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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

If you thought your partner was cheating on you would you bug their car ?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"If you thought your partner was cheating on you would you bug their car ?"
yes I'd nick her spark plugs that'd bug her

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Belfast

No.

There are laws against that sort of thing.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

This is not the thread on buggering your partner i expected - learning point… read the title!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. If I got a point in a relationship where I didn't trust them it would be over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After cutting their brake lines the bugging would seem a bit superfluous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to say yes just to see how many forumites now run out and strip search their cars.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't have any idea how to go about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the absence of strong evidence but a lingering suspicion, it's a yes from me

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"If you thought your partner was cheating on you would you bug their car ?"

Are you asking for a “friend”?

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

ive put bugs everywhere..

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Sauce for the goose, etc.

If you suspect them of cheating, and get it confirmed, maybe you should note that you are in a swingers website and don't really occupy much of a moral highground. It could lead to a conversation about how both of you don't need to keep secrets and swing together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- it's so easy to do nowadays, I couldn't resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'd hide in the wardrobe and jump out as he's about to ejaculate all over her cheating face.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No I’d ask her. Because I have believe she wouldn’t lie to me in any situation. Even if it meant breaking me.

The mr

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I might empty a bucket load of fleas in their car. I can do that sort of bugging

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I don’t need a reason to spy and snoop on people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. It's a form of abuse.

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Swinging site can your partner not mess around ?

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By *atinCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Southampton

OK, so years ago I placed a bug on the land line phone (this was before the general use of mobile phones) what I would say is be prepared to hear people who you thought were friends saying horrible things about you. But also wonderful people being honest and straightforward. I could only handle it for about 4 weeks, then removed the device. In that time I found out who were and who was not a friend, the results shocked me as much as the deception.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If I thought my partner was cheating on me I'd probably not consider them a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging site can your partner not mess around ?"

Swingers can still cheat!

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

What if you did and it turned out you were wrong. You've set a moral precedent for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK, so years ago I placed a bug on the land line phone (this was before the general use of mobile phones) what I would say is be prepared to hear people who you thought were friends saying horrible things about you. But also wonderful people being honest and straightforward. I could only handle it for about 4 weeks, then removed the device. In that time I found out who were and who was not a friend, the results shocked me as much as the deception. "

This isn't a problem for me - I don't do friends

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"OK, so years ago I placed a bug on the land line phone (this was before the general use of mobile phones) what I would say is be prepared to hear people who you thought were friends saying horrible things about you. But also wonderful people being honest and straightforward. I could only handle it for about 4 weeks, then removed the device. In that time I found out who were and who was not a friend, the results shocked me as much as the deception. "
Seriously? I just couldn't do that and have no reason too

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Do some of these buggers deserve to be bugged ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't. I would ask him for a totally honest conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you thought your partner was cheating on you would you bug their car ?"

No, I’d set the GPS on their phone so I can track them and see where they are at all times

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Amazing how so many couples, back in the day, unwittingly bugged themselves with analogue baby alarms.

Typically, if they had a one bedroom starter home with the baby's cot in the corner of the room.

Now they do it with the software they collect on their smartphones!

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden


"If you thought your partner was cheating on you would you bug their car ?"

Do you mean electronic surveillance devices or little creatures like spiders, flies, millipedes and centipedes?

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nah i would never bug my partners car,,

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By *urvelover39Man
over a year ago

Somewhere

I will bugger your missus

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

No, lots of laws against this sort of behaviour.

That if the relationship got to that stage, it’d be time to move on

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

If you think they are cheating you may as well give up .

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"If you think they are cheating you may as well give up ."

I'm fascinated by this notion.

Surely most would keep quiet, not rock the boat, and and use the opportunity as a green light to do the same?

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"If you think they are cheating you may as well give up ."

I'm fascinated by this notion.

Surely most would keep quiet, not rock the boat, and and use the opportunity as a green light to do the same?

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"If you think they are cheating you may as well give up .

I'm fascinated by this notion.

Surely most would keep quiet, not rock the boat, and and use the opportunity as a green light to do the same?"

The smart ones, of course, having confirmed the situation by judicious use of bbugging!

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Sauce for the goose, etc.

If you suspect them of cheating, and get it confirmed, maybe you should note that you are in a swingers website and don't really occupy much of a moral highground. It could lead to a conversation about how both of you don't need to keep secrets and swing together."

Exactly this! If you’re on fab and they don’t know, why shouldn’t they play away with you not knowing?

Either way, there is a fundamental lack of trust and deception going at least one way. Relationship over, as far as I’m concerned.

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By *ssex_tom OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Surely it can't be illegal to set up cameras in your own home

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No. I’d follow him, see where he went and then confront them both.

I daresay I’d be one of those nightmare women whose story you read in Take a Break magazine.

Hot headed sadly.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"OK, so years ago I placed a bug on the land line phone (this was before the general use of mobile phones) what I would say is be prepared to hear people who you thought were friends saying horrible things about you. But also wonderful people being honest and straightforward. I could only handle it for about 4 weeks, then removed the device. In that time I found out who were and who was not a friend, the results shocked me as much as the deception.

This isn't a problem for me - I don't do friends

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me neither a friend in need is a f#cking nuisance

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By *umbriaman1962Man
over a year ago

outside of penrith

I not spy but wait find out other ways

Then make it clear I. Want all details and catch sex every time and or find way make it mfm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK, so years ago I placed a bug on the land line phone (this was before the general use of mobile phones) what I would say is be prepared to hear people who you thought were friends saying horrible things about you. But also wonderful people being honest and straightforward. I could only handle it for about 4 weeks, then removed the device. In that time I found out who were and who was not a friend, the results shocked me as much as the deception.

This isn't a problem for me - I don't do friends

me neither a friend in need is a f#cking nuisance "
too true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you think they are cheating you may as well give up ."

Why? People cheat for so many reasons. Surely if you love the person you can at least talk about it, before making an informed decision, and not just have a knee jerk reaction.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. I'd order a sti kit for both of us though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a bad gut feeling once and asked my partner outright. I'd do it again too if I ever felt like something wasn't right.

I don’t see the need for games when it comes to this type of shite.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"I had a bad gut feeling once and asked my partner outright. I'd do it again too if I ever felt like something wasn't right.

I don’t see the need for games when it comes to this type of shite."

And?! Was your gut feeling right? Or was it just wind?

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"Surely it can't be illegal to set up cameras in your own home "

Sec 67 SexualOffences Act 2003 says you're wrong there Tom.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have the energy to go through the cycle of suspicion, denial, catching them in the act and repeat again.

I’d end the relationship at suspicion, as the trust is gone then anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely it can't be illegal to set up cameras in your own home "

For what purpose though, Tom? For security reasons, ok. To record people who don’t know they’re being recorded having sex would probably be seen as voyeurism regardless of the reason for doing it

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

No... I would leave... Either you are right or you aren't secure enough in yourself to be in a relationship with anyone

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By *bonybucksMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Nah just ask them and if they lie turn I always find out. It’s gonna be over!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"If you think they are cheating you may as well give up .

Why? People cheat for so many reasons. Surely if you love the person you can at least talk about it, before making an informed decision, and not just have a knee jerk reaction. "

It's unforgivable for me, I wouldn't be interested in finding out why they done it. The trust would be gone and so would the relationship.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island


"Surely it can't be illegal to set up cameras in your own home "

It isn’t, but you do need signs placed at entrance to home saying CCTV is in use.

Also, the sexual offences act comes into place when you record someone in the act without their permission.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I find some people on this thread really creepy

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