FabSwingers.com forum: Mental health and anxiety

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I’ve been suffering with anxiety for the last 2 years, how I deal with it, other than therapy, is to distract myself with doing things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve been suffering with anxiety for the last 2 years, how I deal with it, other than therapy, is to distract myself with doing things.

I can't do a lot at the moment. I was not ally very attractive. But now I can only do things here and there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X"

Swimming,I kid you not it's superb for your anxiety

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By *ostAirmenMan
over a year ago

crewe

Life is tough buddy I feel your pain . I left the airforce 3.5 yrs ago and struggle everyday . Distractions make a big difference I guess that’s why I come on here takes my mind away from it all .

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

listen to your favourite music for a few hours .. it s a good distraction ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it now for 8 years. Rears it's ugly head at times. This weeks been quite bad...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But a quick question then fabbers. Do you guys believe that life is a balance and you won't always struggle with MH issues in your life?

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By *omad1234540Man
over a year ago

WORCESTER

I've had it on and off for years

Exercise,hobbies,filling your time focus on the moment,don't dwell on past and worry about future.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

After being brought up by hippy parents that where part of the Rajneesh movement, a long time ago I embraced my own spiritualy and have always embraced yoga, meditation and guidence from gurus, in which I spent time in India traveling to various ashrams.

This has always given my the tools to deal with mental health issue but, we all need to find our own ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But a quick question then fabbers. Do you guys believe that life is a balance and you won't always struggle with MH issues in your life? "

I've been teetering on the edge for years,I swim,it brings me back from the edge

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

well for starters your defo not a weirdo,, i think fab a really great place to talk to people with these issues,, and the main thing is your talking,,

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I’m fucking crazy OP embrace the weirdo.

Been a rough week. Lost somewhere last year who meant a lot to me. I simply cannot process the loss and I’m resigned to carrying the weight until my dying day.

But we move.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because of my knee operation I've not been working. I think that's playing a big part. I've always worked and think it's having a knock on affect. I'm applying for jobs etc and it's soothing after I send a few applications off. I think not having success on fab is also a big factor x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m fucking crazy OP embrace the weirdo.

Been a rough week. Lost somewhere last year who meant a lot to me. I simply cannot process the loss and I’m resigned to carrying the weight until my dying day.

But we move.

I completely agree. You have to keep moving forward. Dwelling on things is just bad

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By *atthew78Man
over a year ago

Winsford

"My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X"

Your not alone mine is up and down all the time often get a kicking from it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's nice knowing that your not alone. A problem shared is a problem halved

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By *ostAirmenMan
over a year ago

crewe

I think life is a rollercoaster as it’s already been mentioned , I also believe I will and have always struggled with my state of mind . .

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Yep, crippling anxiety that comes out of nowhere. It's actually been physically painful, which is a new phenomenon. Probs hormonal, woman of a certain age and all that!

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Oh... Music and going for walks is my go to therapy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh... Music and going for walks is my go to therapy. "

At the moment I'm going for long walks. Can't gym yet. My physio has said no. But I listen Latin reggaeton. But as soon as I take the headphones anxiety rolls back in again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Writing things down helps me and meditation.

I didn't think Writing would help, but once I tried it, it really did help. Worth trying.

Could even sell the words as song lyrics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mind works over time, often creating potential worse case scenarios. I self sabotage a lot.

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By *atthew78Man
over a year ago

Winsford

"Writing things down helps me and meditation.

I didn't think Writing would help, but once I tried it, it really did help. Worth trying.

Could even sell the words as song lyrics. "

I've found writing helps also

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By *ostAirmenMan
over a year ago

crewe

I think life is a rollercoaster as it’s already been mentioned , I also believe I will and have always struggled with my state of mind . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X"

Definitely not the only one mate.

I got signed off work at the end of last year. Spent the last three months focusing on myself and working through it. Start a new job on Monday I'm excited about and feel revitalised and can't wait.

I spent a lot of my time off walking on my own. Seeing family. And taking things at my own pace, not worrying about pleasing everyone.

