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"I can't believe you're being forced to go. If you don't want to go, don't go." It's not that we're being forced to go, exactly- that would be impossible, but it's being strongly encouraged. I like my colleagues, but I personally don't want to spend that much money to attend a social evening with them! My manager is justifying it by telling us it's still a cheap night out | |||
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"I can't believe you're being forced to go. If you don't want to go, don't go. It's not that we're being forced to go, exactly- that would be impossible, but it's being strongly encouraged. I like my colleagues, but I personally don't want to spend that much money to attend a social evening with them! My manager is justifying it by telling us it's still a cheap night out " Then don't go. | |||
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"I can't believe you're being forced to go. If you don't want to go, don't go. It's not that we're being forced to go, exactly- that would be impossible, but it's being strongly encouraged. I like my colleagues, but I personally don't want to spend that much money to attend a social evening with them! My manager is justifying it by telling us it's still a cheap night out Then don't go. " Thank you for that sage advice, but that's not what I asked. I just wanted to know if the general consensus was that this is fair or not. | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night " So would i | |||
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"I can't believe you're being forced to go. If you don't want to go, don't go. It's not that we're being forced to go, exactly- that would be impossible, but it's being strongly encouraged. I like my colleagues, but I personally don't want to spend that much money to attend a social evening with them! My manager is justifying it by telling us it's still a cheap night out Then don't go. Thank you for that sage advice, but that's not what I asked. I just wanted to know if the general consensus was that this is fair or not." The answer is, no it's not fair. The question you should ask yourself is what do you get from going and in turn what might you lose from staying away. Life ain't fair, that's just the way it is | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night " There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. " All sounds a bit fishy to me | |||
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"My colleagues & I haven't had an Xmas do for the last 2 years, even though our company gives us a good budget for it. With less than a week's notice, our manager has now decided to use that budget on a staff night out (on Wednesday). Part of it will involve having a fair amount of alcohol at some kind of themed event. I will have to get the train there (£15), we all have to bring a bottle of spirits (£15) organise a cab home £40) or book a hotel for the night (£50). So this unexpected evening will cost me around £70 minimum! I think this is taking the piss, but what do you all think? Is it right to try & force everyone to attend the evening, knowing fine well that some can't afford the travel? Would anyone else think it's wrong to tell us we all have to go, even though some are struggling right now? I'm genuinely interested in other opinions!" To my mind you have an easy get out of jail free card. It’s too little notice, you have family commitments you can’t get out of, hope you all have fun and see ya. I think it is unreasonable personally and if they’ve decided to do it on a whim you shouldn’t feel bad for not wanting to go | |||
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"I need a job that pays for drinks and a night out lol " Depends who you work with and the place. They always seem to end up as ‘training’ events where the topic at hand will have you reaching for the nearest fire alarm | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. All sounds a bit fishy to me" We're being taken to an immersive themed cocktail bar, apparently where we all have to dress up in costume when we get there. there are actors & mixologists all in character & they use the alcohol we bring to mix special cocktails. It sounds bloody cringe. | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. All sounds a bit fishy to me We're being taken to an immersive themed cocktail bar, apparently where we all have to dress up in costume when we get there. there are actors & mixologists all in character & they use the alcohol we bring to mix special cocktails. It sounds bloody cringe." As they say, the choice is yours | |||
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"My colleagues & I haven't had an Xmas do for the last 2 years, even though our company gives us a good budget for it. With less than a week's notice, our manager has now decided to use that budget on a staff night out (on Wednesday). Part of it will involve having a fair amount of alcohol at some kind of themed event. I will have to get the train there (£15), we all have to bring a bottle of spirits (£15) organise a cab home £40) or book a hotel for the night (£50). So this unexpected evening will cost me around £70 minimum! I think this is taking the piss, but what do you all think? Is it right to try & force everyone to attend the evening, knowing fine well that some can't afford the travel? Would anyone else think it's wrong to tell us we all have to go, even though some are struggling right now? I'm genuinely interested in other opinions!" I wouldn't go to any party that I was instructed to bring a bottle of spirits along with every other invited person. Why is that thing?? | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. All sounds a bit fishy to me We're being taken to an immersive themed cocktail bar, apparently where we all have to dress up in costume when we get there. there are actors & mixologists all in character & they use the alcohol we bring to mix special cocktails. It sounds bloody cringe." Ask for a Mai tai | |||
