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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

my girlfriend doesn't really want to have sex after 10 minutes, she doesn't want to anymore and she's very lazy in bed, not that she has someone else or anything like that, she's never horny, she doesn't want to do anything new for 2-3 years, the same sexual positions and the same style, when I talk about sex, he gets angry, that's why I'm here alone, can someone help me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is key - you need to talk to her. Find out why she feels like that, then together try and work out a way to improve the situation for both of you.

Coming on here and potentially cheating on her is only going to end with that wedge being driven further between you, and heartache for both of you when she inevitably finds out you're cheating, even if it may only be emotionally cheering at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the above.

Cheating on her isn't going to fix things. You need to talk to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why have you started the same thread again??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I talk about this to much is same i try too many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I talk about this to much is same i try too many"

Have you actually asked her why she feels like this though, and why she gets angry?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Talk to her bud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about being sympathetic to her needs rather than your own...sounds like you're being demanding without being in pole position, or making any understanding what makes her tick as a female

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

she always says she's in pain because she's tired, I always tell her to have crazy sex, but nothing, I've tried a lot, I'm always horny and I do a good job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"she always says she's in pain because she's tired, I always tell her to have crazy sex, but nothing, I've tried a lot, I'm always horny and I do a good job"

Relationships don’t just revolve around sex, try doing a date night or something, why have crazy sex if she’s in pain ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"she always says she's in pain because she's tired, I always tell her to have crazy sex, but nothing, I've tried a lot, I'm always horny and I do a good job"

Have you taken any of the weight off her? Done anything to pamper her and help her feel less tired and in pain?

Or just relentlessly pushed that you want the sex now?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"she always says she's in pain because she's tired, I always tell her to have crazy sex, but nothing, I've tried a lot, I'm always horny and I do a good job"

Hmmm. OP, the phrase “I do a good job” smacks of you doing sex to her. Have you tried talking to her about this in a non-confrontational way and not at a time when you’re horny and wanting sex? Like maybe a conversation in which she feels her thoughts and feelings are at least equal to yours? There will be a reason behind it and you need to find a way to break Down any barriers by being an understanding, considerate partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we always go to the restaurant, we do a lot together, but when it comes to sex, nothing, and I don't always have crazy sex and it hurts, normal sex, that's what he says, and I don't mean crazy as if it were hard sex, only more dynamic and if we have romantic sex, she still says it hurts

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"we always go to the restaurant, we do a lot together, but when it comes to sex, nothing, and I don't always have crazy sex and it hurts, normal sex, that's what he says, and I don't mean crazy as if it were hard sex, only more dynamic and if we have romantic sex, she still says it hurts"

That does not sound like the definition of always doing a good job.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a normal person, I don't think I'm doing anything wrong if I tell her I want to have sex or I don't tell her and I try to undress her, she says she doesn't feel like it, once I went a month without sex and she didn't ask to have sex

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I'm a normal person, I don't think I'm doing anything wrong if I tell her I want to have sex or I don't tell her and I try to undress her, she says she doesn't feel like it, once I went a month without sex and she didn't ask to have sex"

Unhappy people don't want to have sex. Help her be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a normal person, I don't think I'm doing anything wrong if I tell her I want to have sex or I don't tell her and I try to undress her, she says she doesn't feel like it, once I went a month without sex and she didn't ask to have sex"

Seems like you just want sex from her and nothing else, best you end it with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a brutally honest conversation and tell her you aren't happy or fully satisfied and you would like to find away where you're both happy and content. If she isn't willing to explore more with you then ask her how she would feel if you played elsewhere so that you were truly happy. If she loves you enough she should listen and consider your feelings. You must Aldo listen to her though too and consider her feelings.

Good luck.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Get a new girlfriend problem solved or is it you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t have sex. So you joined here as a single male?……

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Maybe ask her what turns her on and what she enjoys rather than just assuming you’re getting it right and she’s not interested.