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

"My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X"

Firstly, suffering from mental health issues doesn't make you weird

Secondly - OMG I'm on a knife edge with anxiety and stress and can't get an appointment at the quack for love nor money

I hope you have better days soon OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all weird in our in way

I don't get depressed any more but I exercise like a maniac so that helps. When I couldn't do that I got down. This will sound daft but I love walking meditations have a look on YouTube but there is an excellent free one at a website called mindtravel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs and me talk through everything, she's helped me through many a problem, as have I with her.

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I have severe anxiety and depression, I'm happy to talk if anyone's struggling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most of us struggle. It's good to remember you're not alone.

I would recommend that you stop putting pressure on yourself. If you've been injured and you can't work, take time to heal and then focus on finding work. Something will come along. If you're not having success on here, do not take it personally. So many men go through the same thing and it is nothing against you even if it feels like it is. It's not easy on here.

I find fresh air helps, and trying to distract myself with whatever I can. Don't be afraid to reach out for professional support if you need it, maybe look for some local hobby groups that could get you out and about. And always talk about how you're feeling and never keep it bottled up.

Sending love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have ADHD which means I overthink and over analyse everything which causes my anxiety...

Time of the month exacerbates it and then my MH crashes... and then I overthink...

Music or low level static helps along with driving, if I'm driving I have to focus my kinaesthetic brain

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I have peaks and troughs, usually situational. Walking is my coping strategy, 99.9% of the time it clears my head and resets me. The one time it didn’t I sat in my car and rang someone to talk through my troubles

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

My anxiety is like a roller coaster. Extremely frustrating when it can spike, often time for no easily identifiable reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel fortunate that it's something I've not had major issues with for the last 10 years or so.

Easier said than done, but the trick is to give less of a f**k about everything (except your kids if you have any). Everything else, work, relationships,etc will either work out or it won't regardless of what you say or do.

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Suffer from depression and anxiety and a battle every day. Don't sleep much and my brain never switches off.

Good and bad days but take a day at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X"

Music

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

It's the cycle of it sadly, But remember tomorrow is a new day don't be hard on yourself. Hugs xo

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By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
over a year ago

Darlington

I've (mr) had depression and bouts of anxiety since we suffered a misscarridge and I lost my grandad on the same weekend, broke me and all the stuff I would bottle up ruined my career, managed a pub then all of a sudden I couldn't do the job I'd been doing for years because I would have random panic attacks.

Therapy didn't really help me, but then again it was a group thing, maybe one to one would have been more effective. What helped me was going to a men's mental health group and hearing their experiences and just having the reassurence that I wasn't alone.

My outlook on everything has changed, calmer, more open to expressing my emotions. Give talking to another man a go. You mite be surprised about relieving it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suffering from anxiety and depression for a few years now as well as anger issues was on medication but recently stopped taking them complete cold turkey I've come to the point where the problems are not with me i think I just have to much common sense for this day and age, so I've reverted back to lashing out and will happily start punching people again who are complete idiot's, plus it helps my anger management

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X"

Get to the gym

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Suffered with mine for over 30 years...

Have learnt how to deal with it most of the time..

My problem is I understand it too much...

The only way now if I get a "blip" is for someone to say something or read something that makes me think about how I'm thinking differently..

I also try to think what I would say to someone else if they said the same to me..

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Seek professional help. Manage it as well as you can by doing things that make you happy and reducing demands on yourself

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"My mind works over time, often creating potential worse case scenarios. I self sabotage a lot. "

Therefor you need to set yourself goals targets you need something that fills time between work and home and also something that gives you a sense of achievement .. I say it over and over but people dismiss it training gym exercise is key to help all this .. i used to be a nightmare few years ago but I train everyday kick boxing it replaces boredom overthinking anxiety with concentration and it brings me a healthy level of stress where I need to defend myself in the ring .. this is truly one of the best ways to manage it .. it's easy to do nothing and just complain

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"My mental health is like a rollercoaster at the moment. Is anybody else like that or I'm I the only weirdo? What helps you deal with your mental health issues? X"

I’m struggling at the moment and trying to keep it all together. Best to seek help and talk to someone.

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