FabSwingers.com forum: Promiscuous

By *penbicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Northampton

Outside of swinging, do you think of yourself as promiscuous?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Overall no. I have my moments, but fairly safe bet is no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, No maybe. I’m pretty selective in a lot of ways, but also love try lots of different things.

I suppose that’s how you find your way and the stuff you like most, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do a lot of double entendre / jokes that are rude etc.

But I am quite considered in daily life

Until I get to know people and open up then I'm a lot more flirty , chatty etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deep down yes but It's not safe so I tend to keep it in the clubs. I would describe myself as a slut but I like to be picky and selective and play with the same people repeatedly. A selective slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I don’t consider myself promiscuous compared to many, but compared to others I am incredibly so.

I do think that I am probably a sex addict though. Which is quite a different matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep the two lifestyles separate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, away from the swinging scene we'd probably come across as the perfect happily devoted couple with a decent house and a beautiful family that doesn't seem to go out much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree, definitely its 2 separate things not to be mixed.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No I keep this side of me seperate.

However I occasionally flirt a little if I like someone it's usually a lady though

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Yes. but I try to keep a lid on it. As my friends don't understand it, I keep my frequent cuppa socials from my nilla mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Outside of swinging, do you think of yourself as promiscuous? "

Not a Swinger tbh but there's nothing as more beautiful as Sex with a person that's on the same sexual wavelength as you , you want to fuck her and she wants you to fuck her..that situation doesn't get any better tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Deep down yes but It's not safe so I tend to keep it in the clubs. I would describe myself as a slut but I like to be picky and selective and play with the same people repeatedly. A selective slut

Selective Slut .....mmmmm love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, away from the swinging scene we'd probably come across as the perfect happily devoted couple with a decent house and a beautiful family that doesn't seem to go out much."

This got be so fab way ....when i.m out or shopping you just never know whom as if any different lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and it’s a lot of fun

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm just back from holiday and had sex with two men the same evening, one at 5.30pm and one at 9pm. I would class that as promiscuous

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I'm just back from holiday and had sex with two men the same evening, one at 5.30pm and one at 9pm. I would class that as promiscuous"

I would say it was good time management.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Yeah I am indeed

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers. "

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby."

I am glad I am classy and cool.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby."

Nothing I do regarding sex is classy or cool, believe me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

Nothing I do regarding sex is classy or cool, believe me

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers. "

A guy I know refers it to a Fanny Wank. He really doesn’t care who they are.

I’m not like that.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

A guy I know refers it to a Fanny Wank. He really doesn’t care who they are.

I’m not like that. "

Even caring about who you're fucking makes no difference.

You may think differently towards some than others-I know I do-but it's still sex were looking for.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

Nothing I do regarding sex is classy or cool, believe me

Same

Although, I did meet a friend in a posh hotel once, when he was over from Singapore for a meeting.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm just back from holiday and had sex with two men the same evening, one at 5.30pm and one at 9pm. I would class that as promiscuous

I would say it was good time management."

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Outside of swinging, do you think of yourself as promiscuous? "

I don't think swinging is necessarily promiscuous.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

"Outside of swinging, do you think of yourself as promiscuous? "

Yes. Probably worse

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was in my youth. Now I'm not promiscuous here or outside of swinging. I don't have the time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Or the opportunity

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By *ittleJayMan
over a year ago

Near Warrington

Nope, not at all, and I certainly wouldn't shag my male self lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sleeping with a lot of different people is being promiscuous, swinging just gives it another name to make you feel ok about it. Fab is the home of promiscuity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a flirt, especially after a drink. If a woman is flirty back, unless I really don't find her unattractive, I'll probably make a move for a snog at least!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Nope I'm not and even on here I'm not. I prefer regular meets than one offs but then I don't and never have considered myself to be a swinger.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Yes.

I'm a happy little slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sleeping with a lot of different people is being promiscuous, *swinging just gives it another name to make you feel ok about it*. Fab is the home of promiscuity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby."

^^^ I've said before, promiscuous people hide behind the 'swinger' title.

To me, swinging involves couples.

The rest is horny folk shagging around with randoms at will and often with a lot of risk.

If you do it, own it.

If you can't be mature and call a spade a spade, are you ashamed of what you do sexually? If so, that's not a healthy way to live.

Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Never have been either here or elsewhere. I've never called myself a swinger but I don't have sex just for the sake of it.

I've turned down twice as many offers on here as I've accepted and am in single figures on fab across six years and just scraped into double figures in total.

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By *penbicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Northampton

"A selective slut

Ooh, I like that description!

