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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford

I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither here or there!!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

lol... No chance

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Does she get an Anya Hindmarch™ handbag in return?

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I’m more interested in why half of your profile photos are stock images of snowmen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance! I’ll be submissive to a degree with my husband, but I’m definitely not submissive in nature!

Mrs

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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I’m more interested in why half of your profile photos are stock images of snowmen! "
haha I was trying to be funny with the snow pictures thing from fabswingers free gold membership

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

It's about so much more than just blindly following commands

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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"It's about so much more than just blindly following commands "

You are right 100%

I feel like my initial comment was taken out of the context I was making

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes I like dynamic, I'm actually talking to someone who is a submissive at the moment that I matched with on another site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I’m never submissive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say get on top

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"I say get on top"

If you insist

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Nope I’m never submissive "

Bend over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope I’m never submissive

Bend over! "

Jeez, ok ok

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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"Nope I’m never submissive

Bend over!

Jeez, ok ok "

That’s a good girl

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Nope I’m never submissive

Bend over!

Jeez, ok ok "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope I’m never submissive

Bend over!

Jeez, ok ok

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely love to be a submissive wife and obey every command to fully satisfy my masters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x"

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion."

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Not about following commands....

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

What people dont understand its about mutual respect and for filling the subs needs and desire the best sub is a happy sub . happy sub happy Dom .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominance and submission for me are not about sex or commands or using it as as a reason or excuse to get things your way.

It starts and ends in the mind. If you can’t get in their mind or you in theirs then, for me, it doesn’t work.

I see it as about 90% nature and nurture and 10% sexual. Yes it can be all of one or the other but without the fundamentals being set especially trust and communication then for me it’s a no.

I have never “commanded” anyone to do anything. Sexual or non sexual. We have done what we have done out of wanting to please each other and feed a need and desire

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Dominance and submission for me are not about sex or commands or using it as as a reason or excuse to get things your way.

It starts and ends in the mind. If you can’t get in their mind or you in theirs then, for me, it doesn’t work.

I see it as about 90% nature and nurture and 10% sexual. Yes it can be all of one or the other but without the fundamentals being set especially trust and communication then for me it’s a no.

I have never “commanded” anyone to do anything. Sexual or non sexual. We have done what we have done out of wanting to please each other and feed a need and desire

"

Exactly this it's all about trust

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Dominance and submission for me are not about sex or commands or using it as as a reason or excuse to get things your way.

It starts and ends in the mind. If you can’t get in their mind or you in

theirs then, for me, it doesn’t work.

I see it as about 90% nature and

nurture and 10% sexual. Yes it can

be all of one or the other but

without the fundamentals being set

especially trust and

communication then for me it’s a

no.

I have never “commanded” anyone to do anything. Sexual or non sexual. We have done what we have

done out of wanting to please each

other and feed a need and desire

"

Well said. if you first have a meeting of minds then work together to acheave the shared goals you have .

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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic "

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And it’s also about having the honesty to say “no” and the trust that will be taken in the way it is meant.

I have always been able to tell if somebody is doing something just because they think it’s pleasing me.

The truth is it doesn’t please me and that’s why I don’t command anything. If they do something because it excites them and me as well then that’s what I want.

Feed off each other. D or s you are both equal with an equal voice and responsibility to make it work

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yeah it’s good times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I say get on top

If you insist "

That a girl. I think Jamie Hants wants to watch

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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"And it’s also about having the honesty to say “no” and the trust that will be taken in the way it is meant.

I have always been able to tell if somebody is doing something just because they think it’s pleasing me.

The truth is it doesn’t please me and that’s why I don’t command anything. If they do something because it excites them and me as well then that’s what I want.

Feed off each other. D or s you are both equal with an equal voice and responsibility to make it work "

Well said

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust "

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

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By *ustyMilfxxxCouple
over a year ago

Swansea


"I’m more interested in why half of your profile photos are stock images of snowmen! "

Ha! I had to go look. Top snow man game

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By *r LickalotapussMan
over a year ago

Stansted Airport


"It's about so much more than just blindly following commands "

Agree. An intellectual sub gives you control, you don't just take control.

It's a mind thing, more than a physical mode.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't. "

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind dance of d/s in all its guises is a delicious thing especially the wild mind&body sex it leads to.

But it is also unique to the individuals, labels are not generic... There's no right or wrong way to do it as long as everyone involved is safe, sane & consenting. My 2p worth

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
over a year ago

High Peak

We have a fantastic dynamic of Sir and Slut. We are not together for J to please me, we are together to please each other, in a sub/Dom way. We have utmost trust and respect for each other and know both sets of boundaries. The dynamic is both in and out of the bedroom and J submits to Sirs requests and tasks as that is what she chooses. If, at any time, she chooses, or I feel it’s not appropriate, we are simply P & J enjoying each other with no hierarchy at all. We love it and it works. P xx

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
over a year ago

High Peak


"The mind dance of d/s in all its guises is a delicious thing especially the wild mind&body sex it leads to.

