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Short answer... no. And she should probably have mentioned it earlier.
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. " so a relationship then?  | |||
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"Comedy answer... yes. All the women want your babbies cos you're so pretty
Short answer... no. And she should probably have mentioned it earlier.
I'm sorry PD. It sucks when that happens."I do make cute babies  | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. so a relationship then? "You can have them without babies | |||
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"I've been in this position a fair few times. Hinge has the option to show how you feel about more kids doesn't it? I remember setting mine as don't want any. Though can also choose to hide it I guess. " I don't think it does, I'm going to go check mine! I know match.com allows you to state if you have children and don't want any more | |||
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"I've been in this position a fair few times. Hinge has the option to show how you feel about more kids doesn't it? I remember setting mine as don't want any. Though can also choose to hide it I guess. I don't think it does, I'm going to go check mine! I know match.com allows you to state if you have children and don't want any more" I take that back! You're right | |||
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"Comedy answer... yes. All the women want your babbies cos you're so pretty
Short answer... no. And she should probably have mentioned it earlier.
I'm sorry PD. It sucks when that happens.
I do make cute babies "I bet you do!  | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. " Its a fine line between putting everything in your profile and making it so long that no one reads it and making it readable with enough information to perk peoples interest. | |||
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"She probably worried that mentioning kids in her profile might put off guys that could potentially be talked in to it after getting to know her. I don't do dating apps so I don't know what is normal prolife content, but doesn't it seem a bit heavy to be talking about having children right off the bat " Maybe but I don't think many 40yo want kids really | |||
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"Ahh sorry it didn’t work out OP. I don’t think she shouldn’t have to put it on her profile, it can come across a bit forward to people she’s looking to date. She told you in good time if you’ve only been chatting a week. It’s better it’s out there now before you started getting invested/seeing each other. " Yeah it's important info, we were meant to see each other yesterday but then we rearrange for Thursday but definitely not happening now. | |||
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"She probably worried that mentioning kids in her profile might put off guys that could potentially be talked in to it after getting to know her. " Or she might be worried of attracting guys with impregnation fetishism. Pump and run dudes  | |||
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"I've been in this position a fair few times. Hinge has the option to show how you feel about more kids doesn't it? I remember setting mine as don't want any. Though can also choose to hide it I guess. I don't think it does, I'm going to go check mine! I know match.com allows you to state if you have children and don't want any more I take that back! You're right" Omg you doubted me!? I'm hurt! I thought we were cool. I've been on there long enough to know  | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile?" At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. " Sorry to hear about this, OP. Very frustrating and I’ve been there many times! For what it’s worth, I’m on a dating app and I don’t want kids (I’m not asking you out haha). I make a point now of saying in a nice manner that I am not interested in having kids. I find it prevents this kind of situation. Just a thought  | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. " You're 40! If it's important to you and you expect people to make it clear to you that they do want children by the same token you should make it clear that you don't. | |||
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"I've been in this position a fair few times. Hinge has the option to show how you feel about more kids doesn't it? I remember setting mine as don't want any. Though can also choose to hide it I guess. " Yes it does have the option, I didn't realise I'd set as don't want but was hidden. | |||
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"Do you state on your profile you don't want any more children? Thats the same as her saying she wants children on her profile. Dating apps are hard work "I have now, that was the only one that didn't say either way and yes they're | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. Sorry to hear about this, OP. Very frustrating and I’ve been there many times! For what it’s worth, I’m on a dating app and I don’t want kids (I’m not asking you out haha). I make a point now of saying in a nice manner that I am not interested in having kids. I find it prevents this kind of situation. Just a thought "Profile is adjusted accordingly now so it shouldn't happen again hopefully, that's if they actually read it | |||
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"A week is hardly a long time to bring it up " | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. " But the women are probably thinking you’d be clear on your profile if you were completely anti having kids in the future… I have Hinge and it has an option about kids. Mine says ‘open to children’. | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. You're 40! If it's important to you and you expect people to make it clear to you that they do want children by the same token you should make it clear that you don't. " I have done, that was the only site I hadn't done. Had selected didn't want but was hidden for some reason. Lessons learnt on that one | |||