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"My colleagues & I haven't had an Xmas do for the last 2 years, even though our company gives us a good budget for it. With less than a week's notice, our manager has now decided to use that budget on a staff night out (on Wednesday). Part of it will involve having a fair amount of alcohol at some kind of themed event. I will have to get the train there (£15), we all have to bring a bottle of spirits (£15) organise a cab home £40) or book a hotel for the night (£50). So this unexpected evening will cost me around £70 minimum! I think this is taking the piss, but what do you all think? Is it right to try & force everyone to attend the evening, knowing fine well that some can't afford the travel? Would anyone else think it's wrong to tell us we all have to go, even though some are struggling right now? I'm genuinely interested in other opinions!" If there has not been one held for two years znd there is a good budget available for ut then there should be an excellent budget now really. I think at a time when people are struggling with a cost of living crisis then it's very unreasonable to alexoect that you go and that you take a bottle of spirits really. I'd raise tge issue of affordability and notice with someone above your manager. Just voice your concerns. | |||
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"I can't believe you're being forced to go. If you don't want to go, don't go. It's not that we're being forced to go, exactly- that would be impossible, but it's being strongly encouraged. I like my colleagues, but I personally don't want to spend that much money to attend a social evening with them! My manager is justifying it by telling us it's still a cheap night out Then don't go. Thank you for that sage advice, but that's not what I asked. I just wanted to know if the general consensus was that this is fair or not." To be fair, its fair... No work place is going to pay for your travel to/from a works night out. If you choose to byob if no alcohol os on offer, then that's on you. It's not mandatory, yiu don't have to go. I'm assume they're not asking you to pay your own dinner (my workplace actually does) | |||
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"I wouldn't be attending anything where alcohol was the central theme and certainly would not be bringing bottles of spirits. How is this event suitable for non drinkers? Our works dos involve being given tokens for a certain number of basic drinks, including soft drinks and tea/coffee. I always drive to events because it's impossible for me to get home by public transport at night via wheelchair. I have no desire to be inebriated and out in the wheelchair at any time, because I need my wit's about me to prevent other d*unk people from seizing my chair and pushing me somewhere I don't want to go (this is a common occurrence in the wee hours). The whole thing sounds hideous to me. " I'm assuming they may lay on soft drinks, but not offer a paid for bar? So if OP wants to drink booze then they're saying that's on her? Not that she must | |||
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"I wouldn't be attending anything where alcohol was the central theme and certainly would not be bringing bottles of spirits. How is this event suitable for non drinkers? Our works dos involve being given tokens for a certain number of basic drinks, including soft drinks and tea/coffee. I always drive to events because it's impossible for me to get home by public transport at night via wheelchair. I have no desire to be inebriated and out in the wheelchair at any time, because I need my wit's about me to prevent other d*unk people from seizing my chair and pushing me somewhere I don't want to go (this is a common occurrence in the wee hours). The whole thing sounds hideous to me. I'm assuming they may lay on soft drinks, but not offer a paid for bar? So if OP wants to drink booze then they're saying that's on her? Not that she must " I seriously doubt any work environment night out would insist everyone drinks alcohol | |||
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"I can't believe you're being forced to go. If you don't want to go, don't go. It's not that we're being forced to go, exactly- that would be impossible, but it's being strongly encouraged. I like my colleagues, but I personally don't want to spend that much money to attend a social evening with them! My manager is justifying it by telling us it's still a cheap night out Then don't go. Thank you for that sage advice, but that's not what I asked. I just wanted to know if the general consensus was that this is fair or not." Yes. | |||
