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When it comes to going to clubs...

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Do you only go if someone you know is going or do you leave it if there is no one you know going?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t that kind of the same thing?

But I know what you meant, I’ve been with people I know and on my own. First time was with someone from here (helped break the ice to cross the threshold) but since then I’ve gone alone and always had a good time

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Isn’t that kind of the same thing?

But I know what you meant, I’ve been with people I know and on my own. First time was with someone from here (helped break the ice to cross the threshold) but since then I’ve gone alone and always had a good time "

Going by myself is easy but if there if I don't see anyone there that I know, that's what concerns me.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

We go when it suits us, it's nice if there's people there we know but it doesn't matter

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire


"We go when it suits us, it's nice if there's people there we know but it doesn't matter "

Same for us. If we don't know anyone, it's a chance to make new friends.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"We go when it suits us, it's nice if there's people there we know but it doesn't matter

Same for us. If we don't know anyone, it's a chance to make new friends."

I've always found it more easy to talk people beforehand hand first as it helps me get to know them as it's hard for me to meet new people in person if I've never spoke to them before.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Do you only go if someone you know is going or do you leave it if there is no one you know going?"

Just this.

Except I would have to go in with them as well, I have really bad social anxiety when meeting up with people in group settings such as pubs or clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We go when it suits us, it's nice if there's people there we know but it doesn't matter

Same for us. If we don't know anyone, it's a chance to make new friends.

I've always found it more easy to talk people beforehand hand first as it helps me get to know them as it's hard for me to meet new people in person if I've never spoke to them before."

I hear you and empathise, but in my limited club experience when I’ve gone alone I’ve found good success when braving the challenge to break the ice and talk civilly to couples in the bar, mostly totally non-sexually, and then find I’m invited to join them later over and above those that don’t try to engage with them.

I know it’s hard to make that initial approach but most people are very friendly and welcoming to a *respectful* approach, and if they are not interested they will politely tell you so.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Do you only go if someone you know is going or do you leave it if there is no one you know going?

Just this.

Except I would have to go in with them as well, I have really bad social anxiety when meeting up with people in group settings such as pubs or clubs."

I know that feeling. I'm ok if there is someone I know that I can hang out with at the club but get a bit panicky if there's no one I know.

There is quite a dilemma when it comes to going if no one I know is going. If do I go, I won't enjoy myself and if I don't, I'd be afraid of missing out.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

We go for us… if there’s anyone there we fancy then bonus, if not then we get to enjoy ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very different for couples. Going alone is tough. I always go alone but been doing that for so long I know a shit ton of people now, there would not be a time where there was no one to talk to

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"We go when it suits us, it's nice if there's people there we know but it doesn't matter

Same for us. If we don't know anyone, it's a chance to make new friends.

I've always found it more easy to talk people beforehand hand first as it helps me get to know them as it's hard for me to meet new people in person if I've never spoke to them before.

I hear you and empathise, but in my limited club experience when I’ve gone alone I’ve found good success when braving the challenge to break the ice and talk civilly to couples in the bar, mostly totally non-sexually, and then find I’m invited to join them later over and above those that don’t try to engage with them.

I know it’s hard to make that initial approach but most people are very friendly and welcoming to a *respectful* approach, and if they are not interested they will politely tell you so. "

I know that most people are very friendly at clubs. It's just with me being part of an autistic spectrum (Asperger's), it is harder for me as o can find it hard to join in on a conversation and when I worry, my mind goes blank.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"It's very different for couples. Going alone is tough. I always go alone but been doing that for so long I know a shit ton of people now, there would not be a time where there was no one to talk to "

That is true that going alone is tough. I've seen you at Cupids a few times and you've always met up with friends there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just rock up and see how it goes. You may know some people, you may not, but you may come away having made new friends.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

We've rarely known anyone when we've been along, but of course, we have each other.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Just rock up and see how it goes. You may know some people, you may not, but you may come away having made new friends."

Only one way to find out and that is to go and see what happens.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I goto them on my own mostly from time to time .. sometimes I think it would be nice to have a person I could with but it's very hard finding a person to hang with socially like that as a trans woman .

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby


"Just rock up and see how it goes. You may know some people, you may not, but you may come away having made new friends."

This is generally my approach, and I've met some great people I now call friends. Sometimes, I just go for the socials and to get myself recognised (mainly due to my attire), which is something that's worked well for me at the last place I went to... especially my black shirt with gold feathers on it that seemed to go down a treat!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I take my fwb with me and we play together, it's rare I'll find someone I like in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we go alone, sometimes we go with a large group from our chat room we are in, sometimes there is only a few of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you only go if someone you know is going or do you leave it if there is no one you know going?"
Better to take a woman if you can, guaranteed then pretty much.

It's like a gamble on your own.

Sometimes can be playing all night or you're shit out of luck (have to choose nights to go in your favour)

or the only people looking for single guys are not people you want to play with.

Want to try get your money's worth.

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By *llSxy4UTV/TS
over a year ago

London & SE

Would love to be invited to a club xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to always go on my own. Wouldn't anymore.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Never been on my own I tried but didn’t get through the door. Atleast you can get in through the door after that everybody chats to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d only go if someone I knew was there or was going with me.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Never been on my own I tried but didn’t get through the door. Atleast you can get in through the door after that everybody chats to you "

If there's others there that I know, yeah.

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By *he Dark GentlemanMan
over a year ago

London

I have no problem going to a venue on my own as I'm quite sociable so doesn't take me long to meet and greet

Always a nice surprise if I get there and I see someone I know.

However I don't check who's going before I make my plans

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"I have no problem going to a venue on my own as I'm quite sociable so doesn't take me long to meet and greet

Always a nice surprise if I get there and I see someone I know.

However I don't check who's going before I make my plans "

I've always made sure to check who is going and if there are some that I know that are going, I'm alright

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By *anielpiercedMan
over a year ago

by the seaside


"Do you only go if someone you know is going or do you leave it if there is no one you know going?"

Generally go to clubs on my own, nice to meet new people face to face.

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By *unandgamegeek OP   Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"Do you only go if someone you know is going or do you leave it if there is no one you know going?

Generally go to clubs on my own, nice to meet new people face to face. "

It is indeed but can be scary sometimes

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

You always love it when you get into it but yes I agree it’s hard when your left on your own but you love going so just go with the flow and don’t over think it

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

If I’m going on my own I generally know people there. But it’s a lot more fun when you go with someone and plan the night together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always just go on my own I never really look to see if I know someone or not

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