FabSwingers.com forum: Married men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

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By *adboy 2018Man
over a year ago

Shepton Mallet

I'm free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course I prefer married men

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By *oe n JayCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Both Zoe and I have a fantasy of fucking a married man or woman.

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By *uriousgeorge46Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Married man here at your service lol

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone? "
Can you prove it though is your wife complete with wedding certificate and ring with receipt on cam prepared to say " he has my permission to play" coz thats what many would require

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience people will, and have

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By *triker0079Man
over a year ago

London

It's definitely something many like ... Especially the taboo side it (married men playing without permission)

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Some are ok with it some aren’t. Just be honest and everyone can make informed choices

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer it, things never get complicated and tend to be more easy going.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship "

Because, and keep with me here!!! Some MIGHT be. And let’s just say for your imagination, SOMEONE who is open to a relationship gets with SOMEONE who didn’t say they’re attached. And that 1st person starts to fall for them…. Do I have to continue?

Some people are only out for themselves and leave carnage behind them along their journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone? "

Couples and hot wives are your target audience. I like wives that are hot.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Maybe not anyone but some do

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of people do, and plenty don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship "

You are very much mistaken.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No never meet atatched x

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

we don't play with attach men

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yep. I do always ask how much potential drama will be drawn to me though. Just in case.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

Probably not, one got me pregnant *after knowing him (and seeing him exclusively for) 4 years (his idea), then disappearing.

Now is back on here looking for pregnancy risk sex (until the profile gets shut down for other reasons, before creating yet another profile!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead. "

Some with permission also break agreed boundaries with their partners. That can lead to dramas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m married & playing away with my wife’s full knowledge and permission,I’ve had two regular lady friends in the past,one her husband knew & encouraged her,the other was playing behind her husband’s back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

Some with permission also break agreed boundaries with their partners. That can lead to dramas"

Some will but we are open with messages with each other before meets.

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship

Some people are only out for themselves and leave carnage behind them along their journey.

^^^ this 100%

I tried it with a married who had permission.

Carnage is right, even then, so never again with an attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure the moral police are loving this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're really after NSA sex, I have never found meeting married WOMEN an issue. And I'm sorry, call me a shit but I actually find it pretty hot if it's without permission. I'm usually not the only one they are cheating with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the moral police are loving this one

You say moral police, I say, people with strength of chars and empathy for others…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the moral police are loving this one

You say moral police, I say, people with strength of chars and empathy for others…"

Have I been a bad boy? Are you gonna handcuff me up officer...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope. Not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure the moral police are loving this one

You say moral police, I say, people with strength of chars and empathy for others…"

*character, ffs

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone? "

Some will, some wont.

You may find it helpful to link to your couples profile in your bio!

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!"

That’s your opinion. Others differ. Lots meet on here and relationships form, there’s been quite a few marriages too. I don’t use fab to meet, for me it’s just a social tool for events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did but won’t again…. Too much drama

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!"

That’s rubbish. I know loads of people who have met here and are in a relationship or got married. I’ve never met anyone just for sex and nothing more either.

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

With permission yes. Just as I give my hubby permission to enjoy himself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. Not for me "

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Clearly I’m using this site for then wrong purpose- but it seems to serve me well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead. "

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!"

I agree with you it's a sex site. If you want to date got on POF.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!

I agree with you it's a sex site. If you want to date got on POF."

No. I’m not looking for a relationship either. I think I’ll stay if that’s ok with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you're really after NSA sex, I have never found meeting married WOMEN an issue. And I'm sorry, call me a shit but I actually find it pretty hot if it's without permission. I'm usually not the only one they are cheating with."

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!

I agree with you it's a sex site. If you want to date got on POF."

What if you want to date a swinger?

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it."

As much as I like hearing about my long term partner's other women, I don't want to be talked about by a jealous wife. That's if the wives allow the husbands to meet other women in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone?

Some will, some wont.

You may find it helpful to link to your couples profile in your bio!

We have done that but single men pester me when my wife won't talk to them.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone?

Some will, some wont.

You may find it helpful to link to your couples profile in your bio!

We have done that but single men pester me when my wife won't talk to them. "

Block single men?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it. "

No its not okay for women to cheat, they can get blacklisted as well.

Its just the target audience differs in their outlook, with men more likely to overlook cheating if it means they get their dick wet!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it. "

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway. "

I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest.

Might just be speaking for myself here haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!

I agree with you it's a sex site. If you want to date got on POF."

Its a swinging site not a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it."

