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"My parents getting old and ill and not being indestructible has got me. It's a nightmare seeing them age. " yeah this too. I can associate with this, kind of brings it home. | |||
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".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters? Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old. I found an old set of photos from a works night out as a fresh faced wrinkle-free graduate trainee t’other day, so young, carefree .. then it hits you that was almost 30 years ago.. bloody hell, where did THAT time go!? At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left .. Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we? Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things? A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?! " I have everything in place to make sure things are easy for my grown up daughters. I have a fully paid up Co-op burial plan including cemetery plot and head stone paid up front. I have a list of all bank accounts, credit cards, insurance companies contact details, private pension details etc Everything is listed, including address and contact details of my solicitor and upto date will. Home is fully paid off, no mortgage or dept. When my time come, all will be shared between my daughters and it will make them financially secure. if there is such a thing as a bucket list, I have ticked every box as I have had a good life. If I die tomorrow I am content and I know my daughters will be looked after. | |||
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"My parents getting old and ill and not being indestructible has got me. It's a nightmare seeing them age. " This a weird one for me. My mum is 78. Looks 10 years younger, is fit and active, walks 5 miles aday. I can't get my head round the fact that she is nearly 80 and will get old one day | |||
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"My parents getting old and ill and not being indestructible has got me. It's a nightmare seeing them age. " This is actually something I've thought about recently too and it's definitely scary to think about. | |||
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"The mortality issue isn't worrying so much as simply aging. With age comes increasing fragility and reliance on others. I've been thinking about this a lot as I'm currently staying most nights with my parents since last week as my mother has fallen over a few times when getting up to go to the bathroom in the night and has not been able to get back up on her own. Over the last couple of years, there is also a loss of dignity I have seen, particularly with my father, which I won't go into. I don't like that I will lose my independence and that in turn scares me and pisses me off. " Sorry to hear about your Mum, and Dad. I think this scares me too, the loss of independence and capability and potential reliance on others. It’s easy to say it now, while I’m relatively fit, but I’ve often thought I’d take that trip to Switzerland if ever I started down the road of being incapable of supporting myself. Of course, I expect my view would be entirely different and I’d cherish every second of life if my circumstances change and I do find myself in that position. | |||
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"Similar age to you OP. I went to a friend's funeral on valentines day, she was only 46 and today another friend told me she's starting chemo next week. It just makes you think " Very sorry to hear that. We are all mortal and just reinforces that we should enjoy our lives as much as we can while we can | |||
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"Similar age to you OP. I went to a friend's funeral on valentines day, she was only 46 and today another friend told me she's starting chemo next week. It just makes you think " Sorry for your loss my lovely, it hits hard for sure xx | |||
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"Only in the sense that I worry about what will happen to my youngest who has autism and I don’t think he will be able to live independently. Otherwise I try not to think about it." Reading that back I mean’t live alone independently…. | |||
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"Scares the shit out of me . Hitting the big 5 0 next week and had a major health scare at the beginning of the year that’s really opened my eyes to the fact I might not hit a big age , plus I have a 12 year old child to care for . Cry me a fucking river " I hope you have got plans to celebrate that milestone time. And that you overcome whatever health issue you have | |||
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"Scares the shit out of me . Hitting the big 5 0 next week and had a major health scare at the beginning of the year that’s really opened my eyes to the fact I might not hit a big age , plus I have a 12 year old child to care for . Cry me a fucking river " hoping all is well and you have a full recovery x frightening times. | |||
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"Scares the shit out of me . Hitting the big 5 0 next week and had a major health scare at the beginning of the year that’s really opened my eyes to the fact I might not hit a big age , plus I have a 12 year old child to care for . Cry me a fucking river I hope you have got plans to celebrate that milestone time. And that you overcome whatever health issue you have " As long as I don’t get bad news at the hosp on Thursday then I’ll be flying off to Tenerife , but I can’t be sure I’m going yet . Thank you though | |||
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"Scares the shit out of me . Hitting the big 5 0 next week and had a major health scare at the beginning of the year that’s really opened my eyes to the fact I might not hit a big age , plus I have a 12 year old child to care for . Cry me a fucking river hoping all is well and you have a full recovery x frightening times." Thanks | |||
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"Op, Lots of years ago I served in the military and saw a fair bit of death at a relatively young age, so view every day as a joy. This is not a rehearsal. What I can say, nearing the end of the decade you are just starting, I have had more wild sex than any other decade of my life. The best is yet to come for you. " Amen to that! Fingers crossed! | |||
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".. ... I found an old set of photos from a works night out as a fresh faced wrinkle-free graduate trainee t’other day, so young, carefree .. then it hits you that was almost 30 years ago.. bloody hell, where did THAT time go!? " Blimey. I've got a relatively (compared to now) wrinkle free picture, taken last September, as the lock screen on my phone. It gives me a target to get back to looking like by next September! | |||
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"I'm actually okay with it whenever the time comes. Let's face it, the world is fucked and will continue to be so I'll gladly go when my time is up. Enjoy the here and now, the future is out of our control." lol - you’re only 30! A spring chicken!!! | |||
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"Am sure I'm the eldest to put something on here. AM 78, S till live on my own, been on my own 5yrs since I lost my wife,still get out to watch sport go fishing, .no longer drive but nora problem where ilive.Kids and Grandkids will be looked after when I'm gone and I don't worry about it, hope to stay healthy, till I pass on, oh and I still play , there's life in this old dog yet,bless you all xx" good for you! I hope I’m still playing at 78! Good work | |||
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"This is something that causes a lot of anxiety for me if I'm honest to the point I think I need to talk to someone My Dad died suddenly when he was 50 of a heart attack...As did my Grandad who was 60. My Mum was 63 when she passed. I reach 50 next year and have a heart condition so the thought I might not be around is scary... " please do t let it stress you, please do try and talk it through xx | |||
