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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fed up with abusive messages so

I'm done

I may be back in the future that's why I've hid and not deleted my account

To all you nice folks take very good care,much love to you all

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Sorry to hear it's become too much. Will miss you on the forums. Hope a break does you good and we get to see your smiley face back here soon.

J

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Take care lovely

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"Fed up with abusive messages so

I'm done

I may be back in the future that's why I've hid and not deleted my account

To all you nice folks take very good care,much love to you all "

That’s sad to hear.

An all too familiar story though.

Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry the dickheads have spoilt it for you. Take care x

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner

Where are the abusive messages coming from, men, women, couples or all three?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Will miss u my friend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fed up with abusive messages so

I'm done

I may be back in the future that's why I've hid and not deleted my account

To all you nice folks take very good care,much love to you all "

Ciao Bella

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

That’s awful, don’t let them win.

You’re lovely and fun and a bonus to the forum. x

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

There's some arseholes around, who just hide behind their keyboards.

I really do hope to see your lovely cheery posts again soon xx

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

Isn't there a way of dealing with reported abusive messages. Aren't those accounts blocked, if it's proven or is that to simplistic?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Two ways of dealing with this instead of leaving, use the filters to block anyone from mailing you then you can mail the people you want to speak to, then block and report if anyone is abusive and let Admin deal with them if needed.

If people don't report then any abusers will get away with it.

https://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't there a way of dealing with reported abusive messages. Aren't those accounts blocked, if it's proven or is that to simplistic?"

They would just make new profiles

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Down the Rabbit Hole and Round the Corner


"Two ways of dealing with this instead of leaving, use the filters to block anyone from mailing you then you can mail the people you want to speak to, then block and report if anyone is abusive and let Admin deal with them if needed.

If people don't report then any abusers will get away with it.

https://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters"

100%

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Fed up with abusive messages so

I'm done

I may be back in the future that's why I've hid and not deleted my account

To all you nice folks take very good care,much love to you all "

Take care of yourself.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Isn't there a way of dealing with reported abusive messages. Aren't those accounts blocked, if it's proven or is that to simplistic?"

There are a few sanctions that Admin use of someone is abusive yes. Warnings, temp suspensions from the site altogether and perm suspension

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

oh no, so sorry to hear this - take care and I for one hope you'll be back soon

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"Isn't there a way of dealing with reported abusive messages. Aren't those accounts blocked, if it's proven or is that to simplistic?"

It takes energy to report and the messages are relentless. Sometimes it's also the sheer volume of gratuitous filth from entitled people who think we are just here to be used and abused that grinds you down. I regularly have to take a break - either totally or I just can't face reading messages.

Hope you bounce back OP as there is some wheat amongst the chaff on here that makes it worthwhile x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

When you say filth, do you mean sex talk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really sorry that you've been subjected to this. I hope a break will help x

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

So sorry that you are feeling as though you aren’t in control on here. I remember the feeling! I also had to have a break.

When I came back I had a much clearer idea of what I wanted and how I was going to make this site work for me.

Then I discovered my message filters. It was a game changer

Whatever you end up doing, I wish you all the best xx.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It may be worth doing what I do instead of leaving. You can often tell with the first line of the message without opening it what kind of message it is. If not, click on the profile before opening it and you should get an idea of the type of person and if you’d be interested or not. If not I don’t open the message I just delete and block. That way you won’t have to read them. I probably open about one in 150 messages.

Having said that if your mindset is off and it’s really getting to you then a break is a good idea.

All the best whatever you do.

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By *hatBeardedChapMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Best of luck stranger Hopefully things change for the better & you can come back to a less abusive site

One day I'll receive a message any message from a real person, seriously too many window shoppers

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

There will always be a leather banquette for you in the daily Nocturnal Snug Bar. Your carafe of Burgundy is safely stored in the cellar, awaiting your return.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Sorry to hear this - hope your relax from here gives you a good time to recover the sillies

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Sorry to read this - no-one should be hounded off by The Dickheads.

Take a break if that's what's right for you, but don't let them force you away, if you're enjoying it otherwise, and use the best ways to block/filter out that others have suggested, even if they're not 100%.

I guess what I'm saying - and appreciate it's easy to say when I'm not reading abusive messages - is don't cut your nose off to spite your face of there are bits of the site you're still enjoying, such as Nero's banquette.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also. …. Don’t let the door hit you in the way out!

Oh sorry. It’s a women.

Hopefully you come back soon, not everyone is a wanker, you just got to ignore the white noise and find some real people.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


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Also. …. Don’t let the door hit you in the way out!

Oh sorry. It’s a women.

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