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"I have recently seen a person I know on here who is married to someone I know , they have viewed me and winked at me . Do I … 1. Respond to her wink 2. Send her a nice message to see if anything came of it 3. Message saying is your husband aware of this and I don’t feel comfortable with this ? Many thanks . Ps this is my first time in the forums. Let’s hope I bring some glitz and glamour "Ignore, ignore, ignore ... Best reaction is no reaction | |||
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"I have recently seen a person I know on here who is married to someone I know , they have viewed me and winked at me . Do I … 1. Respond to her wink 2. Send her a nice message to see if anything came of it 3. Message saying is your husband aware of this and I don’t feel comfortable with this ? Many thanks . Ps this is my first time in the forums. Let’s hope I bring some glitz and glamour "• 1. Wink and wait for a few days. 2. Yes, at your discretion. 3. It's not your business. 4. Make love to her. | |||
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"Are you prepared to cross swords with her husband? If her face is on show, he probably knows she's here " I'm not sure you mean the type of swords I'm thinking of  | |||
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"I have recently seen a person I know on here who is married to someone I know , they have viewed me and winked at me . Do I … 1. Respond to her wink 2. Send her a nice message to see if anything came of it 3. Message saying is your husband aware of this and I don’t feel comfortable with this ? Many thanks . Ps this is my first time in the forums. Let’s hope I bring some glitz and glamour "Wink let her know you know , after all she really could have the blessing of Mr to have an extra cock to play with | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality." I've always wanted to ask some of the women I know on here going behind their boyfriends (not a serious/married relationship) why don't you just break up with them? Very curious as to how they'd justify it. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality." True! When i'm with someone i'm loyal and never cheated in my life. However some people have different type of relationships? Some couples are open to eachother, Which isn't cheating if they are. I's all about being open and honest to eachother! Also the OP is in a tricky situation, If he says something he may get the crap for it and be called a homewrecker. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality." For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it" I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? | |||
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"Are you prepared to cross swords with her husband? If her face is on show, he probably knows she's here I'm not sure you mean the type of swords I'm thinking of "Pork swords? 
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity?" And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. | |||
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"Are you prepared to cross swords with her husband? If her face is on show, he probably knows she's here I'm not sure you mean the type of swords I'm thinking of
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all." Do we have any evidence of cheating here? | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here?" No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating." No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me | |||
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"If she's expressed interest I would message her and tell her that I'd love to fuck her holes while her husband sits and wanks in the corner. "I’m not the bad influence | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me" I agree. And not sure the op said anything about cheating. But some people like to go straight to it. Just to let us know how much they dislike cheetahs. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me" I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too. "I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner. You never know what goes on behind closed doors | |||
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"I have recently seen a person I know on here who is married to someone I know , they have viewed me and winked at me . Do I … 1. Respond to her wink 2. Send her a nice message to see if anything came of it 3. Message saying is your husband aware of this and I don’t feel comfortable with this ? Many thanks . Ps this is my first time in the forums. Let’s hope I bring some glitz and glamour "What's so tough about having absolutely nothing to do with this person ? but hey if it's a road you want to go down .. Knock yourself out..but personally l wouldn't have anything to do with her in her current position... | |||
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"4. Block. Walk away. Forget. What she does has fuck all to do with you or anyone. Winds me up people sticking their nose in other folk’s business. " Was just about to say the same. Her life, her business got heck all to do with anyone else | |||
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"If she's expressed interest I would message her and tell her that I'd love to fuck her holes while her husband sits and wanks in the corner. "Would you say the same if the boot was on the other foot ? Say you thought you were with someone but all the while he was messaging another woman to fuck her behind your back ? If couples want to fuck well and good but not when one is doing it without the other person's knowledge. | |||
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""It's not your business" my neighbour's house across the street from me is on fire It's not my business! My daughters boyfriend is cheating on her, it's not my business Etc,etc "So you'd be ok with knowing that your daughter's BF is screwing around on her and it's " none of your Business " ...wow .so you'd be ok with that ? ...  | |||
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""It's not your business" my neighbour's house across the street from me is on fire It's not my business! My daughters boyfriend is cheating on her, it's not my business Etc,etc
So you'd be ok with knowing that your daughter's BF is screwing around on her and it's " none of your Business " ...wow .so you'd be ok with that ? ... "You understand satire lad | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense "I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat? | |||
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So you'd be ok with knowing that your daughter's BF is screwing around on her and it's " none of your Business " ...wow .so you'd be ok with that ? ...
