FabSwingers.com forum: Ageing and mortality ..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

.. do you worry about it all, Fabsters?

Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old.

I found an old set of photos from a works night out as a fresh faced wrinkle-free graduate trainee t’other day, so young, carefree .. then it hits you that was almost 30 years ago.. bloody hell, where did THAT time go!?

At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left ..

Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we?

Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things?

A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a bit worried about getting older. I know I'm still only 27 but it feels like my 20s have gone by in a flash and haven't really used it to be as carefree as it could be and getting older means those opportunities may be limited even further. I've been very responsible, but almost too responsible

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By *espacito56Man
over a year ago

Orkney

Cry me a river kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hit the 5-0 this year. I see young people these days and they are broke, struggling to find a career, filled with anxiety, and a bit lost really. I don’t envy them or their youth. I’d rather have the self knowledge, confidence and optimism of 49.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I will be 58 on Sunday and in the last four months I've heard of three people that I vaguely knew dying in their 50s. I've always believed I won't be that old when I die but on my mums side they've all been in their 80s. On my dads side he was the oldest to die at 75. Think I will be about 65 when I pop my clogs. I'm not that bothered really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually okay with it whenever the time comes. Let's face it, the world is fucked and will continue to be so I'll gladly go when my time is up. Enjoy the here and now, the future is out of our control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents getting old and ill and not being indestructible has got me. It's a nightmare seeing them age.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Frankly, I do not worry about my lifespan, but I am profoundly concerned about my healthspan, that is the quality of my life during which I am painfree and mobile and healthy enough to live on my own, contentedly and sanely.

I work on my healthspan almost incessantly.

When I depart, I hope it is quickly, painlessly and without any distress being caused to others.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I really only started to line my life rather than other people's just before turning 50 and I've done more in the last 8 years than I did in the previous 50.

I don't think too far ahead and just embrace each moment.

I'm 4 years older than my dad was when he passed away 36 years ago but having passed that milestone I'll keep on keeping on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My parents getting old and ill and not being indestructible has got me. It's a nightmare seeing them age. "

yeah this too. I can associate with this, kind of brings it home.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cry me a river kids"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters?

Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old.

At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left ..

Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we?

Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things?

A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?!

I have everything in place to make sure things are easy for my grown up daughters.

I have a fully paid up Co-op burial plan including cemetery plot and head stone paid up front.

I have a list of all bank accounts, credit cards, insurance companies contact details, private pension details etc

Everything is listed, including address and contact details of my solicitor and upto date will.

Home is fully paid off, no mortgage or dept.

When my time come, all will be shared between my daughters and it will make them financially secure.

if there is such a thing as a bucket list, I have ticked every box as I have had a good life.

If I die tomorrow I am content and I know my daughters will be looked after.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"My parents getting old and ill and not being indestructible has got me. It's a nightmare seeing them age. "
This a weird one for me. My mum is 78. Looks 10 years younger, is fit and active, walks 5 miles aday. I can't get my head round the fact that she is nearly 80 and will get old one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My parents getting old and ill and not being indestructible has got me. It's a nightmare seeing them age. "

This is actually something I've thought about recently too and it's definitely scary to think about.

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By *ilkstressWoman
over a year ago

Drasnia

The mortality issue isn't worrying so much as simply aging. With age comes increasing fragility and reliance on others. I've been thinking about this a lot as I'm currently staying most nights with my parents since last week as my mother has fallen over a few times when getting up to go to the bathroom in the night and has not been able to get back up on her own. Over the last couple of years, there is also a loss of dignity I have seen, particularly with my father, which I won't go into.

I don't like that I will lose my independence and that in turn scares me and pisses me off.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I do. I always have done. It hits me and think about it for a while. Then forget about it for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As possibly the oldest poster so far on this thread I don't fear death itself. But as a previous poster says it's the possible deterioration before you die both physical and mental. I would not wish to be a burden on my children.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The mortality issue isn't worrying so much as simply aging. With age comes increasing fragility and reliance on others. I've been thinking about this a lot as I'm currently staying most nights with my parents since last week as my mother has fallen over a few times when getting up to go to the bathroom in the night and has not been able to get back up on her own. Over the last couple of years, there is also a loss of dignity I have seen, particularly with my father, which I won't go into.