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I used to be against it. But now I don't mind meeting married men as long as I've cleared it with their spouse.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!"

Its a swingers site and swinging is all about being open and honest. A man playing with his wife's permission is just that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone?

Some will, some wont.

You may find it helpful to link to your couples profile in your bio!

We have done that but single men pester me when my wife won't talk to them.

Block single men?"

Why block them when she likes single men for her solo meets

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway.

I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest.

Might just be speaking for myself here haha"

I agree. I think most men are. Note I said most. Some wouldn’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway.

I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest.

Might just be speaking for myself here haha"

Most men on here will fuck anything that will move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway.

I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest.

Might just be speaking for myself here haha

I agree. I think most men are. Note I said most. Some wouldn’t. "

Aren't we the worst?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway.

I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest.

Might just be speaking for myself here haha

I agree. I think most men are. Note I said most. Some wouldn’t.

Aren't we the worst?

Nah. It’s never bothered me what other people do or don’t do. Not my business. Unless it’s someone I’m meeting, then I want to know everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway.

I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest.

Might just be speaking for myself here haha

I agree. I think most men are. Note I said most. Some wouldn’t.

Aren't we the worst?

Nah. It’s never bothered me what other people do or don’t do. Not my business. Unless it’s someone I’m meeting, then I want to know everything

So, what ya wanna know?

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By *Cocksucker84Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Most of my meets are married men. I do love the kink around that, but it gives us both that level of protection. He needs discretion, and I don't want any kind of attachment and I'm not looking to ruin relationships.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It's ok for women to cheat but men get blacklisted for doing it.

I find most who are against cheating on here are against cheating full stop, regardless of gender. From the threads I’ve read anyway.

I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest.

Might just be speaking for myself here haha

I agree. I think most men are. Note I said most. Some wouldn’t.

Aren't we the worst?

Nah. It’s never bothered me what other people do or don’t do. Not my business. Unless it’s someone I’m meeting, then I want to know everything

So, what ya wanna know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have. I’ve been in an open relationship myself before so I understand what kind of arrangements and rules they have in place

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Most of my meets are married men. I do love the kink around that, but it gives us both that level of protection. He needs discretion, and I don't want any kind of attachment and I'm not looking to ruin relationships. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer married women,100% descretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink."

I hate that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did some years ago on my previous profile but not now. It can be more trouble than it's worth x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink.

I hate that. "

Each to their own we all have a kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink.

I hate that.

Each to their own we all have a kink."

Very true.

But this is one I don't see the appeal of either.

Knowing it was going to be picked apart, compared, reviewed after would spoil my enjoyment during.

The knowing there'd be a convo with the spouse like "you're still/always my favourite hun, she wasn't as good at oral!" Regardless of the truth.

No one is going to tell the person they have to live with that they're less good than a passing fancy.

Nonsense and disrespectful to all imo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink.

I hate that.

Each to their own we all have a kink.

Very true.

But this is one I don't see the appeal of either.

Knowing it was going to be picked apart, compared, reviewed after would spoil my enjoyment during.

The knowing there'd be a convo with the spouse like "you're still/always my favourite hun, she wasn't as good at oral!" Regardless of the truth.

No one is going to tell the person they have to live with that they're less good than a passing fancy.

Nonsense and disrespectful to all imo"

There is always that part but it makes you appreciate your partner more and the sex and love with have for each other after a meet is intense for us. But this isn't the case for all poeple.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink.

I hate that.

Each to their own we all have a kink.

Very true.

But this is one I don't see the appeal of either.

Knowing it was going to be picked apart, compared, reviewed after would spoil my enjoyment during.

The knowing there'd be a convo with the spouse like "you're still/always my favourite hun, she wasn't as good at oral!" Regardless of the truth.

No one is going to tell the person they have to live with that they're less good than a passing fancy.

Nonsense and disrespectful to all imo

There is always that part but it makes you appreciate your partner more and the sex and love with have for each other after a meet is intense for us. But this isn't the case for all poeple."

So to me it’s just using the other person. Which they are fine with so it’s all good. And it’s a swinger site and I respect that and where I am but I’ll never get my head round it. It’s just not for me.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes ,as my other half meets alone with my permission.

As long as your wife confirms she's happy for you to meet ,no issues at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I wouldn't fool around with a married guy.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship "

Because some of us don't like meeting people behind their partners back .so yes it does matter to those of us that want to know his Mrs knows and is ok with it.

