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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them "Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "Ouch. Mediocrity here! | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too!
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Mediocrity here!" | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them "Sorry, I just fell off my chair laughing. I’m pretty sure nobody here is daft enough to fall madly in love with me … | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
You mean this isn't true "Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough. | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
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Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough. "I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them "Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya
OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)
You’ve got to get past the fantasists, lookers, chancers, those that are just looking for one offs and then those who don’t meet your requirements. It might take a while but I have no doubt you’ll find someone, someone would be mad not to want to methinks. | |||
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"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs," Now that's just greedy (or showing off!) I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more. | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
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Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.
I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in "Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach. | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
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Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough. "Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time? | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
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Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.
I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in
Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach. "With real butter none of this margarine bollocks, i know how to keep my stalkers happy in their work | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
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Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.
Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time? "Hourly rate plus VAT and expenses. And now also crumpets in the morning apparently. | |||
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"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs, Now that's just greedy (or showing off!) I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more." Why is it greedy? Everyone is on the same page. Everyone has other partners. It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself. | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya
OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)
You’ve got to get past the fantasists, lookers, chancers, those that are just looking for one offs and then those who don’t meet your requirements. It might take a while but I have no doubt you’ll find someone, someone would be mad not to want to methinks. "Yeah I thought my profile was pretty clear. It’s soul destroying at times as my inbox is fairly busy but most get deleted without a reply as they don’t match what I want or are offering a quick meet as they’re passing by  | |||
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"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next " Some people on here have a more cynical outlook then me - I am so shocked I may have to retire to bed.  | |||
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"I found it virtually impossible too." If only we lived nearer each other, Dee. | |||
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"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know….." Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
You mean this isn't true
Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.
Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time?
Hourly rate plus VAT and expenses. And now also crumpets in the morning apparently. "Hourly rate plus VAT and expenses sounds reasonable. If you want your crumpets buttered you may as well just stay for tea and not bother fitting in the bushes, it’d hardly seem ‘proper’ | |||
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"Why is it greedy? ... It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself." How do we know you haven't got them locked up in the shed down the end of your garden?  | |||
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"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know….. Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck "I have found this to be an issue too. I think a lot of people simply look at your pics and don't bother reading your profile. Just delete them and hang in there. | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya
OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)
You’ve got to get past the fantasists, lookers, chancers, those that are just looking for one offs and then those who don’t meet your requirements. It might take a while but I have no doubt you’ll find someone, someone would be mad not to want to methinks.
Yeah I thought my profile was pretty clear. It’s soul destroying at times as my inbox is fairly busy but most get deleted without a reply as they don’t match what I want or are offering a quick meet as they’re passing by "This is going to sound stupid, but hey I’m not shy about saying silly things… ‘The best things come along when you aren’t necessarily looking for them’ So don’t be disheartened, you’ve stated what you’re looking for, you never know, someone close by might be reading this now. And if so they’ll definitely be thinking of sending a message  | |||
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"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs, Now that's just greedy (or showing off!) I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more. Why is it greedy? Everyone is on the same page. Everyone has other partners. It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself." It’s not, we’re just all rather jealous of them is all | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya
OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)
You’ve got to get past the fantasists, lookers, chancers, those that are just looking for one offs and then those who don’t meet your requirements. It might take a while but I have no doubt you’ll find someone, someone would be mad not to want to methinks.
Yeah I thought my profile was pretty clear. It’s soul destroying at times as my inbox is fairly busy but most get deleted without a reply as they don’t match what I want or are offering a quick meet as they’re passing by
This is going to sound stupid, but hey I’m not shy about saying silly things…
‘The best things come along when you aren’t necessarily looking for them’
So don’t be disheartened, you’ve stated what you’re looking for, you never know, someone close by might be reading this now. And if so they’ll definitely be thinking of sending a message "Thank you | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "My friend literally said the same the other day. | |||
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"Why is it greedy? ... It's not like I'm hoarding them all to myself. How do we know you haven't got them locked up in the shed down the end of your garden? "The same way you know I'm not actually a 70 year old obese man here to get off on fantasy. That is, you don't | |||
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"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know….. Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck "That would imply that you're expecting them to actually read your profile!! | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Ohhhh tar us all with the same brush why don’t ya
OP you’re clear on your profile as to what you’re looking for. As someone who is ideally searching for something similar it is difficult (less so for you as you’re gorgeous)
You’ve got to get past the fantasists, lookers, chancers, those that are just looking for one offs and then those who don’t meet your requirements. It might take a while but I have no doubt you’ll find someone, someone would be mad not to want to methinks.