Sex shouldn’t be painful so maybe ask more about what she means with it hurts, pain during sex can be a sign of a lot of things

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've said it all, I don't want sex 3 times a day, but I want it 2 times a week and it shouldn't be boring, I wouldn't even want to be here if they offer me what I want, 2-3 years ago I was like in porn movies , now we are like two old people

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"I've said it all, I don't want sex 3 times a day, but I want it 2 times a week and it shouldn't be boring, I wouldn't even want to be here if they offer me what I want, 2-3 years ago I was like in porn movies , now we are like two old people "

Talk. To. Her.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Hants!

I honestly thought she’d unlos.

I’m gonna use the hot list function so I can keep an eye on her.

And make a private note too.

Look at me using the site tools like a grown up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

he doesn't want to have sex, he doesn't feel like having sex, I don't understand anything,

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"he doesn't want to have sex, he doesn't feel like having sex, I don't understand anything,"

So talk to her. Or him. Them.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i


"I've said it all, I don't want sex 3 times a day, but I want it 2 times a week and it shouldn't be boring, I wouldn't even want to be here if they offer me what I want, 2-3 years ago I was like in porn movies , now we are like two old people "

You’re not entitled to sex with her or anyone else, if she doesn’t want sex with you maybe think about why she doesn’t want sex with you instead of calling her wrong. Maybe you can improve, take more of the mental load in day to day life, give her time to get the chance to become horny of her own accord instead of because of your wants

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we talked about sex for hours, without result is not a solution

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"we talked about sex for hours, without result is not a solution"

Then leave.

You go get your sex.

They can be free to find someone who values them enough to want to make them happy instead of just bitching about the lack of sex and having a sneaky swingers profile active

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we talked about sex for hours, without result is not a solution

Then leave.

You go get your sex.

They can be free to find someone who values them enough to want to make them happy instead of just bitching about the lack of sex and having a sneaky swingers profile active "

But you know he won't, he'd rather be on here bitchin about someone not giving him the attention he feels entitled to!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not obedient, and I have no desires, but at 25 I think I need a good sexual desire, I don't think only of myself, I don't leave her much to do, she's relaxed in her everyday life, she doesn't have any stress

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

See it from her point of view not just your own as that's being selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes women just dont want sex.. theres more to a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! "

Oh for fuck sake why don't I get this offer?! But I want you to tell my wife. Tell everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife!

Oh for fuck sake why don't I get this offer?! But I want you to tell my wife. Tell everyone."

It's a deal but you've got to look deep into my eyes and tell me you love me as you bust all over my nose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"she always says she's in pain because she's tired, I always tell her to have crazy sex, but nothing, I've tried a lot, I'm always horny and I do a good job"

Has she got hormone issues? Or any other health problems that she’s suffering from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife!

Oh for fuck sake why don't I get this offer?! But I want you to tell my wife. Tell everyone.

It's a deal but you've got to look deep into my eyes and tell me you love me as you bust all over my nose."

Cannnn do buckaroo! Busting on your cheeks though x

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! "

I do, yes please!!

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By *odders88Man
over a year ago

Northampton

The 2 C’s come into play here pal, Communication and compromise, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she is tired and in pain a trip to the docs may be in order before any badgering for more sex. When you feel like shit, being sexy is the last thing on your mind.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Sounds like she’s hit the jackpot with you! Lucky lady

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I wouldn't be interested in you if the way you post to this thread is anything to go by.

You come across as if you demand a good seeing to no matter how the poor lady feels...

romance is dead.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Find out why she's tired and in pain. Help her with that. Not just because it might help her want to have sex, but because it's the right thing to do.

I wouldn't even touch the "boring" part until you sort out her needs. Her fatigue and pain are higher level needs than your sex drive, I'm afraid.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I'm not obedient, and I have no desires, but at 25 I think I need a good sexual desire, I don't think only of myself, I don't leave her much to do, she's relaxed in her everyday life, she doesn't have any stress"

I think you need to read back what you've put... it's all about what you want and you show no empathy for her being in pain... you having sex is more important than her enjoyment.