But it is also unique to the individuals, labels are not generic... There's no right or wrong way to do it as long as everyone involved is safe, sane & consenting. My 2p worth "

Well said

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

That kind of relationship would take years to gain the appropriate level of trust and probably not something you would find here. Think that would be more or a kink or fetish

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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others "

.

I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"That kind of relationship would take years to gain the appropriate level of trust and probably not something you would find here. Think that would be more or a kink or fetish "

Well I met cherry my previous sub here and Maya has Been with me ten years .

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People have a wide range of preferences and proclivities, is what I say

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
over a year ago

High Peak


"That kind of relationship would take years to gain the appropriate level of trust and probably not something you would find here. Think that would be more or a kink or fetish "

You’re right about the length of time to develop the complete trust but it’s not a kink or fetish, it’s a relationship dynamic which suits some but not all.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"We have a fantastic dynamic of Sir and Slut. We are not together for J to please me, we are together to please each other, in a sub/Dom way. We have utmost trust and respect for each other and know both sets of boundaries. The dynamic is both in and out of the bedroom and J submits to Sirs requests and tasks as that is what she chooses. If, at any time, she chooses, or I feel it’s not appropriate, we are simply P & J enjoying each other with no hierarchy at all. We love it and it works. P xx"

This is what I am hoping to find

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
over a year ago

High Peak


"We have a fantastic dynamic of Sir and Slut. We are not together for J to please me, we are together to please each other, in a sub/Dom way. We have utmost trust and respect for each other and know both sets of boundaries. The dynamic is both in and out of the bedroom and J submits to Sirs requests and tasks as that is what she chooses. If, at any time, she chooses, or I feel it’s not appropriate, we are simply P & J enjoying each other with no hierarchy at all. We love it and it works. P xx

This is what I am hoping to find "

I truly hope you find someone who can fully understand your wants and desires so you can have this dynamic. I get J in every way and know when it’s D/s relevant or she needs me as her lover. You need to be both in tune with each others feelings and lives to enable this to work and this comes with time and trust. It will come to you as you’re a very sexy lady and someone will be honoured to be in this dynamic with you P xx

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others "

I'm not saying it's one person says what's ok, I'm saying the sub sets her limits not the dom

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .

I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word "

Exactly this

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
over a year ago

High Peak


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .

I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word

Exactly this "

Just asking, but, have you ever been in this type of long term dynamic?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .

I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word

Exactly this

Just asking, but, have you ever been in this type of long term dynamic? "

Yes I have, 6 years and another was only a year and a half

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
over a year ago

High Peak


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .

I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word

Exactly this

Just asking, but, have you ever been in this type of long term dynamic?

Yes I have, 6 years and another was only a year and a half"

That’s fair enough then, some people comment with no knowledge of the dynamics

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x

To me it's a crock of crap tbh , to me " submissive" is just a word that some people use ,as regards Sex both have to bring what they bring to the table , both have to be on the same wavelength and both have to be equal..you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..as already said this " submissive" thing is a load of crap ..a guy thinking he's the lord of the Jungle ..oh boy ..but hey , that's only my opinion.

Yeah you don't understand dynamic

He definitely doesn’t understand the concept of it, I don’t want her to be a simpleton just doing as I say, I’ve been with women that are submissive that actually love to be submissive it turns them on, but she might intentionally disobey me knowing I might give her a little spank for the insubordination or maybe something stronger, it’s all about mutual understanding, respect and trust

I quite like it when the bratty side comes out and yes it's definitely about mutual understanding, respect and trust. It's also actually the sub that ultimately holds the cards because they decide what is ok and isn't.

I slightly disagree. The Dominant also has the ability to say what’s okay and not. What if the submissive wants something that’s a soft or hard limit for the Dominant. By saying that one person says what’s okay or not means you could be saying it’s okay to push or break those limits.

That is why for me you are equals. No one person or their needs deemed to be more important or higher than the others .

I understand your point but me myself would never go beyond her limits, I would always understand that she is in control in essence, that is why we use safe word

Exactly this

Just asking, but, have you ever been in this type of long term dynamic?

Yes I have, 6 years and another was only a year and a half

That’s fair enough then, some people comment with no knowledge of the dynamics "

I know better than that, especially on the forums

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

I am very submissive with hound, but as others have said its not about following commands... for us it's about testing boundaries, pushing limits and a journey together. I guess for us we have a consented non consent sexual relationship, I trust him infinitely, and he can do whatever he wants to me... The only time that I am submissive to other men is when hound tells me to be...