Yeah I thought my profile was pretty clear. It’s soul destroying at times as my inbox is fairly busy but most get deleted without a reply as they don’t match what I want or are offering a quick meet as they’re passing by
This is going to sound stupid, but hey I’m not shy about saying silly things…
‘The best things come along when you aren’t necessarily looking for them’
So don’t be disheartened, you’ve stated what you’re looking for, you never know, someone close by might be reading this now. And if so they’ll definitely be thinking of sending a message
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. " Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee  | |||
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"So in my experience chasing that elusive FWB, takes a lot of shifting the sugar from the shit. But the your sugar is out there. Sometimes it's about letting the universe, God, nature, Kismet whatever bring it to you. The more you look the more you won't see " True | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee "Am sorry to hear that. Exactly the same as OP you are stunning, I’d find it crazy that someone local to you isn’t looking at your profile and trying to find the words to make for a great introductory message | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee "I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency! | |||
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"...to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards... ..." • What constitutes "standards" in your book? | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!"Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ?? | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??"Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??
Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious"That’s genuinely shocking. Either I’m very reserved or most are shockingly forward then. I like a social to get to know sometime. Never expect a thing but if lucky to get a kiss it’s quite nice walking away and next time and it might go further | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??
Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious
That’s genuinely shocking. Either I’m very reserved or most are shockingly forward then. I like a social to get to know sometime. Never expect a thing but if lucky to get a kiss it’s quite nice walking away and next time and it might go further "I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??
Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious
That’s genuinely shocking. Either I’m very reserved or most are shockingly forward then. I like a social to get to know sometime. Never expect a thing but if lucky to get a kiss it’s quite nice walking away and next time and it might go further
I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards. "Some blokes just ain't worth any kinda investment in | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??
Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious"Having thought about it and some of the stories I hear from people on here I don’t actually find it all that surprising! It’s a shame as I actually find getting to know a person and hearing all about them a big part of the fun of this site as there’s lots of interesting people here! | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??
Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious
That’s genuinely shocking. Either I’m very reserved or most are shockingly forward then. I like a social to get to know sometime. Never expect a thing but if lucky to get a kiss it’s quite nice walking away and next time and it might go further
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " Are there any commonalities between them all? Do they tend to ghost after certain conversation topics, activities, sexual acts Not everyone wants the same thing, but plenty will lie enough to get sex - especially when it comes to either wanting a relationship or not!  | |||
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"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next " Not all are addicted to the chase, I hate it (probably because I'm crap at it) much prefer familiarity that builds with a long term lover. Allows time to explore properly | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " Lol really all those twists and turns . Not dizzy yet?? | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them ".some may have this hidden fantasy. Not all of us. Iam sure many put in the legwork to,are polite with sensible opening lines of intro. Yet the numbers are far from weak. There deff is more gping on beyomd the surface. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " Single men are often advised to make sure they're profiles are clear and specific about what they seek bothe in the text but also in rhe visuals. If you're expecting them to be interested then you need to make sure they can make a decision based on what they see, given that men generally are more 'visual' beings than women. If they have little to no idea what you look like then how are they meant to come to a decision? Expecting them to show potential interest that may vanish the second they see more isn't the best way to boost your chances of success. So I'll give the same advice I would to any guy looking for the same - make sure any potential contact knows what younlook like. I'm not talking above the neck, but restricting the only visuals available to one specific body part is no different to the approach many men use and then struggle with. A | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
You mean this isn't true
Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.