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors"Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political) | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense "Who said it’s ok to cheat? How do you know who on here has a partner and who doesn’t? | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political) "My husband and I have been together 43 years, I'm very well aware of the importance, value and purpose of *our* marriage. I'm not arrogant enough to assume that I know how other people run theirs | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?"They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating. | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
Who said it’s ok to cheat?
How do you know who on here has a partner and who doesn’t?
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating."I’m disgusted at people poking their noses in other people’s business when it’s nothing to do with them. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political) "What if they're swingers though? | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating."Why are you ranting are you okay? No not everyone is a cheater on this thread. | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating."I can sense that you feel get strongly about this. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political)
What if they're swingers though?"That's fine. But he can ask the hubby to find out. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political)
What if they're swingers though?
That's fine. But he can ask the hubby to find out."Why not her? | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political)
What if they're swingers though?
That's fine. But he can ask the hubby to find out."Op please don’t do this | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
I can sense that you feel get strongly about this. "Yes I really don't support meddling with people's intimate emotions and having a lack of basic morals. If you're a cheater just be honest about being a POS or understanding as to why you're doing it. But if you see someone cheating and allow it yet wouldn't want the same to you you're blatantly a hypocrite. Cheating is not your private business, if someone finds out and exposes you; you had it coming. | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating."You tell 'em tiger! | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
I can sense that you feel get strongly about this.
Yes I really don't support meddling with people's intimate emotions and having a lack of basic morals. If you're a cheater just be honest about being a POS or understanding as to why you're doing it. But if you see someone cheating and allow it yet wouldn't want the same to you you're blatantly a hypocrite. Cheating is not your private business, if someone finds out and exposes you; you had it coming."Ok I have a question for you. What evidence would you require to tell someone's partner they were cheating? | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political)
What if they're swingers though?
That's fine. But he can ask the hubby to find out.
Why not her?"Because she can blatantly lie about it and get himself into trouble. Does it say on her profile she has her husband's permission? If not he should ask about it. But at the end of the day it comes down to whether OP is looking to cheat or not. His question is very ambiguous. | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political)
What if they're swingers though?
That's fine. But he can ask the hubby to find out.
Why not her?
Because she can blatantly lie about it and get himself into trouble. Does it say on her profile she has her husband's permission? If not he should ask about it. But at the end of the day it comes down to whether OP is looking to cheat or not. His question is very ambiguous."If ops single he wouldn’t be cheating. | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
You tell 'em tiger! "? He is wrong to assume everyone on here is a cheat. He doesn't know people personally! | |||
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political)
What if they're swingers though?
That's fine. But he can ask the hubby to find out.
Why not her?
Because she can blatantly lie about it and get himself into trouble. Does it say on her profile she has her husband's permission? If not he should ask about it. But at the end of the day it comes down to whether OP is looking to cheat or not. His question is very ambiguous.
If ops single he wouldn’t be cheating. "Sleeping with a married person behind their spouses back is calling having an affair which is the equivalent of cheating. Pure whataboutism | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
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"In my opinion cheaters are scum/dishonest. If you're no longer romantically and monagamously intersted in someone why not be straight forward about it? You're decieveing their trust and if they ever find out it's going to destroy them. I maybe understand somewhat if you're married (lol marriage In 2023 is a joke) and they stop putting out than there's no problem in my opinion everyone had sexual needs. But many people seem to get with partner's they're not sexually compatible with so they go looking for someone on the side to meet their needs and the reason they're with them in the first place is due to financial need (disgusting) or it's someone who they have unhappily settled with. I see many women on here go behind their boyfriend's backs or even some/men women who get turned on by cheating, any morally sound person would just break up with them and move on. Imagine if a potential wife did the same thing to you OP, would you want your friend to ignore it if they find out? I understand the nuance of sexuap satisfaction and Romancs but in my opinion it's morally wrong and hurtful towards society to accept as normality. For the people saying don't get involved why not just message them anonymously? You don't have to personally be involved there's a very reasonable way to go about it I don't agree, anonymously contacting people is cowardly in my opinion. If you believe what you're doing is right why do you need to hide your identity? And going behind someone's back cheating is not cowardly unless, unless you're wicked minded? He can inform his friend anonymously and not deal with the fallout of it all. Do we have any evidence of cheating here? No but we can obviously infer that. All he has to do is ask what she's doing on here and then proceed afterwards. Also even if he does ask his friend he'll find out whether she has permission or not. Not being rude but it sounds like you're making an issue more complicated to justify cheating. No I'm not justifying cheating. I don't understand why, when someone suspects that a person is cheating they're encouraged to approach the partner rather than the suspected cheat. It just seems very odd to me I'm agreeing with you but people said that if he asks the partner he might get into shit too. So I said he can ask him anonymously which is sound and rational. There's nothing cowardly about it as you previously said, what's more cowardly? Staying out of problems and exposing a cheater or ignoring a cheater because you're afraid of causing issues. We agree just have different methods. Personally I'd stay out of it as his friend may be a blockhead or even the women and accuse of him cheating too.