I don't like that I will lose my independence and that in turn scares me and pisses me off. "

Sorry to hear about your Mum, and Dad. I think this scares me too, the loss of independence and capability and potential reliance on others.

It’s easy to say it now, while I’m relatively fit, but I’ve often thought I’d take that trip to Switzerland if ever I started down the road of being incapable of supporting myself.

Of course, I expect my view would be entirely different and I’d cherish every second of life if my circumstances change and I do find myself in that position.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Similar age to you OP. I went to a friend's funeral on valentines day, she was only 46 and today another friend told me she's starting chemo next week. It just makes you think

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm pretty standard millennial I think. Enjoy life for what it is now. Look forward to the cold embrace of death without any drive to hasten its arrival.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Similar age to you OP. I went to a friend's funeral on valentines day, she was only 46 and today another friend told me she's starting chemo next week. It just makes you think

Very sorry to hear that. We are all mortal and just reinforces that we should enjoy our lives as much as we can while we can

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just enjoy each moment, as you can. Doesn't seem much point in wasting energy worrying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Similar age to you OP. I went to a friend's funeral on valentines day, she was only 46 and today another friend told me she's starting chemo next week. It just makes you think

Sorry for your loss my lovely, it hits hard for sure xx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Only in the sense that I worry about what will happen to my youngest who has autism and I don’t think he will be able to live independently.

Otherwise I try not to think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scares the shit out of me .

Hitting the big 5 0 next week and had a major health scare at the beginning of the year that’s really opened my eyes to the fact I might not hit a big age , plus I have a 12 year old child to care for .

Cry me a fucking river

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Not at all scared of dying but hope it's quick and not painful. Getting older is just something we need to embrace as there is nothing we can do to avoid it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Only in the sense that I worry about what will happen to my youngest who has autism and I don’t think he will be able to live independently.

Otherwise I try not to think about it."

Reading that back I mean’t live alone independently….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scares the shit out of me .

Cry me a fucking river

I hope you have got plans to celebrate that milestone time. And that you overcome whatever health issue you have

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

Op,

Lots of years ago I served in the military and saw a fair bit of death at a relatively young age, so view every day as a joy.

This is not a rehearsal.

What I can say, nearing the end of the decade you are just starting, I have had more wild sex than any other decade of my life. The best is yet to come for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Scares the shit out of me .

Cry me a fucking river

hoping all is well and you have a full recovery x frightening times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scares the shit out of me .

Cry me a fucking river

I hope you have got plans to celebrate that milestone time. And that you overcome whatever health issue you have

As long as I don’t get bad news at the hosp on Thursday then I’ll be flying off to Tenerife , but I can’t be sure I’m going yet . Thank you though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scares the shit out of me .

Cry me a fucking river

hoping all is well and you have a full recovery x frightening times."

Thanks

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

4 yrs to state retirement age (unless they move it again) wtf have I been doing with my life

Mortality, nah don't think about it that's for other people - I'm going to live forever or burn out in a flash

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op,

Lots of years ago I served in the military and saw a fair bit of death at a relatively young age, so view every day as a joy.

This is not a rehearsal.

What I can say, nearing the end of the decade you are just starting, I have had more wild sex than any other decade of my life. The best is yet to come for you. "

Amen to that! Fingers crossed!

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

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Blimey.

I've got a relatively (compared to now) wrinkle free picture, taken last September, as the lock screen on my phone. It gives me a target to get back to looking like by next September!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I went through a low blip hitting 50 but I’m okay now, you just gotta take care of your body & mind and you probably have another 3-5 years of fun before taking up backgammon and getting a job in a charity shop. If you live into your 60s you can a bus pass & free meds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m 35, my mum died suddenly at 36, I do have a subconscious fear that I’ll die at the same age. I’ve been to an average of 2 funerals a year for the past 10 years, all of varying ages, I’m not worried about death, I’m worried about leaving my children in this shocking country

Mrs

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By *redwilma666Couple
over a year ago

Kilbirnie

All I want is to live till I am 90, then be shot by a jelous husband

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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago

Boo's World

I was quite happy sitting here stuffing my mouth with Mini Eggs and you do this.....

No, I'm not scared of getting old or dying.

We all get there at some point in life, some sooner than others, some later than others. Ive already lost many friends younger than me to various things over the years so I'm grateful for however long I get.