I feel incredibly sorry for your girlfriend, it sounds like she is stuck at home, probably lonely and all you care about is sex

Nita

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife!

Oh for fuck sake why don't I get this offer?! But I want you to tell my wife. Tell everyone."

Is this offer open to anyone? Do I need the coupon from the supermarket magazine? Bugger, I think that I threw the coupons away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a normal person, I don't think I'm doing anything wrong if I tell her I want to have sex or I don't tell her and I try to undress her, she says she doesn't feel like it, once I went a month without sex and she didn't ask to have sex"

What do you mean when you say you 'don't tell her, and try to undress her'

Sounds like you are pushing her to hard, stop it.....She doesn't want sex, respect that...and no wonder if that's your behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many reasons that sex doesn't happen. Not wanting sex is not one of those reasons ... its a symptom.

You have two options:

1. Talk, and LISTEN to find put what the underlying issues are in your relationship. Do t talk about 'why don't we have sex'. The issue will be something else. Trust me. This option is the one to follow if you actually give a shit.

2. Minimise your and her misery and amicably split.

2.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife!

Oh for fuck sake why don't I get this offer?! But I want you to tell my wife. Tell everyone."

•

Because you're as subtle as a sledgehammer. Do what I do: softly, softly, catchee monkey. I've still got the lemonbuttercream souvenir.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

are you a control freak,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! "
yes please

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"we always go to the restaurant, we do a lot together, but when it comes to sex, nothing, and I don't always have crazy sex and it hurts, normal sex, that's what he says, and I don't mean crazy as if it were hard sex, only more dynamic and if we have romantic sex, she still says it hurts"
maybe it hurts then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my girlfriend doesn't really want to have sex after 10 minutes, she doesn't want to anymore and she's very lazy in bed, not that she has someone else or anything like that, she's never horny, she doesn't want to do anything new for 2-3 years, the same sexual positions and the same style, when I talk about sex, he gets angry, that's why I'm here alone, can someone help me?"

Maybe consider talking to her directly and stop thinking about yourself only for a minute. You seem a bit selfish,excuse me saying that,but for real ? Sex is all you brag about in this treat.. have you actually paid attention to her,asking if she’s okay ? No offence,but you forcing sex on her and not talking to her directly have affected your relationship massively and once she will find out about you sleeping behind her back, you will go down to drain. You know there’s more to a woman than her Vulva to stick your sausage in.. we need words and love,kisses,touches to actually be in mood. There’s never plain sex.. there’s a lot of emotions involved and daily struggles you or her going through affects that a lot. Bare that in mind..

Mrs

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Maybe it's painful because she's not turned on by you, maybe you don't do a good as job as you think you do. Have you even asked or do you even care what turns her on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude. You’ve got 2 thread on the same thing so it’s important to you. I get it.

Talk to her. And stop and think to yourself, is sex the only reason I’m with her? If it is get out, if it’s not, tell her and make sure as hell she knows it’s not. Give her all the love and support she needs in her life to be happy in all those places she wants to be. Make sure all those life’s fantasies she has away from sex are possible if you can. Make sure she knows the love you have was never because she gave her body to you but it’s because you wanted her soul to be next to yours.

And then if years of doing that doesn’t have her sit and LISTEN to your desires, leave. Because your relationship isn’t balanced.

Balance and compromise is important, but right now, you pal, sound like you want it all your way first. (But thats just YOUR side of the story!)

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"Dude. You’ve got 2 thread on the same thing so it’s important to you. I get it.

Talk to her. And stop and think to yourself, is sex the only reason I’m with her? If it is get out, if it’s not, tell her and make sure as hell she knows it’s not. Give her all the love and support she needs in her life to be happy in all those places she wants to be. Make sure all those life’s fantasies she has away from sex are possible if you can. Make sure she knows the love you have was never because she gave her body to you but it’s because you wanted her soul to be next to yours.

