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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I wonder if anybody has been with somebody, there’s obviously attraction and you’re getting on at a personality level, and then when it comes down to the amorous deed, you see the other person naked and it’s just gone flat.

How do you deal with it.

I’m thinking in particular people who say well endowed only, if it came to it and the chap drops his pants and doesn’t measure up, would you go,

‘Ah sorry thing is, that’s not big enough for me, so despite the fact that I actually fancied you until I actually saw your penis that is 2cm short of the mark, I’m sorry it’s not happening.’

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

And obviously lots of you have actually got to the naked stage with somebody before the obvious comments of

Yes or no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question. I was thinking about this too.

With so many guys thinking they are huge, this must happen at times.

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By *ubbles88555Woman
over a year ago

Inverness

I have met men that weren't thay well endowed but I still had a lot of fun with them and they did not dissapoint, I have been with men with monster cocks who have been a huge dissapointment.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It doesn't happen to me often, but I've met a couple of men who have advertised themselves as something they aren't.

One had 8 inches as his cock length and part way through us getting it on I suddenly realised he was probably around 6. It didn't bother me but it did make me think why.

12 years later and I take cock size with a pinch of salt.

Another had pics of himself with a 6 pack, which again wasn't the reason why I met him, but he undressed and no sign of said 6 pack.

Those are the lessons we learn early on here.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

No... Unless they've lied about their body type and it's pretty obvious, the dick size often doesn't matter. Really depends on their performance!

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I wonder if anybody has been with somebody, there’s obviously attraction and you’re getting on at a personality level, and then when it comes down to the amorous deed, you see the other person naked and it’s just gone flat.

How do you deal with it.

I’m thinking in particular people who say well endowed only, if it came to it and the chap drops his pants and doesn’t measure up, would you go,

‘Ah sorry thing is, that’s not big enough for me, so despite the fact that I actually fancied you until I actually saw your penis that is 2cm short of the mark, I’m sorry it’s not happening.’"

Is this therapy by proxy?!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This made me think a bit. I'm not actually too bothered by what people look like naked, I'm attracted to them clothed. Once the clothes are off it's what they feel like to touch and how they make me feel that's important. Therefore I've never been disappointed by their nakedness but I have been disappointed by their clothedness.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years. "

Yes, I think we're thinking about the same person.

No; I've never felt like that. By the time I get to wanting to have sex with someone I'm all in. Inch overestimated, third boob. I'm good to go.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years. "

Oh

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years. "

That’s shameful behaviour. Each to their own and all that, but she clearly didn’t think about how that would affect him. And besides, she was attracted enough to get naked with him…

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years.

That’s shameful behaviour. Each to their own and all that, but she clearly didn’t think about how that would affect him. And besides, she was attracted enough to get naked with him…"

Agree, that’s brutal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, I think we're thinking about the same person.

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Gosh, if he is on the Forum and the two of you know him, I imagine he has gone crimson and is revisiting the humiliation again - though of course, it does sound like you both may have brought his confidence back and repaired his damaged self image

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Never happened, but then I usually use my hands more than my winky!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yes, I think we're thinking about the same person.

Gosh, if he is on the Forum and the two of you know him, I imagine he has gone crimson and is revisiting the humiliation again - though of course, it does sound like you both may have brought his confidence back and repaired his damaged self image

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The one I’m talking about has nothing to do with fab. As if I’d do that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one I’m talking about has nothing to do with fab. As if I’d do that! "

My bad (sorry) - I'll behave now and go back to work.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"The one I’m talking about has nothing to do with fab. As if I’d do that!

My bad (sorry) - I'll behave now and go back to work."

Best you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The one I’m talking about has nothing to do with fab. As if I’d do that!

My bad (sorry) - I'll behave now and go back to work.

Best you do

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Gone!

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

No,but we have always had a social prior to being naked...one couple we met they clearly had older pictures on their profile so we never met them for a naked meet...fussy has always paid off well for us

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By *iddlesticks OP Man
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years. "

That would smart that’s for sure.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years.

That’s shameful behaviour. Each to their own and all that, but she clearly didn’t think about how that would affect him. And besides, she was attracted enough to get naked with him…"

Harsh I agree.

