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By *ewismixedbbc OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Would love to know From a females perspective how many messages you get a day….

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I was never all that popular, but when I first joined it was hundreds and hundreds a day. After I'd been here a year, it was 30 to 150+ a day.

(My filters mean that no longer happens)

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I was never all that popular, but when I first joined it was hundreds and hundreds a day. After I'd been here a year, it was 30 to 150+ a day.

(My filters mean that no longer happens)"

Same here. Filters is where it's at! I get maybe 20 - 30 a day if I'm on line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just shows how many men are on the platform. Doris set her own account up but couldn't keep up with the traffic.....

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

New people probably average 2 a day, strict filters mean I coast happily under the radar of most

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I was never all that popular, but when I first joined it was hundreds and hundreds a day. After I'd been here a year, it was 30 to 150+ a day.

(My filters mean that no longer happens)

Same here. Filters is where it's at! I get maybe 20 - 30 a day if I'm on line.

"

My filters are set so no one new can message me. On average less than ten a day, all from people I want to talk to

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

On average 5-10 a day.

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By *ewismixedbbc OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Haha was just a question because I was thinking how do you siv through the shit , but filters narrow it down significantly durrrr .. but just shows how many off us guys are actually on this site maybe their should be a fabswingers sister account for us single swingers , but then again is it even swinging if your just meeting singles with no couple ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If I'm not online and don't have a status or new pictures up, around 30 randoms and a couple from people I like to talk to.

On days I'm active and posting in the forums or adding photos well over 100.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies everyday….. I have filters up which stops a lot from messaging me

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"If I'm not online and don't have a status or new pictures up, around 30 randoms and a couple from people I like to talk to.

On days I'm active and posting in the forums or adding photos well over 100."

That’s not many at all.

Considering you can see the profile pic and gist of the message without even opening it, it can’t take more than a couple of minutes each day to quickly scan and delete them one by one ? Then maybe open read one or two that look promising before deleting them too?

Guys can all stop complaining now they aren’t getting laid because women get too many messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question is, how many women that posted to this topic received a DM relating to this thread ???

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London


"Question is, how many women that posted to this topic received a DM relating to this thread ???"

I’ve sent a cock pic to them all…

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By *ewismixedbbc OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"Question is, how many women that posted to this topic received a DM relating to this thread ???

I’ve sent a cock pic to them all…"
haha

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By *oddess NailaWoman
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

When I first joined I was getting between 500 - 1000+ and just started to bulk delete as that’s not manageable.

Now that I have filters on and actively use block function for those that aren’t my type, abusive, pushy etc it can range from 20 if I’m not on to 200/400+ if I pop up a meet

Being a size 16 with no public face pics I can’t even imagine what some of the other ladies that are literally stubby with perfect figures get hit with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 a day

#youknowwhoyouare

#myself

#monologue

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Alot x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I'm not online and don't have a status or new pictures up, around 30 randoms and a couple from people I like to talk to.

On days I'm active and posting in the forums or adding photos well over 100.

That’s not many at all.

Considering you can see the profile pic and gist of the message without even opening it, it can’t take more than a couple of minutes each day to quickly scan and delete them one by one ? Then maybe open read one or two that look promising before deleting them too?

Guys can all stop complaining now they aren’t getting laid because women get too many messages. "

Or start complaining they don't get a response to a message ??

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Ah, the blessing of filters - you can control what you want to

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Usually between 0 and 2 a day thanks to tight filters or else no one likes my profile Whichever it is it suits me I don't want a load of messages,sometimes if I add a new pic it might go up to about 7 or 8 .But that's usually the most in any day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hundreds when I first joined but I started blocking out things like new and no pics. If if I'm online and unhidden messages are a steady stream until I log off but when I'm hidden I just get messages from friends or from forum chat which are usually welcome anyway

I'd love to block single men because 99% are thirsty or gross but the 1% I can have a convo with make me smile so I ignore the 99% instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined, I would get a few hundred but now I get 15-30 a day max x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha was just a question because I was thinking how do you siv through the shit , but filters narrow it down significantly durrrr .. but just shows how many off us guys are actually on this site maybe their should be a fabswingers sister account for us single swingers , but then again is it even swinging if your just meeting singles with no couple ? "

I have most of the filters on and think my age limits are 27 to 40ish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's currently 2180 unread in my inbox Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there's currently 2180 unread in my inbox Px "

That explains it!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"there's currently 2180 unread in my inbox Px "

So you could go into stealth mode and stop more comeing through .

You spend your time reading and ing or you could publish them in a tell all book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in. No filters, ticked every Looking for box. Shit profile.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

The number of messages I get varies depending on how long I’m on line etc. if I post a pic - particularly a face pic - it increases exponentially. I very rarely post pics now as the extra messages from all over the uk rarely turn into a great meet - and that’s what I’m here for.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"The number of messages I get varies depending on how long I’m on line etc. if I post a pic - particularly a face pic - it increases exponentially. I very rarely post pics now as the extra messages from all over the uk rarely turn into a great meet - and that’s what I’m here for.

"

Judgeing by your pics I could offer

you a great meet. The things I could do to that wonderful body . but you have your own criteria of what your looking for. I'm sure there younger men that would be of more interest to you. But thank god you post your. Pics and its great see and to read what you post on forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can depend, when our profile expresses we're not looking, the amount of messages do drop, a lot.

Which leads me to believe there are more profile readers than we may realise.

When we're looking, it can easily be around 200.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in. No filters, ticked every Looking for box. Shit profile. "

41 messages in 5 hours.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't get any most days.

Sometimes people message me for advice. Not wise really.

Sometimes a random sends a message instead of commenting in the forum.

Sometimes people take me serious and want to ask a question.

Today ... I got 4! cos I used the word anal in the forum.

Cocks must be like antennae

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None anymore as its hidden

I use to get loads before I knew about filters etc. They make a huge difference.

Pxx

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Very few.

I have the best filter on though - I say I can’t meet anyone in the first line of my (lengthy) profile.

Does the job.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

currently on this profile its zero as my filters are all up so no one can contact me ... on our couples account anything from 5 to 20/30 a day unless we are actively looking to meet then that number shoots up alot ... when you have regular guys to meet then youy dont need to be looking most of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lately I'm been getting 2 messages a day

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

P had her own account to chat to women only, but she was inundated with messages from guys. Just as soon as she deleted messages, she'd receive more back. In the end she gave up. Didn't keep the profile long enough to bother with filters

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"I don't get any most days.

Sometimes people message me for advice. Not wise really.

Sometimes a random sends a message instead of commenting in the forum.

Sometimes people take me serious and want to ask a question.

Today ... I got 4! cos I used the word anal in the forum.

Cocks must be like antennae "

So that’s why I got that random stiffy!!

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"there's currently 2180 unread in my inbox Px "

I only sent 2,000 of them. Any more is harassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men just look at who is online and local, and message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there's currently 2180 unread in my inbox Px "

My work mailbox used to be like that

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

It very much varies for me, too. As I have my filters up, for example non-verified people cannot message me - it does not take a rocket scientist to get photo verified. I think this one, plus no newbies, helps the most with keeping my inbox highly manageable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question is, how many women that posted to this topic received a DM relating to this thread ???

I’ve sent a cock pic to them all…"

Thank You, that's a very clever angle you got yourself in.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Our ages work as a great filter! lol

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