And then if years of doing that doesn’t have her sit and LISTEN to your desires, leave. Because your relationship isn’t balanced.

Balance and compromise is important, but right now, you pal, sound like you want it all your way first. (But thats just YOUR side of the story!)

"
aww Woody marry me …. Perfect advice

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I wish I could make it last ten minutes…

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

So she's tired and in pain and your nagging porn type sex.

She has a low drive so you join fab to cheat.

Sex doesn't start with foreplay it starts through the day with intimacy, conversations do you still do this or is your time spent browsing fab for sex? It's not difficult to know when your partners attention is spent elsewhere..

Talk and I mean talk not just I want more sex.

Mrs

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By *icktMan
over a year ago

hockley


"she always says she's in pain because she's tired, I always tell her to have crazy sex, but nothing, I've tried a lot, I'm always horny and I do a good job"

When you’re in pain your body is working so hard to fight it that it knackers you out, first off as others have said is speak with your gf, be sympathetic, actually listen to what she’s saying, take sex completely off the table for and don’t cheat on her if she’s not into swinging. Find out why she’s in pain, it might simply be a vitamin deficiency, I used to be in complete agony until I found I was vitamin D deficient. Also do things at home to take the pressure off, because you love her and want the best for her not because you want to fuck.

And have a date night, treat her, make her smile. And if you don’t want to do those things then leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! yes please"

Woody gave the best advice.

I'm not going to sit and judge you for cheating because I don't care. But maybe the relationship isn't how you want because you're watering the grass elsewhere and putting unrealistic expectations onto your wife.

Your only options are stay and continue to cheat or make a proper effort with your wife and try and find some balance as Woody said, and if that doesn't work then leave.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! yes please

Woody gave the best advice.

I'm not going to sit and judge you for cheating because I don't care. But maybe the relationship isn't how you want because you're watering the grass elsewhere and putting unrealistic expectations onto your wife.

Your only options are stay and continue to cheat or make a proper effort with your wife and try and find some balance as Woody said, and if that doesn't work then leave.

Best of luck.

"

Lemon if you're sucking his cock I promise he's not listening to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! yes please

Woody gave the best advice.

I'm not going to sit and judge you for cheating because I don't care. But maybe the relationship isn't how you want because you're watering the grass elsewhere and putting unrealistic expectations onto your wife.

Your only options are stay and continue to cheat or make a proper effort with your wife and try and find some balance as Woody said, and if that doesn't work then leave.

Best of luck.

Lemon if you're sucking his cock I promise he's not listening to you "
.

You're not wrong bestie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! yes please

Woody gave the best advice.

I'm not going to sit and judge you for cheating because I don't care. But maybe the relationship isn't how you want because you're watering the grass elsewhere and putting unrealistic expectations onto your wife.

Your only options are stay and continue to cheat or make a proper effort with your wife and try and find some balance as Woody said, and if that doesn't work then leave.

Best of luck.

Lemon if you're sucking his cock I promise he's not listening to you .

You're not wrong bestie."

I think he should keep the advice and you should give me the blowjob. Like besties do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we always go to the restaurant, we do a lot together, but when it comes to sex, nothing, and I don't always have crazy sex and it hurts, normal sex, that's what he says, and I don't mean crazy as if it were hard sex, only more dynamic and if we have romantic sex, she still says it hurts

That does not sound like the definition of always doing a good job."

Especially if it causes her pain.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I'll fuck you behind her back OP I'd prefer it if she watched though, then I can pretend I'm fucking her instead

LvM

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

what do you do to understand how she’s feeling? Tell her how the lack of intimacy makes you feel… understand how she feels and what might make her not want intimacy - you said it’s painful for her when you do have sex? If it hurt when you got a hard on - how long do you think it would be before you dreaded getting a hard on? Sounds to me that you have a little bit of self interest over love and consideration for your partner. You need to talk to each other openly….

