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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hate small talk with strangers in public?

I'm not rude and will happily chat politely back and act like I'm interested but inside I'm like I'd rather stab myself in the eye than carry on this conversation

I'm such a social, bubbly and chatty person to the people I want to with, does that made me bad?

Also someone touched my daughter (8 month old) today TWICE whilst talking to me, is there any need

Sorry for the whinge...

Miss S x

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I just keep my huge headphones on refuse to make eye contact.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I don't mind small talk personally. Mr KC abhors it! I agree with your

on the people touching your daughter though. People (often older) sometime have some odd ideas about personal boundaries in that regard......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its an age thing. Avoidance times.

Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep can’t be arsed generally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't mind small talk personally. Mr KC abhors it! I agree with your

on the people touching your daughter though. People (often older) sometime have some odd ideas about personal boundaries in that regard......"

Not to tar them all with the same brush but it was an older person. But yeah, there's just no need, if she had touched her again I'd of said something. I just hate and don't want any confrontation infront of her neither though.

I just wonder what goes through some peoples mind like yeah let's just stroke her like a dog lol, NO

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate small talk with strangers in public?

I'm not rude and will happily chat politely back and act like I'm interested but inside I'm like I'd rather stab myself in the eye than carry on this conversation

I'm such a social, bubbly and chatty person to the people I want to with, does that made me bad?

Also someone touched my daughter (8 month old) today TWICE whilst talking to me, is there any need

Sorry for the whinge...

Miss S x"

Doesn't make you bad at all.

Can be awkward in a situation where you can't easily get away. Like when you're sat on a busy train or maybe in a theatre.

I'm equally very sociable and chatty but value my own headspace too. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its an age thing. Avoidance times.

Each to their own. "

As in because I'm younger you think?

I did wonder if it had anything to do with it too.

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate small talk. Like when the self serve tills need an assistant to do something, I don't want to know about your day thanks. Just press the button n fk off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hate small talk with strangers in public?

I'm not rude and will happily chat politely back and act like I'm interested but inside I'm like I'd rather stab myself in the eye than carry on this conversation

I'm such a social, bubbly and chatty person to the people I want to with, does that made me bad?

Also someone touched my daughter (8 month old) today TWICE whilst talking to me, is there any need

Sorry for the whinge...

Miss S x

Doesn't make you bad at all.

Can be awkward in a situation where you can't easily get away. Like when you're sat on a busy train or maybe in a theatre.

I'm equally very sociable and chatty but value my own headspace too. X"

Good

Yeah I was eating too which made it that bit even worse for me

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not alone! I spend my working life dealing with people, when I’m shopping/out I’d rather only make small talk with those I want to.

In relation to touching your daughter, I’d have said first time to keep their hands to themselves haha just no need!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate small talk with strangers in public?

I'm not rude and will happily chat politely back and act like I'm interested but inside I'm like I'd rather stab myself in the eye than carry on this conversation

I'm such a social, bubbly and chatty person to the people I want to with, does that made me bad?

Also someone touched my daughter (8 month old) today TWICE whilst talking to me, is there any need

Sorry for the whinge...

Miss S x

Doesn't make you bad at all.

Can be awkward in a situation where you can't easily get away. Like when you're sat on a busy train or maybe in a theatre.

I'm equally very sociable and chatty but value my own headspace too. X

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Yeah I was eating too which made it that bit even worse for me

Miss S x "

Yes you can be trapped in a cafe or I find it happens in supermarket queues. I think I've got a friendly face so people just start up lol.

Try the evil stare treatment!

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Completely with you on this. I never say it because I assume people will think I’m a miserable bastard. I’m really not, I’m just not even slightly interested in the thoughts of someone I don’t know (fab forum aside).

I find going to the barbers or being in a taxi interminable - I have to listen to their inane drivel on politics, football, celebrities, their children. Fuuuuck OFF!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You’re not alone! I spend my working life dealing with people, when I’m shopping/out I’d rather only make small talk with those I want to.