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"Ah no, that's poop. I'm sorry love. But on to the next one. And maybe put it in your profile to slim down the chance of this happening again." I'd appreciate boobs to distract me | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. But the women are probably thinking you’d be clear on your profile if you were completely anti having kids in the future… I have Hinge and it has an option about kids. Mine says ‘open to children’." Yeah it says it now | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. But the women are probably thinking you’d be clear on your profile if you were completely anti having kids in the future… I have Hinge and it has an option about kids. Mine says ‘open to children’." You’re on hinge you say noted | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. But the women are probably thinking you’d be clear on your profile if you were completely anti having kids in the future… I have Hinge and it has an option about kids. Mine says ‘open to children’. You’re on hinge you say noted "You planning on catfishing me?  | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. " You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. | |||
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"No, they don't PD, you must know that. It sounds a bit meh to find out when you're getting on so well. At the same time, it's good to find that out now before you're emotionally and mentally invested in someone. Hopefully with it being clearer on your profile now you'll be able to enjoy future interactions without that little niggle in the back of your mind." It's frustrating but is what it is, I'm more about having fun anyway than something serious and having kids is definitely serious. | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. " Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. But the women are probably thinking you’d be clear on your profile if you were completely anti having kids in the future… I have Hinge and it has an option about kids. Mine says ‘open to children’. You’re on hinge you say noted
You planning on catfishing me? "it was for red but I could always make another profile dinner for 8pm | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. But the women are probably thinking you’d be clear on your profile if you were completely anti having kids in the future… I have Hinge and it has an option about kids. Mine says ‘open to children’. You’re on hinge you say noted
You planning on catfishing me? it was for red but I could always make another profile dinner for 8pm "Oh yeah, my bad | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. " Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. | |||
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But no. Sadly it is the way it is sometimes. If it's a deal breaker on both sides it's best to just leave it.
But you're very pretty, and appear to have a good personality to go with it from what I've seen around here. You'll find someone right for you soon enough | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person." So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person." Lots of things, sounds like you probably come across as too keen and and bit pushy when talking to someone by the sounds of it | |||
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"I mean, I do want your spunk
But no. Sadly it is the way it is sometimes. If it's a deal breaker on both sides it's best to just leave it.
But you're very pretty, and appear to have a good personality to go with it from what I've seen around here. You'll find someone right for you soon enough "You can have my spunk, you know that
Just not in the way she wants it swimming and meeting her egg
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense." Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. | |||
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"If it helps I left all dating sites because everyone was wanting kids and didn't think it was funny when I said my baby factory had been condemned by its owner never to be put to work again! Apparently 'at my age' I should be wanting at least one more since mine is now older "This is why I don't really go on them often | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. Lots of things, sounds like you probably come across as too keen and and bit pushy when talking to someone by the sounds of it "It was only a week! That's not too long to not have met. Sounds like it was just a shame that you both weren't on the same page | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. Lots of things, sounds like you probably come across as too keen and and bit pushy when talking to someone by the sounds of it "I don't waste a week of my time talking on a phone to somebody I've never met, you are correct. I find out quickly. | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. Lots of things, sounds like you probably come across as too keen and and bit pushy when talking to someone by the sounds of it
It was only a week! That's not too long to not have met. Sounds like it was just a shame that you both weren't on the same page "Exactly, I speak to people on fab for months and years before getting to meet them. People have things to do and life isn't all about my sexy arse | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. Lots of things, sounds like you probably come across as too keen and and bit pushy when talking to someone by the sounds of it
It was only a week! That's not too long to not have met. Sounds like it was just a shame that you both weren't on the same page
Exactly, I speak to people on fab for months and years before getting to meet them. People have things to do and life isn't all about my sexy arse "It isn't. You also have other sexy parts | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. Lots of things, sounds like you probably come across as too keen and and bit pushy when talking to someone by the sounds of it I don't waste a week of my time talking on a phone to somebody I've never met, you are correct.
