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"I’m more interested in why half of your profile photos are stock images of snowmen! "haha I was trying to be funny with the snow pictures thing from fabswingers free gold membership | |||
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"It's about so much more than just blindly following commands " You are right 100% I feel like my initial comment was taken out of the context I was making | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x" To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy  ..but hey , that's only my opinion. | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion."Yeah you don't understand dynamic  | |||
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"Dominance and submission for me are not about sex or commands or using it as as a reason or excuse to get things your way. It starts and ends in the mind. If you can’t get in their mind or you in theirs then, for me, it doesn’t work. I see it as about 90% nature and nurture and 10% sexual. Yes it can be all of one or the other but without the fundamentals being set especially trust and communication then for me it’s a no. I have never “commanded” anyone to do anything. Sexual or non sexual. We have done what we have done out of wanting to please each other and feed a need and desire " Exactly this it's all about trust | |||
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"Dominance and submission for me are not about sex or commands or using it as as a reason or excuse to get things your way. It starts and ends in the mind. If you can’t get in their mind or you in theirs then, for me, it doesn’t work. I see it as about 90% nature and nurture and 10% sexual. Yes it can be all of one or the other but without the fundamentals being set especially trust and communication then for me it’s a no. I have never “commanded” anyone to do anything. Sexual or non sexual. We have done what we have done out of wanting to please each other and feed a need and desire " Well said. if you first have a meeting of minds then work together to acheave the shared goals you have . | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic "He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust | |||
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"I say get on top If you insist "That a girl. I think Jamie Hants wants to watch | |||
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"And it’s also about having the honesty to say “no” and the trust that will be taken in the way it is meant. I have always been able to tell if somebody is doing something just because they think it’s pleasing me. The truth is it doesn’t please me and that’s why I don’t command anything. If they do something because it excites them and me as well then that’s what I want. Feed off each other. D or s you are both equal with an equal voice and responsibility to make it work " Well said | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust "I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't. | |||
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"I’m more interested in why half of your profile photos are stock images of snowmen! "Ha! I had to go look. Top snow man game  | |||
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"It's about so much more than just blindly following commands " Agree. An intellectual sub gives you control, you don't just take control. It's a mind thing, more than a physical mode. | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't. "I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits. That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others | |||
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 especially the wild mind&body sex it leads to.
But it is also unique to the individuals, labels are not generic... There's no right or wrong way to do it as long as everyone involved is safe, sane & consenting. My 2p worth  | |||
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"The mind dance of d/s in all its guises is a delicious thing especially the wild mind&body sex it leads to.
But it is also unique to the individuals, labels are not generic... There's no right or wrong way to do it as long as everyone involved is safe, sane & consenting. My 2p worth "Well said | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.
I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.
That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others ". I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word | |||
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"That kind of relationship would take years to gain the appropriate level of trust and probably not something you would find here. Think that would be more or a kink or fetish " Well I met cherry my previous sub here and Maya has Been with me ten years . | |||
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"That kind of relationship would take years to gain the appropriate level of trust and probably not something you would find here. Think that would be more or a kink or fetish " You’re right about the length of time to develop the complete trust but it’s not a kink or fetish, it’s a relationship dynamic which suits some but not all. | |||
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"We have a fantastic dynamic of Sir and Slut. We are not together for J to please me, we are together to please each other, in a sub/Dom way. We have utmost trust and respect for each other and know both sets of boundaries. The dynamic is both in and out of the bedroom and J submits to Sirs requests and tasks as that is what she chooses. If, at any time, she chooses, or I feel it’s not appropriate, we are simply P & J enjoying each other with no hierarchy at all. We love it and it works. P xx" This is what I am hoping to find | |||
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"We have a fantastic dynamic of Sir and Slut. We are not together for J to please me, we are together to please each other, in a sub/Dom way. We have utmost trust and respect for each other and know both sets of boundaries. The dynamic is both in and out of the bedroom and J submits to Sirs requests and tasks as that is what she chooses. If, at any time, she chooses, or I feel it’s not appropriate, we are simply P & J enjoying each other with no hierarchy at all. We love it and it works. P xx This is what I am hoping to find "I truly hope you find someone who can fully understand your wants and desires so you can have this dynamic. I get J in every way and know when it’s D/s relevant or she needs me as her lover. You need to be both in tune with each others feelings and lives to enable this to work and this comes with time and trust. It will come to you as you’re a very sexy lady and someone will be honoured to be in this dynamic with you P xx | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.
I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.
That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others "I'm not saying it's one person says what's ok, I'm saying the sub sets her limits not the dom | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.
I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.
That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .
I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word "Exactly this | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.
I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.
That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .
I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.
I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.
That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .
I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word
Exactly this
Just asking, but, have you ever been in this type of long term dynamic? "Yes I have, 6 years and another was only a year and a half | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.
I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.
That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .
I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word
Exactly this
Just asking, but, have you ever been in this type of long term dynamic?
