FabSwingers.com forum: It’s just a question

By *asty tatsy OP Man
over a year ago

london

So you start chatting with someone and look to potentially meet, would it put you off if they met someone that you wasn’t keen on whether it be their personality or views from forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely. Especially if that person posted racist, homophobic or misogynistic comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you start chatting with someone and look to potentially meet, would it put you off if they met someone that you wasn’t keen on whether it be their personality or views from forum? "

Yes, it has happened. Of course!

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Don't publish veris...... Sorted

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"So you start chatting with someone and look to potentially meet, would it put you off if they met someone that you wasn’t keen on whether it be their personality or views from forum? "

Definitely. It would make me question whether we actually were a good match after all.

Has this happened to you, OP? No names necessary, of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you start chatting with someone and look to potentially meet, would it put you off if they met someone that you wasn’t keen on whether it be their personality or views from forum? "

For us yes, we can't and shouldn't impose our choices on anyone else but we also know what we like or are into and that again is our choice.

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By *asty tatsy OP Man
over a year ago

london

"So you start chatting with someone and look to potentially meet, would it put you off if they met someone that you wasn’t keen on whether it be their personality or views from forum?

Definitely. It would make me question whether we actually were a good match after all.

Has this happened to you, OP? No names necessary, of course."

No it’s not happened to me, I was just having a browse and thought if this scenario happened what would I do. Then thought let me ask others

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Yes. Verifications can be double edged sword.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Umm, it depends.

If I don't like them as in we just don't click or have nothing in common, then it's irrelevant.

If they're meeting people I know to be genuinely unpleasant or high risk, I'd prefer to avoid until I'd cleared that in my own head.

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By *asty tatsy OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Umm, it depends.

If I don't like them as in we just don't click or have nothing in common, then it's irrelevant.

If they're meeting people I know to be genuinely unpleasant or high risk, I'd prefer to avoid until I'd cleared that in my own head."

It would be more on how they act and views then?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes it totally would .

In the past I've changed my mind about meeting someone ,not from the forum though.

Hell If I see a unsavoury comment it changes my mind about a person.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"It would be more on how they act and views then? "

If one of my partners wants to fuck a tory or a xenophobe or whatever, then that's their choice and I trust them to make the right decisions for the situations theyre in. But someone I don't know and trust, I will assume either more alignment with ideals I find repulsive or that they simply don't care who they fuck as long as they get laid, which isn't something I find appealing.

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By *asty tatsy OP Man
over a year ago

london

"It would be more on how they act and views then?

Yeah I completely understand and agree with that

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Yes, because shared interests and conflict of interests rarely go well together.

I'm specifically referring to "racist, homophobic or misogynistic" views as someone above just mentioned, and not benign opinions on flavours of ice cream.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"So you start chatting with someone and look to potentially meet, would it put you off if they met someone that you wasn’t keen on whether it be their personality or views from forum? "

It depends why I don’t like them.

I’ve known people end friendships over people they have met, and others who have cancelled meets purely based on forum interactions.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It would completely depend on why I didn't like the person. The main reason would be I would avoid someone is if they met someone that I know who thrives on the background drama on here.It is just easier to avoid that than meet someone and then end up being dragged into all the bullshite that happens and the nastiness that can follow.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It would totally depends why I don't like them, could be a number of reasons, it may make me question compatibility but only if there was a very good reason for not liking the other person, generally I don't think it would bother me much. I'm more interested in the person I'm meeting than who they've met with

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yep. But unless people show veris they wouldn’t know anyway.

Has someone refused to meet you?

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By *asty tatsy OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Yep. But unless people show veris they wouldn’t know anyway.

Has someone refused to meet you?

Nope it was merely a question Nora

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Erm... yes. I don't care how awful that is. I get the ick and my sexual attraction vanishes. I'm talking about certain things here.

A woman I think is a bit of a throbber?

Everyone's a little bit of a throbber so not so much.

It's really situational.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yep. But unless people show veris they wouldn’t know anyway.

Has someone refused to meet you?

Nope it was merely a question Nora

Haha just thought you may be more successful if you hid yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably yes.

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By *asty tatsy OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Yep. But unless people show veris they wouldn’t know anyway.

Has someone refused to meet you?

Nope it was merely a question Nora

Haha just thought you may be more successful if you hid yours

I thought it would bring me more

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By *J_SpiceyCouple
over a year ago

Kinky Kings Lynn

By association for whatever reason it can put those off you would meet. This has happened a number of times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep. But unless people show veris they wouldn’t know anyway.

Has someone refused to meet you?

Nope it was merely a question Nora

Haha just thought you may be more successful if you hid yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. No. Maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it has done. I hate when women flutter their eyes lashes for people I think are total pricks BUT I'm also not a dick about it because everyone is allowed to think whatever the fuck they do BUT it does put me off them a little xoxox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hans?

Are we the baddies?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references. "

It's a bit like Trip Advisor. You don't rely on what could be highly subjective or even a work of fiction...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references. "

That is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references.

It's a bit like Trip Advisor. You don't rely on what could be highly subjective or even a work of fiction... "
m

Yep it’s what isn’t written that speaks volumes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references.

It's a bit like Trip Advisor. You don't rely on what could be highly subjective or even a work of fiction... m

Yep it’s what isn’t written that speaks volumes. "

The bit between the lines is the most interesting reading...

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

No, it wouldn't bother me. It's not anyone's fault they haven't met me yet.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

I try not to let it bother me. I’ve been in that situation and thought, fuck it, today they want me and today is all that counts. Everyone makes mistakes

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Nope. No one else's views and opinions on a forum bothers me that much tbh

I check for people who meet loads of people who bareback, that's my worry on fab. My sexual health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references.

It's a bit like Trip Advisor. You don't rely on what could be highly subjective or even a work of fiction... m

Yep it’s what isn’t written that speaks volumes. "

What do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references.

It's a bit like Trip Advisor. You don't rely on what could be highly subjective or even a work of fiction... m

Yep it’s what isn’t written that speaks volumes.

What do you mean? "

did you just upload your profile picture in reverse? Hilarious.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references. "
Yes but why would you tell anyone else, thats the point, keep what you do to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't publish veris...... Sorted

Erm... people still find out. A veri really isn't the only source of knowledge. The only way you don't find out is if absolutely no one tells anyone, no friends etc. No obvious references.

It's a bit like Trip Advisor. You don't rely on what could be highly subjective or even a work of fiction... m

Yep it’s what isn’t written that speaks volumes.

What do you mean?

did you just upload your profile picture in reverse? Hilarious. "

I uploaded a new pic for your 'how old is your profile pic' thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

It brought my recent arrangement to a very sharp and sudden death when they played with ones I consider undesirable and then doubled down with bitchy party politics to preserve their golden ticket to the shag olympics.

Fab changes people over time. Some for the better, some not.

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