I find out quickly. "We aren't all in a race to meet and you will find most on here won't meet that quickly and for good reason. | |||
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" Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. " It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. You should be more direct, A week just talking on a phone is too long. Ask them out quickly, they give excuses etc they are not that into you. That could just be an excuse too. Oh she was definitely into me until the not interested in having kids part, we were meant to meet already but rearranged for Thursday. Singing my praises and saying I'd earnt a lot of brownie points for things I'd said. Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. Lots of things, sounds like you probably come across as too keen and and bit pushy when talking to someone by the sounds of it
It was only a week! That's not too long to not have met. Sounds like it was just a shame that you both weren't on the same page
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" Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it." Exactly this Red, you always speak sense | |||
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" Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it." That's what she said, and I agree with that. Getting to know people regardless of the outcome is enjoyable. And I say that as somebody who is not overly sociable | |||
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Just not in the way she wants it swimming and meeting her egg
Thank you for saying so "Don't worry, I just want to swallow if all. Breeding is definitely not on my to do list. You are lovely though. Don't let this shit get you down | |||
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Just not in the way she wants it swimming and meeting her egg
Thank you for saying so
Don't worry, I just want to swallow if all. Breeding is definitely not on my to do list.
You are lovely though. Don't let this shit get you down "Also what she said. The latter, not the former... | |||
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"You can have my spunk, you know that
Just not in the way she wants it swimming and meeting her egg
Thank you for saying so
Don't worry, I just want to swallow if all. Breeding is definitely not on my to do list.
You are lovely though. Don't let this shit get you down "You can definitely swallow it all
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Just not in the way she wants it swimming and meeting her egg
Thank you for saying so
Don't worry, I just want to swallow if all. Breeding is definitely not on my to do list.
You are lovely though. Don't let this shit get you down
Also what she said. The latter, not the former... "I'm glad you cleared that up straight away, excuse the pun | |||
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" Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it." Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. " Bringing it up super early/putting it in a profile can put some guys off. You’ve only been chatting a week, it’s not really that long. You’re disappointed as it was going well, but It’s not her fault you’ve had kids already and don’t want anymore. Maybe you should state that in your own profile? | |||
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" Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. " I'm guessing she didn't want to meet me after because of the risk of catching more feelings for me. Why would she still want to meet anyone that doesn’t want the same as her, she's not desperate. | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. Bringing it up super early/putting it in a profile can put some guys off. You’ve only been chatting a week, it’s not really that long. You’re disappointed as it was going well, but It’s not her fault you’ve had kids already and don’t want anymore. Maybe you should state that in your own profile? " Nobody is putting blame on the other for what they want
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" Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. I'm guessing she didn't want to meet me after because of the risk of catching more feelings for me. Why would she still want to meet anyone that doesn’t want the same as her, she's not desperate. " I've met women before when when they have been looking for a relationship and I told them I wasn't. | |||
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" Pay attention to what a woman does not what she says. What were you talking about for so long before finding that out too? Only so much you can talk about on a phone, just say I'd rather tell you in person. So she can tell you to your face, she still wants kids, and you don’t? Yep, that makes perfect sense. Quite heavy conversation too when you've never met somebody. Meeting at least would of been better than talking on a phone. It is not as personal. Why he can be discarded so easily. It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. I'm guessing she didn't want to meet me after because of the risk of catching more feelings for me. Why would she still want to meet anyone that doesn’t want the same as her, she's not desperate. I've met women before when when they have been looking for a relationship and I told them I wasn't. " She doesn't just want some fun | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? "I like to decipher things. Find out the true motivation. Would you still meet the person in this situation? While you were single etc | |||
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" I like to decipher things. Find out the true motivation. Would you still meet the person in this situation? While you were single etc" Eh? Why would there be a hidden meaning behind ‘I’d like to have kids’ ?? | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc"Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it. If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun. I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark. | |||
