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"Usually two years " I got wait 2 years. How about 2 weeks then I can get in your pants | |||
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"Usually two years I got wait 2 years. How about 2 weeks then I can get in your pants " You first need to message. That would be a great start | |||
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"I think you need to have a very cynical attitude and trust yourself and your ability to spot a wrong 'un before you trust anyone else on the net." I still treat people as individuals, but I’m definitely a little more suspicious to new people coming into my messages online. | |||
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"Usually two years I got wait 2 years. How about 2 weeks then I can get in your pants You first need to message. That would be a great start " But men on here message first | |||
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"I was paranoid when i first joined, expected big Dave to out me at any moment ….. I've become less cautious, but i will still take steps to conceal my identity & location " Are you some kind of superhero? | |||
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"I was paranoid when i first joined, expected big Dave to out me at any moment ….. I've become less cautious, but i will still take steps to conceal my identity & location Are you some kind of superhero? " I can't tell you | |||
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"It takes some level of trust, I mean as a couple to be here a huge level of trust between us is required if there's any trust issues there then fab isn't the place. For meets, I do kinda trust that what they say is true, they'll meet when they say, they look like their pics and they are the age they say they are, also that they aren't going to tie me up in their loft, I think it's easier as a couple we have each other should any issues arise, but yeah a certain level of trust must be there to meet I'd say. Mrs " This^ | |||
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"Usually two years I got wait 2 years. How about 2 weeks then I can get in your pants You first need to message. That would be a great start But men on here message first" You can wait for me to message you then | |||
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"I think you need to have a very cynical attitude and trust yourself and your ability to spot a wrong 'un before you trust anyone else on the net. I still treat people as individuals, but I’m definitely a little more suspicious to new people coming into my messages online. " Yep we treat people as individuals but I've been kicking around internet forums since Handbag days and in that time I've witnessed some spectacular catfishing, before it was a word. A cup of coffee and a chat at least proves a person who looks vaguely as described exists, the rest is down to luck and judgement. | |||
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"I joined here as a trusting person. Now I am not. I trust myself and my instincts and that’s enough for me. " . Life changes is doesn’t it? | |||
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"I joined here as a trusting person. Now I am not. I trust myself and my instincts and that’s enough for me. " ^^ this. I've recently lost faith in the goodness, kindness and humanity of people. A long con and a fake friend have cured me of trusting or looking. Hence the closed profile. I always guarded against the obvious players and users but not him & it's often those closest you have to watch out for. I'm not on here cheating or have anything to hide or be ashamed of so I'm rather open about my personal info, to a point. But as far as feelings go. No chance. Not any more. | |||
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"It's a mix of trust, risk and gut instinct " ^^^This, really. | |||
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"How much trust do you need for being on fab? It takes a lot of trust that someone is who they say they are, behind a profile text. It takes trust that someone will turn up when they say they will…. And there’s more trust that needs to be given. But why do we place faith in strangers? Is it hope that people are generally good people? " I guess it depends how you're using the site really. We mainly meet in clubs so little trust required for that. The club will always be there and if someone we're planning to meet doesn't show then there'll be others there and we always have eachother. In terms of working out who's real? Pretty easy in many a case. Most we'd probably want to meet at some point are active in the forums, have met and been verified by people we know, or people known by people we know, or by clubs etc. It's kind of a Kevin Bacon 'six degrees of separation' thing. When you've been on the site over a decade and watched the comings and goings you'll know some people are real just by their site activity and history. With newbies and non forum users it's just a case of being sensible. Trust won't be there initially of course but there are those we'd give the benefit of the doubt to without question and those we'd be more cynical about from the get go. But we don't rush anything. Ever. So trust can be built over however long it takes and if we get let down ever then it won't have been anything that has cost us time, money or effort. So no biggie. And we rarely give second chances. A | |||
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"I think you need to have a very cynical attitude and trust yourself and your ability to spot a wrong 'un before you trust anyone else on the net." Trust is earned not given freely. | |||
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