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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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How easy do you find it to express yourself? Whether that's feelings of happiness, sadness, debating etc.

Are you better face to face or a more virtual medium?

Do people find it quite easy to pick up on what you mean/are feeling in a moment?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I’m a very straight talking woman, if I’m happy you will know if I’m pissed off you will also know. Sadness/vulnerability however I will only express to a few close to me. I have developed a need to appear strong due to various aspects of my life I have had to be, from an absent father to a total c**t of an ex partner I have had my struggles with expressing emotion however over the years I have come to realise that bottling our feelings is a form of suppression and I’m not the type of woman to be suppressed x

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

It depends.

I’m quite comfortable in telling you your current profile pic is bringing myself (and probably many others) a feeling of extreme pleasure

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Depends on my mood and who too.

Sometimes quite well and effortlessly. Other times struggle to do it correctly or even at all.

So much of it is in that moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a very straight talking woman, if I’m happy you will know if I’m pissed off you will also know. Sadness/vulnerability however I will only express to a few close to me. I have developed a need to appear strong due to various aspects of my life I have had to be, from an absent father to a total c**t of an ex partner I have had my struggles with expressing emotion however over the years I have come to realise that bottling our feelings is a form of suppression and I’m not the type of woman to be suppressed x"

I can always respect a straight talking person than a mealy-mouthed bullshitter who tries to please everybody by being nobody in their viewpoints and opinions.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Very much all on my sleeve! X

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

In quite open and straight talking, I say it now I see it, I think I need filter management, but if I'm too pissed off or upset I'll just close up & become distant until I've figured it out in my own head.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will always prefer face to face. Online I tend to sound angrier/more aggressive than I actually would be in person saying the same things.

But I'm the same personality online as I am in real life. Nothing I say online is stuff I would not dare to say in person. I usually am a straight talker, and whilst society has drilled into me the value of padding my words sometimes to suit social occasions I always see it as me doing others a favour by having kid gloves on, and those gloves come off pretty quickly if I see someone doesn't deserve cotton-wooling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The emotional depth of an amoeba here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't hide my face if I'm clearly pissed off. Depending who I'm speaking to I won't say something potentially but you'll see if in my fury face!

But as you can probably guess, I usually say what's on my mind!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Quite easy but I am quite open and clear with my feelings with people

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Professionally Im like a poker player and dont express the way i would if some things happened privately- personally I tend to say whats on my mind only because if i said what was on my mind most days in work - I wouldn’t be in a job for long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite well, I can be straight talking in that way. I'd rather throw everything on the table than sit on my feelings, my brain doesn't cope well with that. Face to face is the best way to communicate with people, over the phone or text can get misinterpreted with meaning and tone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so much better face to face.

But some won’t ever get to se/know that because like a book, we do look at the cover. If your text doest come across as inviting or a phone call doesn’t quite cut it, well, where do you go from there?

But I don’t blame me, I can only react or converse with what I’m given to rewind to. So if the conversation is quite mundane, I’m not going to be enthusiastic to engage. (Makes sense?) so this is why I want to met with someone who exites me.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"Do people find it quite easy to pick up on what you mean/are feeling in a moment? "

I’m a listener, not a talker. It’s me who picks up on what you’re feeling, more than t’other way round.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I’m a very straight talking woman, if I’m happy you will know if I’m pissed off you will also know. Sadness/vulnerability however I will only express to a few close to me. I have developed a need to appear strong due to various aspects of my life I have had to be, from an absent father to a total c**t of an ex partner I have had my struggles with expressing emotion however over the years I have come to realise that bottling our feelings is a form of suppression and I’m not the type of woman to be suppressed x"

It is a type of suppression, I'm very much in agreement with that. You learn to unlearn unhealthy behaviour, things that don't serve you.

I'm not really one for expressing sadness readily. The lighter, more superficial stuff? Sure. But being vulnerable, speaking up honestly about things that hurt me isn't something I do too often. I think part of it is due to experiences. Another is... well I'd rather be sad and deal with that then burden another with it. Emo always I guess.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"How easy do you find it to express yourself? Whether that's feelings of happiness, sadness, debating etc.

Are you better face to face or a more virtual medium?

Do people find it quite easy to pick up on what you mean/are feeling in a moment? "
No people don't seem to realise I'm a kidder, i think I'm transparent but i really have a constant happy mood, in person is the best way to judge me i guess

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never been great at expressing emotion.

I had to grow up very quickly and was a carer from the age of 12 so I've always been the strong, silent and supportive one.