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"A future with someone would involve all the details. A short fling requires a name and a place to meet up. Op, thank her for going through all that with you, you liked each other enough to get to the finer details. It just didn’t work out perfectly. Thank yourself for finding that out now instead of down the line when you’ve invested some of your heart. "Yeah exactly, I don't need more heartache in my life Woody | |||
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"A future with someone would involve all the details. A short fling requires a name and a place to meet up. Op, thank her for going through all that with you, you liked each other enough to get to the finer details. It just didn’t work out perfectly. Thank yourself for finding that out now instead of down the line when you’ve invested some of your heart. "This | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
"The plot thickens... She told you there be no sex for 3 dates. She definitely wasn't into you mate. Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future. | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
"You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do? There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that | |||
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"Come on guys. You know better than to play around the bridge during feeding time. " This tickled me too much | |||
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"Dating apps suck. We all have our deal breakers. And it's difficult to ask them without sounding like an interview. That said, when you do find a miss match, then shake hands and walk away. If this issue is wasting time... Then get a coffee in early doors. And know what yr boundaries are ... And where you may trip over others. (This that cant do, preach ... I struggle with bring up ENM each and every time!)" I don't feel like I've wasted time, I like talking to people regardless, it's just dissapointing when there's something major that you differ on. It's just the way life goes. | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do?
There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that "Women who are into you don't set time constraints and verbally tell you that. It would happen naturally. | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do?
There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that Women who are into you don't set time constraints and verbally tell you that. It would happen naturally.
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"I'm presuming she was a fair bit younger than you OP? (I can't see many women your age wanting kids "in the future"). I'd suggest it needs to be clearly on your profile, as folk like us (those not wanting kids) are a minority, or so I keep getting told! Failing that, date your own age - menopause sorts the issue for you "She's 34, not a massive difference really. I've changed my profile now anyway as obviously be a mature guy doesn't shout I don't want kids enough | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do?
There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that Women who are into you don't set time constraints and verbally tell you that. It would happen naturally.
Do you live in a alternate reality where people don't have rules when dating? "For you to not grasp that they wouldn't say that, you obviously lack game. Don't be txting good morning beautiful or goodnight sweetheart etc. | |||
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" I like to decipher things. Find out the true motivation. Would you still meet the person in this situation? While you were single etc Eh? Why would there be a hidden meaning behind ‘I’d like to have kids’ ?? You didn't answer the question? " Of course, if it was PD and I chatting, I totally would. I’d love a piece of that ass 
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I am perfectly willing to believe they have plenty of experience dealing with women who aren't into them. Listen to the voice of experience "I think you're definitely right there | |||
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" I like to decipher things. Find out the true motivation. Would you still meet the person in this situation? While you were single etc Eh? Why would there be a hidden meaning behind ‘I’d like to have kids’ ?? You didn't answer the question? Of course, if it was PD and I chatting, I totally would. I’d love a piece of that ass
But I’m sure it’s abundantly clear that I’ve been in the fabs scene for long enough, and I can understand that some people are not at all open to casual/short term flings, that deviate from their long term plans, ie, having kids "Get in my bed already
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do?
There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that Women who are into you don't set time constraints and verbally tell you that. It would happen naturally.
Do you live in a alternate reality where people don't have rules when dating? For you to not grasp that they wouldn't say that, you obviously lack game.
Don't be txting good morning beautiful or goodnight sweetheart etc. "There's lots of people on here that would disagree about me lacking game, I think you should look in the mirror and say that to yourself | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
"What a narrow minded and utterly ridiculous statement. If I’m meeting someone for normal dating and genuinely want a long term relationship with them, I avoid sex for the first couple/few dates. It helps establish a bond beyond just physical coupling, trust, respect and shows I’m not just trying to shag and move on. I suspect you are just trying to get a rise out of people this afternoon and I promised myself I wouldn’t take bait anymore. But still | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
What a narrow minded and utterly ridiculous statement.
If I’m meeting someone for normal dating and genuinely want a long term relationship with them, I avoid sex for the first couple/few dates.
It helps establish a bond beyond just physical coupling, trust, respect and shows I’m not just trying to shag and move on.