I genuinely don't believe it's my place to interfere in other people's relationships unless I suspect abuse. The exception I make are my children, if I had irrefutable evidence and I mean cast iron, that their partner was cheating, I'd tell them and their partner.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors
Fair do's. I'm just thankful not everyone has that mentality. It's like people nowadays have no clue of the value/purpose of marriage and the importance it has in society. (Too political)
What if they're swingers though?
That's fine. But he can ask the hubby to find out.
Why not her?
Because she can blatantly lie about it and get himself into trouble. Does it say on her profile she has her husband's permission? If not he should ask about it. But at the end of the day it comes down to whether OP is looking to cheat or not. His question is very ambiguous.
If ops single he wouldn’t be cheating.
Sleeping with a married person behind their spouses back is calling having an affair which is the equivalent of cheating. Pure whataboutism "Nope sorry. They would be but if you’re single You’re not cheating. | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
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I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
You tell 'em tiger! ? He is wrong to assume everyone on here is a cheat. He doesn't know people personally!
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
You tell 'em tiger! ? He is wrong to assume everyone on here is a cheat. He doesn't know people personally!
I said there's many people supporting cheating by proxy by saying it's not their business. Your spouse cheats on you someone finds out it's not their business, pure hypocrisy. But alas the human condition, not caring about another's hardship until it happens to you."Okay but don't assume everyone is a cheat, You don't know people's relationships. | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
You tell 'em tiger! ? He is wrong to assume everyone on here is a cheat. He doesn't know people personally!
I said there's many people supporting cheating by proxy by saying it's not their business. Your spouse cheats on you someone finds out it's not their business, pure hypocrisy. But alas the human condition, not caring about another's hardship until it happens to you."I think most people agree that cheating is awful. I'm fact quite often these threads go the other way with most people saying that the assumed innocent party should be told | |||
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
You tell 'em tiger! ? He is wrong to assume everyone on here is a cheat. He doesn't know people personally!
I said there's many people supporting cheating by proxy by saying it's not their business. Your spouse cheats on you someone finds out it's not their business, pure hypocrisy. But alas the human condition, not caring about another's hardship until it happens to you."I disagree....It's looking at each case on it's own merit, life is not black and white, it is many shades of grey in between... | |||
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OP is long gone. He just lit the blue touch paper and retired to a safe distance
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I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
You tell 'em tiger! ? He is wrong to assume everyone on here is a cheat. He doesn't know people personally!
I said there's many people supporting cheating by proxy by saying it's not their business. Your spouse cheats on you someone finds out it's not their business, pure hypocrisy. But alas the human condition, not caring about another's hardship until it happens to you.
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"Funny that all of the people saying it's okay to cheat don't have a partner. Guess their priorities are different aye. I won't post anymore on this thread too much common sense
I know you're not going to post any more but who said it's ok to cheat?
They're saying it's not your business so essentially they're supporting cheating by proxy or they only care when it affects them, typical haha. There's even other cheaters in this thread. You're overly particular in language and am not understanding of the nuance of what I'm saying. I didn't want to post anymore because I'm so disgusted at the people justifying cheating.
You tell 'em tiger! ? He is wrong to assume everyone on here is a cheat. He doesn't know people personally!