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By *hocohung8Man
over a year ago

Norrh East & East midlands

People are here for different reasons, meeting a married man or woman is a fantasy for many too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink.

I hate that.

Each to their own we all have a kink.

Very true.

But this is one I don't see the appeal of either.

Knowing it was going to be picked apart, compared, reviewed after would spoil my enjoyment during.

The knowing there'd be a convo with the spouse like "you're still/always my favourite hun, she wasn't as good at oral!" Regardless of the truth.

No one is going to tell the person they have to live with that they're less good than a passing fancy.

Nonsense and disrespectful to all imo

There is always that part but it makes you appreciate your partner more and the sex and love with have for each other after a meet is intense for us. But this isn't the case for all poeple.

We all have kinks and are own strange things. But as long as we all have fun and be safe that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes ,as my other half meets alone with my permission.

As long as your wife confirms she's happy for you to meet ,no issues at all."

That is one of are main rules.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Some do. Some prefer married men playing without permission as they don't like their meet details being discussed.

We have a couple's account it's explained in there too. We have rules to go by to.

But yes plenty of men spoil it as they don't get permission and just cheat instead.

I mean some prefer 'cheaters'. They don't want their meet discussed with the person's partner.

A cheater won't be telling their partner all about it.

My wife gets off on me telling her about the meets I have. She loves seeing the videos and pictures it's her little kink.

I hate that.

Each to their own we all have a kink.

Very true.

But this is one I don't see the appeal of either.

Knowing it was going to be picked apart, compared, reviewed after would spoil my enjoyment during.

The knowing there'd be a convo with the spouse like "you're still/always my favourite hun, she wasn't as good at oral!" Regardless of the truth.

No one is going to tell the person they have to live with that they're less good than a passing fancy.

Nonsense and disrespectful to all imo

There is always that part but it makes you appreciate your partner more and the sex and love with have for each other after a meet is intense for us. But this isn't the case for all poeple.

We all have kinks and are own strange things. But as long as we all have fun and be safe that's all that matters. "

Oh definitely. I agree.

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Wish I did get permission would not be divorced now lol

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By *J_SpiceyCouple
over a year ago

Kinky Kings Lynn

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By *J_SpiceyCouple
over a year ago

Kinky Kings Lynn

If the single person is playing away or cheating without permission that is their decision.

The consequences of being caught or found out is their risk assessment.

Without adding morals and contrary to thoughts, this can have benefits for all concerned especially if a cheating single and a couple.

Play can be regular. The cheat has all to lose so oddly will be loyal and faithful to that couple.

One on ones (especially when one or both are married) for me isn’t true swinging and can lead to feelings and emotions and that’s not a good mix in this game.

For those married playing with permission, whilst it seems more odd, it’s maybe less of an attractive proposition to a couple.

It does happen for many reasons. My belief would be you all meet up to discuss boundaries before the married single joins your play.

And the kink/bdsm lifestyle differs from pure swinging which is what we are discussing.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"... ...I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest...

...Most men on here will fuck anything that will move

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And equally so, 'most' women will fuck anything that will move too.

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship

Because some of us don't like meeting people behind their partners back .so yes it does matter to those of us that want to know his Mrs knows and is ok with it."

Exactly this.

I meet people with my partner’s permission. It’s a matter of trust for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship

Because some of us don't like meeting people behind their partners back .so yes it does matter to those of us that want to know his Mrs knows and is ok with it.

Exactly this.

I meet people with my partner’s permission. It’s a matter of trust for us."

You speak to my wife quite a bit on here. Haha

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone? Can you prove it though is your wife complete with wedding certificate and ring with receipt on cam prepared to say " he has my permission to play" coz thats what many would require

I just had a thought. It won’t be long until guys will probably start to pay for a deepfake or an AI generated wife to create the permission video you’re asking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just had a thought. It won’t be long until guys will probably start to pay for a deepfake or an AI generated wife to create the permission video you’re asking for. "

Sounds like a paranoid woman with trust issues

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the single person is playing away or cheating without permission that is their decision.

The consequences of being caught or found out is their risk assessment.

Without adding morals and contrary to thoughts, this can have benefits for all concerned especially if a cheating single and a couple.

Play can be regular. The cheat has all to lose so oddly will be loyal and faithful to that couple.

One on ones (especially when one or both are married) for me isn’t true swinging and can lead to feelings and emotions and that’s not a good mix in this game.

For those married playing with permission, whilst it seems more odd, it’s maybe less of an attractive proposition to a couple.

It does happen for many reasons. My belief would be you all meet up to discuss boundaries before the married single joins your play.

