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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all looking for advice on best way to write to people etc not had a meet I do try I’m always polite respectful don’t send cock pics etc but I’m going wrong somewhere maybe I’m just not people’s cup of tea that I get and cool about

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Look for things in their profile to connect over, if they match your preferences and they match yours.

Most people will check the profile before responding. I find only one public photo off-putting. And the profile doesn't tell me anything about what you want or what you offer, so even the best crafted message would likely get a no thanks from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says you’ve had a meet. Also a bit of punctuation wouldn’t go a miss. Your post isn’t easy to read.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Some advice / comments here too:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1420422

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Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

5 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5 years ago "

So what worked then? Are you doing something different now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you good advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was younger then is the only thing I can think of

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Grammar I’m not good at I admit yes but I try my best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grammar I’m not good at I admit yes but I try my best "

It’s not ideal but people will exclude you for this. It’s unfortunate but you’ll have to find other ways to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I’m honest if people judge someone on their grammar they wouldn’t be the type of person I’d want to meet I wouldn’t judge anyone on here

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

OP a good starting point is to use the forum search function and look for threads on this topic. You’re not alone as there have been hundreds of guys seeking advice and they usually get good feedback.

See if you can pick up some tips from that.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Absolutely nothing about your profile stands out, except for the cute dog in the mirror

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She is a little cutie unfortunately I was just dog sitting lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanx for advice appreciate it

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Thanx for advice appreciate it "

Dude if you hit reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying to

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Thanx for advice appreciate it "

Press reply + quote so we know who youre responding to.

As for messaging, come up with a short generic but witty message, then copy and paste and blanket bomb.

Works far better and far more economical than agonising over what to write each time etc

Also put more pics on your profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanx for advice appreciate it

Dude if you hit reply+quote we’ll know who you’re replying to "
oh ok I didn’t notice this thanx for letting me know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the advice all taken on board appreciate it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Hi all looking for advice on best way to write to people etc not had a meet I do try I’m always polite respectful don’t send cock pics etc but I’m going wrong somewhere maybe I’m just not people’s cup of tea that I get and cool about "

You don't need advice on how to write to people. It's not you. It's just how things are.

Being polite, considerate and a decent human being never got anyone laid. Neither did good looks or uber shagability. Believe me some of the adonis' on here can't make everything line up either.

To get sex you need to be what someone else is looking for , at the second they are looking for it, in the place they are looking for it and you have to fancy them too ! Near on impossible.

Carry on being you and go to a meet or two to get known etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi all looking for advice on best way to write to people etc not had a meet I do try I’m always polite respectful don’t send cock pics etc but I’m going wrong somewhere maybe I’m just not people’s cup of tea that I get and cool about

You don't need advice on how to write to people. It's not you. It's just how things are.

Good advice thank you

Being polite, considerate and a decent human being never got anyone laid. Neither did good looks or uber shagability. Believe me some of the adonis' on here can't make everything line up either.

To get sex you need to be what someone else is looking for , at the second they are looking for it, in the place they are looking for it and you have to fancy them too ! Near on impossible.

Carry on being you and go to a meet or two to get known etc.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

He's speechless, Grånny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's speechless, Grånny. "

Kindness costs nothing

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Hi all looking for advice on best way to write to people etc not had a meet I do try I’m always polite respectful don’t send cock pics etc but I’m going wrong somewhere maybe I’m just not people’s cup of tea that I get and cool about "
You can't win here no matter what you do, so keep sending your polite messages and eventually you'll hook something, its just like fishing really patience is the key

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