It comes from deep trust and intimacy for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's not for me ,but there's something here for us all on fab.

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By *punkandSquirtCouple
over a year ago

High Peak


"It's not for me ,but there's something here for us all on fab."

So why bother posting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not for me ,but there's something here for us all on fab.

So why bother posting? "

Because we are all entitled to free speech

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x"
look into my eyes

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Be as submissive as you want. Do what makes you happy.

Personally, I could only do something like that with someone I truly trust, and I doubt I would be any good at it. Too strong willed here.

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask


"Be as submissive as you want. Do what makes you happy.

Personally, I could only do something like that with someone I truly trust, and I doubt I would be any good at it. Too strong willed here."

Absolutely this. Its not a dynamic i would jump into with a stranger

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By *ycanNightsMan
over a year ago

Workington


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x"

I identify as more a sadist than a Dom... And that means I tend to be the dominant/leading partner. And yes ... That means masochists and those who are more submissive tend to be those I connect with...but simply submitting and obeying every command isn't that exciting for me.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I tend to be more attracted to and also attract sexually submissive women, almost exclusively.

There’s an energy that very quickly manifests and dominant women also seem to be repelled by it ! Or we just fuck a few times then stay friends but kind of accept we are sexually incompatible

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!."

There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!.

There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus "

Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.

OP

I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of "bedroom D/s" and wanting to submit fully and neither involves commands.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm here to help those train those that want to be in the lifestyle .happy to chat and ofer adviser to anyone .

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!.

There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus

Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.

OP

I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of "bedroom D/s" and wanting to submit fully and neither involves commands. "

This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others pockets to the extent it becomes suffocating to your life. I am also naturally submissive but have got to 37 on my own so am capable of continuing to do so. I just happen to be more comfortable in a D/s dynamic with a man, in and out of the bedroom but I'm not dependent on them for air

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm extremely fussy and stubborn but I've found a couple of guys that have figured out how to get me to submit x

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your

husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got

the manky fallen apart one and I live

(or try!) to do that with my husband

but he doesn't allow me too, he is

"we are 50/50 in this!.

There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment.

Often subs and brats are high

energy, impatient, need different

kinds of attention in and outside the

bedroom , between meets, etc. in

fact the bit in the bedroom is the

least effort. I could not have a sub

fuck buddy , it would not be enough

for her , she has to be my main

focus

Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the

24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he

was way too intense with it trying to

control my life, never doing that

again.

OP

I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of

"bedroom D/s" and wanting to

submit fully and neither involves

commands.

This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others

pockets to the extent it becomes

suffocating to your life. I am also

naturally submissive but have got

to 37 on my own so am capable of

continuing to do so. I just happen to

be more comfortable in a D/s

dynamic with a man, in and out of

the bedroom but I'm not dependent

on them for air "

The best sub is a happy subs its about her wants needs and desire

If she finds someone who respects cherish and meets her needs then the person providing that will also be happy and they work together .

Happy sub happy Dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free your mind and the rest will follow. I feel it ultimately boils down to respect, trust and connection between 2 consenting people.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your

husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got

the manky fallen apart one and I live

(or try!) to do that with my husband

but he doesn't allow me too, he is

"we are 50/50 in this!.

There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment.

Often subs and brats are high

energy, impatient, need different

kinds of attention in and outside the

bedroom , between meets, etc. in

fact the bit in the bedroom is the

least effort. I could not have a sub

fuck buddy , it would not be enough

for her , she has to be my main

focus

Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the

24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he

was way too intense with it trying to

control my life, never doing that

again.

OP

I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of

"bedroom D/s" and wanting to

submit fully and neither involves

commands.

This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others

pockets to the extent it becomes

suffocating to your life. I am also

naturally submissive but have got

to 37 on my own so am capable of

continuing to do so. I just happen to

be more comfortable in a D/s

dynamic with a man, in and out of

the bedroom but I'm not dependent

on them for air

The best sub is a happy subs its about her wants needs and desire

If she finds someone who respects cherish and meets her needs then the person providing that will also be happy and they work together .

Happy sub happy Dom."

What about the dom's needs.

We have a play D/s dynamic and we both whilst forming our play contract, described our needs. Our foundation play needs and boundaries are formed around them.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of

the bedroom, that's probably the

wrong word, my mum was very

much "do everything" for your

husband, even down to given him

the best fish finger while and got

the manky fallen apart one and I live

(or try!) to do that with my husband

but he doesn't allow me too, he is

"we are 50/50 in this!.

There are decent Doms but keep in

mind they don’t just jump at offers

of a sub. It’s a big commitment.