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Jubal1 is right, “healthspan” is the key. And the NHS doesn’t regard ageing as a treatable illness, so you’ll get no help from there.

Obviously, avoid junk food and drinks, and exercise regularly.

For men, have a look at testosterone replacement . It’s known as a “sex” hormone, but there are receptors for it on cells throughout the body. The level of this hormone in the blood declines steadily from the age of about 30. It’s called the “andropause”, like a very extended menopause, but therapy isn’t available from the NHS.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've got two bad hops and a broken shoulder that won't heel. I'm finding it difficult to walk but hopefully one day they will be able to mend them them I will be fine. I'm young at heart but stuck in a old body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha. Today I ordered an over 60's meal offer in a Waitrose restaurant and there was some muttering behind the counter before I was actually asked for ID to prove I'm over 60,ffs!

I don't really care. Obviously there is less time ahead of me than behind but the things I do now are mostly just for me. Some I shall achieve, and some I won't before I run out of time. I lost several good friends when I was in my early twenties and have skirted death more than once. My kids are grown, safe and secure and making their own way in the World.

I shall probably die doing something immensely stupid. Rather that than shitting myself to death in a dementia home.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm looking forward to getting old, meeting grandkids and being the chatty care home old bird.

Scared of dying. Absofuckinglutly.

Not for myself. For my kids and the anguish with heartbreak they will endure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm actually okay with it whenever the time comes. Let's face it, the world is fucked and will continue to be so I'll gladly go when my time is up. Enjoy the here and now, the future is out of our control."

lol - you’re only 30! A spring chicken!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't worry about dying. I am slightly concerned about extreme old age though.

I will say that my fifties were one of the best decades of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did used to worry about growing old, but I embrace it now and see every day as a blessing. I hope I'm lucky enough to turn into a very wrinkly old lady with 90 candles on her cake.

I hope that I'll remain fit and healthy. I remember how I felt watching my mum and dad deteriorate before my eyes with poor health and I don't want my family to have to experience that.

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By *oanne2548TV/TS
over a year ago

Nottingham

Am sure I'm the eldest to put something on here.

AM 78, S

till live on my own, been on my own 5yrs since I lost my wife,still get out to watch sport go fishing, .no longer drive but nora problem where ilive.Kids and Grandkids will be looked after when I'm gone and I don't worry about it, hope to stay healthy, till I pass on, oh and I still play , there's life in this old dog yet,bless you all xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am sure I'm the eldest to put something on here.

AM 78, S

good for you! I hope I’m still playing at 78! Good work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something that causes a lot of anxiety for me if I'm honest to the point I think I need to talk to someone

My Dad died suddenly when he was 50 of a heart attack...As did my Grandad who was 60.

My Mum was 63 when she passed.

I reach 50 next year and have a heart condition so the thought I might not be around is scary...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is something that causes a lot of anxiety for me if I'm honest to the point I think I need to talk to someone

My Dad died suddenly when he was 50 of a heart attack...As did my Grandad who was 60.

My Mum was 63 when she passed.

I reach 50 next year and have a heart condition so the thought I might not be around is scary...

please do t let it stress you, please do try and talk it through xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Similar age to you OP. I went to a friend's funeral on valentines day, she was only 46 and today another friend told me she's starting chemo next week. It just makes you think

Very sorry to hear that. We are all mortal and just reinforces that we should enjoy our lives as much as we can while we can

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fearing hitting the big 5 0 at the end of March. I had a meltdown when I hit 40 so god knows what I'll be like. There's not much good happi on my life right now, my health worries and the worry of my dad's health declining every day. I try to remain positive but I really don't want to celebrate my birthday at all. Sorry x"

Happening!

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m the same but in April. Sorry to hear that, it’s not easy, despite what others say. Big hugs

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By *bonybucksMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I realized how short it all is when my Mum died of cancer at just 59 in 2018!! I remember her being my age age she used to dress so nicely, she always got a lot of attention and I watched her get sick and age overnight.

