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By *asygoing-87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend

Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Because just being a nice bloke isn’t going to drop a woman’s knickers all on its own.

There are dozens of reasons you may not get a response and that’s just life, I’m afraid, pal.

Keep at it, you’re bound to catch one looking the wrong way…

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Being anything for the purposes of gaining something is just false - perhaps that’s why!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up "

Lol ffs it says your 35

Work it out its about giveing them what they want. it doesn't stop you been you or been nice

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Be nice but not a doormat should be lifes motto. Op join in with forum/cam chat. Plenty of topics up for discussion.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

All the men I've met from here were nice.

Some didn't stay nice, but the approach was.

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By *igandy123Man
over a year ago

old trafford

Because people associate being nice with being weak unfortunately….

If a guy is nice,kind and respectful they are seen as a pushover, weak and timid

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


"Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up "

Being "nice" is the absolute bare minimum, literally everyone on here who isn't a cunt is "nice"

And that is before we factor in the frightening ratio of men vs everyone else.

Would you walk into a pub and shout "ladies, I'm nice, please sleep with me" Probably not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate your profile pic don't help you say your a fit bloke let the ladies see what's on offer other than your cock. Your write up on your profile isn't too bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up "

Depends what your idea of nice is.

Women get so many messages, and so often we get told 'they are just being nice' when we says thanks but nit interested.

So what are you expecting when being nice

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up "

Question.

Do you think women should be so grateful to be treated with the bare minimum of respect that should be shown to any human that they drop their knickers for anyone who isn't an absolute asshole immediately?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Because we know you are just being nice because we have the foof!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Because we know you are just being nice because we have the foof! "

Love your status on your

Profile your profile pics says your lieing your very pretty and have beautiful eyes . I'm not been nice just honest .

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up

Question.

Do you think women should be so grateful to be treated with the bare minimum of respect that should be shown to any human that they drop their knickers for anyone who isn't an absolute asshole immediately?"

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we know you are just being nice because we have the foof! "

And there is the issue

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford


"All the men I've met from here were nice.

Some didn't stay nice, but the approach was."

Lads they’re on to us. Abort mission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up "

Nice guys finish last, bad boys finish on her face

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Just be yourself and treat as you would anyone else. They may still not like you, but you didn't put any extra effort in or dishonesty in to it.

Just be noticed and let them decide for themselves. Don't stress over their actions or inactions.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Being nice is the bare minimum on here. I don't know why people think it's an exception and should make them entitled to a meet.

While yes I get it is frustrating when you feel like you're getting nowhere but being nice is most likely not the reason why you are not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Being nice doesn't entitle anyone to sex. Neither does doing the washing up, buying flowers, cooking...

If it did I'd be knee deep in oiled up 35 year olds.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Being nice is necessary but not sufficient.

Pretending to be nice to get what you want (which often happens in this kind of situation) is something that we can all see through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does being nice not get you anywhere with ladies just makes you want to give up

Question.

Do you think women should be so grateful to be treated with the bare minimum of respect that should be shown to any human that they drop their knickers for anyone who isn't an absolute asshole immediately?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being nice is necessary but not sufficient.

Pretending to be nice to get what you want (which often happens in this kind of situation) is something that we can all see through."

Honesty and integrity matter too. Once you have worked out how to fake them, you've cracked it!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Being nice is necessary but not sufficient.

Pretending to be nice to get what you want (which often happens in this kind of situation) is something that we can all see through.

Honesty and integrity matter too. Once you have worked out how to fake them, you've cracked it!"

Don't give people ideas

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Being nice is necessary but not sufficient.

Pretending to be nice to get what you want (which often happens in this kind of situation) is something that we can all see through.

Honesty and integrity matter too. Once you have worked out how to fake them, you've cracked it!"

there are people who could hold a masterclass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends of we're talking Richie from Bottom 'My, what a smashing blouse you have on' nice, or just decent normal human being that takes no effort nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being anything for the purposes of gaining something is just false - perhaps that’s why!"

It's even more half passed than being a dick, at least if you're a prick you're bing honest. Be nice for a reward and you're not being good or bad properly. It's mediocre, worse than both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to you might not be nice to someone else. Also, nice should be the absolute bear minimum that you should be, that is the very starting point.

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By *ustus696969Couple
over a year ago

Southampton

We always answer messages and decline politely

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Being nice is no bad thing, OP - in all walks of life - but it can't also be all you've got.

I take pride in being nice and kind to people. It's not a weakness as far as I'm concerned, but does also feel like one of life's pre-requisites.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Being nice is a strength, but tbf there's a lot more to a personality, and different people are looking for different things.

Gotta find the right mix for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have to consciously think about being nice, you probably aren’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you have to consciously think about being nice, you probably aren’t."

Oh crap.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Being nice helps ,but there still has to be an attraction and a connection for me.

Plus as others said some are only nice to get something and then show true colours perhaps when they don't.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If you have to consciously think about being nice, you probably aren’t."

Yeah. It's a bit damning with faint praise sometimes.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

It depends where you want the ‘anywhere’ to be. Being nice is good but it still doesn’t provide sex on tap. Trust me I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because people associate being nice with being weak unfortunately….

If a guy is nice,kind and respectful they are seen as a pushover, weak and timid"

Oh behave yourself.

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