I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in
Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach. "Find them,feed,them,put them down gentlty,walk away slowly in the sunset. | |||
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You mean this isn't true
Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.
Does one have to pay by the hour, or is it a weekly fee and the stalking could occur at any time? "Hifh level M15. Spy 006. | |||
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"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next " ..yes very common factor, numbers like in sales. | |||
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"Um. I'm really not sure. I have a couple of truly fantastic fwbs, Now that's just greedy (or showing off!) I tend to have only one fwb at a time, though they may have more." ..some greedy! Some insatiable appetite! All good horses for courses. Like any other field on the intranet, you get all aorts dropping in. The rotten fruits will drop off in time. The real will still be here coz their intentions were so from the get go. | |||
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"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next " I think this is very true | |||
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"Quite tough finding a genuinely single man too! I should know….. Isn’t it just?! I specifically say on my profile that I don’t meet married or attached men but loads try their luck
Common issue pics collecting and window shop admirers. Tons dont read the profile fully. .
Some stake not for them coz so n so. Yet have nothing on the table for leverage!
So so shallow.
Anybody can hide on the internet.
I post on my status meet me in the flesh. Talk and looks wise i got nothing to hide!
I have found this to be an issue too. I think a lot of people simply look at your pics and don't bother reading your profile. Just delete them and hang in there. " | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee "Of all placss central londoner, cant get some out for coffee,food,laughs. Oh and deff not been hit with an ugly stick, if i may say so myself!! There deff is a massive divide and gap, its a crack getting bigger and wider through behaviour issues. | |||
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"So in my experience chasing that elusive FWB, takes a lot of shifting the sugar from the shit. But the your sugar is out there. Sometimes it's about letting the universe, God, nature, Kismet whatever bring it to you. The more you look the more you won't see " Spot on fabber collegue!! | |||
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"It's game playing, but I've found if you show you couldn't care less if you never hear from them again they'll be messaging you all the time! It works 90% of the time. " Isn't that game playing too? | |||
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I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!"True. Iam in london coffee and meets. I dont intend with intentions meet to get noshed off! Seeking to build connections from that stems many good things. | |||
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"So in my experience chasing that elusive FWB, takes a lot of shifting the sugar from the shit. But the your sugar is out there. Sometimes it's about letting the universe, God, nature, Kismet whatever bring it to you. The more you look the more you won't see " I'll be your sugar | |||
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Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "Ego, wishful thinking | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them
Too true! I find it’s usually the most mediocre ones that think this too! "In fairness it does happen - has happened to me three times. | |||
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"Because most here are addicted to the thrill of the chase, once the prey is bagged, they're on to the next " Hmm not sure about this - but also wanted to say that’s probably the best profile pic I’ve personally ever seen on Fab if there was an award you’d win it. Might start a new thread on “classy” profile pics! Anyway back to the discussion… | |||
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"...to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards... ... • What constitutes "standards" in your book?" Similar to Success! The word standarda is so vast, from the lens of oneself outwards its and Ocean! Too complex I keep saying beyond the lòoks of people even on here that we see first on pics and profiles. . When you get to dig deeper people are complex and buried with layers of assumed assuptions of others and themselves. Ill taught beliefs,takes too much time to break that wall down! Many come with predjudices. I get it all day long! Heh ho. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " Try being a single man on here trying to find a fwb then you will know what it’s like lol but I feel your pain | |||
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"It's game playing, but I've found if you show you couldn't care less if you never hear from them again they'll be messaging you all the time! It works 90% of the time. Isn't that game playing too?" Yeah I said it's game playing...? | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??
Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious
That’s genuinely shocking. Either I’m very reserved or most are shockingly forward then. I like a social to get to know sometime. Never expect a thing but if lucky to get a kiss it’s quite nice walking away and next time and it might go further
I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards.