Often subs and brats are high

energy, impatient, need different

kinds of attention in and outside the

bedroom , between meets, etc. in

fact the bit in the bedroom is the

least effort. I could not have a sub

fuck buddy , it would not be enough

for her , she has to be my main

focus

Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the

24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he

was way too intense with it trying to

control my life, never doing that

again.

OP

I am naturally submissive but

there's a difference between a bit of

"bedroom D/s" and wanting to

submit fully and neither involves

commands.

This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others

pockets to the extent it becomes

suffocating to your life. I am also

naturally submissive but have got

to 37 on my own so am capable of

continuing to do so. I just happen to

be more comfortable in a D/s

dynamic with a man, in and out of

the bedroom but I'm not dependent

on them for air

The best sub is a happy subs its about her wants needs and desire

If she finds someone who respects

cherish and meets her needs then

the person providing that will also be happy and they work together .

Happy sub happy Dom.

What about the dom's needs.

We have a play D/s dynamic and we both whilst forming our play contract, described our needs. Our foundation play needs and boundaries are formed around them.

"

I said you work together you have a meeting of minds if your Dom makes you happy then you'll do all you can to make him happy and for fill his needs . communication between the two .

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"It's not for me ,but there's something here for us all on fab.

So why bother posting? "

Because the op asked for opinions and we are all entitled to them .

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By *oldAndBoundless OP   Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!.

There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus

Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.

OP

I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of "bedroom D/s" and wanting to submit fully and neither involves commands.

This is exactly what I'm looking for - a D/s relationship but not necessarily living in each others pockets to the extent it becomes suffocating to your life. I am also naturally submissive but have got to 37 on my own so am capable of continuing to do so. I just happen to be more comfortable in a D/s dynamic with a man, in and out of the bedroom but I'm not dependent on them for air "

I tried to contact you via message but I’m out of your age range x

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I'm very submissive but trying to find someone out there that actually is a "Dom" is quite difficult as most I have spoken to just think it's license to be absolute cocks about and think it means treating me with no respect at all.

I am quite submissive outside of the bedroom, that's probably the wrong word, my mum was very much "do everything" for your husband, even down to given him the best fish finger while and got the manky fallen apart one and I live (or try!) to do that with my husband but he doesn't allow me too, he is "we are 50/50 in this!.

There are decent Doms but keep in mind they don’t just jump at offers of a sub. It’s a big commitment. Often subs and brats are high energy, impatient, need different kinds of attention in and outside the bedroom , between meets, etc. in fact the bit in the bedroom is the least effort. I could not have a sub fuck buddy , it would not be enough for her , she has to be my main focus

Bullshit I am submissive AND low maintenance. Would love to have a Dom fuck buddy and no time for the 24 7 stuff. I did it 5 years and he was way too intense with it trying to control my life, never doing that again.

OP

I am naturally submissive but there's a difference between a bit of "bedroom D/s" and wanting to submit fully and neither involves commands. "

Clearly everyone has different wants.

For me having a sub is a huge commitment and a responsibility for someone’s needs and wants , physically & emotionally , after care often is needed after meets. I choose very carefully

It’s not just giving someone an occasional beating in the bedroom , that’s the east bit !

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I prefer to understand the drivers, the needs of behaviour not the title

Titles can have a lot of different meanings to a lot of different people.behavioural needs, well they are individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say mehhhhh

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I absolutely love a submissive woman that wants to please me by letting go of her self and submitting to me and my every command, what’s other people’s opinion on this x"

No woman wants you so you have to find a woman that is weak enough to do as you say.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I prefer to understand the drivers, the needs of behaviour not the title

Titles can have a lot of different meanings to a lot of different people.behavioural needs, well they are individual."

Any general conclusions ? I tend to avoid delving too deep and try to just do what makes them happy. Is it bad to treat the symptoms without understanding the root cause ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A truly submissive woman is powerfully in charge, a good dominant will recognise and cherish that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not. Ever. Happening.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

I wouldn't say I'm a sub but I do have a submissive streak. And dominant one. Different people bring out different sides to me, actually it's more nuanced than that. The same person in the right circumstances can bring out a myriad of responses.

Anyway, I'd love to submit to someone in the way you described OP. Ish. But for me, it's more about the mental connection. Sure, the physical is great, I can role-play that flawlessly. It feels good, I get a rush from someone who has that sort of presence.

But someone who manages to tap into it and where I'm happy for it to be more than a few spanks, maybe certain words etc? No.

I've yet to find someone where I think, yes, I'm your sub. It's an emotional, mental and physical connection that I can't quite see myself having with someone - there's a level of trust, I need to be able to be fully me with that person. And also - it's not just about me. That desire to please someone, to submit to them fully, to be challenged sometimes and happy for their say to be the final say has to be there in bucketloads.

It feels like an intensity that I'd love to explore though.

Maybe one day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love submissive women

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