I said there's many people supporting cheating by proxy by saying it's not their business. Your spouse cheats on you someone finds out it's not their business, pure hypocrisy. But alas the human condition, not caring about another's hardship until it happens to you."Wtf is cheating by proxy? | |||
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"You are a person who has just had a baby your hormones are insane you are knackered and on the edge you no longer feel like a coping human. You have a parent who has just died, where do you eveb begin. You have just been given a life changing diagnosis that makes your stomach drop through the floor. Your life is a pile of shit and you are just about coping, just. You might just be having a really good day, life is ok. Up trots a stranger, purpose in their walk. Hey, your partner is a piece of shit I saw them cheating. They walk away smugly, social concience clear What is left of your world and the tiny threads you are hanging onto comes crashing down. What is the point in anything anymore.... People find things out in their own time. You do not know anything about another's life. You do not need to make it worse for anyone just to settle a score from your own history or just because you believe a thing is right. Just dont do it. Please. " Well quite. Baffles me why some people seem so intent on inserting themselves into other peoples business. Just to satisfy their own personal agendas. | |||
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"I have recently seen a person I know on here who is married to someone I know , they have viewed me and winked at me . Do I … 1. Respond to her wink 2. Send her a nice message to see if anything came of it 3. Message saying is your husband aware of this and I don’t feel comfortable with this ? Many thanks . Ps this is my first time in the forums. Let’s hope I bring some glitz and glamour "shes maybe in the forums and reading this | |||
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"You are a person who has just had a baby your hormones are insane you are knackered and on the edge you no longer feel like a coping human. You have a parent who has just died, where do you eveb begin. You have just been given a life changing diagnosis that makes your stomach drop through the floor. Your life is a pile of shit and you are just about coping, just. You might just be having a really good day, life is ok. Up trots a stranger, purpose in their walk. Hey, your partner is a piece of shit I saw them cheating. They walk away smugly, social concience clear What is left of your world and the tiny threads you are hanging onto comes crashing down. What is the point in anything anymore.... People find things out in their own time. You do not know anything about another's life. You do not need to make it worse for anyone just to settle a score from your own history or just because you believe a thing is right. Just dont do it. Please. Well quite. Baffles me why some people seem so intent on inserting themselves into other peoples business. Just to satisfy their own personal agendas. " Cos they have nothing better to do in their own lives than lash out? | |||
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"Are you sure it's not someone who has pinched her photos from somewhere and used them to set up a profile? Whatever, I always say walk away from any situation like this. It's not your circus and most certainly not your monkeys. Omg what if its actually ber husband pretending to be her "Was this one love | |||
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"Her and her husband could be sat in bed together now, wanking each other off and eagerly awaiting you wink back so they can fulfill some digustingly filthy fantasy featuring you. Do you want that on your concience, your ears burning as they have wonderful, wild sex. Best to block them to be sure to nip that little scenario in the bud. " What if the husband is too shy to be on Fab (as is often seen in the forums but with it generally being the wife) and she's actually browsing profiles on behalf of him looking for guys he fancies bumming senseless whilst she fans them both with a giant ostrich feather?
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"Her and her husband could be sat in bed together now, wanking each other off and eagerly awaiting you wink back so they can fulfill some digustingly filthy fantasy featuring you. Do you want that on your concience, your ears burning as they have wonderful, wild sex. Best to block them to be sure to nip that little scenario in the bud. What if the husband is too shy to be on Fab (as is often seen in the forums but with it generally being the wife) and she's actually browsing profiles on behalf of him looking for guys he fancies bumming senseless whilst she fans them both with a giant ostrich feather?
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"After sleeping on it I’ve decided to follow up on most folks advice and block her , surely I couldn’t speak to him about it and ask if he’s aware of it surely if he was aware and they were looking for a bit of a kink they would of just asked out right? " Head prevailed over cock... | |||
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"Her and her husband could be sat in bed together now, wanking each other off and eagerly awaiting you wink back so they can fulfill some digustingly filthy fantasy featuring you. Do you want that on your concience, your ears burning as they have wonderful, wild sex. Best to block them to be sure to nip that little scenario in the bud. What if the husband is too shy to be on Fab (as is often seen in the forums but with it generally being the wife) and she's actually browsing profiles on behalf of him looking for guys he fancies bumming senseless whilst she fans them both with a giant ostrich feather?
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