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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can anyone give me some advice regarding depression

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

visit ur doctor .. hope things improve

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex

Worst mistake I made was taking meds. Therapy goes a long way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"visit ur doctor .. hope things improve "

Agree'd!!! Professional advice the best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst mistake I made was taking meds. Therapy goes a long way!"

All down to the person

Different methods for different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends why your stressed really

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Go see your doctor he may be able to refer you to a councellor if you dnt want to take medication. Good luck hope all is well again soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends why your stressed really "

They're two different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only advice i can give u without noing youre situation is smille u no the way when u chew a chewy u get hungry coz ur brain tells ur stomach its about to be fed when u smile youre brain tells ur boady ur happy an gives u a good feeling life is life i grew up wid no mum a dad who didnt care and i am allways smiling you get the cards life deals u and if its a shit hand u can allways bluff ur way to winning lifes pot hope that cheard u up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends why your stressed really

They're two different things "
how is that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad news I am afraid, the one thing that you shouldn't say to someone with depression is "sort yourself out" but the only person who can cure depression is yourself.

Endorphins help a lot so get out and exercise be that in the gym or country walks. Whatever works is good I also found distraction a good thing so stay busy. Be wary of pills. They can work but many have sedative properties which for me at least prolonged the problem.

Good luck weather you are the sufferer or suffering the sufferer it's not a good place to be, hope you find your way out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends why your stressed really

They're two different things "

Exactly.

I struggled with it, first step is realising you have it and then doing something about it. Which you seem to be doing. Took me a while to admit to myself I had it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk, talk and talk some more.

Sometimes it's simply a matter of getting it off your chest.

Hope all is well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst mistake I made was taking meds. Therapy goes a long way!

All down to the person

Different methods for different people. "

Yes I'd agree, I was totally the opposite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bad news I am afraid, the one thing that you shouldn't say to someone with depression is "sort yourself out" but the only person who can cure depression is yourself.

Good luck weather you are the sufferer or suffering the sufferer it's not a good place to be, hope you find your way out."

I'm a personal trainer and was going to state exactly the same thing as in this post. Great advice! But of course, also seek expert professional medical advice too. Utilise a rounded approach with as many angles of attack as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends why your stressed really

They're two different things how is that x "

Well stress is caused by something thats happening-work, family issues etc, depression is a mental illness caused by chemical imbalances

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Seek medical advice while you still think your in control, make sure you tell him everything

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"It depends why your stressed really

They're two different things how is that x

Well stress is caused by something thats happening-work, family issues etc, depression is a mental illness caused by chemical imbalances"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just make sure you chat with somebody and make sure they listen hope it helps x

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Can anyone give me some advice regarding depression"
tried to pm bt not allowed theres some good advise hre but get yourself to the doctors first, and realise that u actualy have a problem,if u get into deep depression its v hard to come out, i had it badly and it nearly cost me my life dont mess wth this shit get help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try hugging. Studies have shown simply hugging for 10 seconds can lower both your blood pressure and lower depression. It's a comfort thing from being a baby.

Though as everyone has said, seek out medical advice - from a doctor that doesnt just want to give you meds so you're out of his hair.

And smile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone give me some advice regarding depression"

Cheer up?

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Glas

"Can anyone give me some advice regarding depression

Cheer up?

Like many others suggest, seek professional medical advice, I'd tend not to rely on advice from a swinging forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to your doc great advice but the first thing I did was to tell my family n friends I sat down and spoke abt how I was feeling and how low I had gotten the support I got helped me no end and made going to the doctor a lot easier and helped me loads the more support you got the better it is hunni but the one bit of advice I wud give is don't keep it bottled up or try to deal with it on your own it doesn't work trust me I know xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression comes in lots of disguises, there is a book in most pharmacy that gives a very good insight into it, its worth checking out, Depression isn't just a feeling it is also a chemical imbalance in the brain, to do with nuro receptors! PLEASE go to your doctor if its depression it will only get worse! Trust me on this I know!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Seek professional help.

People on here can share experience but that must NEVER replace the Doctor/Health Professional.

It does seem to be a growing trend, I personally find it a worrying one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seek professional help.

People on here can share experience but that must NEVER replace the Doctor/Health Professional.

It does seem to be a growing trend, I personally find it a worrying one.

Yes we can give advice but never a diagnosis!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mrs had depression for long time. medicines aid therapy and combination is actually better than therapy alone. meditation helps further on set.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having suffered I would echo the medical advice route. First time I found medication exercise and counselling worked.

Second time I spotted the onset and medication and excercise worked well.

I would recommend the medication if offered as it does help restore the imbalance, which then helps to see things in a different light and start to resolve. Your issues.

Its just another way of your body telling you to step back, take a break and restart.

All the best feel free to pm if you want a chat. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends why your stressed really "

I'm sorry, but if you think it's simply about stress then you obviously haven't a clue!

Hope you're learning from the comments in this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone give me some advice regarding depression

Cheer up?

PMSL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First thing is to see a doctor, they normally offer meds as a starting point.

On the NHS, it takes a long time to be referred to counselling or therapy.