If I'm comfortable in someone's company I can be more open about how I'm feeling.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"It depends.

I’m quite comfortable in telling you your current profile pic is bringing myself (and probably many others) a feeling of extreme pleasure "

Ha my current profile pic is really rather.. actually, I'm just going to say thank you for the compliment. I'm having someone take a few for me this weekend, one for a forum challenge where I need an extra pair of hands. Need to get better photos.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I tend to express happiness more so than unhappiness.

I see little point in being honest with people about how unhappy they make me, as it serves no purpose and they don’t care anyway.

People can struggle to sense my playfulness through text, so I am better in person!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

It depends on my environment and frame of mind and the people I am with.

Expressing emotions is about making yourself vulnerable and that requires trusting them not to abuse that vulnerability.

Growing older I have developed a pretty good antenna for whether somebody (outside family and friends) is likely to be trustworthy or not; for example if somebody shares intimate details of a third person I would be very reluctant to give away too much my inner world.

Does that resonate with anybody?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Depends on my mood and who too.

Sometimes quite well and effortlessly. Other times struggle to do it correctly or even at all.

So much of it is in that moment. "

Yes. I think I struggle sometimes. It's more... if I don't know how I really feel, how am I meant to get it across? It's very much moment based isn't it? You can find yourself fluidly discussing feelings/wants etc at one point and then the next you clam up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on my environment and frame of mind and the people I am with.

Expressing emotions is about making yourself vulnerable and that requires trusting them not to abuse that vulnerability.

Growing older I have developed a pretty good antenna for whether somebody (outside family and friends) is likely to be trustworthy or not; for example if somebody shares intimate details of a third person I would be very reluctant to give away too much my inner world.

Does that resonate with anybody?"

It makes sense.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I am the kind of person who keeps my emotions to myself.

On the other side, I can pick up easily on others the moment I enter the room. It’s a mixture of intuition and empathy, both a blessing and a curse.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

I'm quite open and straight talking, I say it how I see it. wouldn't sugar coat anything .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How easy do you find it to express yourself? Whether that's feelings of happiness, sadness, debating etc.

Are you better face to face or a more virtual medium?

Do people find it quite easy to pick up on what you mean/are feeling in a moment? "

Best value inperson face to face. The energys high. And connections are better.

Online is only a 1% tool to open that door.

Not always result based tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a very straight talking woman, if I’m happy you will know if I’m pissed off you will also know. Sadness/vulnerability however I will only express to a few close to me. I have developed a need to appear strong due to various aspects of my life I have had to be, from an absent father to a total c**t of an ex partner I have had my struggles with expressing emotion however over the years I have come to realise that bottling our feelings is a form of suppression and I’m not the type of woman to be suppressed x"

Hats off to this lady,and all the straight talking women out there!'

A rare quality at that.

A person out me very own heart tnh.

Keep happy n well

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"How easy do you find it to express yourself? Whether that's feelings of happiness, sadness, debating etc.

Are you better face to face or a more virtual medium?

Do people find it quite easy to pick up on what you mean/are feeling in a moment? "

I learnt long ago to just say what I think/feel and be damned. I'm quite happy expressing myself either virtually or face to face - I'll say the same thing either way and act in the same manner.

If people can't pick up on what I mean or the message I'm delivering , understand the view I'm expressing or clearly recognise my particular take on a situation or comprehend my answer to a question?

That's on them, not me.

A

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I prefer it straight from the nip nip

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm not very good to be honest. I tend to open up more on here than real life

If I'm feeling bad I just shut myself away.

I can show when I'm happy and excited.

I'm getting better at talking to my support worker

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I will always prefer face to face. Online I tend to sound angrier/more aggressive than I actually would be in person saying the same things.

But I'm the same personality online as I am in real life. Nothing I say online is stuff I would not dare to say in person. I usually am a straight talker, and whilst society has drilled into me the value of padding my words sometimes to suit social occasions I always see it as me doing others a favour by having kid gloves on, and those gloves come off pretty quickly if I see someone doesn't deserve cotton-wooling. "

Yes there's a lot to be said for the lost nuances when we talk in person - the way certain words are emphasized, the little moods that flicker through the spoken word. If I've got something important to say/can be lost in translation I prefer to voice note it or call.

There is value in padding words, there's also a lot in directness without being a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much better face to face in small groups

I don't have a face for poker though

My face tells tales on me

I saw a poster the other day that something like "Oh sorry, did I just roll my eyes out loud"

That is pretty much made for me

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