun approach and only message those who are pøsh and elitê.

Good luck. ††

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I dont like Asian men in a sexual way no, just as friends

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

But seriously I don't think its to do with your race, most women are very picky and particular on what they want on here. Even I struggle to get a reply from them most of the time. So I say keep trying until you get someone's attention.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

OP it's really not your race, you haven't stated why you don't have any pics to show on your profile.

You can not blame people for what they don't know.

I have read some of the conversations between yourself and others here. You said you work for the NHS so you have to be discreet that's not on your profile

Have you not tried the swingers parties or clubs to get yourself acquainted with people away from fab who probably have fab and can give you more verifications

There's Romeo Styles Parties

Lockdown Lounge

Team players

Down and Dirty

Nubian nights

When you just resort to hear you will have to wait a long time if ever as you can't give much away on your profile.

Then when you go to the events try not to go with expectation of playing but rather enjoy socialising meeting new people you never know where it can lead to.I been going to the events alone just to enjoy the music have a chat and a laugh then occasionally it turns into play which is a nice surprise but if it doesn't I don't go home with a sour face but a smile that I got to meet lovely kind hearted people that shown respect for each other

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral


"It probably has more to do with your profile, and less to do with your race.

I’ve tried fab a few times, once had a profile with a full bio and yet, still the same issue. Sometimes I would be speaking too someone, and once they ask for a face picture, once it’s been sent, I either get no reply or get blocked "
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This is exactly the same with me folk can say what they like it won't change anything

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By *xcitedGentleman OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"OP it's really not your race, you haven't stated why you don't have any pics to show on your profile.

You can not blame people for what they don't know.

I have read some of the conversations between yourself and others here. You said you work for the NHS so you have to be discreet that's not on your profile

Have you not tried the swingers parties or clubs to get yourself acquainted with people away from fab who probably have fab and can give you more verifications

There's Romeo Styles Parties

Lockdown Lounge

Team players

Down and Dirty

Nubian nights

When you just resort to hear you will have to wait a long time if ever as you can't give much away on your profile.

Then when you go to the events try not to go with expectation of playing but rather enjoy socialising meeting new people you never know where it can lead to.I been going to the events alone just to enjoy the music have a chat and a laugh then occasionally it turns into play which is a nice surprise but if it doesn't I don't go home with a sour face but a smile that I got to meet lovely kind hearted people that shown respect for each other "
m

I have tried The attic swingers club as it is local to me but only been a few times. Difficult to go when they’ve got events on as most times it clashes with my work schedule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we both enjoy Asian guys but only 50 and over. Karen

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I would assume that a good number of women do like Asian men from outside their race anyways as well as Asian women from within

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