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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right so maybe a random question but, wouod you accept your partners desires fantasies etc regardless and happily stay with them or would you leave them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends.

What are the desires, how divergent are they from my own morals/values?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Right so maybe a random question but, wouod you accept your partners desires fantasies etc regardless and happily stay with them or would you leave them? "
details cmon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well I don’t think anything massively odd, mainly me occasionally dressing, I’d also love to watch/catch partner being Fucked

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It would entirely depend on what those desires and fantasies were and if I felt that they were more important to him than I was. Conflict arises when one partner desires to do something and the other desires that they don't. Whose desire is most important?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Assuming the fantasy didn't involve hurting anyone, no problem.

Although accepting a fantasy doesn't necessarily involve me acting on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No never more important than her, but was asked, was honest, I accepted everything she told me, how many guys she’d slept with, things she’d done for money etc,

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not sure what "how many people she's slept with" has to do with anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would entirely depend on what those desires and fantasies were and if I felt that they were more important to him than I was. Conflict arises when one partner desires to do something and the other desires that they don't. Whose desire is most important?"

Perfectly said, relationships are all about compromise, give and take. Useually losing abit of your self in order to maintain the others happiness. But when does it become that you are not getting the same back from the other half, because compromise is a two way game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well I don’t think anything massively odd, mainly me occasionally dressing, I’d also love to watch/catch partner being Fucked "

I would have absolutely zero issues with this. But I know that for many folk it's not in their personal remit, hence it's a deal breaker. My line is drawn at anything underage, illegal, morally questionable, cohesiveness, or Domestic violence

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"No never more important than her, but was asked, was honest, I accepted everything she told me, how many guys she’d slept with, things she’d done for money etc, "

You're saying that because you accepted things about her that she should accept things about you? It's a difficult one, relationships aren't that straightforward. I think this is probably down to you to negotiate a compromise with each other

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It would entirely depend on what those desires and fantasies were and if I felt that they were more important to him than I was. Conflict arises when one partner desires to do something and the other desires that they don't. Whose desire is most important?

Perfectly said, relationships are all about compromise, give and take. Useually losing abit of your self in order to maintain the others happiness. But when does it become that you are not getting the same back from the other half, because compromise is a two way game"

I think with things like sexual fantasies you can't ask people to act on yours just because you accepted theirs.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"well I don’t think anything massively odd, mainly me occasionally dressing, I’d also love to watch/catch partner being Fucked "
Does she mind being occasionally watched or is this your desire and i think the dressing thing could be the controversial aspect she may not enjoy her man dressing as a woman, i don’t have a problem with you dressing.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I wouldn’t ‘just accept’ anything - surely communication is key here. Like anything worth having relationships require a degree of compromise - without completely losing who we are as individuals.

It’s about finding a way together, if there’s mutual love and respect for each other you’ll find it- naturally and without force or harbouring of your happiness for the happiness of another. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn’t ‘just accept’ anything - surely communication is key here. Like anything worth having relationships require a degree of compromise - without completely losing who we are as individuals.

It’s about finding a way together, if there’s mutual love and respect for each other you’ll find it- naturally and without force or harbouring of your happiness for the happiness of another. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want to bend yourself in order to keep them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a surprise if I had a partner who thought I was their fantasy or desire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right so maybe a random question but, wouod you accept your partners desires fantasies etc regardless and happily stay with them or would you leave them? "

Already on it , but to be fair it’s more then a fantasy, it’s who she is , at the same time there’s plenty for me to get involved in with with the fantasies so luckily it suits us both

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I’d be quite happy to accept whatever fantasies she had. I doubt there’s anything in there that’s unacceptable and I’d go along with most things if she wanted to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right so maybe a random question but, wouod you accept your partners desires fantasies etc regardless and happily stay with them or would you leave them? "

Mrs speaking here… 1st of all, there’s no “regardless”. There’s always a but, and that needs to be addressed or it’ll grow more than the pink elephant and it’ll mess things up big time. 2nd… in my opinion, if you’re questioning this to yourself, you know it’s not the love of your life and you’re thinking already in leaving them because some of them fantasies don’t suit you…

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