FabSwingers.com forum: The cost of being a swinger.

By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

How much does the lifestyle actually cost you?

Hotels, travelling etc it all adds up, with the cost of living going through the roof maybe it's time to cut back and find some cheaper ways of doing things.

Let's share our ideas funny or serious welcome.

Have a lovely day all.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Once you factor in the back, sack and crack waxes, Travelodge stays (sometimes with a buffet breakfast) and the 24-pack of extra large Skyns I get through per week it’s a lot but worth it…

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Umm, I suppose the occasional taxi fare. But I'd still maintain my grooming and a steady supply of skyns whether I was actively swinging or not.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Fuel and hotels can get pretty pricey. We've had to turn down going to some events due to hotel costs alone

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How much does the lifestyle actually cost you?

Hotels, travelling etc it all adds up, with the cost of living going through the roof maybe it's time to cut back and find some cheaper ways of doing things.

Let's share our ideas funny or serious welcome.

Have a lovely day all.

Like the song says ..." It's not about the money..money .. money"..there are those that want everything but are not prepared to pay anything to the cost and there are those that are with it, understanding, and will pay their way towards costs, individual situations determine everything.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Really expensive by the time I factor in hotels, taxis, coaches and club entry.

My weekend in Birmingham and Leeds cost me £300+

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I normally tag on swinging on to football - so for me it’s only a little bit more

But know the pain

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Book a ground floor hotel room, pop a donation tin on the window sill outside, then play away with the curtains open. Try to recoup some costs that way

LvM

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Not so much as we always go halves and book smart with hotels.

The expensive part is the big socials, so I tend to check for dates, so I can book a hotel as early as possible

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Really expensive by the time I factor in hotels, taxis, coaches and club entry.

My weekend in Birmingham and Leeds cost me £300+"

Gosh. That's quite a lot!

So for me - I tend to book hotels in advance or find the best offer (very good at that, humble brag alert). Might buy a new dress or some lingerie but in sales etc.

I don't really do clubs - only been three times. And hotels quite often I share the costs if for socials.

The main expense is the pineapple consumed before. Small fortune there.

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish

Clubs are a £50 to £75 evening after factoring in drinks and an Uber...compared to £50 for 2 at a restaurant.

We attend pay parties which are £20 to £30 plus a bottle.....compared to the aforesaid restaurant.

Occasional hotel stays.....£50 to £100.

Fuel costs....probably a tank full to travel with a stay over at most.

Not really that expensive unless you want to spend your time sitting at home, not enjoying the television.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

£5 to be a member here and whatever I spend on drinks at socials. Pretty cheap imo

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I don’t really do clubs maybe once a year so that cost is minimal however I do attend a lot of socials and not local ones. I’ll book a hotel well in advance and sometimes share a room or an Airbnb. As for the travel I think I have shares in Megabus but occasionally I’ve got some fantastic deals on train fare!

As for meets the people I’m interested in are definitely not local so there’ll always be some sort of outlay but it’s more than worth it

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Only club prices really and if u partner up split the cost x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we didn’t spend money on this we’d spend it on other things and we have more than enough stuff.

Can’t take it with you.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

For me when it comes to swinging costs I keep it simple no overnight stays in a hotel and no driving or trains over a hour.That means I am limited in what I can do but that’s ok OP4F , Rios , London Bridge socials , Central North London socials is all I do.

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I recently noticed it was starting to make a dent even though I'm lucky enough to not get a hotel when going to my local club. But by the time an outfits been bought (if it's a themed night), parking, admission and drinks can get close to £100. With everything else going up and add in a few unforeseen expenses, I've had to trim down and just try to enjoy shit Saturday night telly instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It only costs me my fab subscription

Being ugly makes it a cheep hobby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll only meet in my car now for socials. A drive through McDonalds and she can have my

Big Mac.

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

I'm booked on a couple of ironman triathlons this year, even the UK one will cost upwards of £1k, and that's not including the equipment. Barcelona a lot more with travel and accommodation. SCUBA diving costs maybe £2.5k per week for an average trip. Sailing is perhaps my least expensive hobby. I have a timeshare on a boat in the Algarve, maybe £3k per year. Swinging, just fit it in around other hobbies, tbh I've never worked out the costs.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Used to go to clubs twice a week, now maybe once a month.

Don’t do car or hotel meets anymore, didn’t feel safe. Only I know the person quite well x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I’ll only meet in my car now for socials. A drive through McDonalds and she can have my

Big Mac.

I hope you get half your petrol money back.