And the kink/bdsm lifestyle differs from pure swinging which is what we are discussing."

I always talk to a woman and discuss boundaries first. got to know where you stand beforehand

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Another day, another thread devolves in to the same old discussion. It seems lots of people, both married and not, make this site work for them in lots of different ways. Isn't that nice.

Anyway, might as well add our tuppence. Anyone meeting without their partner's permission is off-limits to us.

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship

Because some of us don't like meeting people behind their partners back .so yes it does matter to those of us that want to know his Mrs knows and is ok with it.

Exactly this.

I meet people with my partner’s permission. It’s a matter of trust for us.

You speak to my wife quite a bit on here. Haha "

I thought I recognised your profile pic, haha! Yeah, I do, my partner knows all about it too

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No, never.

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone? "

I would yes,why wouldn't I ?

His partner knows what's happening,I don't see a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never share my husband he’s all mine

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Another day, another thread devolves in to the same old discussion. It seems lots of people, both married and not, make this site work for them in lots of different ways. Isn't that nice.

Anyway, might as well add our tuppence. Anyone meeting without their partner's permission is off-limits to us.

Oo lucky then that I’m totally single

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"... ...I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest...

...Most men on here will fuck anything that will move

•

And equally so, 'most' women will fuck anything that will move too."

Lucky for the thousands of men on here we do, or they'd all be complaining that no one answers their messages.

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By *m6469Couple
over a year ago

Northwich

We both have permission if we want to going and play without each other on the other hand nobody wants a single guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We both have permission if we want to going and play without each other on the other hand nobody wants a single guy "

That's the trouble I find. my wife has no problem getting a meet with another man.

Do you find women won't talk to you but then you find them messaging couples profile confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me."

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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"... ...I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest...

...Most men on here will fuck anything that will move

•

And equally so, 'most' women will fuck anything that will move too.

Lucky for the thousands of men on here we do, or they'd all be complaining that no one answers their messages."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married man here without permission or knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me."

No he most certainly does not go along with it to please me. Thanks that’s just made is both laugh lol

I don’t take liberties with men. We both do what we enjoy on here just like you and everyone else. He has no interest in other women and only likes to play with me. That’s what he gets out of this.

You don’t have to tell me to be fare and not have double standards, I would never do anything that my husband was wasn’t getting just as much enjoyment from.

I don’t know why you would want to make that condescending statement to be honest?

maybe if you had read our profile it would give you more insight?

Not that I have to explain my marriage to you but everyone is looking for different things. Is it such a shock to you that a man isn’t interested in going with other women? And that he only enjoys to see his wife play,

I really hope I’ve cleared up those questions for you on my marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone? "

I have. I think it’s fine as long as you go into it aware and don’t catch feelings. Can be fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both Zoe and I have a fantasy of fucking a married man or woman. "

Pick me pick me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal."

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal."

Who says you can’t? So just because it’s not for you it’s to be the same for everyone else.

Bit of a ridiculous statement

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Just a point I thought I'd bring up regarding the preference for cheaters / those playing away without permission on the grounds of privacy: those things aren't (or don't have to be) mutually exclusive, right? We're all our own autonomous adult selves, and we all have a right to our own boundaries. If we're all practicing ENM, then those meeting attached men and women can (and should) assert their own boundary for personal privacy... and likewise this should be honoured by the attached person(s).

Just my thoughts / view on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

No he most certainly does not go along with it to please me. Thanks that’s just made is both laugh lol

You don’t have to tell me to be fare and not have double standards, I would never do anything that my husband was wasn’t getting just as much enjoyment from.

I don’t know why you would want to make that condescending statement to be honest?

maybe if you had read our profile it would give you more insight?

I really hope I’ve cleared up those questions for you on my marriage

Holey moley! Bit much there.

I'm not interested in your marriage particularly. I don't know you. But I did glance at your profile briefly.

It was a fair question given my personal experiences of controlling spouses and double standards.

Enjoy your lol.

Tbh I'd believe it more easily if it came directly from the second person, I can't imagine anyone would say on here if the opposite were true.

Best left there really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine. "

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine. "
Exactly.