So now I don’t put up with what I used to years ago. We must thrive to get treated better by others and don’t take no BS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to say sorry for being so honest in this forum. I hope you can overcome your health worries and keep some positivity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry to hear about your Dad and your struggles. I understand where you’re coming from but to be honest, I feel the same at 50 as I did at 49. Rationally it’s just a number so please try, if you can, to not worry about a number ticking over xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the same but in April. Sorry to hear that, it’s not easy, despite what others say. Big hugs

Thanks, hugs to you for being so lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to say sorry for being so honest in this forum. I hope you can overcome your health worries and keep some positivity

Thank you. Things are getting to breaking point but I need to stay strong for him x

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

My elder brother died fairly young (during covid but not covid related).

My parents are still fit and healthy but really getting on now and some of my friends have died.

Putting all that together does have me thinking about my own mortality more than I used to.

I can remember life stretching out so far ahead of me but now I actually think sometimes, I've got about (x) amount of time left and after that I'll be gone.

BUT ....

The best thing to do is keep making plans* and keep enjoying life.

Gbat

*Making plans is apt if you know my actual name!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That you, that's much appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My elder brother died fairly young (during covid but not covid related).

My parents are still fit and healthy but really getting on now and some of my friends have died.

Putting all that together does have me thinking about my own mortality more than I used to.

I can remember life stretching out so far ahead of me but now I actually think sometimes, I've got about (x) amount of time left and after that I'll be gone.

BUT ....

The best thing to do is keep making plans* and keep enjoying life.

Gbat

*Making plans is apt if you know my actual name!

Sorry for your loss.

I can guess the name I think (from my youth!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to say sorry for being so honest in this forum. I hope you can overcome your health worries and keep some positivity

Thank you. Things are getting to breaking point but I need to stay strong for him x"

And it is definitely not easy. My mum suffered with poor health for a long time before passing. You can't understand what it feels like until you experience it.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It's only now I'm in my 5th decade, that I've finally discovered my sexual self - I'm not ready to die yet!

If I do, there'll be some interesting and no doubt unexpected pics on my phone!

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

This age is the youngest we will ever be. Can’t control the passing of time so don’t worry about it. Look after body and mind. Lift weights. Run. Do yoga. Try new things. Eat well. Stay active til the day you die.

My father in law just turned 65 and is still running ultra marathons. Adapt to what your body can do. Get as fit as you can because that’s what will keeps you biologically and actually young!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more scared of if I am dying and someone finds out about it and saves me. Sitting in a broken body just surviving for years, fucking livid! When I could of been out of here! I don't want to "look after myself" and live a long life, I want to die young but as late as possible! Don't we all?

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

OMG no point in worrying about it live life one day at a time I'm 68 so what

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By *oxerosMan
over a year ago

Clapham

I’m in my mid fifties and lately have been remembering a couple of friends who never got to be this age. It’s a reminder that growing old is a privilege not everyone gets. It’s our duty to make the most of it!

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

We are all on the same road! Some people's journey is shorter and others longer, Ultimately no one is superior or lives forever. If we are even lucky to get older as it's a gift denied too many. Life is a gift and be grateful for each day! Someone didn't open their again again today.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I lost my Mum 2 years ago and my Dad 17 years ago. My kids are still at home with me which I actually like.

I’m having plenty fun on here and beginning to do some travelling again on my own. Some days I do feel that life is too short. I’m struggling with menopause and on HRT but at almost 55 my body feels ancient at times.

Last year I was at the funeral of a friend from primary school. I’ve a friend who is 40 undergoing chemo for breast cancer. Sometimes it does get overwhelming.

I’ve a trip planned for May and looking forward to that. Live life while we can.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Nah my life is just getting started.

I have a son who I enjoy teaching to be a good person and go on vanilla adventures together.

I also have C who I enjoy teaching to be as naughty as possible and go on sexual adventure together.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

When my mum died I became quite anxious about dying and leaving my family behind.

I didn't want them to feel the same pain I felt losing her.

Recently, someone I know who I shouldn't really like died-who was my age-and it's made me re-evaluate my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters?

Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old.

At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left ..

Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we?

Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things?

A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?!

Getting or growing older does not bother me one bit tbh simply because there is fuck all anyone can do about it , my health, both mentally and physically is the most important thing that l own and my most precious possession , everything else has it's place, all anyone can do in life is their best and once they can say that the rest doesn't matter, I'll quote the film Gladiator on this one .." sometimes death smiles at you and all you can do is smile back "...live life as best you can , be thankful for the beautiful & simple things in your life .