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"I’ll only meet in my car now for socials. A drive through McDonalds and she can have my

Big Mac.

I bet she's loving it.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"I’ll only meet in my car now for socials. A drive through McDonalds and she can have my

Big Mac.

As long as she doesn’t make a grab for your nuggets…

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

For us its the cost of a club plus petrol, and usually a wax for me, so not that much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't actually think of the cost as it's something I enjoy. I often pay £100-£150 for a hotel, and £40-£50 for a train, or similar in diesel. Then there's club entrances, dresses, lingerie, drinks. Yes it costs but I work 7 days a week for months on end so I know I deserve to spend on my pleasure time. Work hard, play harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does cost abit, although that doesn't bother us. We feel more guilty for asking grandparents to look after the kids for us so we can have time away.

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By *ilkstressWoman
over a year ago

Drasnia

*Makes detailed notes*

This is very helpful. I need to point out all my increased costs to my boss when we meet for my appraisal and salary review this week.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

New lingerie, dresses, make up, razors or tubes of veet, not to mention either fuel or refreshments, it can get expensive.

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By *atthew78Man
over a year ago

Winsford

Wait until the summer then all buy tents and book onto the same site for a Fab Festival

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I used to go to clubs it cost a lot. New outfit, travel, hotel, alcohol. It soon adds up thats why it used to make me laugh when guys complain about admission costs for me. Yes it is more expensive for a man to get into a club but women spend a lot on the preparation

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By *.MarshallMan
over a year ago

norwich

Well I’ve not met anyone yet so.. just the cost of membership haha

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Single male? North of 40 for a club. Add in train tickets, hotels and an easy 100

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I havent started the lifestyle yet, so it is £0 so far

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I put the heating on before they come over so probably a fortune!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Really expensive by the time I factor in hotels, taxis, coaches and club entry.

My weekend in Birmingham and Leeds cost me £300+

Gosh. That's quite a lot!

So for me - I tend to book hotels in advance or find the best offer (very good at that, humble brag alert). Might buy a new dress or some lingerie but in sales etc.

I don't really do clubs - only been three times. And hotels quite often I share the costs if for socials.

The main expense is the pineapple consumed before. Small fortune there."

Have you included the costs of cadburys boost or other performance enhancers for your ‘mature’ men who like to nap ?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I like cycling and camping; when going to a club, I combine the two, cycle to a camp site that's near the club, pitch my tent, then cycle to the club or, of its Gems (Yeovilton), they have a campsite so no cycling back to the campsite at 2/3 in the Morning.

There are costs in loved; campsite, meals, club entry but it's doing the things I love so I'm more than happy to pay the cost. If prices rise, I'll just visit clubs less often but I won't stop completely; what's the point of being alive if you're not living the lifestyle you love?

I do think that with rising cost, employing lessons learnt from when I was a kid growing up in the 70s would help to keep swinging activities in budget; socials at picnic areas, bring your own food and drink. Camp instead of staying in hotels and, we're practicable, share lifts or hire a shara-bang.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely stay in a hotel if we go to a club, pleasures isn't near a hotel so can't see the point in forking out for a cab and a hotel when I don't drink and only live 45 mins away, same as abfabs.

Only go to abfabs on a half price night, so we are quite crafty how we go to clubs but we have stopped going out so much as it was getting too expensive, new outfits etc.

Some friends of ours attend clubs most weekends, stay in a hotel all weekend, entrance and travel, I've no idea how they do it but if they have no other outlay, why not.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We met a couple who wanted a social close to home at a hotel for something to eat. Meal ended up costing us £100 and the social didn’t go anywhere after that . We usually don’t mind but you can understand why people struggle with the cost of swinging. Having said that, vanilla dating is probably as expensive.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Not very much because it's not a lifestyle, it's a hobby.

Not currently meeting so hotel costs etc are irrelevant.

A couple of socials in the last year where all it cost was the fuel to get there and a few quid for the ticket. No hotels involved.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Really expensive by the time I factor in hotels, taxis, coaches and club entry.

My weekend in Birmingham and Leeds cost me £300+

Gosh. That's quite a lot!

So for me - I tend to book hotels in advance or find the best offer (very good at that, humble brag alert). Might buy a new dress or some lingerie but in sales etc.

I don't really do clubs - only been three times. And hotels quite often I share the costs if for socials.

The main expense is the pineapple consumed before. Small fortune there.