I just can’t believe in a site like this people are being so judgemental. That’s what we like we get get enjoyment from it. Everyone Likes different things there are many people on here that we are not compatible with and what they enjoy is a big no from us but wouldn’t dream of rudely and condescendingly questioning them or saying you can’t have one and not the other.. to be honest though that one did make us laugh

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By *cholarmanMan
over a year ago

Reading

I wonder why Fab doesn’t allow you to specify in advanced search that you are married and seeking discreet meet with woman in same situation. I prefer to meet married women as I like to be ‘an honest cheat’ and feel comforted by the element of mutually assured destruction which requires discretion. I know there are women here who also have profiles on IE website where men have to pay a lot each month to join

It feels like Fab should be a judgement free zone. Everyone is doing their own thing and we should all live and let live.

Tweaking the advance search parameters would be super helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

No he most certainly does not go along with it to please me. Thanks that’s just made is both laugh lol

You don’t have to tell me to be fare and not have double standards, I would never do anything that my husband was wasn’t getting just as much enjoyment from.

I don’t know why you would want to make that condescending statement to be honest?

maybe if you had read our profile it would give you more insight?

I really hope I’ve cleared up those questions for you on my marriage

Holey moley! Bit much there.

I'm not interested in your marriage particularly. I don't know you. But I did glance at your profile briefly.

It was a fair question given my personal experiences of controlling spouses and double standards.

Enjoy your lol.

Tbh I'd believe it more easily if it came directly from the second person, I can't imagine anyone would say on here if the opposite were true.

Best left there really.

What has my and my husband got to do with your previous relationships lol we don’t have a controlling relationship?

Shall I get him to message and clarify that’s what he likes will that help? Haha so glad you peeked at our profile my husband has most of the input in it so at least you could see what we want.

We did try to have a Peek at yours but it’s hidden.

You obviously are interested or just very bored as you asked quite private questions and made assumptions on people you correctly said you don’t know.

I’m away now to go boss my husband about

and really hope you have a great day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, this is an open forum where people post about THEIR experiences and ask for opinions or simply wait for them to be offered to have a free discussion.

If it's too much or too personal, that's absolutely fine.

There's no requirement to answer or to get wound up about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

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By *illybeachboyMan
over a year ago

Guernsey

I love married men, they are usually more discrete.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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"I wonder why Fab doesn’t allow you to specify in advanced search that you are married and seeking discreet meet with woman in same situation. I prefer to meet married women as I like to be ‘an honest cheat’ and feel comforted by the element of mutually assured destruction which requires discretion. I know there are women here who also have profiles on IE website where men have to pay a lot each month to join

It feels like Fab should be a judgement free zone. Everyone is doing their own thing and we should all live and let live.

Tweaking the advance search parameters would be super helpful "

Tbh it would only work if everyone was honest on their profile for the search to work, as with height, age, sexual preferences etc. The truth is not always told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer "

You think boundaries would prevent yourself for getting emotionally involved ?!

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

It feels like Fab should be a judgement free zone. Everyone is doing their own thing and we should all live and let live.

Tweaking the advance search parameters would be super helpful

Tbh it would only work if everyone was honest on their profile for the search to work, as with height, age, sexual preferences etc. The truth is not always told"
people lie omg really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer "

Boundaries are always made clear don't want anyone getting feelings for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It feels like Fab should be a judgement free zone. Everyone is doing their own thing and we should all live and let live.

Tweaking the advance search parameters would be super helpful

Tbh it would only work if everyone was honest on their profile for the search to work, as with height, age, sexual preferences etc. The truth is not always told"

And that's why most women wont go for married men because they aren't honest from the start. My profile clearly states im married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

You think boundaries would prevent yourself for getting emotionally involved ?! "

No, hence why I said "less chance"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

You think boundaries would prevent yourself for getting emotionally involved ?!

No, hence why I said "less chance" "

sorry my mad. I jumped on the bandwagon.

Apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

You think boundaries would prevent yourself for getting emotionally involved ?!

No, hence why I said "less chance"

sorry my mad. I jumped on the bandwagon.

Apologies

You causing mischief again mscheryl?

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By *m6469Couple
over a year ago

Northwich

Too many guys are on here without thier wifes or partners knowing and spoil it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

You think boundaries would prevent yourself for getting emotionally involved ?!

No, hence why I said "less chance"

sorry my mad. I jumped on the bandwagon.

Apologies

You causing mischief again mscheryl?"

Ha ha my bad, I haven’t read properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

You think boundaries would prevent yourself for getting emotionally involved ?!

No, hence why I said "less chance"

sorry my mad. I jumped on the bandwagon.

Apologies

No problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many guys are on here without thier wifes or partners knowing and spoil it."

A lot of women too trust me.

And who do you think those men are cheating their wives with ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many guys are on here without thier wifes or partners knowing and spoil it.