In relation to touching your daughter, I’d have said first time to keep their hands to themselves haha just no need!

Mrs"

Yeah I've always been in jobs too where I have to deal with people (and some idiots) probably why I am the way I am

Honestly, I'm one for speaking out but I just don't want any confrontation infront of her and I feel like some people would snap. I think that's why I didn't, but then feel guilty I didn't.

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hate small talk with strangers in public?

I'm not rude and will happily chat politely back and act like I'm interested but inside I'm like I'd rather stab myself in the eye than carry on this conversation

I'm such a social, bubbly and chatty person to the people I want to with, does that made me bad?

Also someone touched my daughter (8 month old) today TWICE whilst talking to me, is there any need

Sorry for the whinge...

Miss S x

Doesn't make you bad at all.

Can be awkward in a situation where you can't easily get away. Like when you're sat on a busy train or maybe in a theatre.

I'm equally very sociable and chatty but value my own headspace too. X

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Yeah I was eating too which made it that bit even worse for me

Miss S x

Yes you can be trapped in a cafe or I find it happens in supermarket queues. I think I've got a friendly face so people just start up lol.

Try the evil stare treatment!

I already assumed I had a resting bitch face, obviously not enough so

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate small talk. Like when the self serve tills need an assistant to do something, I don't want to know about your day thanks. Just press the button n fk off

Easy!!! Its there,all most,soon be there!! Lol

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I don’t mind, but I’m one of the oldies. Chatting about shit is all we can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate small talk with strangers in public?

I'm not rude and will happily chat politely back and act like I'm interested but inside I'm like I'd rather stab myself in the eye than carry on this conversation

I'm such a social, bubbly and chatty person to the people I want to with, does that made me bad?

Also someone touched my daughter (8 month old) today TWICE whilst talking to me, is there any need

Sorry for the whinge...

Miss S x

Doesn't make you bad at all.

Can be awkward in a situation where you can't easily get away. Like when you're sat on a busy train or maybe in a theatre.

I'm equally very sociable and chatty but value my own headspace too. X

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Yeah I was eating too which made it that bit even worse for me

Miss S x

Yes you can be trapped in a cafe or I find it happens in supermarket queues. I think I've got a friendly face so people just start up lol.

Try the evil stare treatment!

I already assumed I had a resting bitch face, obviously not enough so

Miss S x"

Nuff bitch faces in london.. mostly upside dowm, Constipated too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I don't like it but I always try to engage as I like to listen and give people time as long as they aren't obnoxious. I remember when my daughter started school I'd be dying inside making small talk but now I've made some good friends by making that effort to keep a conversation going. So it's nice to know maybe something good will come out of it but I get that's not for everyone.

I don't like people touching my little one though, especially when she was a baby. And yes, it was always old women. I just tried to remember they didn't mean any harm... but it sure would be nice to ask me first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Completely with you on this. I never say it because I assume people will think I’m a miserable bastard. I’m really not, I’m just not even slightly interested in the thoughts of someone I don’t know (fab forum aside).

I find going to the barbers or being in a taxi interminable - I have to listen to their inane drivel on politics, football, celebrities, their children. Fuuuuck OFF!!!"

Yes, yes and yessss!!! All of that screamed the way I feel

Like I said, with people I want too i.e friends, family, fourm/fab people yes.

She even bought her fucking dog over in a pushchair dam it like look at my dog (this was in a FOOD place) asking if my daughter likes dogs.

At this point I'm dying inside and just look away. Fuck me.

Miss S x

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I find going to the barbers or being in a taxi interminable - I have to listen to their inane drivel on politics, football, celebrities, their children. Fuuuuck OFF!!!

Yes, yes and yessss!!! All of that screamed the way I feel

Like I said, with people I want too i.e friends, family, fourm/fab people yes.

She even bought her fucking dog over in a pushchair dam it like look at my dog (this was in a FOOD place) asking if my daughter likes dogs.

At this point I'm dying inside and just look away. Fuck me.