Some blokes just ain't worth any kinda investment in "Some people are of not worthy of it! Men and women numbers are balanceing out now. Read many of the status's. | |||
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"I don’t think anyone should ever lower their standards. Finding a FWB is hard for men as well and a lot of the comments on here work both ways too. I don’t know what the secret formula is but, if someone discovers it, please let me know." ask to meet face to face in public to chat. If No' theres the dead answer! But many have many hangups about themselves and project onto others. | |||
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"It’s not you!!!! Most agendas are jump and leave." . Intentions all to do with intentions. On one of my forum posts label, Just sex, or deeper. Many ,women,men,couples posted they dont care about feelings and connections ,they only want SEX. | |||
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You mean this isn't true
Oh hell no. I only stalk someone if I'm paid enough.
I'll bring you tea n crumpets in the mornings, just shake the Bush your in
Oooh crumpets...the way to my heart will always be through my stomach. "via the mind portal,shareing food builds more connections. Society is barking up many wrong tree's. A fine mess you got me into Olly! | |||
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Maybe that’s why you can’t get a regular, if you are talking about ppl you have met that way, I can understand why they ghost you after a few meets.
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"Have you tried giving up looking online and go to a social/munch or a club event. Anyone can write anything on a profile whereas meeting in person in a safe environment shows real people. Of course nothing is full proof but it's harder to hide who you are in real life....Good luck" I go to social events and clubs, and still find it difficult to find a FWB. Yes I can find people to meet and have fun but to find the ongoing FWB situation is very much a different story. | |||
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"Have you tried giving up looking online and go to a social/munch or a club event. Anyone can write anything on a profile whereas meeting in person in a safe environment shows real people. Of course nothing is full proof but it's harder to hide who you are in real life....Good luck I go to social events and clubs, and still find it difficult to find a FWB. Yes I can find people to meet and have fun but to find the ongoing FWB situation is very much a different story." Completely agree, it's a mine field | |||
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"Have you tried giving up looking online and go to a social/munch or a club event. Anyone can write anything on a profile whereas meeting in person in a safe environment shows real people. Of course nothing is full proof but it's harder to hide who you are in real life....Good luck" Yes the words written on profiles or in messages only give you a general idea. There is no substitute for face to face to contact to see if it is someone you can connect with. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. Same, even has got to the stage I'm not even meeting for a social coffee
I arrange coffees, but usually when they realise I'm not gonna nosh them off in the car park after our cake & cappuccino, they magically disappear or have a last minute emergency!
Is that a genuine expectation for some people haha? ??
Very much so. I find that most guys who go through the process of arranging a social start a couple of days beforehand putting feelers out for how far I'll go on the day. Some suggest a 'nice drive' instead of going to a pub or coffee shop, some outright ask if they can do X, Y & Z to me during/after the social. Very rarely does a play-free social ever actually happen because it seems that no guy wants to invest a couple of hours building a rapport without being certain that he'll his dick wet. Quite frankly,trying to organise anything has become very tedious
That’s genuinely shocking. Either I’m very reserved or most are shockingly forward then. I like a social to get to know sometime. Never expect a thing but if lucky to get a kiss it’s quite nice walking away and next time and it might go further
I've actually been told by a guy that it was a waste of his time to meet me unless he knew there was a likelihood of sex afterwards. "Chancers do approach. Decline and move on. .. heh ho. Tireing to say the least. My search has found far beyond all this!! | |||
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"Have you tried giving up looking online and go to a social/munch or a club event. Anyone can write anything on a profile whereas meeting in person in a safe environment shows real people. Of course nothing is full proof but it's harder to hide who you are in real life....Good luck Yes the words written on profiles or in messages only give you a general idea. There is no substitute for face to face to contact to see if it is someone you can connect with. " this is fully where! The tyre is not meeting the road,so to speak. | |||