Have you included the costs of cadburys boost or other performance enhancers for your ‘mature’ men who like to nap ? "

Hmm. No. Good point old man. They're essential for when they inevitably have to tap out.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

It's cost me alot in the past spoiling females and keeping them looking good for there male fuck buddy's.

I get break when I'm unowned tho so I'm not complaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually. The amount of coffee and caffeine we need is immense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was mostly diesel for me when whizzing up and down motorways and at the moment I cant really justify that as it would leave 2 starving waifs at home with no food if all my money went into diesel.

A local person would solve all that but I dont really want local so will stay grounded for now.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

The MLS social is going to be £250 just for the hotel, but worth it to meet these amazing peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally a bloody fortune.

Local

Taxi to club £35

Entry £30

Towel fee £2

Drinks plus tip £60

Taxi home £45

Total £172

Midlands

Fuel £40

Hotel Inc breakfast £80

Club entry £25

Taxis £30

Dinner before club £60

BYOB alcohol £20

Mixers plus tip £20

TOTAL £275

We could do it much cheaper by not having a drink and driving but we prefer to make a big night of it which is why we only head out every couple of months.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"The MLS social is going to be £250 just for the hotel, but worth it to meet these amazing peeps "

Good point actually I was mainly thinking local because most of my socials are London based but my hotel for Manny will cost a fair bit as well as probably half a day off work, travel and food/drink. And that’s just for a two day social with no entry fees

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'll assume that the term "swinger" is a colloquial one in this thread because I'm not a swinger in the traditional sense, however: hotels, food and travel certainly add up.

It adds up for me because the term "going Dutch" appears to be a far-fetched concept in my experience.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'll assume that the term "swinger" is a colloquial one in this thread because I'm not a swinger in the traditional sense, however: hotels, food and travel certainly add up.

It adds up for me because the term "going Dutch" appears to be a far-fetched concept in my experience."

You could try a more simple experience if the cost bothers you

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

from £60-100 just for the ferry can be higher if you go or want to get back during more busy times. Add petrol, a bottle, hotel and other fees such as entrance fees and membership, its pretty pricey

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

What is the MLS could someone explain onto the thread please.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"What is the MLS could someone explain onto the thread please."

Manchester Lounge Social

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"What is the MLS could someone explain onto the thread please.

Manchester Lounge Social

Thank you.

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By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon

It's starting to mount up.

Either hotel (if far from home), or taxis or fuel and parking. Entrance fees and drinks (yes I pay my own way).

Nails, lingerie/outfits.

I've cut down on vanilla nights out, and scene nights out. I've cut down on hotel meets to zero.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I'll assume that the term "swinger" is a colloquial one in this thread because I'm not a swinger in the traditional sense, however: hotels, food and travel certainly add up.

It adds up for me because the term "going Dutch" appears to be a far-fetched concept in my experience.

You could try a more simple experience if the cost bothers you "

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What is a "simple experience"?

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

We always host at our place, and that certainly keeps the costs down. Guys just have to get themselves over to us and that's all they have to shell out.

The cost of discretion is priceless.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'll assume that the term "swinger" is a colloquial one in this thread because I'm not a swinger in the traditional sense, however: hotels, food and travel certainly add up.

It adds up for me because the term "going Dutch" appears to be a far-fetched concept in my experience.

You could try a more simple experience if the cost bothers you

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What is a "simple experience"?"

Something that costs you less if she doesn't go dutch

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I'll assume that the term "swinger" is a colloquial one in this thread because I'm not a swinger in the traditional sense, however: hotels, food and travel certainly add up.

It adds up for me because the term "going Dutch" appears to be a far-fetched concept in my experience.

You could try a more simple experience if the cost bothers you

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What is a "simple experience"?

Something that costs you less if she doesn't go dutch "

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What constitutes a "simple experience" if it costs less?

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I will spend roughly £300-£400 when I go to a social.

Fuel

Haircut

Hotel (breakfast extra charge)

Drinks for the room before and after

Snacks for the room

Drinks for me and people I meet.

Also if I’m sharing a room with anyone I’ll bring drinks and snacks for them too.

I could cut back on buying drinks for others when I’m out but I’m a generous idiot

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'll assume that the term "swinger" is a colloquial one in this thread because I'm not a swinger in the traditional sense, however: hotels, food and travel certainly add up.

It adds up for me because the term "going Dutch" appears to be a far-fetched concept in my experience.

You could try a more simple experience if the cost bothers you

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What is a "simple experience"?

Something that costs you less if she doesn't go dutch

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What constitutes a "simple experience" if it costs less?

I'd have thought a thinking man like yourself would have been able to come up with something

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