FabSwingers.com forum: Weighing in...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

This is mainly for those who have lost/gained weight.

Recently I've noticed a marked difference in attention I'm receiving - in real life and away from Fab. I've also lost a fair bit of weight in the past four months.

So my questions - when you've lost/gained weight have you noticed a difference? Do you think it's down to increased confidence/comfort in who you are? Or a difference in libido?

In my head I still see myself as being very obese and then I get odd moments like being able to buy normal sized clothing. It's a weird feeling. Good. But weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m two stone heavier than I’d like to be. But if I was two stone lighter I’d look ill. Trying to shake off 40+ years of social conditioning that I ‘have’ to be as thin as possible is very difficult.

That said, I’m honest upfront that I’m curvy and because people then know what to expect I feel confident meeting. I can fill a FF bra and have a sizeable arse and everything is in proportion.

I’ve had nasty comments in the past and online but I’d get them regardless of my weight.

Certain clothes make me look bigger or smaller and I definitely don’t go without food these days just to try and be thinner.

Attitude trumps weight imo, if you’ve got confidence about whatever size you are then you’re winning

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

My weight varies a fair amount. I've been happily chilling at the lower end of my usual range for a while but when I'm desperately unhappy I do gain weight fast.

I do get more attention when I'm slimmer, but I really do believe that it has more to do with my happiness and confidence levels. When I'm fat it's because I'm unhappy, not the other way around.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

I lost a lot of weight a couple of years back, it was amazing for how I felt but it drew so much attention it overwhelmed me, I've put most of it back on and in some ways feel more relaxed? I'd love to be slimmer don't get me wrong for health in the future mainly but for how ill trudge along as i am and see how I feel x but yeah it was so good going into ships knowing I could pretty much pick anything up x now I have to be more selective x

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

I've lost around 2 / 2.5 stone in the last 18 months. I found I got attention when I was at my biggest, and now in at my smallest. But not really when I was in the middle.

My man prefers me at my smallest, but has said give myself a 1/2 stone lea way. So I don't panick if I gain a pound. I'm super happy as I can get into my wardrobe again. Although some of my smaller stuff is too big. We had a wonderful comment from a guy in a club the other night. He said, I always dress so sexy and too impress. Everytime he see's me in a club.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Lost 6kg since being ill, so about a stone. No-one has noticed, apart from my PT.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I was as fat as the first time I thought I was fat .

My weight fluctuates and sadly these days it goes up more than down

I'm probably bigger than I've ever been and actually I feel like I'm craving attention more (even though I don't currently feel like it would be genuine)

I guess I'm seeking some reassurance or external validation to almost give myself permission to relax. I think the prospect of turning 40 in a couple of months is a factor in all of this too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost over three stone in the last 15 months. I get a lot more attention now, in real life and on here. I think it’s because I have a lot more confidence now and it shows.

I do still see myself as big sometimes and it knocks me a little. I think that's the body dysmorphia trying to fuck with my head.

I feel sad for bigger me too, because people are so much nicer when you're slim. I notice men flirt more, open doors, view you as an actual person. And then friends and family are always like "you look so much better with all that weight off you" and "your face looks prettier" and it kind of hurts.

I am happier overall, as much as I do not judge anyone else I was not happy with my body when I was at my heaviest and I would like to lose another stone and a half in the next year. I really do despise the way so much value is placed on appearance though.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

I lost 3 and a half stone about 10 years ago, sadly put on a stone back on now that I'm desperate to lose.

I've never got much attention and to be honest I like it that way, getting attention away from fab from people that I have no interest in, makes me feel quite uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, fucking huge well done to those who have managed to lose weight you absolute legends! Also, to those who may not have, don't worry about it as you are beautiful regardless

To answer your question, having been rather skinny my whole life, I've gained a bit of weight when trying to build muscle and a side effect of that can be putting on a bit more fat which I'm not used to seeing. As a result, when I do notice, I can feel a bit low and not sexy and go on these 2 week mini-cuts where I don't eat as much but still try and train at the same intensity. It works, but I still don't like the inevitability of putting on more fat to gain muscle at the progress I want.

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By *endydick.CumbersnatchMan
over a year ago

Massive well done to those hitting their weight goals or making progress towards them. If you've stuck at it well beyond the New Years promises, by now you can be making big lifestyle changes and looking forwards to a fab spring and summer. You've a massive headstart into looking amazing for when the heats turns up.

For the fellas, this is something I think so many over look: don't settle for the dad bod excuse because you're literally hiding inches of cock and the ability to keep hard. Every fella would like an extra inch or stay up for longer, and losing even a little weight buys back length. As soon as your gut goes back, you'll gain length that every internet penis pump advert is falsely promising you. And a better circulation clears the pipes to keep the blood flows down there and keep you bigger and harder for longer.