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"In my experience the biggest issue is that one person is more interested in the F than the B and the other more interested in the B than the F. Just because two people claim to be genuinely looking for a FWB doesn't mean they will be compatible. Both parties have to be willing to put as much effort into being friends as they are into having sex and that means being completely open and honest from the start. Will either have other fuck buddies or FWBs or are you going to be exclusive? No point complaining down the line that you don't like the answers if you haven't asked the questions. Anything else is doomed to failure. " Intentions,honesty,transparencie, ask questions. Many just relie upon attraction,its only surface deep. And some dont work on thier innerself and personalitys. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. Single men are often advised to make sure they're profiles are clear and specific about what they seek bothe in the text but also in rhe visuals. If you're expecting them to be interested then you need to make sure they can make a decision based on what they see, given that men generally are more 'visual' beings than women. If they have little to no idea what you look like then how are they meant to come to a decision? Expecting them to show potential interest that may vanish the second they see more isn't the best way to boost your chances of success. So I'll give the same advice I would to any guy looking for the same - make sure any potential contact knows what younlook like. I'm not talking above the neck, but restricting the only visuals available to one specific body part is no different to the approach many men use and then struggle with. A" Nice authentic write up, fellow fabber coleague. How many will apply this! Any profile is a petential put out there! Let the seekers engage. Its murky when body and sex are at risk!! | |||
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"In my experience finding an FWB is usually a matter of serendipity. It’s likely that the man you are looking for isn’t aware that he’s FWB material, nor that he wants such a relationship. The guys who read your profile will see a chance to get lucky by selling you on the idea of an ‘audition’ shag (or two). Just roll with the flow and be ready to grab the chance when it arrives." Lifes a journey, live it daily. | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience "Nicely worded and shareing, fellow fabber. Put best foot forwards and let the rest flow. Many wish to see of you what they percieve of you. Nothing will ever been of anything if not attained in the flesh in the present! The journey of life continies. Happy fabbing all | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience "Sums it up well. There's an element of needing to be proactive and being on here is one approach. But you've still got to put in the hard yards and get a bit of luck to find the type of relationship you want. | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience "Absolutely hit the nail on the head here. I had several FWB's during my early years on here. But none were sought out, I didn't advertise that I was looking for one and they all became FWB's naturally following what could potentially have been one off meets. They were people I clicked more with who wanted infrequent repeat meets. Not scheduled. No expectancy of anything further or any additional commitment and either side was free to do whatever they wished with whoever they wanted whenever they chose. Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile. Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1. If that approach isn't working then why not just see what happens naturally through meets arranged without any mention of becoming FWB's ? "Try before you buy" if you will. It may produce completely different results. A | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience "Which is why I've never understood the thinking behind those threads that attempt to put people who are looking for a FWB together. It's impossible to determine compatibility through a forum thread. It's similar to people telling each other they are amazing or stunningly beautiful based on a couple of 2D pics and a few random words on a forum. It's never going to work on a shallow foundation. If both parties aren't prepared to do the groundwork and put the effort in while discussing the journey it's only a matter of time before they are back on the hunt again. | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience
Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.
I had several FWB's during my early years on here. But none were sought out, I didn't advertise that I was looking for one and they all became FWB's naturally following what could potentially have been one off meets. They were people I clicked more with who wanted infrequent repeat meets. Not scheduled. No expectancy of anything further or any additional commitment and either side was free to do whatever they wished with whoever they wanted whenever they chose.
Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.
Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.
If that approach isn't working then why not just see what happens naturally through meets arranged without any mention of becoming FWB's ? "Try before you buy" if you will. It may produce completely different results.
A"Any angle is appliable. Yet i sit by real face to face connnectiins and approaches are the real way. Too many hoops to jump through on the internet. On the street, they see like/ or not, go ahead or delete the whole thing and move on. | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience
Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.
I had several FWB's during my early years on here. But none were sought out, I didn't advertise that I was looking for one and they all became FWB's naturally following what could potentially have been one off meets. They were people I clicked more with who wanted infrequent repeat meets. Not scheduled. No expectancy of anything further or any additional commitment and either side was free to do whatever they wished with whoever they wanted whenever they chose.
Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.
Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.
If that approach isn't working then why not just see what happens naturally through meets arranged without any mention of becoming FWB's ? "Try before you buy" if you will. It may produce completely different results.
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience
Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.