Unless someone deliberately misleads and lies about the size and it was an important decision making factor on her part, there's no need to be that brutal.

If a guy claims to be 10" and is actually half that size? He's made his own bed and you can't blame someone for being pissed off.

Like it or not measurements mean something to some people. No point in telling fibs and then getting stroppy when you're told to get dressed and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't happen to me often, but I've met a couple of men who have advertised themselves as something they aren't.

One had 8 inches as his cock length and part way through us getting it on I suddenly realised he was probably around 6. It didn't bother me but it did make me think why.

12 years later and I take cock size with a pinch of salt.

Another had pics of himself with a 6 pack, which again wasn't the reason why I met him, but he undressed and no sign of said 6 pack.

Those are the lessons we learn early on here.

"

Applying a pinch of salt to the cock could lead to a bit of a shrivel

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

If all the boxes are ticked except that one and undressed he/she wasn't as described I doubt I'd be bothered I can work with what they have I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had big, small and all sizes in between.

It depends on the owner of said appendage.

The biggest couldn't stay hard for more than a minute and told me how he was gonna "break" me...clearly didn't happen

Smaller know their 'limitations' and are better all rounders imo

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I've had it the other way round where they've been too big for me. And it was a conversation at the time and oral on my part to them. There are always other things to do besides just penetration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it might be harsh but if he’d said he was a certain size and that’s her preference then he had lied and therefore should kind of expect the rejection? Or should she just ‘get on with it’ because it’s already got to a point?

I always tell my size if asked as I know my photos give across a size ..so I like to ensure it’s clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a social & pics helps filter the radical catfishes.

Its more those that act a certain way in messages or clothed, then change when in action I find more unappealing in the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to speak out of turn but anyone who does that to any guy is a complete dickhead. If you're attracted to everything else about them, dick size is irrelevant. I get some people are 'size queens' but that should be told from the get go.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I've never seen the point in lying about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it might be harsh but if he’d said he was a certain size and that’s her preference then he had lied and therefore should kind of expect the rejection? Or should she just ‘get on with it’ because it’s already got to a point?

I always tell my size if asked as I know my photos give across a size ..so I like to ensure it’s clear

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I guess it's a bit like ordering a steak and when it comes it isnt quite as big as you hoped but it's cooked well and the extras are tasty so you scoff the lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't foresee turning someone down on size, attitude, maybe..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it might be harsh but if he’d said he was a certain size and that’s her preference then he had lied and therefore should kind of expect the rejection? Or should she just ‘get on with it’ because it’s already got to a point?

I always tell my size if asked as I know my photos give across a size ..so I like to ensure it’s clear

I guess it's a bit like ordering a steak and when it comes it isnt quite as big as you hoped but it's cooked well and the extras are tasty so you scoff the lot!

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Or you walk into the kitchen and throw it at the chef…then storm out and go to McD for a grand Big Mac instead?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Not to speak out of turn but anyone who does that to any guy is a complete dickhead. If you're attracted to everything else about them, dick size is irrelevant. I get some people are 'size queens' but that should be told from the get go. "

That's the important part for both, being honest on both sides about size and what is preferred and what is delivered.

That said, one of the main reasons guys are obsessed (and self conscious) of penis size is exactly this. The vocal minority are generally the size queens (you like what you like, no shame) so we see "bigger is better" more often than we are reassured, though the fact it's not said everywhere is indication enough that most women are happy with a more reasonable penis size expectation. But that's not quite the same as actual reassurance directly.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

"I've had big, small and all sizes in between.

It depends on the owner of said appendage.

The biggest couldn't stay hard for more than a minute and told me how he was gonna "break" me...clearly didn't happen

Smaller know their 'limitations' and are better all rounders imo

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I agree. I have met some lovely guys where I haven't seen dick pics before we meet. I confess that occasionally I have been underwhelmed when the pants come off but would never let it show. More fool me if I had as they have more than made up for it with their fingers and tongues, and were incredibly unselfish lovers.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Not to speak out of turn but anyone who does that to any guy is a complete dickhead. If you're attracted to everything else about them, dick size is irrelevant. I get some people are 'size queens' but that should be told from the get go. "

Yep. But if you're specifically attracted to them because they are a certain size then are you wrong to call them out on it when it becomes apparent they've deliberately mislead you?