I suspect you are just trying to get a rise out of people this afternoon and I promised myself I wouldn’t take bait anymore.
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"Piscean Dream has plenty of game. And he doesn't play games either. Some people could learn a lot from this man. " Sorry | |||
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"I'm the same, got enough kids thanks, don't want any more. Very honest about this as a lot of guys my age on dating sites haven't had any and a lot of those are wanting them. They'd be wasting everyone's time chatting to me." I should have just had it on my profile already but lesson learnt, also great profile. | |||
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"Piscean Dream has plenty of game. And he doesn't play games either. Some people could learn a lot from this man. Sorry "I like your games | |||
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"Dating apps suck. We all have our deal breakers. And it's difficult to ask them without sounding like an interview. That said, when you do find a miss match, then shake hands and walk away. If this issue is wasting time... Then get a coffee in early doors. And know what yr boundaries are ... And where you may trip over others. (This that cant do, preach ... I struggle with bring up ENM each and every time!) I don't feel like I've wasted time, I like talking to people regardless, it's just dissapointing when there's something major that you differ on. It's just the way life goes. " . I'd forgotten the tone of your OP by the time I wrote this!
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"Come on guys. You know better than to play around the bridge during feeding time. But feeding time has been all damn day today, no?!
Maybe it is a case of The very hungry Caterpillar. Eats and eats and eats until one day a beautiful butterfly emerges from its cocoon of self reflection.
Okay maybe pushing it..."Now I want one of those caterpillar cakes, damn it | |||
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"Piscean Dream has plenty of game. And he doesn't play games either. Some people could learn a lot from this man. Sorry
I like your games "But I don't have games! Well I did, but it's collecting dust in the attic with my board games. | |||
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"Piscean Dream has plenty of game. And he doesn't play games either. Some people could learn a lot from this man. " I play games, just the right ones | |||
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"Piscean Dream has plenty of game. And he doesn't play games either. Some people could learn a lot from this man. Sorry
I like your games
But I don't have games! Well I did, but it's collecting dust in the attic with my board games. "I'll bring Uno | |||
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"Piscean Dream has plenty of game. And he doesn't play games either. Some people could learn a lot from this man. I play games, just the right ones "Hide the sausage? I'm told that's a good game. | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
What a narrow minded and utterly ridiculous statement.
If I’m meeting someone for normal dating and genuinely want a long term relationship with them, I avoid sex for the first couple/few dates.
It helps establish a bond beyond just physical coupling, trust, respect and shows I’m not just trying to shag and move on.
I suspect you are just trying to get a rise out of people this afternoon and I promised myself I wouldn’t take bait anymore.
But still
We all lack game buddy, I guess it's only bulls that have that "
We can’t all be dating dynamite, eh!
A few years ago, I dated someone really special. We were getting on just great and I was beginning to think about long term plans.
I’m the early days, she had been skating children to the extent I assumed she just didn’t want any. I never have so I thought - bingo baby!!
That’s when she dropped the bombshell she did want them. We had a heart wrenching separation.
Tough as it is, this didn’t go as badly as it could have. Rough to have got that far though, eh.
I miss out on great sounding women all the time because of that choice, but there is always someone else. This will sound condescending, but a (young!) guy like you will easily find another nice one.
I’ve also found there are lots of women these days focussing on career/travel/interests instead of having kids. Seems to be more common now. | |||
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Totally agree. A shame, but hey ho. Plenty more hinges in the Tindersphere. "If I was 10 years younger then I might have been open to the idea in the future but I'm not. I'm happy being single anyway, means I get to meet people. | |||
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"I'm the same, got enough kids thanks, don't want any more. Very honest about this as a lot of guys my age on dating sites haven't had any and a lot of those are wanting them. They'd be wasting everyone's time chatting to me." There are also 40/50 year olds, who are looking for a stable relationship, that includes babies as well, the mono family happy ever after is popular | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do?
There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that Women who are into you don't set time constraints and verbally tell you that. It would happen naturally.