I had several FWB's during my early years on here. But none were sought out, I didn't advertise that I was looking for one and they all became FWB's naturally following what could potentially have been one off meets. They were people I clicked more with who wanted infrequent repeat meets. Not scheduled. No expectancy of anything further or any additional commitment and either side was free to do whatever they wished with whoever they wanted whenever they chose.
Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.
Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.
If that approach isn't working then why not just see what happens naturally through meets arranged without any mention of becoming FWB's ? "Try before you buy" if you will. It may produce completely different results.
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I've known my FWB more than 3 years but it's only in the last year that we decided to stick a label on it.
There is no timetable or expectation on either side.
We didn't seek it out or actively attempt to create it. It happened organically over time. "May I ask what kind of things you do away from the bedroom? | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience
Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.
I had several FWB's during my early years on here. But none were sought out, I didn't advertise that I was looking for one and they all became FWB's naturally following what could potentially have been one off meets. They were people I clicked more with who wanted infrequent repeat meets. Not scheduled. No expectancy of anything further or any additional commitment and either side was free to do whatever they wished with whoever they wanted whenever they chose.
Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.
Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.
If that approach isn't working then why not just see what happens naturally through meets arranged without any mention of becoming FWB's ? "Try before you buy" if you will. It may produce completely different results.
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I've known my FWB more than 3 years but it's only in the last year that we decided to stick a label on it.
There is no timetable or expectation on either side.
We didn't seek it out or actively attempt to create it. It happened organically over time.
May I ask what kind of things you do away from the bedroom?"We have been camping, kayaking, hillwalking but also go out for a meal every now and again or just meet for a coffee. We aren't meeting individually or on our couples profile at the moment due to health and other issues which also mean that we have spent very little time in the bedroom in the last 6 months or so but that has no impact on our friendship. | |||
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"Because they all* want the benefits without the friendship. *not all, but close. I believe it's because they are busy and join websites to find easy sex, for when they are horny. Anything more takes too much effort for a fuck, for them. I've got men who message when they find themselves free for a change; and I'm the easiest option. They don't chat, unless they are horny and want a wank, and send a WhatsApp gif on Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas Day and New Year. If I feel like sex I'll accept their offer. If I don't, then I'm busy, sorry. Friendship is too much for some people. " Connections of the mind,body ,soul plus more for me. Some are sacred of intimacy,deeper levels etc. Nobody is bound by anything or anybody. But the walls you build around yourself mentally!" | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " . Such a shame you live so far away | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " I hope you didn’t tell anyone that you had lowered your standards for them
It sounds like you are looking too hard. This could be off putting for many men as they feel they will end up getting tied down and not in a kinky way.
If you are looking for something specific then you need to state that and not deviate from it. You also have to remember that you need to attract that person. Understand what they want and have something to offer in return and not just regular sex.
In terms of percentages on fab you are looking for a minority. This minority also has a choice to make of who they meet. They won’t be the ones with lots a veris and sleeping around.
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " If you ever find the answer please let me know x | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. You're not doing anything wrong. I've tried finding an fwb, too, but have given up. Too many thrill chasers who tell you what they think you want to hear in order to get laid, never to be seen or heard from again. " Yes this is exactly what I've found on here, especially the ones that don't mind travelling an hr to meet you x | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. I hope you didn’t tell anyone that you had lowered your standards for them
It sounds like you are looking too hard. This could be off putting for many men as they feel they will end up getting tied down and not in a kinky way.
If you are looking for something specific then you need to state that and not deviate from it. You also have to remember that you need to attract that person. Understand what they want and have something to offer in return and not just regular sex.
In terms of percentages on fab you are looking for a minority. This minority also has a choice to make of who they meet. They won’t be the ones with lots a veris and sleeping around.
