FabSwingers.com forum: What gets me annoyed?

By *ob and Dee OP Woman
over a year ago

crook

recently i have had three meets and the guy's have turned up after having a drink and coudnt get a hard on.this pissed me off (pardon the pun) because rob took me to all three meets and although the guy's werent d*unk as such they had,drank enough to make them soft. I wont waste my time and play with a cock that wont get hard in the three instances here. Is it too much to ask for men NOT to drink if they want a meet with me. I dont drink alcohol at all.so why do these men think its ok to have me travel to them and then cant do nowt. I only meet to get fucked so just be honest. If you have had a drink please dont ask to meet.simples

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Yes, I don't personally think that excessive alcohol and swinging make a good match. I've witnessed guys plying their wives and girlfriends with alcohol in order to get them to "relax" at swingers parties.

Poor decision ....

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

It's a shame, you could try a club instead and test drive the glory holes.

If anyone, pardon the pun, "stands out" then grab then for a bit of fun in a room. You know they get hard, like the look and shape and can tell if they are well groomed. And if they get to a room and get gun shy, back to cock room for more!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Seems they are unable to handle a few drinks because once I've had a drink I'm quite the opposite fully charged ready to goooooo like a Duracell battery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys seem to need a drink for some Dutch courage when going on a meet.

It’s a fine line to tread though.

It happened to us once too so feel your sense of annoyance.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Seems they are unable to handle a few drinks because once I've had a drink I'm quite the opposite fully charged ready to goooooo like a Duracell battery

It can go either way for me.

Sometimes if I'm tired a drink will just send me to sleep.

Other times it will make me randy like a sailor at sea

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By *ob and Dee OP Woman
over a year ago

crook

"Yes, I don't personally think that excessive alcohol and swinging make a good match. I've witnessed guys plying their wives and girlfriends with alcohol in order to get them to "relax" at swingers parties.

Poor decision ...."
i dont drink at all and men seem to think that even if not d*unk they can still fuck.not so.it happened three times recently.not good at all.

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

Personally, if the lady I'm meeting isn't having a drink, then neither would I. Hopefully it makes the lady feel more comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say - it can be nerve wracking, meeting new people. No? I know I feel the nerves, even if I don’t show it. It surprises me that people would let themselves drink so much it affects their performance, but I can definitely understand why someone would want one or two!

Why don’t you communicate the issue you’ve been having, to the guys you’re meeting, OP. Say you’d rather people don’t drink much before you meet, and put it on your profile.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"I have to say - it can be nerve wracking, meeting new people. No? I know I feel the nerves, even if I don’t show it. It surprises me that people would let themselves drink so much it affects their performance, but I can definitely understand why someone would want one or two!

Why don’t you communicate the issue you’ve been having, to the guys you’re meeting, OP. Say you’d rather people don’t drink much before you meet, and put it on your profile."

You make me nervous just looking at your profile pictures

Fairly certain at MLS I'll just get utterly tongue tied.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

I drink very little alcohol in general, but drink NO alcohol before or during a meet or club visit.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Seems they are unable to handle a few drinks because once I've had a drink I'm quite the opposite fully charged ready to goooooo like a Duracell battery

It’s actually quite nice to hear that. Reassuring to know it’s not just me. It tends to be after a few drinks that I can keep going and going all night. Whereas if I’m stone cold sober I have to tap out after a couple of orgasms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I don't drink but can see why some do if nervous

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I always limit myself to 5 pints and a couple of chasers before meets for this very reason.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Take a lot more care about who you say yes too.

It makes you sound like a place to cum after a night on the beer.

State that you wont meet with someone who has had a drink before.

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By *r LickalotapussMan
over a year ago

London

My recommendation is do not drink much before you ago and once on your meet / date night, pace yourself to the cadence of your meet and the shared expectations of the meet.

There is a lot of fun to be had getting tipsy with a meet but only if you both in that frame of mind. Can lead to some pretty intense uninhibited sex too.

Enjoy.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"recently i have had three meets and the guy's have turned up after having a drink and coudnt get a hard on.this pissed me off (pardon the pun) because rob took me to all three meets and although the guy's werent d*unk as such they had,drank enough to make them soft. I wont waste my time and play with a cock that wont get hard in the three instances here. Is it too much to ask for men NOT to drink if they want a meet with me. I dont drink alcohol at all.so why do these men think its ok to have me travel to them and then cant do nowt. I only meet to get fucked so just be honest. If you have had a drink please dont ask to meet.simples"
They do it for the nerves i on the other hand don't suffer from nerves and would never drink prior to sex

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Take a lot more care about who you say yes too.

It makes you sound like a place to cum after a night on the beer.

State that you wont meet with someone who has had a drink before."
we've all had a drink before though granny lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, I'm the same with women. I'd rather they not have a lot to drink if I'm going to have sex with them and a big reason for that is that I don't drink so it would feel like I'm taking advantage. With the issue around consent having so many grey areas, I'm surprised anyone would put themselves in that position.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

"To be fair, I'm the same with women. I'd rather they not have a lot to drink if I'm going to have sex with them and a big reason for that is that I don't drink so it would feel like I'm taking advantage. With the issue around consent having so many grey areas, I'm surprised anyone would put themselves in that position."

So true! Same as I don't drink, I have that same feeling.

But for me they need the beer goggles, so it's a catch 22.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you ever considered that it might not be the drink making them soft?

Men can get nervous and not be able to get an erection for this reason.

Also they could have felt intimidated by meeting a couple and this exaggerated the nervousness.

We have recently on the forum had a couple slate a bloke for not getting the female excited enough before he tried to penetrate her. This works both ways, the female needs to make an effort to get the man turned on and thus erected..

Seems to me you are expecting them to get hard automatically.

As for the drinking of alcohol before meeting you, you could make it clear when chatting that alcohol is not acceptable to you. If they smell of it then don't go ahead with the meet.

It won't be very nice if the 3 men in question read this thread you have made about them. They will feel further humiliation to what they probably already feel. They are human beings with feelings.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

Have you ever considered that it might not be the drink making them soft?

Men can get nervous and not be able to get an erection for this reason.

Also they could have felt intimidated by meeting a couple and this exaggerated the nervousness.

Seems to me you are expecting them to get hard automatically.

As for the drinking of alcohol before meeting you, you could make it clear when chatting that alcohol is not acceptable to you. If they smell of it then don't go ahead with the meet.

It won't be very nice if the 3 men in question read this thread you have made about them. They will feel further humiliation to what they probably already feel. They are human beings with feelings.

Probably my first and last post, swinging was always about patience and tolerence. If meeting a guy, girl or couples and have been occasions when either cannot get an erection or turned on either by nervousness or anxiety.

It is about understanding and being sympathetic and not shutting them down or trash them.

I think these days there are a lot more pressures on guys, to be seen as sex machines. With tall tails of sexual prowess and achievements. Just my thoughts.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

This is just the worst... I don't really like any alcohol involved at any point, socials or meets. It's very off putting and actually quite disrespectful.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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