Do you live in a alternate reality where people don't have rules when dating? For you to not grasp that they wouldn't say that, you obviously lack game.
Don't be txting good morning beautiful or goodnight sweetheart etc. "For you to not grasp that some women and men do set boundaries when it comes to sex with someone they hope to be with long term shows just how much of a small mind you have. You know the build a bridge and get over it saying, more like build a bridge and get under it will you
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
What a narrow minded and utterly ridiculous statement.
If I’m meeting someone for normal dating and genuinely want a long term relationship with them, I avoid sex for the first couple/few dates.
It helps establish a bond beyond just physical coupling, trust, respect and shows I’m not just trying to shag and move on.
I suspect you are just trying to get a rise out of people this afternoon and I promised myself I wouldn’t take bait anymore.
But still
We all lack game buddy, I guess it's only bulls that have that
We can’t all be dating dynamite, eh!
A few years ago, I dated someone really special. We were getting on just great and I was beginning to think about long term plans.
I’m the early days, she had been skating children to the extent I assumed she just didn’t want any. I never have so I thought - bingo baby!!
That’s when she dropped the bombshell she did want them. We had a heart wrenching separation.
Tough as it is, this didn’t go as badly as it could have. Rough to have got that far though, eh.
I miss out on great sounding women all the time because of that choice, but there is always someone else. This will sound condescending, but a (young!) guy like you will easily find another nice one.
I’ve also found there are lots of women these days focussing on career/travel/interests instead of having kids. Seems to be more common now."Sorry to hear that buddy, it's a big thing though wanting or not wanting kids and if you aren't both in agreement then it's never fair on the other. You can make up for lost time on here though and I'm sure my youngish self will meet lots of lovely people and I'm sure you will also | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do?
There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that "I agree, I now have a 3 date or more rule. Ms | |||
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Aren't all wanks lonely? Am I meant to ask the neighbours to talk to me while I do it? "See? Now ya thinking! | |||
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"There’s gonna be a sad, lonely wank coming up.
Aren't all wanks lonely? Am I meant to ask the neighbours to talk to me while I do it?
See? Now ya thinking! "You haven't seen my neighbours
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"There’s gonna be a sad, lonely wank coming up.
Aren't all wanks lonely? Am I meant to ask the neighbours to talk to me while I do it?
See? Now ya thinking!
You haven't seen my neighbours
If I go a few doors down though, I'd let her "Being serious for once, just find a lady who doesn’t want commitment. | |||
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"It’s a massive waste of time meeting someone, if the basics of compatibility aren’t there, especially when you find yourself matching with someone who doesn’t live ten minutes away. Spending a bit of time chatting about common interests, life goals and hell, I don’t know, showing you give a shit, is exactly what I and many other women like. But if you want to cut all that out and demand a meeting within two messages, you go for it. Which is why I suspect it might not be the case. If they got on so well, she would surely still like to meet, perhaps until she finds Mr Right. You’re all about the positive vibes today aren’t you? I like to decipher things.
Find out the true motivation.
Would you still meet the person in this situation?
While you were single etc
Her reason is her and me want different things, there's nothing to decipher about it.
If I find someone attractive then yes I would still meet them but I'm capable of spending time with someone I like and not catching feelings if I know it's nothing more than fun.
I'm guessing she's not able to do that and doesn't want to get hurt, she had already told me that there would be no sex for 3 dates to make sure there was definitely a spark.
The plot thickens...
She told you there be no sex for 3 dates.
She definitely wasn't into you mate.
Change your approach to save you wasting time in the future.
You do realise not everyone opens their legs straight away? Do you only meet and talk to people that do?
There's zero wrong with my approach I can assure you of that Women who are into you don't set time constraints and verbally tell you that. It would happen naturally.