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"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs " . Numbers game. Like sales. Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. | |||
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"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs . Numbers game. Like sales. Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. " But why with the game playing? It's so... fucking childish and unhealthy. Look OP, the fact you consider some to be a lowering of your standards? Yeah, even the most horny man can pick up on that. Why would they want to meet someone again when that's the attitude? I've never found it difficult to find a friend with benefits. Never really looked for one because I don't think it's something that you can plan as such. Things work out, they don't go to plan but if you're open to it, well that's a good place to start. I think too much pressure can be offputting, why not enjoy meeting someone for the adventure it is? I very much agree with what Lily White posted earlier - you need to alter your profile, how you interact. There's a marked difference/improvement in messages I've had since editing my profile. I think it's because it's a more honest reflection of where I am. What I'm looking for. I really dislike the idea of game playing. Especially on a site like this. | |||
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"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs . Numbers game. Like sales. Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. " If I wanted to play games I’d turn on my Xbox | |||
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"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs . Numbers game. Like sales. Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. I won’t play at all. Ever " Depends what you mean by play? And wont play ever? Many things mean many things from different view points and angles. | |||
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"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs . Numbers game. Like sales. Everything is a form of game. Play,and be played. Or dont play at all. I won’t play at all. Ever Depends what you mean by play? And wont play ever? Many things mean many things from different view points and angles. " On here. Being messed about. Being played. Playing games. One sniff and I’m gone | |||
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"If you're getting meets but none of them want a repeat, you're the common denominator - perhaps it's your behaviour/attitude that's putting them off, perhaps you just haven't met anyone compatible yet. I found over my years on here, that if I changed the way that I worded my profile and how I interacted with people, that their response would change from when my profile was worded differently. It was about figuring out the best approach to attract the kind people that I was looking for. That aside, I'm a firm believer in the fact that you can't 'search' for a relationship of any kind, it takes luck to meet the right people at the right time. I always viewed Fab as just another conduit to meet new people, whilst being open to relationships developing beyond the superficial - some people I clicked with and became friends, some we weren't compatible. But that's fine, I'm not friends with everyone that I meet outside of Fab, so within Fab was never going to be any different. I never saw anything as wasted time or a fruitless search, at worst I've spent an hour or so having a coffee and a chat with someone that I'm not bothered about seeing again. Still a pleasant (albeit short) experience
Absolutely hit the nail on the head here.
I had several FWB's during my early years on here. But none were sought out, I didn't advertise that I was looking for one and they all became FWB's naturally following what could potentially have been one off meets. They were people I clicked more with who wanted infrequent repeat meets. Not scheduled. No expectancy of anything further or any additional commitment and either side was free to do whatever they wished with whoever they wanted whenever they chose.
Some fizzled out naturally. Some moved on to relationships with others. I myself eventually married one of them and binned my solo profile.
Whilst actively looking for more regular meets may seem the best option it often isn't, as it puts a level of potential expectancy on the table from day 1.
If that approach isn't working then why not just see what happens naturally through meets arranged without any mention of becoming FWB's ? "Try before you buy" if you will. It may produce completely different results.
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I've known my FWB more than 3 years but it's only in the last year that we decided to stick a label on it.
There is no timetable or expectation on either side.
We didn't seek it out or actively attempt to create it. It happened organically over time.
May I ask what kind of things you do away from the bedroom?
We have been camping, kayaking, hillwalking but also go out for a meal every now and again or just meet for a coffee.