It's a long rollercoaster ride to get back to "normal" if you're struggling with it. More people struggle than you can imagine, there is nothing wrong with getting help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First thing is to see a doctor, they normally offer meds as a starting point.

On the NHS, it takes a long time to be referred to counselling or therapy.

It's a long rollercoaster ride to get back to "normal" if you're struggling with it. More people struggle than you can imagine, there is nothing wrong with getting help."
Yery good adivce and so true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First thing is to see a doctor, they normally offer meds as a starting point.

On the NHS, it takes a long time to be referred to counselling or therapy.

It's a long rollercoaster ride to get back to "normal" if you're struggling with it. More people struggle than you can imagine, there is nothing wrong with getting help. Yery good adivce and so true!"

I'm speaking from experience unfortunately. I'm now at the stage where I can admit it and talk about it, hopefully I can help others with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the only advice i can give u without noing youre situation is smille u no the way when u chew a chewy u get hungry coz ur brain tells ur stomach its about to be fed when u smile youre brain tells ur boady ur happy an gives u a good feeling life is life i grew up wid no mum a dad who didnt care and i am allways smiling you get the cards life deals u and if its a shit hand u can allways bluff ur way to winning lifes pot hope that cheard u up

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You i should love to give a BIG HUG TOO .. X The brain can play all sorts of tricks with us and its knowing how to handle things ... I love your positive way of thinking xxx kisses you. xxxxj

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

Having been a long term sufferer my first bit of advice is going to seek professional help. I started on medication and then felt able to have counseling. A good doctor won't just give you magic happy pills they will find the cause of your depression. Also having a good support network of close friends and family while know helps. I have panic attacks with. One and its good to know that if I get stuck somewhere with one I can call a friend to help. So talk to those closest to you. Tell them how you feel and go seek professional help before you loose control and do something silly. Big hugs your brave talking to us about it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to see your Doc and if you need a person to chat too get things out in the open call the Samaritans as there 24 hours and local one near you ... Thy help with all sorts of things and can help put you on the right path . XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok.

Depends if you have depression or if you're stressed or indeed if you just feel a little low. Treatments for all of these are different and would need to include a medical history and personal background before any proper advice on treatments is given.

This is why you must seek professional help.

Speak to MIND (the charity) and they can guide you, speak to your GP, they can guide you.

Taking clinical advice from people on a website is akin to taking dietary advice from a celebrity.

People can give you anecdotes and go through their personal experiences, however, the only ones I would listen to would be the ones that say "get some professional help".

Being depressed or having any mental health issues is NOT a sign of weakness and you should NEVER feel ashamed of having a mental health issue!!!!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be happy, have a great life and still be depressed. It is an illness not a state of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seek professional help.

People on here can share experience but that must NEVER replace the Doctor/Health Professional.

It does seem to be a growing trend, I personally find it a worrying one.

Absolutely! I am astonished sometimes that people feel they can hand out clinical advice on a forum and sometimes even more worrying that people might follow it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone give me some advice regarding depression"

Try having a look at mind or rethink,these are 2 of the popular charities set up to support people with mental health problems long or short term. There are many sufferers at this time of year due to the hyp leading up to Christmas then things falling flat in January, sometimes giving yourself a new challenge/goal helps as it also works as something to look forward to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And i would also say getting yourself out side in the air helps even on a gray day ... and exercise i know when feeling low but it helps. Also mix with people don't be alone to much as dwell on things , The minds a strange thing so you have to see what works for you to relax at times. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to your GP and don't be afraid to tell them everything you are feeling. If no one knows then no one can help you.

Good luck x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doctors, meds, exercise & therapy have helped me with mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to your GP and don't be afraid to tell them everything you are feeling. If no one knows then no one can help you.

Good luck x x

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your so right xxx it can be a lonely thing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is everyone assuming that it's the OP who has depression? All she asked for was advice about depression. Could be someone she knows and wants to know more about the signs..????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look like you have a jedwood hair cut on your profile pic! Then you click on it and relise its the background! Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Power and pace look at his profile pic when small!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i agree the Dr is the best place to start and then find out whats right for you. I have had depression for almost 14yrs and it's only in the last year that i have seen the right people and also on the right Medication and now i don't get the terrible lows that i used have.

Can i just say to anyone that if you are on "Venafaxine" any mg's, i am on 170mg's a day and to my cost i have found that one of the side effects is that they contribute to nerves. Meaning that if you are a nervous person on meets etc this excels the nervousness. So i have to stop taking them a day before a meet. Hence to say that i forgot to do this on New Years Eve and got myself in a situation that i didn't want to be in by drinking to much to combat it other way by trying to calm down !!!

OP even if you have a best friend for a shoulder to cry on, it's a way forward. xx

(Crackling)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said...its best to seek professional help. Visiting your GP and talking about it, is the first step. Everyone is different, therapy might work for some and the same with medication. Sometimes its just trial and error.

For me admitting that I might have depression to my GP was a relief and it might be for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"User no longer on site"

Blimey! Was it something we all said...???????

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

her update this morning was 'just needed a hug' so maybe not depression after all.

all the best either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe after reading her post here ... sorting it and need time out , I wish her all the best . xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's good to have time away to sort your thoughts out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully she gets her self all sorted out now she has left site, good luck to her

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