Yes I have, 6 years and another was only a year and a half"That’s fair enough then, some people comment with no knowledge of the dynamics | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.
Yeah you don't understand dynamic
He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust
I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.
I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.
That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .
I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word
Exactly this
Just asking, but, have you ever been in this type of long term dynamic?
Yes I have, 6 years and another was only a year and a half
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"It's not for me ,but there's something here for us all on fab. So why bother posting? "Because we are all entitled to free speech | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x" look into my eyes | |||
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"Be as submissive as you want. Do what makes you happy. Personally, I could only do something like that with someone I truly trust, and I doubt I would be any good at it. Too strong willed here." Absolutely this. Its not a dynamic i would jump into with a stranger | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x" I identify as more a sadist than a Dom... And that means I tend to be the dominant/leading partner. And yes ... That means masochists and those who are more submissive tend to be those I connect with...but simply submitting and obeying every command isn't that exciting for me. | |||
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!." There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus | |||
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!. There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus " Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!. There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.
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I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of "bedroom D/s" and wanting to submit fully and neither involves commands. "This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others pockets to the extent it becomes suffocating to your life. I am also naturally submissive but have got to 37 on my own so am capable of continuing to do so. I just happen to be more comfortable in a D/s dynamic with a man, in and out of the bedroom but I'm not dependent on them for air  | |||
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!. There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the
24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he
was way too intense with it trying to
control my life, never doing that
again.
OP
I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of
"bedroom D/s" and wanting to
submit fully and neither involves
commands.
This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others
pockets to the extent it becomes
suffocating to your life. I am also
naturally submissive but have got
to 37 on my own so am capable of
continuing to do so. I just happen to
be more comfortable in a D/s
dynamic with a man, in and out of
the bedroom but I'm not dependent
on them for air "The best sub is a happy subs its about her wants needs and desire If she finds someone who respects cherish and meets her needs then the person providing that will also be happy and they work together . Happy sub happy Dom. | |||
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!. There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the
24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he
was way too intense with it trying to
control my life, never doing that
again.
OP
I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of
"bedroom D/s" and wanting to
submit fully and neither involves
commands.
This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others
pockets to the extent it becomes
suffocating to your life. I am also
naturally submissive but have got
to 37 on my own so am capable of
continuing to do so. I just happen to
be more comfortable in a D/s
dynamic with a man, in and out of
the bedroom but I'm not dependent
on them for air
The best sub is a happy subs its about her wants needs and desire
If she finds someone who respects cherish and meets her needs then the person providing that will also be happy and they work together .
Happy sub happy Dom."What about the dom's needs. We have a play D/s dynamic and we both whilst forming our play contract, described our needs. Our foundation play needs and boundaries are formed around them. | |||
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!. There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the
24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he
was way too intense with it trying to
control my life, never doing that
again.
OP
I am naturally submissive but
there's a difference between a bit of
"bedroom D/s" and wanting to
submit fully and neither involves
commands.
This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others
pockets to the extent it becomes
suffocating to your life. I am also
naturally submissive but have got
to 37 on my own so am capable of
continuing to do so. I just happen to
be more comfortable in a D/s
dynamic with a man, in and out of
the bedroom but I'm not dependent
on them for air
The best sub is a happy subs its about her wants needs and desire
If she finds someone who respects
cherish and meets her needs then
the person providing that will also be happy and they work together .
Happy sub happy Dom.
What about the dom's needs.
We have a play D/s dynamic and we both whilst forming our play contract, described our needs. Our foundation play needs and boundaries are formed around them.
"I said you work together you have a meeting of minds if your Dom makes you happy then you'll do all you can to make him happy and for fill his needs . communication between the two . | |||
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"It's not for me ,but there's something here for us all on fab. So why bother posting? "Because the op asked for opinions and we are all entitled to them . | |||
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!. There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.
OP
I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of "bedroom D/s" and wanting to submit fully and neither involves commands.
This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others pockets to the extent it becomes suffocating to your life. I am also naturally submissive but have got to 37 on my own so am capable of continuing to do so. I just happen to be more comfortable in a D/s dynamic with a man, in and out of the bedroom but I'm not dependent on them for air "I tried to contact you via message but I’m out of your age range x | |||
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"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all. I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!. There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.
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I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of "bedroom D/s" and wanting to submit fully and neither involves commands. "Clearly everyone has different wants. For me having a sub is a huge commitment and a responsibility for someone’s needs and wants , physically & emotionally , after care often is needed after meets. I choose very carefully It’s not just giving someone an occasional beating in the bedroom , that’s the east bit ! | |||
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"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x" No woman wants you so you have to find a woman that is weak enough to do as you say. | |||
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"I prefer to understand the drivers, the needs of behaviour not the title Titles can have a lot of different meanings to a lot of different people.behavioural needs, well they are individual." Any general conclusions ? I tend to avoid delving too deep and try to just do what makes them happy. Is it bad to treat the symptoms without understanding the root cause ? | |||
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