Add to that, some firmness around the base of your shaft (not too much, no girl wants to shag a skeleton) really help put pressure on the clit which she'll love you for.

If there's ever a motivation to get fit or stay trim, knowing you have your full potential length and how to use is worth it, even if it isn't the same public bragging rights down the pub as lifting 100kg

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

My dress size has been fairly consistent through my adult life although I am noticing a distinct 'ponch' which I never had before which can make be feel pretty low.

I have started going to the gym, more to improve fitness than anything - won't likely lose weight as I like cake too much

I'm trying to be kind to myself and just enjoy and look after the body I have as much as I can. More so with watching friends with health problems they couldn't forsee, I feel being a bit overweight, but healthy is a blessing

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I'm loosing weight due to new medication since July last year! Others have complimented me even my diabetic nurse informed me I'm no longer obese just overweight! But tbh I don't want to keep loosing it I'm happy with my weight x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I've been a range of sizes as an adult from a 10 to a 22. My size when I'm at a decent balance is a 14/16.

Attention with people being friendly etc has happened at all sizes. Though I probably noticed negative comments more when I was largest and not as happy in myself. And I think possibly when we're happier in ourselves we tend to believe that others may find us attractive and are more receptive to advances from others. And it becomes a positive feedback loop which I guess is an addictive feeling. Which is why I ended up so slim and not in a good place. I guess with everything there's a balance to be had with managing these feelings.

In short after my ramble, is I don't believe we change the attitudes of people, when our size changes. Fab is evidence enough that people like/dislike all shapes and sizes. So it's how we perceive the world around us that changes.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I lost 3 stone 11 years ago. I received more attention after losing weight but I honestly think that was entirely down to the fact that I was far more confident in my physical appearance, changed the way I dressed and walked around with my head held high and a smile on my face.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Ive found no difference here, Ive ranged from a 16 to a 22 due to different health issues, but my average is always 18/20.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is mainly for those who have lost/gained weight.

Recently I've noticed a marked difference in attention I'm receiving - in real life and away from Fab. I've also lost a fair bit of weight in the past four months.

So my questions - when you've lost/gained weight have you noticed a difference? Do you think it's down to increased confidence/comfort in who you are? Or a difference in libido?

In my head I still see myself as being very obese and then I get odd moments like being able to buy normal sized clothing. It's a weird feeling. Good. But weird."

Well done on the weight loss, it's not easy but worth it

I'm currently a size 6, but have been as big as 24.

I get so much more attention everywhere (good & bad!) I did it primarily for my health, for me. I ignore most of the attention I get now because I'm absolutely the same person I always have been. It has to be for you that you work on yourself because you'll have people telling you look ill, you look great, you're too thin etc etc. So many opposing views so it's essential you keep in mind why you're doing it. My libido's the same - high overall

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm around 2 stone heavier than my usual weight after having the little one, the other half is loving the larger boobs, I don't think attention has changed though, about the same on here.

I'm just a bit wary of the mum tum, but it's that dilemma loose the tum and loose the boobs or keep a little wobble and keep the boobs

I'm undecided.

Mrs

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I was always really slim, up until my 30s, at I had my son I was like a size 4-6, that definitely wasn't all that attractive, but men seemed to like that I was so tiny.

After a back injury, and numerous kinds of medication, at my biggest I was a size 14, 12st 4, I didn't always feel particularly sexy but my bum and boobs looked rather good... So I'd still get plenty of attention. Went back down to a 10 , now a 12. Not sure it's really made much difference, I don't think men care as much as we think they do. I've certainly never had any horrible comments (only from other women actually)

I would love to be back in a 10, but I don't see that happening lol

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’m two stone heavier than I’d like to be. But if I was two stone lighter I’d look ill. Trying to shake off 40+ years of social conditioning that I ‘have’ to be as thin as possible is very difficult.

That said, I’m honest upfront that I’m curvy and because people then know what to expect I feel confident meeting. I can fill a FF bra and have a sizeable arse and everything is in proportion.

I’ve had nasty comments in the past and online but I’d get them regardless of my weight.

Certain clothes make me look bigger or smaller and I definitely don’t go without food these days just to try and be thinner.

Attitude trumps weight imo, if you’ve got confidence about whatever size you are then you’re winning

Yep, I definitely think attitude/confidence really does carry a lot of weight. I'm coming back to this a bit late as I've been busy.

I think people will, if they want to, always find something dickish to say about your appearance. Size might make it easier for them to but it shouldn't influence how you feel about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was quite poorly and lost a lot of weight I really didn’t want to! Certainly didn’t help my confidence losing it…. Need to build myself back up a bit now

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"My weight varies a fair amount. I've been happily chilling at the lower end of my usual range for a while but when I'm desperately unhappy I do gain weight fast.

I do get more attention when I'm slimmer, but I really do believe that it has more to do with my happiness and confidence levels. When I'm fat it's because I'm unhappy, not the other way around."