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"Similar age to you OP. I went to a friend's funeral on valentines day, she was only 46 and today another friend told me she's starting chemo next week. It just makes you think Very sorry to hear that. We are all mortal and just reinforces that we should enjoy our lives as much as we can while we can " 100% | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x" Happening! | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x" I’m the same but in April. Sorry to hear that, it’s not easy, despite what others say. Big hugs | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x" No need to say sorry for being so honest in this forum. I hope you can overcome your health worries and keep some positivity x | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x" sorry to hear about your Dad and your struggles. I understand where you’re coming from but to be honest, I feel the same at 50 as I did at 49. Rationally it’s just a number so please try, if you can, to not worry about a number ticking over xx | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x I’m the same but in April. Sorry to hear that, it’s not easy, despite what others say. Big hugs " Thanks, hugs to you for being so lovely x | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x No need to say sorry for being so honest in this forum. I hope you can overcome your health worries and keep some positivity x" Thank you. Things are getting to breaking point but I need to stay strong for him x | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x sorry to hear about your Dad and your struggles. I understand where you’re coming from but to be honest, I feel the same at 50 as I did at 49. Rationally it’s just a number so please try, if you can, to not worry about a number ticking over xx " That you, that's much appreciated x | |||
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"My elder brother died fairly young (during covid but not covid related). My parents are still fit and healthy but really getting on now and some of my friends have died. Putting all that together does have me thinking about my own mortality more than I used to. I can remember life stretching out so far ahead of me but now I actually think sometimes, I've got about (x) amount of time left and after that I'll be gone. BUT .... The best thing to do is keep making plans* and keep enjoying life. Gbat *Making plans is apt if you know my actual name! " Sorry for your loss. I can guess the name I think (from my youth!) | |||
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"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x No need to say sorry for being so honest in this forum. I hope you can overcome your health worries and keep some positivity x Thank you. Things are getting to breaking point but I need to stay strong for him x" And it is definitely not easy. My mum suffered with poor health for a long time before passing. You can't understand what it feels like until you experience it. x | |||
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".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters? Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old. I found an old set of photos from a works night out as a fresh faced wrinkle-free graduate trainee t’other day, so young, carefree .. then it hits you that was almost 30 years ago.. bloody hell, where did THAT time go!? At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left .. Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we? Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things? A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?! " Getting or growing older does not bother me one bit tbh simply because there is fuck all anyone can do about it , my health, both mentally and physically is the most important thing that l own and my most precious possession , everything else has it's place, all anyone can do in life is their best and once they can say that the rest doesn't matter, I'll quote the film Gladiator on this one .." sometimes death smiles at you and all you can do is smile back "...live life as best you can , be thankful for the beautiful & simple things in your life . | |||
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".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters? Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old. I found an old set of photos from a works night out as a fresh faced wrinkle-free graduate trainee t’other day, so young, carefree .. then it hits you that was almost 30 years ago.. bloody hell, where did THAT time go!? At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left .. Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we? Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things? A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?! " Fuck the reaper don't get anywhere by fearing anything .. death is inevitable live your best life this is just a part of our journey .. but there are a HELL of a lot of things trying to stop us from the next chapter | |||
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".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters? Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old. I found an old set of photos from a works night out as a fresh faced wrinkle-free graduate trainee t’other day, so young, carefree .. then it hits you that was almost 30 years ago.. bloody hell, where did THAT time go!? At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left .. Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we? Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things? A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?! I fancy the fuck " | |||
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"A few weeks ago I made it to the start of my 83rd year, how I have got this far is beyond me bearing in mind some of the antics I got up to in my earlier years. Like a number of people on this thread I do not fear death but I do have a degree of worry about what happens between now and my ultimate demise. I am doing everything in my power to ensure that I can manage to stay in my own home rather than be dumped in a care home, Cyanide pill at the ready (only joking). Mobility is the issue as my arthritis seems to be getting worse by the day, All of my family and close friends have bee told that if ever they have any doubts about my driving ability to speak up and I will probably give it up. That will be a hard one. My sexual activities ceased when Covid arrived and the onset of my heart issues meant that they cannot be restarted which I feel sad about as I still crave female company. All my affairs are in order, prepaid unattended cremation (fully discussed with my family) and distribution of assets all agreed I now take every day as it comes, my target is to be the first Fabber to reach the magical 99 " Happy birthday Geoff. | |||
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"I'm looking forward to getting old, meeting grandkids and being the chatty care home old bird. Scared of dying. Absofuckinglutly. Not for myself. For my kids and the anguish with heartbreak they will endure " Exactly this for me too! Having lost my mum suddenly and unexpectedly almost 3 weeks ago I’ve thought much about my child and how they’d cope when my time is up. So now it’s all about making memories for us. | |||
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".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters? Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old. I found an old set of photos from a works night out as a fresh faced wrinkle-free graduate trainee t’other day, so young, carefree .. then it hits you that was almost 30 years ago.. bloody hell, where did THAT time go!? At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left .. Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we? Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things? A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?! I fancy the fuck " Ahh finally!! All these people talking about death and mortality and finally someone takes the fuck option! | |||
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