A lot of women too trust me.

And who do you think those men are cheating their wives with ?! "

She isn't wrong...I mean you aren't wrong to the reader's x

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By *m6469Couple
over a year ago

Northwich

Ladies and guys both from what you are saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies and guys both from what you are saying "

Women cheat but are more open about it where men seem to be secret over it.

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By *abulousTwo!Couple
over a year ago

Lowestoft

We will meet when permission is given. Swinging for us is about honesty and trust and if that's stated we're happy. We know that some people will almost certainly be telling porkies but there's also a very large proportion of people who meet the lady bit of us (men for us because that's the only experience we have so far) that we subsequently find out are not single (mysteriously getting back with an ex seems to be the classic lie/line we get spun), or the flatmate turns out to be rather more than "mate"

We're not lecturing people about their choices, but we don't want to be knowingly complicit in someone else's cheating and we don't want the almost inevitable thing drama that will come our way if and when someone gets caught.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Ladies and guys both from what you are saying

Women cheat but are more open about it where men seem to be secret over it. "

•

Evidence?

I've had two instances where women who maintained subterfuge until I probed them further concerning their marital dynamic.

I have no issue with married women but wish they had been clear upfront when they messaged me.

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By *m6469Couple
over a year ago

Northwich

"We will meet when permission is given. Swinging for us is about honesty and trust and if that's stated we're happy. We know that some people will almost certainly be telling porkies but there's also a very large proportion of people who meet the lady bit of us (men for us because that's the only experience we have so far) that we subsequently find out are not single (mysteriously getting back with an ex seems to be the classic lie/line we get spun), or the flatmate turns out to be rather more than "mate"

To true

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I do and not bothered if they have permission

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Why does permission matter.? After all it’s sex that we all want or am I mistaken.

I know I’m not on here for a relationship "

Because swinging is NOT cheating.

I won’t enable cheating, I have morals.

I also don’t need the hassle (as I once did - I didn’t know he was married) of an angry/upset wife at my door shouting the odds.

I’m here for fun, to have my needs met and not merely service the needs of others. That means hassle free, no conscience concerns fun.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar."

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea "

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying no chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

Boundaries are always made clear don't want anyone getting feelings for me. "

How can you tell someone that they can't get feelings for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm starting to think they might be the better option, less chance of "feelings" happening or confusion. I'm not saying any chance of course, just I think the boundaries would be clearer

Boundaries are always made clear don't want anyone getting feelings for me.

How can you tell someone that they can't get feelings for you?"

They can get feeling that is up to them I can't stop that but I'm here for NSA fun, not a relationship. Being clear from the start set the boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved. "

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

This is why I say that 'as numbers go up my attraction goes down'. I don't like knowing lots have experienced them in that way. I think intimacy gives the other person a little piece of knowing you that you can't get back or erase. I hate the idea of anyone owning that insight or experience of my guy. And I don't like randoms taking that away from an experience with me either. That's why I don't meet randoms or do the ons/fb thing.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Permission or not, I would & have. I guess the attraction is because it's all desire & passion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*"

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*"

If those are your values - which are totally valid, of course - then what exactly do you get from being on Fab / in the lifestyle, then? And I mean that as a genuine question born of curiosity, and in not in a "you don't belong on here if you're not even a swinger / into swinging" way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*

I am in search of my match. I have certain needs that Vanilla sites don't cater to. I can't openly and honestly seek my likes there.

So over time and attempts elsewhere, I meandered my way to fab.

It's not perfect. But it's the better option.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

These topics never go well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*"

I love this so much.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"I am in search of my match. I have certain needs that Vanilla sites don't cater to. I can't openly and honestly seek my likes there.

So over time and attempts elsewhere, I meandered my way to fab.

It's not perfect. But it's the better option."

Fair enough. Although, it would appear your needs (and the desired values of any romantic match) would be highly unlikely to be found on here, seeing as at its core swinging is about sharing sex (intimacy) with other people. As your profile is hidden I can only make assumptions about your username that your not-so-vanilla needs that are less welcome in more conventional places are of a kink/fetish nature? In which case there may be one alternative place better suited to your search than here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*

I love this so much.

I know right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am in search of my match. I have certain needs that Vanilla sites don't cater to. I can't openly and honestly seek my likes there.

So over time and attempts elsewhere, I meandered my way to fab.

It's not perfect. But it's the better option.

Mansplaining at its best

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Mansplaining at its best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*

I love this so much.