Miss S x"

Embrace your inner miserable bastard!!!! I now take a book to the barbers and I have almost mastered answering unsolicited questions with a very closed but civil response. Sometimes even just a noise. I feel like such a curmudgeon!! But, ya know, fuckem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find going to the barbers or being in a taxi interminable - I have to listen to their inane drivel on politics, football, celebrities, their children. Fuuuuck OFF!!!

Yes, yes and yessss!!! All of that screamed the way I feel

Like I said, with people I want too i.e friends, family, fourm/fab people yes.

She even bought her fucking dog over in a pushchair dam it like look at my dog (this was in a FOOD place) asking if my daughter likes dogs.

At this point I'm dying inside and just look away. Fuck me.

Miss S x"

Should have just said your daughter has an extreme allergy to dogs and you have an allergy to people babbling drivel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the when and where.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yep I'm with you, any kind of small talk I can't be doing with, it's definitely worse when you've little ones, people always feel the need to comment on them their hair, eyes, coat in a lot of cases then proceed to try and chat, not for me, I'm polite but I hate it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find going to the barbers or being in a taxi interminable - I have to listen to their inane drivel on politics, football, celebrities, their children. Fuuuuck OFF!!!

Yes, yes and yessss!!! All of that screamed the way I feel

Like I said, with people I want too i.e friends, family, fourm/fab people yes.

She even bought her fucking dog over in a pushchair dam it like look at my dog (this was in a FOOD place) asking if my daughter likes dogs.

At this point I'm dying inside and just look away. Fuck me.

Miss S x

I can't I'm too kind and give people the time of day.

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep I'm with you, any kind of small talk I can't be doing with, it's definitely worse when you've little ones, people always feel the need to comment on them their hair, eyes, coat in a lot of cases then proceed to try and chat, not for me, I'm polite but I hate it.

Mrs "

Yesss!! To all of this.

Glad I'm not alone

I just hate... People

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Yesss!! To all of this.

Glad I'm not alone

I just hate... People

Miss S x"

Hate is a strong word and I’m a person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mrs

Yesss!! To all of this.

Glad I'm not alone

I just hate... People

Miss S x

Hate is a strong word and I’m a person

Stop with the small talk and get out

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely weather for the time of year isnt it.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Absolutely hate it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lovely weather for the time of year isnt it.

Suns foooking out, got me shadea on now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

Yesss!! To all of this.

Glad I'm not alone

I just hate... People

Miss S x

Hate is a strong word and I’m a person

Oooooops!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I like small talk but then I'm old.

Touching the babies of strangers is so out of order though, haven't these people heard of covid before you even consider boundaries

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I just wonder what goes through some peoples mind like yeah let's just stroke her like a dog lol, NO

Miss S x"

I get riled up enough by people touching my dog without asking if it’s okay first. Can’t imagine how angry I’d be if it was a child …

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just wonder what goes through some peoples mind like yeah let's just stroke her like a dog lol, NO

Miss S x

I get riled up enough by people touching my dog without asking if it’s okay first. Can’t imagine how angry I’d be if it was a child …"

Honestly. I've been waiting to write this too, it's rude and like you said even worse that it's your child. I just don't want any confrontation infront of her

but then I do need to say something so I feel like I can win.

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like small talk but then I'm old.

Touching the babies of strangers is so out of order though, haven't these people heard of covid before you even consider boundaries"

I know, it makes my blood boil.

But like I've said a few times now, I feel like I don't want to say anything so I don't cause any confrontation infront of her as I'd hate that, but then I don't want anybody touching her...

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like small talk but then I'm old.

Touching the babies of strangers is so out of order though, haven't these people heard of covid before you even consider boundaries

I know, it makes my blood boil.

But like I've said a few times now, I feel like I don't want to say anything so I don't cause any confrontation infront of her as I'd hate that, but then I don't want anybody touching her...

Miss S x"

Is it worth trying to think of a standard line to deal with it? Like "I'm really sorry I have a rule that no-one is allowed to touch my daughter apart from people who know us?" I'm sure other posters will have some ideas too.

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