We aren't meeting individually or on our couples profile at the moment due to health and other issues which also mean that we have spent very little time in the bedroom in the last 6 months or so but that has no impact on our friendship. "That sounds lovely | |||
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"Because they all* want the benefits without the friendship. *not all, but close. I believe it's because they are busy and join websites to find easy sex, for when they are horny. Anything more takes too much effort for a fuck, for them. I've got men who message when they find themselves free for a change; and I'm the easiest option. They don't chat, unless they are horny and want a wank, and send a WhatsApp gif on Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas Day and New Year. If I feel like sex I'll accept their offer. If I don't, then I'm busy, sorry. Friendship is too much for some people. "
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"It’s not some people have multiple fwbs " I do but I didn't meet them on Fab. They were all friends first. I wouldn't look on Fab. I always have a first social meet. When they start suggesting sex stuff will happen on the social I don't meet them at all. We are simply not compatible. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " Lower them standards to the bottom...hi lol x | |||
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"Because men think all women will get feelings, fall madly in love with them and stalk them "TBF, I’ve pretty much had that happen 3 times! I know swing world is a bit of a magnet for the crazies and fairly broken, but far too many from both sexes on here seem to forget it’s supposed to be casual, NSA fun round here. No fuss, no drama, no baggage- just shaggage…then head off to your own lives until you want to do it again | |||
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TBF, I’ve pretty much had that happen 3 times! I know swing world is a bit of a magnet for the crazies and fairly broken, but far too many from both sexes on here seem to forget it’s supposed to be casual, NSA fun round here. No fuss, no drama, no baggage- just shaggage…then head off to your own lives until you want to do it again"if only some allowed it to be that simple. And on tap. It will never be! | |||
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"I’ve met some great fwb on here. Maybe I’m not normal but I prefer long term fwb - the sex gets better the more times you meet As a guy it’s really hard to meet a lady who wants a long term fwb. I’m 55 year old white guy so I’m way down the list of men women want. My advice is to be choosy. Develop a friendship online first then progress to phone fun. Then if the guy after a few weeks is keen to meet then meet up socially first. Build up slowly " Really! I beg to differ on the white? point.. i knw Blk is vogue atm! | |||
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TBF, I’ve pretty much had that happen 3 times! I know swing world is a bit of a magnet for the crazies and fairly broken, but far too many from both sexes on here seem to forget it’s supposed to be casual, NSA fun round here. No fuss, no drama, no baggage- just shaggage…then head off to your own lives until you want to do it again
if only some allowed it to be that simple. And on tap.
It will never be! "It can be and it has several times. Usually ends when they end up meeting someone and settling down, but there are some rather lovely ladies out there who play by the rules of engagement and are most excellent company(although it seems to becoming a scarce commodity now  ) | |||
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Maybe that’s why you can’t get a regular, if you are talking about ppl you have met that way, I can understand why they ghost you after a few meets.
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"I’ve met some great fwb on here. Maybe I’m not normal but I prefer long term fwb - the sex gets better the more times you meet As a guy it’s really hard to meet a lady who wants a long term fwb. I’m 55 year old white guy so I’m way down the list of men women want. My advice is to be choosy. Develop a friendship online first then progress to phone fun. Then if the guy after a few weeks is keen to meet then meet up socially first. Build up slowly " I'm a 58 year old white man and in the 6 years I've been here I've never had any issues meeting people and I've found a FWB so it's far from impossible. | |||
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"I’ve met some great fwb on here. Maybe I’m not normal but I prefer long term fwb - the sex gets better the more times you meet As a guy it’s really hard to meet a lady who wants a long term fwb. I’m 55 year old white guy so I’m way down the list of men women want. My advice is to be choosy. Develop a friendship online first then progress to phone fun. Then if the guy after a few weeks is keen to meet then meet up socially first. Build up slowly I'm a 58 year old white man and in the 6 years I've been here I've never had any issues meeting people and I've found a FWB so it's far from impossible. " Good hope. A nice result!
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " I'd love to know who these men are that ghost you after one or two meets, OP. I'm lucky to get a message, let alone a meet, but surely it's not difficult for a guy to say ‘sorry, I'm just not feeling a connection’? Or is it??? | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. " Because you are fucking people who aren't looking for a relationship of any kind. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. Because you are fucking people who aren't looking for a relationship of any kind. " Not evem a hello atimes. Ive heard. Many wont kiss! But the intercourse leaves many many deeper ,codes behind which have affects longterm. | |||
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"to find a regular fwb? I’ve lowered my standards, I’ve upped my standards. I’ve tried diving straight in on the first meet, I’ve held off and gone more slowly. Like all women I could get a new meet every day on this site but that’s not what I want. I’m fed up of chatting, meeting and then being ghosted after one or two meets. I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing wrong, if anything. Because you are fucking people who aren't looking for a relationship of any kind. " Bit brutal.. not everyone is like that | |||
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