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"My colleagues & I haven't had an Xmas do for the last 2 years, even though our company gives us a good budget for it. With less than a week's notice, our manager has now decided to use that budget on a staff night out (on Wednesday). Part of it will involve having a fair amount of alcohol at some kind of themed event. I will have to get the train there (£15), we all have to bring a bottle of spirits (£15) organise a cab home £40) or book a hotel for the night (£50). So this unexpected evening will cost me around £70 minimum! I think this is taking the piss, but what do you all think? Is it right to try & force everyone to attend the evening, knowing fine well that some can't afford the travel? Would anyone else think it's wrong to tell us we all have to go, even though some are struggling right now? I'm genuinely interested in other opinions!" It's absolutely taking the piss. No notice, making you take bottles. The whole thing would be my worst nightmare. And midweek!!! W T F I'd say I already have plans. | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. " £100 pp for dinner You could drive, assuming you do drive? My work involves a 3 hour round commute, so any dinners i need to attend involve driving and drinking lime +soda or staying overnight at a friend's house Its rare my company provide a fully expensed meal /drinks - its usually a recognition /work discussion | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. All sounds a bit fishy to me We're being taken to an immersive themed cocktail bar, apparently where we all have to dress up in costume when we get there. there are actors & mixologists all in character & they use the alcohol we bring to mix special cocktails. It sounds bloody cringe." Ah sounds like alcotraz or similar in Manchester | |||
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"If they’ve got a good budget I’d expect open bar and hotel for the night There are 8 of us & they've paid £800 for dinner & a themed event of some kind. There isn't much money left after this, apparently. She won't tell us exactly what this event entails. £100 pp for dinner You could drive, assuming you do drive? My work involves a 3 hour round commute, so any dinners i need to attend involve driving and drinking lime +soda or staying overnight at a friend's house Its rare my company provide a fully expensed meal /drinks - its usually a recognition /work discussion " £100pp is about right for 3 course meal with some drinks. I'm part of the team that organises our departments social events. Sit down meals generally work out around that. (£70-£150pp) | |||
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"I can't believe you're being forced to go. If you don't want to go, don't go. It's not that we're being forced to go, exactly- that would be impossible, but it's being strongly encouraged. I like my colleagues, but I personally don't want to spend that much money to attend a social evening with them! My manager is justifying it by telling us it's still a cheap night out " Tell the manager that as you haven’t had a works night out in over 2 years there’s plenty in the budget to provide alcohol and transport, and if there isn’t it would indicate that someone is possibly stealing from the company and maybe this needs to be looked into as a matter of urgency. This might help xx | |||
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"How did it go at work today OP? Any updates? " I told my manager & deputy that I really didn't want to go & neither of them seemed very impressed. They wanted an explanation, so I told them I struggling with last minute plans & it was very expensive...all they could say, was to ask me to make a final decision asap, so they can get a refund on my tickets | |||
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"How did it go at work today OP? Any updates? I told my manager & deputy that I really didn't want to go & neither of them seemed very impressed. They wanted an explanation, so I told them I struggling with last minute plans & it was very expensive...all they could say, was to ask me to make a final decision asap, so they can get a refund on my tickets " That speaks more about how unreasonable they are. Springing that on you at such short notice doesn't seem right. | |||
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"How did it go at work today OP? Any updates? I told my manager & deputy that I really didn't want to go & neither of them seemed very impressed. They wanted an explanation, so I told them I struggling with last minute plans & it was very expensive...all they could say, was to ask me to make a final decision asap, so they can get a refund on my tickets " Ahhh another caring, sharing company Honestly dominos pizza lunch and a £50 voucher would preferable to me | |||
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"So there's a decent budget for it and it's not been used for 2 years yet you have to bring a bottle??sort your own travel??? Organise your own hotel???? I'd tell them to foxtrot Oscar personally. " thanks for that- it's what I've decided to do! | |||
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"So there's a decent budget for it and it's not been used for 2 years yet you have to bring a bottle??sort your own travel??? Organise your own hotel???? I'd tell them to foxtrot Oscar personally. thanks for that- it's what I've decided to do!" Hurrah!! A happy ending. | |||
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