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By *xhibitionisticvoyeurMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

Men need sex to feel loved, women need to feel loved to have sex.

Age old problem, forget about sex for a bit and focus on making sure she knows how much you love her.

and not with stupid gestures like flowers or gifts but with the small everyday stuff like saying I love you when you leave the house or pulling your weight around the house or doing things for her or even just saying thank you when she does something for you like preparing a meal, let her know she is appreciated for all the things she does.

Don't look for praise or recognition, just do it because you love her and want her life to be a little easier if you can help it. Don't be that guy who says "look, I did the washing up for you" he's a twat.

Maybe talk to her openly and honestly when you are in a situation where it is clear sex is not going to happen (on a long car journey for example) so she doesn't feel like you're trying to pressure her/make advances. She might open up about it more. But you need to listen to her, and she needs to feel listened to.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife! yes please

Woody gave the best advice.

….

"

I did?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm wondering if maybe you aren't actually that good in bed and she prefers her toys over your porn style sex.

She's not interested in sex (with you) and you're cheating by being on here. It doesn't really look healthy from here.

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By *94meeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Maybe she doesn't like sex and never will.

I had an ex wife like that.

Hence ex wife as she didn't want me to have it anywhere else.

Some people just don't belong together I'm afraid!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Well this was a fun read. Shame the OP really is missing the point despite multiple people stating the most obvious solution multiple times.

Gotta love a "validate my choice but keep your opinion to your self thread"

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

OP a break down in sex / development of a dead bedroom is more often than not a symptom of a different problem / issue within the relationship. So from your point of view it might be "everything is great but the sex dried up!" most probably means that from her point of view, everything is NOT great.

Then there's the pain during sex thing. This is a huge red flag that needs addressing immediately. How can you expect her to want sex with you if doing the act causes her physical pain? Now add the pressure to perform "porn style" and to meet your needs on top of that. She's never going to feel sexy or to want any sex under these conditions. You want a different outcome? Then change the conditions. Start with the pain during sex issue. She needs to go and see her GP and/or a gynecologist. Same thing with the tiredness. This may be a medical thing, or it may be a lifestyle thing, in which case you both need to talk about it and come up with ways in which you can help her to feel less tired and more relaxed.

My final bit of advice is to go and see a couple's counsellor, where you can both express your thoughts and feelings on neutral ground. Coming online and creating threads about this on your own isn't going to actually result in any of the changes you're asking for. For that to happen you have to put in the work. Start with the above. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this was a fun read. Shame the OP really is missing the point despite multiple people stating the most obvious solution multiple times.

Gotta love a "validate my choice but keep your opinion to your self thread" "

So it's not just me that got the impression that he was hoping for a sympathy shag then

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

As someone who has chronic pain/fatigue, sex would often be the last thing on my mind and someone pestering me for anything wouldn't help.

Other contact, like kisses, cuddles and massage (with no ulterior motives) would be appreciated though.

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

If you can't sort it get out don't waste two lives being unhappy.

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


"If you can't sort it get out don't waste two lives being unhappy."

Thought something similar. A relationship is supposed to be mutually beneficial (not just in the bedroom) perhaps it's time to part ways???

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife!

Oh for fuck sake why don't I get this offer?! But I want you to tell my wife. Tell everyone."

I'm well out of your age range lol

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere


"Do you want me to suck your cock? I won't tell your wife!

Oh for fuck sake why don't I get this offer?! But I want you to tell my wife. Tell everyone.

I'm well out of your age range lol"

Ahem…….

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

M

It seems you have tried speaking with her but unable to sort it so may be you're just not compatible regarding sex. Your 'good job' might be her worst nightmare. If for whatever reason you really can't sort it, at least give her the respect she deserves and tell her you'll seek sex elsewhere (here for example). If that isn't acceptable to her it might be time to think about ending the relationship.

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