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

^^^ I've said before, promiscuous people hide behind the 'swinger' title.

To me, swinging involves couples.

The rest is horny folk shagging around with randoms at will and often with a lot of risk.

If you do it, own it.

If you can't be mature and call a spade a spade, are you ashamed of what you do sexually? If so, that's not a healthy way to live.

Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho."

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Deep down yes but It's not safe so I tend to keep it in the clubs. I would describe myself as a slut but I like to be picky and selective and play with the same people repeatedly. A selective slut

exactly the same for me, i absolutely love sex & being "naughty" but i can be quite picky

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby."

What a judgmental comment from someone who hails from a sex positive community. By your definition I am occasionally classy and cool but more usually seedy and grubby. I'm a slut and I'm owning it.

Personally I would rather build a connection with multiple people who I like as a person; am attracted to and who I have incredible sex with. That feels far from seedy and grubby to me but some club and party experiences I have had - or observed - have been a million miles from classy and cool.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

^^^ I've said before, promiscuous people hide behind the 'swinger' title.

To me, swinging involves couples.

The rest is horny folk shagging around with randoms at will and often with a lot of risk.

If you do it, own it.

If you can't be mature and call a spade a spade, are you ashamed of what you do sexually? If so, that's not a healthy way to live.

Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho."

Except neither of the things the poster of that comment made are entirely true or accurate.

Swinging can be seedy and grubby, and fucking around (none swinger stuff) can be classy and cool.

It is a whole great big bag of generalisation and elitism rolled up in to a single comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not how I read their comment actually.

I read it as a bit of an eye roll at how people view swinging as pristine and above criticism. And see promiscuity as shady.

Hence my comment about people using swinging like a cloak of respectability.

I totally agree both can be either.

It's entirely down to the finer details and choices, the 'how' if you will. As opposed to the 'what'.

I have likes that I'd happily pursue with careful selection of partner(s) and setting and planning and such.

Others could do similar in a club with a random that would turn me to see or hear.

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By *penbicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho."

Was anyone doing that?

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By *penbicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I was in my youth. Now I'm not promiscuous here or outside of swinging. I don't have the time"

Time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho.

Was anyone doing that? "

I would say the majority of fab singles do it and some who are partnered but who play separately.

I'm not sure why it gets a free pass in the sex lifestyle handbook but swinging is seemingly the 'good person's' way to be sexually liberated.

If you accept that swinging is a particular lifestyle/dynamic that involves couples swapping or inviting a 3rd. Then anything outside of that arena is not under the umbrella of swinging.

It's sex. No labels, no 'lifestyle'. Just sex. With multiple partners. Casual promiscuous sex. Ons/fwb/fb.... these are not swinging as is described by many.

Can we call a spade a spade?

Sex parties are orgies.

Do it. Own it.

If you tell people not to kink shame or body shame or any other kind of shame then make choices you're proud of and own them.

If you want to fuck a different random every other weeknight and two more at the weekend and you are comfortable and choose those risks/rewards. Do it.

If you want to fuck 7 guys in one night. Do it.

But don't be all coy and call it something else.

It's promiscuous sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho.

Was anyone doing that?

I would say the majority of fab singles do it and some who are partnered but who play separately.

I'm not sure why it gets a free pass in the sex lifestyle handbook but swinging is seemingly the 'good person's' way to be sexually liberated.

If you accept that swinging is a particular lifestyle/dynamic that involves couples swapping or inviting a 3rd. Then anything outside of that arena is not under the umbrella of swinging.

It's sex. No labels, no 'lifestyle'. Just sex. With multiple partners. Casual promiscuous sex. Ons/fwb/fb.... these are not swinging as is described by many.

Can we call a spade a spade?

Sex parties are orgies.

Do it. Own it.

If you tell people not to kink shame or body shame or any other kind of shame then make choices you're proud of and own them.

If you want to fuck a different random every other weeknight and two more at the weekend and you are comfortable and choose those risks/rewards. Do it.

If you want to fuck 7 guys in one night. Do it.

But don't be all coy and call it something else.

It's promiscuous sex.

See what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho.

Was anyone doing that?

I would say the majority of fab singles do it and some who are partnered but who play separately.

I'm not sure why it gets a free pass in the sex lifestyle handbook but swinging is seemingly the 'good person's' way to be sexually liberated.

If you accept that swinging is a particular lifestyle/dynamic that involves couples swapping or inviting a 3rd. Then anything outside of that arena is not under the umbrella of swinging.

It's sex. No labels, no 'lifestyle'. Just sex. With multiple partners. Casual promiscuous sex. Ons/fwb/fb.... these are not swinging as is described by many.

