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Do you fuck on first dates?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So do you? Does your strategy change depending on if you just find them sexy but wouldn't go on date two or if you fancy the pants off them and can see yourself forming a relationship?

Date one for us was coffee and cake, no naked, no beast with two backs but we were instantly smitten.

Date two we were naked in minutes and stayed that way for the rest of the week.

We both admitted that if we had found each other sexually attractive but not long term material we would have fucked on date one and gone our separate ways.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I don’t fuck.

I make snu-snu!

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Does your dad own a brewery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did once.

Fred and Merlin were horrified and they couldn't show it in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually did it before the date once. Had a one night stand many moons ago and I asked her out after texting back and forth. The date was a bit awkward though and we both decided not to see each other afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was genuinely interested in a person long term, I wouldn't give it all away so soon. Sexual attraction can be misconstrued for other things so I'd want to explore their mind before their body.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Haven’t had a first date for 35 years

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Socials on here? No I don’t.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If you mean through fab the answer is no. Always at least one social before deciding to get naked.

I've turned down socials when it was suggested anything more would happen afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stayed naked for a week. Op must be c level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’ve ever not, to the point it was my New Year’s resolution which I broke before January was even over

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't go on many dates, but the few I have, I slept with them on the first date, aside from two dates that no attraction/connection was present.

With sexy meets, yeah I've always slept with them first time

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

This got me thinking... In the 4 years that I have been single, I have only ever been on three 'dates' in the conventional IRL sense

All were a disaster and none of them make my knickers hit the floor

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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago

kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent

"If I was genuinely interested in a person long term, I wouldn't give it all away so soon. Sexual attraction can be misconstrued for other things so I'd want to explore their mind before their body."
now i know why it only takes me 5mins..they aint intrested in me at all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Used to, not any more

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So do you? Does your strategy change depending on if you just find them sexy but wouldn't go on date two or if you fancy the pants off them and can see yourself forming a relationship?

Date one for us was coffee and cake, no naked, no beast with two backs but we were instantly smitten.

Date two we were naked in minutes and stayed that way for the rest of the week.

We both admitted that if we had found each other sexually attractive but not long term material we would have fucked on date one and gone our separate ways."
well your example is more about an actual date and so yes I'd wait but if it were a sexual date then yes if all boxes are ticked why not have sex on that first date

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

I wish if I am lucky to get one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could I feel your tits?

Or would you show 'em to me?"

(The person I'm replying in message to will get reference)

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

If the chemistry is there, then yes definitely.

In the ‘real’ world I lost count of the times women admitted later that they wanted to get jiggy on the first date, but didn’t want to seem ‘easy’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you mean through fab the answer is no. Always at least one social before deciding to get naked.

I've turned down socials when it was suggested anything more would happen afterwards.

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Same. If they start hinting at sex stuff before we've even met then the social is cancelled.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Socials here, I used to insist on a social first before anything proceeded.

Since 2020 that's changed, but mostly because I talk to people for a very long time before we meet.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

First meeting is only ever promised as a social.

But it can become much more than that if the chemistry is there.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

First dates ?

Or First meets....

I know you said dates so you must mean dates because if you didn't mean dates you wouldn't have said dates but you did so I guess you meant dates and not meets cos if you meant meets you would have said meets but you didn't say meets you said dates so I have to go with dates......

No. Yep if I feel like it.

i'll just leave meets out of it, cos you never said meets ... you said dates.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"First meeting is only ever promised as a social.

But it can become much more than that if the chemistry is there."

Just like dating, if I remember it right. (It’s been a long time since I was single.)

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Nope, seriously nope even if I fancy the pants off them.

The reason? I want to be sure that that is what I really want, they are are somebody I can trust with a degree of intimacy and getting a bit closer to my core.

And this will take a little bit of time. I won't be rushed either. Ever.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Just like dating, if I remember it right. (It’s been a long time since I was single.)"