I know right "

I wish I could be less like that tbh as it would make things easier but I have tried and I can't seem to get past it. I want that intimacy, just the two of us, nobody else even without being exclusive. I want it to be special even if it won't ever develop into anything else. And the thought of just being another number, another fuck amongst many makes me sad. I'm too needy.

I don't think I'm ever going to get laid on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mansplaining at its best

Let her be. She seems to handle herself very well and know exactly what she wants or doesn’t.

I don’t eat at McDonald’s but sometimes I do use their toilets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*

I love this so much.

I know right

I don't think I'm ever going to get laid on here.

Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with anyway.

Some ppl are really fickle on here. But there are some gems

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Let her be. She seems to handle herself very well and know exactly what she wants or doesn’t."

And? This is a public forum on a public site. If I'm curious about something I see I'm going to ask questions and try to have a conversation. Sue me. There's nothing patronising or condescending in what I asked. Which is, I'll explain to you, what 'mansplaining' is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let her be. She seems to handle herself very well and know exactly what she wants or doesn’t.

calm down Stallone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let her be. She seems to handle herself very well and know exactly what she wants or doesn’t.

calm down Stallone. "

Sorry if I have upset you. Please accept my apologies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*"

You like to fill your partner's needs would you sleep with someone else knowing that it's for filling what your partner wants and it's turning them on? Isn't that what swinging is about? Plain vanilla isn't for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could never share my husband he’s all mine

Does he just go along with that to please you? Would he want the same liberties with other females that you take with other men but you don't allow it?

It's important to be fair and not have double standards.

I met with a couple for drinks once. He wanted fmf. She wanted mfm.

She agreed to his but he refused hers.

Instant cheerio from me.

You can't have one without the other I play solo and I let my wife play solo so we are both equal.

Of course you can have one without the other!

As the other lady said, he enjoys her meeting others. She may not enjoy him meeting others or he may not want to. I’ve been in that situation and it worked fine.

I just feel for those who go along for the sake of peace or to preserve the marriage. But perhaps aren't keen in reality.

Plenty on here talk of whether or not they agree with 'taking one for the team' in couples play. This is kind of similar.

It wasn’t a marriage. And it was his idea

Not a chance I’d share someone I loved.

°°°

Same. I guard what I value.

It's not a moral judgement thing, it's a me&mine thing.

Their pleasure, their needs, their wants are mine to satisfy.

Their sounds, scent, taste are mine to learn and savour.

Intimacy should be a privilege not a party favour.

*not a swinger*

I love this so much.

I know right

I don't think I'm ever going to get laid on here.

Don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with anyway.

Some ppl are really fickle on here. But there are some gems

Thanks Chezzaaaa. You're right there are some gems hidden amongst the Bruceys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very far from vanilla. I'm here for kink reasons. It's not a numbers game for everyone. There's more on offer than orgies.

Swinging is about a couple BOTH agreeing and engaging in the kinds of sex that involves another couple or a third.

I have been the 3rd. It's for a couple to choose for their relationship.

But if I was on the couple side of the exchange, it would be a different thing.

I would only do a thing if it was my choosing, not to please another if it went against my personal likes or limits.

Limits change naturally over time and as we ourselves change in life from experiences that have gone well or gone badly.

At this point it would be a very definite no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm very far from vanilla. I'm here for kink reasons. It's not a numbers game for everyone. There's more on offer than orgies.

Swinging is about a couple BOTH agreeing and engaging in the kinds of sex that involves another couple or a third.

I have been the 3rd. It's for a couple to choose for their relationship.

But if I was on the couple side of the exchange, it would be a different thing.

I would only do a thing if it was my choosing, not to please another if it went against my personal likes or limits.

Limits change naturally over time and as we ourselves change in life from experiences that have gone well or gone badly.

At this point it would be a very definite no."

Well this is for a couple and there kink we all have opinions and differences. That's what makes things interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very far from vanilla. I'm here for kink reasons. It's not a numbers game for everyone. There's more on offer than orgies.

Swinging is about a couple BOTH agreeing and engaging in the kinds of sex that involves another couple or a third.

I have been the 3rd. It's for a couple to choose for their relationship.

But if I was on the couple side of the exchange, it would be a different thing.

I would only do a thing if it was my choosing, not to please another if it went against my personal likes or limits.

Limits change naturally over time and as we ourselves change in life from experiences that have gone well or gone badly.

At this point it would be a very definite no.

Well this is for a couple and there kink we all have opinions and differences. That's what makes things interesting "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this is for a couple and there kink we all have opinions and differences. That's what makes things interesting "

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This 'what' is for a couple?