Is it any different to arranging a social using 20 year old photos and joking they won't be pissed off when you turn up in person?

Or for a woman to use old photos when she was smaller or larger that bear no relation to her current body shape?

The key is being open from the start. Not everyone is in the 'it doesn't really matter' camp nor is everyone (despite what many claim in the forums) more concerned with personality than physical characteristics. For many this is about fantasy fulfillment, finding someone with specific attributes and enabling them to experience things they can't with partners because those partners are different to what they seek for no strings sex.

Nobody is saying people shouldn't be respectful if changing their mind and deciding they're no longer attracted/interested.

But if the sole reason for that change of mind is because someone has been talking bollocks? Then they get little sympathy from me I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to speak out of turn but anyone who does that to any guy is a complete dickhead. If you're attracted to everything else about them, dick size is irrelevant. I get some people are 'size queens' but that should be told from the get go.

That's the important part for both, being honest on both sides about size and what is preferred and what is delivered.

That said, one of the main reasons guys are obsessed (and self conscious) of penis size is exactly this. The vocal minority are generally the size queens (you like what you like, no shame) so we see "bigger is better" more often than we are reassured, though the fact it's not said everywhere is indication enough that most women are happy with a more reasonable penis size expectation. But that's not quite the same as actual reassurance directly."

We can’t change what we were given…. We play with the cards we have been dealt … embrace the fact that some men will be bigger and some men will be smaller….but what you offer is YOU!! And only you can offer that so suit up and bring the best version of you and don’t focus on what others offer

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Not to speak out of turn but anyone who does that to any guy is a complete dickhead. If you're attracted to everything else about them, dick size is irrelevant. I get some people are 'size queens' but that should be told from the get go. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No but I know a man that has. They got down to being naked and she said sorry not big enough for me and left. It really affected his confidence, he never met anyone again for years. "

I guess it all depends on how it was sold.. if she’s a size queen and he described himself as hung or having more inches than he actually did, then I’d say fair play to her for standing by her principles and not being duped.

If however there was no preamble about size etc then it does seem a little harsh. There must have been done attraction / connection to get nekkid in the first place and I guess with some improvisation I’m sure they could still have a grand time!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

It's why I always ask for a social now, as in my early days in here, I did get caught out by women who had used years out of date pics on their profile. One in particular (and I kid you not), when she opened her front door to me, I almost asked if her daughter was in

The 51 on her profile turned out to be 65 in real life, and she'd also eaten well in the interim....

I've walked on three occasions, even though sex was there on a plate if I'd wanted it

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I thought this was “naked on stage” I’ll keep moving

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

That would be such a horrible thing to do to a person! By the time I get naked with someone I have a connection such that I couldn't care less about the size of their cock.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

No we would be having sex with a person not with particular body parts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer small to medium cocks myself, so it would not bother me if when the bloke got naked it was smaller than he said ..

Also it depends where a man is measuring his penis from, I am guessing some men measure from further into the testicle area than others...

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over a year ago

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

Never an issue when anyone's got naked, but have certainly had an issue after meeting them and they started talking lol

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

Happens to me all the time… as soon as my flabby naked body is on show… they’re out the door…

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's never happened to me, but I'm more interested in what they look like with their clothes on, if I'm attracted to them then and their personality it wouldn't change once they got naked.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a man who had a big cock but I hadn't realised. His pics looked normal size.

I did my best but he was probably disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's never happened to me, but I'm more interested in what they look like with their clothes on, if I'm attracted to them then and their personality it wouldn't change once they got naked.

Mrs "

Same …. But with a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer small to medium cocks myself, so it would not bother me if when the bloke got naked it was smaller than he said ..

Also it depends where a man is measuring his penis from, I am guessing some men measure from further into the testicle area than others...

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Testicle area??

What’s a ‘small to medium cock’

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's never happened to me and I've never had "to deal with it".

By the time we get around to the naked part we've already established attraction.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's come very close when he almost took his socks off, but luckily I manage to save it

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