I suppose that was a long way of saying that yes, I sometimes used to fuck on first dates. If the chemistry was there.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

no I don't although I used to years ago

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By *akeanyoneMan
over a year ago

LH

""Could I feel your tits?

Or would you show 'em to me?"

(The person I'm replying in message to will get reference)"

Damnn, beat me to it

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Usually to social meet first, but if it goes well and it feels right, I will fuck on first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone even date anymore?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes but I would have planned it in advance to have that option

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No I don't. Well, not any more.

And I'm really happy not doing so - I like getting to know someone. Plus, the more relaxed I am, the more I enjoy sex. I'm not really meeting people for sex any more. It happens and is fantastic but I'm meeting for friendship etc, sex isn't the driving force.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"No I don't. Well, not any more.

And I'm really happy not doing so - I like getting to know someone. Plus, the more relaxed I am, the more I enjoy sex. I'm not really meeting people for sex any more. It happens and is fantastic but I'm meeting for friendship etc, sex isn't the driving force."
You said it better than me.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham

Have done; it’s something that you just can’t help yourself with sometimes

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I tend to talk and communicate an awful lot before I meet so I usually have made my mind up if I want to fuck before a physical meeting. However I appreciate that it’s very different for women as they need to feel safe and secure before taking that next step

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By *rDxxMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Firstly I need to get a date to find out the answer to that question

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By *oJo pornstarMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't fuck on 1st dates anymore, too many times in the past a girl has given me the "you were only after one thing" line after the relationship didn't go far.

It's irritating and false.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Does anyone even date anymore?

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I once dated on a first fuck.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Nope, seriously nope even if I fancy the pants off them.

The reason? I want to be sure that that is what I really want, they are are somebody I can trust with a degree of intimacy and getting a bit closer to my core.

And this will take a little bit of time. I won't be rushed either. Ever."

Ah I liked your post a lot! It's very close to how I feel.

I don't think sex is a sacred thing, ascribe to it hangups that still exist. But I enjoy taking my time, removing sex and not feeling pressure to do something when I need that base level connection to be sexually attacted to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone even date anymore?

I once dated on a first fuck.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Nope, seriously nope even if I fancy the pants off them.

The reason? I want to be sure that that is what I really want, they are are somebody I can trust with a degree of intimacy and getting a bit closer to my core.

And this will take a little bit of time. I won't be rushed either. Ever.

Ah I liked your post a lot! It's very close to how I feel.

I don't think sex is a sacred thing, ascribe to it hangups that still exist. But I enjoy taking my time, removing sex and not feeling pressure to do something when I need that base level connection to be sexually attacted to someone."
Exactly - I am not celibate - I just value my body, my mental health more than going with a person where I might have regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely.. Life is short

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By *lueeyes3082Man
over a year ago

nr kettering

"Absolutely.. Life is short "

Fancy a date lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely.. Life is short

Fancy a date lol"

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By *lueeyes3082Man
over a year ago

nr kettering

"Absolutely.. Life is short

Fancy a date lol

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Was referring cos you said you fuck on first dates just a bit of humour

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By *94meeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes, unless she stinks!!

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I don’t think I’ve ever not, to the point it was my New Year’s resolution which I broke before January was even over "

Harlot want a date

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't go on dates or do socials, apart from a quick drink first. I meet for sex!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Sometimes I enjoy a quick no strings sex meet Spontaneous and exciting

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I have fucked on fab first dates, here it seems more normal to go there. I wouldn't try to fuck on a normal first date tho, although I'd never say never if the mood is right!

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

‘Normal’ datey dates for dating dates. No. Absolutely not. Ever. There have been many where I was attracted enough to want to, but if I want that first date to turn into a relationship then it’s more about establishing a connection.

First dates for me are purely about seeing if I want a second date.

Fab meets - I don’t ever set out with that intention. But, because sex is so much more open on fab than IRL, it has happened.

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By *uckyNineMan
over a year ago

prescot

No - I’m not that lucky

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

No chance first time is a social to see if there is any chemistry as if there's not then there is no point in a second time

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