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. " Is Hinge an adoption agency ? | |||
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"Spent over a week talking to someone I met through Hinge and wasn't till yesterday she asked about kids and said she wanted them in the future. I have kids already and definitely don't want more, surely she should say in her profile that she won't see anyone that doesn't want to have kids in the future. It's a shame because we were getting on really well and have spoken a lot and lots in common, just not the wanting kids part. Is Hinge an adoption agency ?" | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. " 40 isn't too old for a man to have children. | |||
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"Did you think to put anything on your profile about already having children and don't want any more? Or to mention it earlier in your conversation?" Doesn’t quite work as easily as that. I once said to a lady “hey babe, let’s have one” - referring to some post shag choccies and she started talking about nappies and child care and prams and stuff. | |||
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"I definitely don't want anymore, far too old for all that not I still get asked about it. I guess it's different for men, they have the option to keep making babies well into their older years. I know a few who have had more, in new relationships, later on and regretted it. " Rod Stewart ..... say no more | |||
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"In the REAL world - You know the world before everyone got weird on the internet ...... NO ONE spoke about children or even dated with the idea of eventually having children. We just dated someone you liked for the fun the shits n giggles and eventually love and only THEN did you start thinking about settling down and children .. I'd die a death if someone I barely knew had asked me how I felt about children in the future. What happened to living ?" Exactly, either biological clock was ticking way too fast or she was just wasn't that into him. | |||
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"In the REAL world - You know the world before everyone got weird on the internet ...... NO ONE spoke about children or even dated with the idea of eventually having children. We just dated someone you liked for the fun the shits n giggles and eventually love and only THEN did you start thinking about settling down and children .. I'd die a death if someone I barely knew had asked me how I felt about children in the future. What happened to living ?" …but the world is full of those same people who couldn’t give two shits about their kids, as a result of that mindset, Granny. My Dad’s one! | |||
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"Ahh sorry it didn’t work out OP. I don’t think she shouldn’t have to put it on her profile, it can come across a bit forward to people she’s looking to date. She told you in good time if you’ve only been chatting a week. It’s better it’s out there now before you started getting invested/seeing each other. " Jamie is wise
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"In the REAL world - You know the world before everyone got weird on the internet ...... NO ONE spoke about children or even dated with the idea of eventually having children. We just dated someone you liked for the fun the shits n giggles and eventually love and only THEN did you start thinking about settling down and children .. I'd die a death if someone I barely knew had asked me how I felt about children in the future. What happened to living ? …but the world is full of those same people who couldn’t give two shits about their kids, as a result of that mindset, Granny. My Dad’s one! "The world has its fair share of shit parents but it's not as a result of dating someone and there is no correlation between planning for children and being good parents. | |||
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"Did you think to put anything on your profile about already having children and don't want any more? Or to mention it earlier in your conversation?" Yes I did, it's on all my profiles that I already have and don't want more, I just didn't realise it wasn't showing on there | |||
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"Have you put that you don't want kids on your profile? At my age I don't think it's necessary to write I don't want them, I think if you do want them it's important to say before talking though if it's something set your mind on. 40 isn't too old for a man to have children. " Yeah I don't want to be dealing with a stroppy kid in my 50's | |||
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"Ahh sorry it didn’t work out OP. I don’t think she shouldn’t have to put it on her profile, it can come across a bit forward to people she’s looking to date. She told you in good time if you’ve only been chatting a week. It’s better it’s out there now before you started getting invested/seeing each other. Jamie is wise
Sorry it didn't go to plan."Yeah she is, I've always liked her but she knows it | |||
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"Isn't it a filter on most apps now? I wouldn't know cos dating isn't for me. Not unless it includes swinging, which is just awkward to bring up on standard sites without being called names..." Maybe I should have asked her that first | |||
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"I definitely don't want anymore, far too old for all that not I still get asked about it. I guess it's different for men, they have the option to keep making babies well into their older years. I know a few who have had more, in new relationships, later on and regretted it. Rod Stewart ..... say no more" Des O'Connor... | |||
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"Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me Who was it shaggy? " Just Pete | |||
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"Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me " It's always you. | |||
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"Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me It's always you." (penis) (vagina). (Gapping) | |||
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"Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me Who was it shaggy? Just Pete " what happened to bro code | |||
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