Not sure what you're referring to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well this is for a couple and their kink we all have opinions and differences. That's what makes things interesting

°°°

This 'what' is for a couple?

Not sure what you're referring to "

The question is all about a couple read up

A couple exploring their kinks playing solo eg.

I'm gathering your single and haven't found the one to explore your sexuality with just yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this is for a couple and their kink we all have opinions and differences. That's what makes things interesting

°°°

This 'what' is for a couple?

Not sure what you're referring to

°°°

The question is all about a couple read up

A couple exploring their kinks playing solo eg.

I'm gathering your single and haven't found the one to explore your sexuality with just yet?"

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Noooo, oh please god save me from a patronising coupled up fabber...

You only asked:

Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone?

Did you only want answers from couples?

Please don't assume my position on here is the 'sad singleton' one that couples patronise from their ivory fab tower.

I could be a great many things.

It so happens that I was married for 20yrs, until a few weeks ago actually.

And had a very fun& awesome kinky fab arrangement during the last two divorce years.

I'm not currently looking since I'm newly sprung, hence my closed profile.

And no, I did not share the ex. Nor did I cheat. Fab came after divorce began.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... ...I think men are just more like, ah fuck it she's really hot and are more easily swayed to be honest...

...Most men on here will fuck anything that will move

•

And equally so, 'most' women will fuck anything that will move too.

Lucky for the thousands of men on here we do, or they'd all be complaining that no one answers their messages."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stand by my thinking.

If you want a relationship this is not the place this is a place for fun sex nothing more. I’m not mistake!"
I'm afraid you're wrong. Many people have met on here and are now married/in long term relationships.

I have gained more than fun sex since joining here, some very good friends for starters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well this is for a couple and their kink we all have opinions and differences. That's what makes things interesting

°°°

This 'what' is for a couple?

Not sure what you're referring to

°°°

The question is all about a couple read up

A couple exploring their kinks playing solo eg.

I'm gathering your single and haven't found the one to explore your sexuality with just yet?

°°°

Noooo, oh please god save me from a patronising coupled up fabber...

You only asked:

Would anyone play with a married man who has permission to play alone?

Did you only want answers from couples?

Please don't assume my position on here is the 'sad singleton' one that couples patronise from their ivory fab tower.

I could be a great many things.

It so happens that I was married for 20yrs, until a few weeks ago actually.

And had a very fun& awesome kinky fab arrangement during the last two divorce years.

I'm not currently looking since I'm newly sprung, hence my closed profile.

And no, I did not share the ex. Nor did I cheat. Fab came after divorce began."

Sorry I'm not patronizing I asked she question to everyone not just couples there did you get the couple things from?

Did I say sad singleton No!

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

If permission is given, I would play with a married guy. I tend to do a social first with the couple just to ensure. I don't want to overstep any boundaries but most definitely, and I have done in the past.

As long as all 3 of us can talk about what we all want and any limits they have, I'm more than happy to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, this is an open forum where people post about THEIR experiences and ask for opinions or simply wait for them to be offered to have a free discussion.

If it's too much or too personal, that's absolutely fine.

There's no requirement to answer or to get wound up about it."

I never asked you anything? I made a lighthearted joke comment and you jumped on it being very rude and making assumptions on people you don’t know. Then still continued to do so after I said that wasn’t the case.. maybe that’s your thing on here is to troll the forums and try and upset people I don’t know?

Yes this is a open forum for all to speak but that does not give you the right to be rude. Learn some manners and be nice it doesn’t cost you anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, this is an open forum where people post about THEIR experiences and ask for opinions or simply wait for them to be offered to have a free discussion.

If it's too much or too personal, that's absolutely fine.

There's no requirement to answer or to get wound up about it.

Yes this is a open forum for all to speak but that does not give you the right to be rude. Learn some manners and be nice it doesn’t cost you anything

She has done it on my other question she was quite nasty on there. It was more of a yes or no question she said no but continued to belittle people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, this is an open forum where people post about THEIR experiences and ask for opinions or simply wait for them to be offered to have a free discussion.

If it's too much or too personal, that's absolutely fine.

There's no requirement to answer or to get wound up about it.

Yes this is a open forum for all to speak but that does not give you the right to be rude. Learn some manners and be nice it doesn’t cost you anything

She has done it on my other question she was quite nasty on there. It was more of a yes or no question she said no but continued to belittle people. "

No need at all to be like at all and try and bring people down but if it makes her feel better about herself at least we have helped her out lol

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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