Can we call a spade a spade?

Sex parties are orgies.

Do it. Own it.

If you tell people not to kink shame or body shame or any other kind of shame then make choices you're proud of and own them.

If you want to fuck a different random every other weeknight and two more at the weekend and you are comfortable and choose those risks/rewards. Do it.

If you want to fuck 7 guys in one night. Do it.

But don't be all coy and call it something else.

It's promiscuous sex.

See what I mean

I do x

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By *penbicouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Northampton

"If you tell people not to kink shame or body shame or any other kind of shame then make choices you're proud of and own them.

If you want to fuck a different random every other weeknight and two more at the weekend and you are comfortable and choose those risks/rewards. Do it.

If you want to fuck 7 guys in one night. Do it.

But don't be all coy and call it something else.

It's promiscuous sex.

Ah, I get it. Thanks.

I misread your use of the word 'sanitise.' Yes, I completely agree with you.

For me, Alice and I this is not just something we *do.* It's who we *are*. So, I don't really understand those who say they keep the two separate.

If a good-looking guy passes us and Alice doesn't make eye-contact, I'm likely to ask if she's okay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Outside of swinging, do you think of yourself as promiscuous? "

Not at all, I don't sleep around and have no desire too. I do love a club environment and will play if the mood/company is right. But for me the aspect is a social setting with other like minded people

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Outside of swinging, do you think of yourself as promiscuous?

Ditto. Like a nice club and hot tub

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

I very much used to be, but I'm very behaved & selective these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am. I love sex and attention and have always been more than willing to say yes.

However, I have to have an initial connection with the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Further thoughts. Define promiscuous, more than one person over a period of time ? How much time? A high "body count" Single and fucking about (but if its a couple it's not classed as promiscuous is called swinging)

Personally

I think you can be

Swinging and not promiscuous (maybe only play with one or two other people)

Swinging and promiscuous

Promiscuous

Neither haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Quality is much better than quantity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

What a judgmental comment from someone who hails from a sex positive community. By your definition I am occasionally classy and cool but more usually seedy and grubby. I'm a slut and I'm owning it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's not how I read their comment actually.

I read it as a bit of an eye roll at how people view swinging as pristine and above criticism. And see promiscuity as shady.

Hence my comment about people using swinging like a cloak of respectability.

I totally agree both can be either.

It's entirely down to the finer details and choices, the 'how' if you will. As opposed to the 'what'.

I have likes that I'd happily pursue with careful selection of partner(s) and setting and planning and such.

Others could do similar in a club with a random that would turn me to see or hear."

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By *uthentic GuyMan
over a year ago

Surrey

Whilst single, yes very much so.

When married (and in the scene) I only wanted to with my ex, so was then very much no

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
over a year ago

Salford

"Outside of swinging, do you think of yourself as promiscuous? "

Yes very

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

^^^ I've said before, promiscuous people hide behind the 'swinger' title.

To me, swinging involves couples.

The rest is horny folk shagging around with randoms at will and often with a lot of risk.

If you do it, own it.

If you can't be mature and call a spade a spade, are you ashamed of what you do sexually? If so, that's not a healthy way to live.

Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho."

Couples also shag around with randoms with a lot of risk.

The swinging label should have died out in the 70s.

I shag about less than a lot of couples on here, and take less risks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is sex.

Whether it's with people I meet through here or elsewhere.

I don't consider it any different.

I'd feel the same having sex with someone I met at a swingers club or a bar.

It's all sex with strangers.

Swinging is classy and cool.

Fucking around is seedy and grubby.

^^^ I've said before, promiscuous people hide behind the 'swinger' title.

To me, swinging involves couples.

The rest is horny folk shagging around with randoms at will and often with a lot of risk.

If you do it, own it.

If you can't be mature and call a spade a spade, are you ashamed of what you do sexually? If so, that's not a healthy way to live.

Folk can choose to be sexual, to be promiscuous, to make the choices they want/enjoy, to live their best lives.

But don't try and dress basic promiscuity up as swinging to sanitise your choices.

That's a massive case of self-delusion imho.

Couples also shag around with randoms with a lot of risk.

The swinging label should have died out in the 70s.

I shag about less than a lot of couples on here, and take less risks."

They do, both individually and as a couple then obviously they go back home and have sex with eachother. So the 2nd/3rd hand sexual contact is much higher for them and all who choose to meet with them.

Unbelievably, I have seen several posts where fabbers state that they'll 'only go bare with a married couple'....

The naivety of this attitude is hard to fathom.

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