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

If anyone is interested in testosterone replacement therapy, send me a message. I may be able to save you time and trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought about it a bit last year, I turned 50 then my dad died a few days later. I try not to worry about it too much, now and again it passes through my mind.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters?

Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old.

At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left ..

Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we?

Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things?

A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?!

Fuck the reaper don't get anywhere by fearing anything .. death is inevitable live your best life this is just a part of our journey .. but there are a HELL of a lot of things trying to stop us from the next chapter

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

We've been taught to fear death for the wrong reasons falsely educated system is fucked..

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By *estrel girlWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham

".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters?

Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old.

At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left ..

Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we?

Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things?

A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?!

I fancy the fuck

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don’t understand why people stress about things they can’t control. As soon as you were born, you were dying. Could take 3 days could take 100 years. Getting old or dying doesn’t bother me in the slightest because I understand it’s all part of the process. If I’m totally honest in the back of my mind I’m quite looking forward to going sleep forever. Obviously I’d rather it happened when the kids have grown up but with the lifestyle I’ve lead in the past I’ll be surprised if I make it passed my 60’s.

The mr

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Not really no.

I didn't think I'd see 25. 30 was a shock, how did I manage to stay living for so long? Now I'll be happy and amazed when I see 35 in a couple of years. I don't worry about getting old, I'd love to. I don't even fear dying.

I have so much life left, if I spent the time worrying about the what ifs I wouldn't really be living would I? And that would be an awful shame.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

A few weeks ago I made it to the start of my 83rd year, how I have got this far is beyond me bearing in mind some of the antics I got up to in my earlier years.

Like a number of people on this thread I do not fear death but I do have a degree of worry about what happens between now and my ultimate demise.

I am doing everything in my power to ensure that I can manage to stay in my own home rather than be dumped in a care home, Cyanide pill at the ready (only joking). Mobility is the issue as my arthritis seems to be getting worse by the day, All of my family and close friends have bee told that if ever they have any doubts about my driving ability to speak up and I will probably give it up. That will be a hard one.

My sexual activities ceased when Covid arrived and the onset of my heart issues meant that they cannot be restarted which I feel sad about as I still crave female company.

All my affairs are in order, prepaid unattended cremation (fully discussed with my family) and distribution of assets all agreed I now take every day as it comes, my target is to be the first Fabber to reach the magical 99

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few weeks ago I made it to the start of my 83rd year, how I have got this far is beyond me bearing in mind some of the antics I got up to in my earlier years.

Like a number of people on this thread I do not fear death but I do have a degree of worry about what happens between now and my ultimate demise.

My sexual activities ceased when Covid arrived and the onset of my heart issues meant that they cannot be restarted which I feel sad about as I still crave female company.

Happy birthday Geoff.

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

"I'm looking forward to getting old, meeting grandkids and being the chatty care home old bird.

Scared of dying. Absofuckinglutly.

Not for myself. For my kids and the anguish with heartbreak they will endure

Exactly this for me too! Having lost my mum suddenly and unexpectedly almost 3 weeks ago I’ve thought much about my child and how they’d cope when my time is up. So now it’s all about making memories for us.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Cheery thread Dan.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

".. do you worry about it all, Fabsters?

Gotta say it hit me a bit last year when I hit the big 5-0, my half century, the binary dividing line (as I see it!) between being young and being old.

At Christmas last year I realised for the first time that I’ve probably lived a lot more Christmasses already than I’ve got left ..

Then you get news reports of icons you grew up dying and, well, you know we’re not getting any younger are we?

Do you fear the reaper, or embrace and rejoice in the here and now and not worry about such things?

A lovely cheery topic for a Monday night I know, so while we’re at it, anyone fancy a fuck?!

I fancy the fuck

Ahh finally!! All these people talking about death and mortality and finally someone takes the fuck option!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No.

Death used to scare me when I was a child. I thought it was something awful.

I've long since accepted that it is part of the life cycle for every living thing on Earth.

I would prefer a natural death.

You never know your moment

It is only with death in our minds that we can truly appreciate the beauty of each other.......

Life really is fleeting. Enjoy it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Death is the reason that you shouldn't be sitting around moaning or holding on to resentments ..... the clock ticks

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I think about dying since hitting 50, but what can we do about it.

Just enjoy the time we have left, attempting to make the most of each day.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

All the more reason to wake up with a sense of gratitude each day - there is really so much to appreciate.

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