Yes, I think happiness makes such a difference in how we come across to others - when you're happier regardless of size, people are more likely to want to interact with you.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm finally in the overweight rather than obese bmi but haven't noticed much difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My weight varies a fair amount. I've been happily chilling at the lower end of my usual range for a while but when I'm desperately unhappy I do gain weight fast.

I do get more attention when I'm slimmer, but I really do believe that it has more to do with my happiness and confidence levels. When I'm fat it's because I'm unhappy, not the other way around.

Yes, I think happiness makes such a difference in how we come across to others - when you're happier regardless of size, people are more likely to want to interact with you.

I agree with that 100%… works both ways too. A lot of people think I should be full of confidence on here but when you have a set back either way health/weight wise it’s the confidence in yourself that really takes the knock! If u love yourself it shows and that’s the sexiest thing there is

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By *atthew78Man
over a year ago

Winsford

"This is mainly for those who have lost/gained weight.

Recently I've noticed a marked difference in attention I'm receiving - in real life and away from Fab. I've also lost a fair bit of weight in the past four months.

So my questions - when you've lost/gained weight have you noticed a difference? Do you think it's down to increased confidence/comfort in who you are? Or a difference in libido?

In my head I still see myself as being very obese and then I get odd moments like being able to buy normal sized clothing. It's a weird feeling. Good. But weird."

I think you are very pretty and have a lovely voice x

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I’ve put on a good 2 stone since I joined Fab

the pandemic wreaked havoc on me and all the discipline and good habits went out the window.

Curiously enough, attention towards me hasn’t diminished and I can still get *very* good meets. But my confidence is rock bottom at the moment. I am very busy with my work, but whenever I have the time for socials, I feel extremely self conscious. Going to a club? Right now? Nope! I’d feel very self conscious … though it’s all in my head. People still recognise me from my photos and compliment me…

So I need to get back to that weight/size I feel confident in. I even feel self conscious at work- I feel people won’t take me seriously/respect me as much because I am overweight.

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By *atthew78Man
over a year ago

Winsford

I'm nit body confident at the moment and working on that hopefully by summer I'll have a different view on that

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By *utie bootyMan
over a year ago

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I got much more compliments and felt sexier when I was bigger / heavier, like 34 waist 46 chest I used to look at slimmer guys like runners 30/32 waist and think how unsexy they were and now I’m slowly becoming one. I’m think am gonna go back to heavy lifts

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Fox has lost a lot of weight in recent years and dropped several dress sizes.

I've probably put on a stone or two.

Not sure there's been any drastic changes to my libido but hers has definitely changed (for the better) as has her confidence.

She didn't do it for me or for anyone other than herself but I've noticed the change and having bumped into some people we'd not seen for several years at a club recently they barely recognised her.

I guess the key is just to be happy in yourself. If that means losing or gaining weight then great. If that means working out and bulking up, also great. If you have no plans to change and are happy and content as you are? Yep - also great.

I could probably do with losing some padding but hey - not my fault Donuts taste good.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I got much more compliments and felt sexier when I was bigger / heavier, like 34 waist 46 chest I used to look at slimmer guys like runners 30/32 waist and think how unsexy they were and now I’m slowly becoming one. I’m think am gonna go back to heavy lifts "

Slim can be sexy

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I lost a lot of weight a couple of years back, it was amazing for how I felt but it drew so much attention it overwhelmed me, I've put most of it back on and in some ways feel more relaxed? I'd love to be slimmer don't get me wrong for health in the future mainly but for how ill trudge along as i am and see how I feel x but yeah it was so good going into ships knowing I could pretty much pick anything up x now I have to be more selective x

Having that choice is fantastic isn't it? I've not been able to shop standard size ranges of clothing before, not in my adult life anyway.

I can understand feeling more relaxed, it's kind of a bit overwhelming at times if that makes sense? I've never really struggled to get attention when wanted but it's mainly based on mind rather physicality and I'm comfortable with that. It's different when it's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost 5 trouser sizes due to lockdown had to go shopping for clothes and shocked I could get stuff in main stream stores

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"This is mainly for those who have lost/gained weight.

Recently I've noticed a marked difference in attention I'm receiving - in real life and away from Fab. I've also lost a fair bit of weight in the past four months.

So my questions - when you've lost/gained weight have you noticed a difference? Do you think it's down to increased confidence/comfort in who you are? Or a difference in libido?

In my head I still see myself as being very obese and then I get odd moments like being able to buy normal sized clothing. It's a weird feeling. Good. But weird."

I hit 60 this July and made a challenge to be as fit as possible. I have cut out the fast food, exercised in the gym weights, running, and swimming, walking 10,000 steps per day since November last year.

I do feel a lot better in myself, as to attention on here there is no change. Not that I expected it to.

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